Tuesday, April 30, 2013

safety tips

Girls Be Careful
Share this please .. 

1) What should a woman do if she finds herself alone in the company of a strange male as she prepares to enter a lift in a high-rise apartment late at night?

Experts Say: Enter the lift. If you need to reach the 13th floor, press all the buttons up to your destination. No one will dare attack you in a lift that stops on every floor.


2) What to do if a stranger tries to attack you when you are alone in your house, run into the kitchen.

Experts Say: You alone know where the chili powder and turmeric are kept.And where the knives and plates are. All these can be turned into deadly weapons. If nothing else, start throwing plates and utensils all over.

Let them break. Scream. Remember that noise is the greatest enemy of a molester. He does not want to be caught.

3} Taking an Auto or Taxi at Night.

Experts Say: Before getting into an auto at night, note down its registration number. Then use the mobile to call your family or friend and pass on the details to them in the language the driver understands .Even if no one answers your call, pretend you are in a conversation. The driver now knows someone has his details and he will be in serious trouble if anything goes wrong. He is now bound to take you home safe and sound. A potential attacker is now your de facto protector!

4}What if the driver turns into a street he is not supposed to - and you feel you are entering a danger zone?

Experts Say: Use the handle of your purse or your stole (dupatta) to wrap around his neck and pull him back. Within seconds, he will feel choked and helpless. In case you don’t have a purse or stole just pull him back by his collar. The top button of his shirt would then do the same trick.

5} If you are stalked at night.

Expert Say: enter a shop or a house and explain your predicament. If it is night and shops are not open, go inside an ATM box. ATM centers always have security guards. They are also monitored by close circuit television.
Fearing identification, no one will dare attack you.

After all, being mentally alert is the greatest weapon you can ever have.

Please spread it to all those women u care & spread awareness as dis is d least we can do for a social & moral cause and fr d safety of women.
Dr-Ihab Maher

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

GUIDELINES FOR MODERN DAY PARENTS AND INLAWS

I keep reading everywhere that why there are all the instructions and protocol for the children,and DIls why not any one for elders , parents and inlaws, so i thought why not? lets have one which will appeal to them, and as it is giving advice, comes so easily to us Indians.....ask anyone whenever a match is lost..everybody must be telling you how the strategy of the captain was wrong, and how the batsman didnt cut the ball, and how the fielder lost the catch..so easy to play the game sitting in your drawing room:), its like discussing realistic movies and poverty in India over Champagne and caviar:), so here are the guidelines for parents and elders, take it at your own peril, the product is not guaranteed:)

You are born in this world to take care of your children only, so do it well, dont have any other thing in your mind or life.

A child is an individual by birth , so respect them ..even at the cost of your self respect:)( you shouldnt have any.

Before telling..no telling is a bad word..asking your children to do anything, tell them all the reasons and logic, but of course dont expect them to justify their actions.

Give them all the freedom...This is a free world and you may be sued for slavery, But of course if they do anything wrong..its your responsibility and duty to take care of that.

If they want to take all the decisions of their life without your consent..let them take...they are right , its their life, and dont ever say that...hamaare time me aisa hota tha..times have changed , but remember only for them, not for you--if you ever express a desire tobecome modern...are you out of your mind?

They have every right to compare you with their friend's parents who...pamper their children silly, give lot of money and freedom, but you have no right to compare them with other children...u r spoiling their personality by continuous comparison.

Dont ever expect anything from them..obedience or anything else......U havent done anything special..all parents do that for their children,They have already given you a lot..by being your children.

If you are extra caring and protective...you are suffocating them, stifling their life, but if you dont, then you are indifferent..you dont care.

You may suppress all your dreams for their future, but they cant kill a single desire for you, as it will be ruining their life for nothing.

and all this for the sake of being called a parent..the word means a person totally selfless and devoted to children.


List is endless..will keep adding:)


Now for the inlaws.....

Please be there when we need you, rest of the time live as if you dont exist.

I want every right in your home as a grihalakshmi.but I will remain my parent's daughter .

forever.

I will do as i want, I cant consider your opinion or consider your liking or disliking.

Respect my choices and lifestyle ( yours ..you look after yourself)

Whenever i feel like doing something , i will do for you, and feel grateful to me forever.

I wouldnt like to change anything..my name, my lifestyle or my choices..why cant you ALL make yourselves compatible to me...thats if you love me or want me ( i dont want anybody)

I want you to love me more than your daughters even, but you can never be like my parents accept it for your benefit only.

If i earn, it is for me and my family ( and family is always her parents and siblings)( it was this way in my times, cant say if the equations have changed today).

If i am ever rude to you, think about what you have done to bring it upon yourself i am never rude to my parents,or otherwise, so it must be your fault somewhere.

In my life inlaws have all the duties and rights belong to my parents,understand it, so you will not feel any anguish later on. ( oh come on..my parents have brought me up with so much of hard work and all that, and boys upbringing....... hardly involves any work or money.), so chill.

Society may be patriarchial but we will work as a matriarchial one.

Learn the meaning of adjustment well, because now that is your life going to be.

Boys , beware or be happy that the days are not far when girls will bring a baraat and take you to their homes:)

All the above material is fictitious and any resemblance to anyone's life is coincidental only, the writer doesnt take responsibility for that:), read it at your own risk:)





Friday, April 12, 2013

Chennaivasi

The incredible banker....Ravi subramaniyam
I saw this book everytime I went to landmark, so when i got a chance to read it, I was not going to miss it.And it didnt dissappoint me.I was wondering do they teach writing also in IIM:)..
Initially when i read about the working of banks in details, I thought I am not going to enjoy, but then story kept on growing. This book is about a foreign bank in India and how targets for teams can be motivating too but may backfire too. How people manipulate everything, everyone and how banks negligence in filling KYC in everything may cost them and country. People could do money laundering and support terrorists and naxals. I am happy that it gave me an insight into the working of banks, credit cards etc.It compelled me to think how ethics and morality should always come above promotion and money, thought temporarily one may suffer too...

Two Sisters.....Rabindranath Tagore
I got this book because I have always liked  to read about old era and have found that somethings are still relevant, but this book sounded totally obsolete to me, nothing much interesting or relevant.


Chennaivasi...T.S.Trimurthi
I am always interested in reading about Chennai, its people and traditions here, so as soon as I saw the title, I got it and it didnt dissappointed me..very very interesting book. Its about a TamBram boy falling in love with a jewish american and how he and his family deals with this...His parents are very conservative tamilians, specially so the father(its universal),he cant accept it, though in his own time he also loved a britisher, though he left her due to parental opposition.I loved reading everything in the book, except the boy's behaviour, he protects his love all the time..fine thats very good and he should do so, but he is very callous and uncaring and disrespectful towards his parents. If its because of their opposition to his girlfriend, then its irrational, because what could he expect from them when he knew they were rigid. But no boy from a cultured family would be like him...he is a selfish modern child, I wished him to be a better person , considering his back ground.


The Bankster...Ravi Subramaniyam
As the name suggests, its about a banker, who is a gangster:)...its an amazing story and tell us the details about how any good movement is hijacked by vested interests and turns into a riot and something against country..its like a thriller and  keeps you glued to it.woven into the theme is free wheeling dealing society, broken marriages,and low morals.