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I keep reading everywhere that why there are all the instructions and protocol for the children, why not any one for elders , parents and in laws, so i thought why not? lets have one which will appeal to them, and as it is giving advice, comes so easily to us Indians.....ask anyone whenever a match is lost..everybody must be telling you how the strategy of the captain was wrong, and how the batsman didnt cut the ball, and how the fielder lost the easy to play the game sitting in your drawing room:), its like discussing realistic movies and poverty in India over Champagne and caviar:), so here are the guidelines for parents and elders, take it at your own peril, the product is not guaranteed:)
You are born in this world to take care of your children only, so do it well, dont have any other thing in your mind or life.
A child is an individual by birth , so respect them ..even at the cost of your self respect:)( you shouldnt have any).
Before telling is a bad word.…

Dowry decoded

I have seen many people demanding reservation , sometimes for women or under privileged for bringing them equality. But I feel that asking for privileges and then saying we are equal is a total contradictory. The way we say that respect is commanded , not demanded( though in certain situations it is demanded), same way we cant demand equality, we must command thru our abilities and capabilities.

We always feel the need to have laws and rules for everything and think that may be then change will come but change has to come from within..For example everybody decries dowry but but how many people...

Say no when it comes to marry their sons, ,,why dowry is bad only when you are marrying daughter?

If we start thinking differently and instead of giving all our attention and money for marrying our daughter, we educate her, let her stand on her own feet..economically and then think about marrying a person who is like minded, educated with a good character, not with a fat package or status p…

Palace of Illusions....Chitra bannerjee Divakaruni

Palace of Illusions....Chitra bannerjee Divakaruni

I had given the requisition of this book two years back to my library and now got it....very interesting book. It is the story of Mahabharata from the side of Draupadi. The story starts from her birth and ends when she dies. I has many lessons for today even...She goes to an Ascetic and told three thing which she should be careful dont always speak your mind, dont get too angry and dont laugh at somebody as they may bring catastrophes in your life and family. And the same thing happens..In her Swayamvar, to save her brother, she insults Karna,and in return she loses him (in her heart she always loved Karna) , and makes him an arch enemy of her husband.Then she laughs at Duryodhan and sows the seed of destruction, and last in her Vastraharan, she takes a vow of not plaiting  her hair till Dushasan is dead..In the same way all incidents are there due to some reason, and its always karma  and everything is explained very wel…

Do parents differentiate....

I read on a fellow blogger's about her two daughters asking--mama whom do u love more?and it stirred in me a host of memories from my childhood to my kid's, like when we were young we four sisters and one brother and whenever my dad came home and called any of us, the one who was not called will never remember me, dont call my name, you are all the time calling her only and all that..........while in a big family its never possible to call all five in a go:)
My poor mother was always accused of partiality among us, some were called her favourite and she had to bear the brunt of that।Of course as e quite common in Indian families sons are given more importance and on top of that my brother came after 4 sisters, so he was always the VIP,but since my brother was very cute and gentle even in childhood and today also is a very caring person and we all sisters also love him too much so he was not there in sibling revelry.My sisters feel that somewhere they…

MY response

Today I got this forwarded by a friend....

(Son to his father)
Dear Pop, I am very sorry to hear about mom’s ill health. During my last visit I had asked her to get her check ups done regularly and she had nodded in affirmative and this news is real shock to me. I could sense the distress you are going through my dear Pop and I really wish I was there with you. My presence would not make any changes in the situation but would give you some support.  I spoke to my seniors and they have refused to give me any further leave as we have a client presentation and I am representing the company and am shouldering responsibilities which are not so easy to shudder. I am feeling upset about not being present with you but your effort of nurturing my future would also go in vain if I throw this opportunity in the air. So please try to understand me and forgive me for being selfish if its so. I am have already wire transferred 10,000 USD and hope it would be of great help to you. You have always bee…

vice and virtue

Today i find lots of changes in the fabric of society, it has become a polyester from Khaadi, No stain is bad, it can be washed, however dirty you make it, still it can look clean, not like Khadi--which is to be maintained sprightly clean, cant take a single spot.

Earlier even a hint of some bribe, scandal used to make big noise in the society and a big embarrassment to the person. Its not that there were no tainted persons , or no corruption or no opportunists., because greed is a human quality, so existed in all the ages, everybody knows that Mahabharata took place only because of Duryodhana's greed. But there was a stigma attached to every vice, so whoever indulged, did so on the side,and when confronted would not accept it easily.
See how the times have changed.Today nobody has any scruples, instead of feeling ashamed they will start telling you the names of hundred other people who are corrupt and all that। क्या सब के चोरी करने से चोरी चोरी नही रहती ?

here i want to say that…

kya karen ham aise hi hain:)

I have come back after a lo0ng vacation. I was in my home town in UP.and one thing I realise every time I go there is that how much your mother tongue is important to you..there its so relaxing to speak Hindi and listen Hindi:).

And the next thing is never gets the same flavour anywhere else and then summer fruits, I havent eaten..peaches, apricots,berries, leechis  dussehri mangoes and many more for many years, here one rarely sees them.

But inspite of all this I am always happy to be my place, my routine everything.I really wonder when people want to live with children, leaving their own circle of friends, routines and life styles....May be that those living on their own have to work more, may have less what..I would any day prefer that...I love my independence too much to sacrifice that..