Wednesday, March 25, 2015

Parents

There are three types of parents in this world.
  1. This type was more prevalent in earlier generations. Here the most emphasis is on discipline and hierarchy. Parents decide everything about the children from the day they are born, from their name to their hobbies(if at all they are required), their carrier choices( sometimes the choice is their own longing for a carrier which they could not do for any reason and now they want their offspring's to fulfil that desire) to the selection of their life partner and after that their life style. Parent's word is the god's command, and if someone dares to air his opinion even,he/she is persona nongrata, in other words ungrateful child. For them individuality,personal identity are all alien terms.
consequences---- here the children, though they are intelligent but they grow into mostly introverts, with their perceptions quite mixed without any clarity of thoughts, they are principled outwardly as they are brought up with an iron hand, but susceptible to vices,live a life with a medium rate of success and satisfaction, never explore their full potential,always need security in life and they wouldnt make many people happy with their passive and melancholy demeanour.

2----Second type parents are those who bring up their children with a little democracy. Here children are taught the value of money, ethics and discipline from the beginning by the parents by way of their own behaviour and children are given choices with the knowledge of pros and cons of every situation.When they are young they must listen to the parents but be told the reasoning of everything, as they grow, they are given the choices and right to selection, but they must be prepared to face the consequences of their decisions. In the childhood parents are strict regarding their studies, health and character,but lenient where it involves their hobbies and free time.They give them the roots of unstinted support and freedom to their wings to fly higher and higher.
--These are the ideal parents( do they exist? ), and their progeny is well grounded,principled,respecting and caring for their parents and in general quite successful in their personal and professional lives. They will never turn to any vices whatever the temptation as their values will always save them, they are good human beings and a blessing to everyone.

3---The third type of parents are total freedom freaks, they also love their children a lot and give them full freedom from the time they are born, without any firm guidance.They fulfil the needs of the children, for the rest they believe in everybody living his/her own life.neither they are themselves disciplined, nor they teach it to their children, each to his own.They forget that freedom with itself brings a lot of responsibilities without which we cant have a cohesive society
Consequences---here a lot depends on the children, they may be good or bad, successful or unsuccessful, but they are bohemian in their lifestyle,non conforming to the traditions or conforming when it suits them,in disciplined life brings them lot of dissatisfaction in regard to their health and relationships.Their lifestyle cant bring happiness to others also.
I believe, as Zibran has said---children come from you but they are not your property, give them life,not ur thoughts
and man is the arch in the hand of god ( the archer ) , and children are the arrows, the more the arch bends, the faster and far away the arrow goes.

There is one more type..today..most of the parents want to give their children more and more material things, they see the price tag more than quality..its always keeping up with the Joneses, so little ones are introduced to brands and wants, they dont know the value of money or people....They want their children to go to expensive schools, not because they want better education, but because it has better facilities...If child needs one thing, they give ten..somewhere such parents are fulfilling their own unfulfilled desires of coveting things....their children are pampered lot who want everything at their tips.

Now such children will not have a high self esteem when they grow up, because its tied with things..material possessions only make them feel successful...

The ideal situation is to ---teach the children values in their childhood and make them follow them with a discipline, and then give them freedom with a guidance when they grow-up, nurture their individuality and then sit back and enjoy -watching them fly-soaring heights.But for all this parents need to discipline themselves first..which is next to impossible today.

Saturday, March 21, 2015

THE GOD IS A GAMER..RAVI SUBRAMANIYAM

This writer is writing sequels in a real sense where the characters are same and story begins where the last one ended.The story is about Bitcoins, ATM heists, bank frauds, gaming and then people who are not what they seem to be.Money laundering of politicians, ambitions of bank officials, politicians colorful life and its consequences, even murder, everything is woven beautifully in the story. Thanks to this novel I came to know a little bit about bit coins also.
Quite an interesting book...the only thing I didnt like was that though most of the people are in gray area , but some get their due, whereas others enjoy life.it may be true in real life, but here it becomes pessimistic.And though its writer's prerogative to build his characters, I would still say they write for the readers, because nobody writes for self only...so I hope in his next I find justice.

Now reading Mountain of light by..Indu Sunderesan.

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

NH 10

This movie is getting lot of appreciation and being called produced byAnushka, though in the credits there were four more producers.

The story is about a young couple Meera and Arjun who party hard, drink and smoke and both are working. Once Meera is on the road alone in her SUV and some ruffians  stalk her , tease her , break the window glass and all, she escapes somehow but when they go to file a complaint police officer is not very cooperative, instead asks Arjun why he lets her go alone at night.Why dont they get a weapon?

Then on Meera's Bday Arjun books a resort and they start their journey.On the way they stop on a dhaba to eat something, there a girl asks Meera to help her, her brother is going to kill her, Meera brushes her off, but then later both them see that 6 people are beating a young couple,when Arjun tries to ask them why, they slap him  also and forcibly  put the couple in vehicle and drive away.Now Arjun goes on a ego trip and wants to teach them a lesson , though Meera insists him to leave but he doesnt listen and follows them to the jungle and there watches them brutally killing the couple, they are horrified and now its chase between them and this pair..Police also supports the criminals who are killing their own sister because she wanted to marry a person of same gotra.When Arjun is wounded, meera goes to get help to the village sarpanch(Deepti Naval) and there she comes to know that she only ordered the murder..When Arjun dies of his wounds..Meera goes berserk, goes back to the village and kills all of them..

One thing is very clear that honor killing is not a gender issue..as the boy is also killed...and women also kill..they are equally brutal,..sarpanch, though a woman, still orders the killing of her daughter and her husband, and maltreat her daughter.in law and giver her no respect as a human being.

The movie is issue based but lacks the basic requirement of the movie.. entertainment..its total violence, gore and cruelty..When i want to come out of the hall I want to feel pleasant, but you come out feeling very sad and frustrated.Its all reality but still...

Secondly whenever a problem is tackled, I think they should show some solution too..it may not be very credible or easily possible..but the light should be there....

Hero.Neil Bhopalan is a dishy dude.a handsome version of Randeep hooda, I liked him..Anushka Sharma is also good, rest of the cast also very suitable...

Read somewhere that its inspired (copied) from  Eden Lake




Monday, March 16, 2015

Munich

I am back home and full of lethargy.today i just wanted to start writing and when I couldnt sort out my though then thought of writing a few lines about Munich, as this is one one new place I saw in this trip.

Its a beautiful city and i found it very cheap coming from the Zurich:). Its a three and half hour drive from Zurich. So we stayed at Hilton..very near to the centre of Munich Marianne Platz. Most of the European countries have a centre where everything converges..shops and restaurants and some monuments also..We found so many Indian restaurants and very friendly to the pocket, though I feel some were run by Pakistanis, and can you imagine, they sell arhar daal as daal makhaani and its selling like hot cakes. They were always full of everyone but Indians.
In front of the hotel only one can find all cuisines..thai, mexican,italian, Indian all.

Then next day we planned to go to BMW Museums and Sea aquarium. Actually all the beautiful parks and open spaces were covered with snow, we could see only indoors.Sea aquarium was a delight to see and outside there was a lake and beautiful scenery with so many flamingos.Saw the museum, but i am not a technical person:)

For shopping its a paradise, everything was good and affordable.

Its a very big city with lot of historical buildings and I loved having the drive thru the city and then in the evening it was so beautiful to walk around the designer shops and restaurants.