tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post2356404033257457638..comments2024-03-11T22:31:56.001-07:00Comments on anoobhooti: MY DAUGHTERRenuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-72475931944296036402012-07-24T01:21:58.803-07:002012-07-24T01:21:58.803-07:00As usual pearls of wisdom Renu. Now that women hav...As usual pearls of wisdom Renu. Now that women have become better educated and finacially sound, they ought to show more empathy to those around them. This does not mean that they should be a door mat but an intelligent woman can always turn things around and bring peace and happiness into the house.Happy Kittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14406399936808407736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-89244474926008175002012-06-30T21:20:20.312-07:002012-06-30T21:20:20.312-07:00I agree women are the ones who always adjust to an...I agree women are the ones who always adjust to any situation in their lives, because we have been brought up to respect elders and not to make a big issue of small things.<br />Men too are good, and i have seen some of them going out of their way to do a lot of good to women.<br />The question of MIL being, the way she is probably a mystery yet to be solved.I cannot understand if a DIL can call her "MA" and be as good as she is with her own mother , why the MIl cannot reciprocate in the same loving manner. There is some mindset in MILs that is stopping them to walk that extra mile in this issue.<br />However, I feel the relationship between both MiL and the DIL would never improve if, the former showed no signs of letting her guard down, and start feeling free to interact with the DIl as her own daughter.<br />I still feel that it is not an impossible task, and I am sure the DILs would rarely face such problems from people of our generations.<br />It is up to us women to bring in the change within ourselves, and see that we don't fall into the same trap as our own MILs did.Rama Ananthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00962222316822524699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-5149362407358569402012-06-28T22:14:21.481-07:002012-06-28T22:14:21.481-07:00Mom Of A; Thanks for appreciating:)
Muddleup: our...Mom Of A; Thanks for appreciating:)<br /><br />Muddleup: our problems are not because of any men, they are only because we are bad..period.be it in our role as MIL or DIL<br /><br />Zephyr: I am no martyr,..I enjoy my life but nevr at the cost of others..and these so called protectors are ruining the women.<br /><br />Vetrimagal: thanks a lot:)..I too hope they do...Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-5510939310992319952012-06-28T11:17:03.999-07:002012-06-28T11:17:03.999-07:00Wonderful post, wonderful person Renu!
Such under...Wonderful post, wonderful person Renu!<br /><br />Such understanding and good attitude will make families peaceful.<br /><br />Hope the young ladies who want to start a married life understand this .Vetirmagalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01881952063893739315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-46736182028577816892012-06-28T08:34:28.316-07:002012-06-28T08:34:28.316-07:00Oh Renu, we had discussed this in our mail, didn&#...Oh Renu, we had discussed this in our mail, didn't we? But today the trend is to reverse everything -- stereotypes, superiority, control -- to make the other one suffer. Why do we do this? <br /><br />BTW, you'd be labelled a 'martyr' for doing what you are doing, by the 'protectors' of women. LOLzephyrhttp://cybernag.innoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-79248917599239233082012-06-28T08:18:27.486-07:002012-06-28T08:18:27.486-07:00That was a thoughtful post. I like the way you say...That was a thoughtful post. I like the way you say how women are superior and not equal! Really love that - if only most women could behave with grace...I personally know a case where the MIL really tortures the DIL both with words and actions and she actually instigates her son to do the same...just like u said! Thats very sad...in such cases women are not equal, they are just really bad human beings!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-32870196436953620402012-06-27T22:03:00.793-07:002012-06-27T22:03:00.793-07:00I love this line: Being good is all about being fa...I love this line: Being good is all about being fair when you have everything going for you, not doing so when you have no choice.<br />Thank you for writing this post!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14718975387489795957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-53226754746731616552012-06-27T02:39:45.718-07:002012-06-27T02:39:45.718-07:00Found In Folsom: wherever I see injustice, it dist...Found In Folsom: wherever I see injustice, it disturbs me a lot:)<br /><br />Sulagna: see here also you find FIL supportive.only other women only difficult...<br />But i am pretty sure that if you adjust in the beginning..you will get lot of love and comfort later on...its always the teething problems in a new family..as long as one lashes out at husband only its not a problem:)<br /><br />Rahul Bhatia: And this is whats happening now a days.Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-14527670964929194922012-06-26T22:53:30.281-07:002012-06-26T22:53:30.281-07:00Agree with your views Renu! Two wrongs do not make...Agree with your views Renu! Two wrongs do not make one right:)Rahul Bhatiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09690287853990880735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-68137211010449284532012-06-26T22:01:07.193-07:002012-06-26T22:01:07.193-07:00Hi Renu i love the connection between both our lat...Hi Renu i love the connection between both our latest posts..you know i am kind of on the other side of the coin. There are women who are genuinely unfair in gauging relationships and expecting from the husbands, but today most of us , girls have our own busy lives, work home children etc. On one hand i have a fabulously supportive FIL and on the other hand I have a slightly insecure MIL. the issues of familiy relations is eternal and it wont stop ever but yes at least we as todays women are not "bound to" adjust because we depend on our marriage.<br /><br />i am blessed to have been married to a very supportive family that looks after my baby while i work.But at times my patience level drops and thats when the evil tongue wraths fumes :)and who bears it..the husband of course !!sulagna https://www.blogger.com/profile/00416533568207227630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-40470281854142160602012-06-26T21:45:22.040-07:002012-06-26T21:45:22.040-07:00There's something bothering you for sure.:)I u...There's something bothering you for sure.:)I understand what you are trying to say.Found In Folsomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11381456888085332705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-3238847415559082032012-06-26T20:24:11.017-07:002012-06-26T20:24:11.017-07:00sm:..yes, instead of punishing others, if we just ...sm:..yes, instead of punishing others, if we just try to make ourselves better, problems will be solved.<br /><br />Irfanuddin: Thanks !..there are many more, the only problem is that if DIL is good, then MIL is not same and vice versa.god has made like this only..<br /><br />SG: so good to see you back..If my post gives that impression, then I am not good at expressing myself..I can nevr say that men are bad..no I just say that men and women are made differently and have different qualities and we must celebrate the differences instead of trying to be the same.<br /><br />Harman:SIL comes for a day or two, whereas DIL stays with them, so the treatment has to be different as former is a guest whereas latter is a memebr of the family.<br />Secondly DIL and MIL both being of the same sex,are bound to have some jealousy.<br /><br />Shalom: Its always a pleasure to see you.Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-28742998108586239232012-06-26T16:27:09.345-07:002012-06-26T16:27:09.345-07:00Wow, this is a power-packed post and I couldn'...Wow, this is a power-packed post and I couldn't agree with you more! "Being good is all about being fair when you have everything going for you, not doing so when you have no choice" ... that is so true & well-written. Kudos!Salomiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08390297289267521453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-10307633787870495772012-06-26T16:03:21.765-07:002012-06-26T16:03:21.765-07:00very true renu!
I agree,,, n God bestowed everythi...very true renu!<br />I agree,,, n God bestowed everything in women ,beauty ,perseverance ..wisdom ..but the thing is ,,,which quality is to be used where?<br />why is that women is always jealous of women..<br />expectations are more in case of dils ..but where we see son-in law ..they jus treat them with respect n care ..why not same for dils?hamaarethoughts.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13355838190699373168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-59540866015500113932012-06-26T11:25:28.944-07:002012-06-26T11:25:28.944-07:00Very well written. However, I think you made a gen...Very well written. However, I think you made a general sweeping statement about men. From your post I get the impression all men are bad. That is not fair. I have stories about how guys took care of their wife's families.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-77251430738143791812012-06-26T11:01:25.846-07:002012-06-26T11:01:25.846-07:00so beautiful l thoughts, i wish there are more n m...so beautiful l thoughts, i wish there are more n more MILs as well as DIls to be like you...:)<br /><br />Regards,<br />irfan.Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-47477887874875470842012-06-26T10:36:51.279-07:002012-06-26T10:36:51.279-07:00beautifully penned
biggest enemy of female is no o...beautifully penned<br />biggest enemy of female is no one but other female and her beliefs.smhttp://realityviews.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-83276358590923671892012-06-26T03:36:58.118-07:002012-06-26T03:36:58.118-07:00ASH: Please remove that ji:)..yes if you want to t...ASH: Please remove that ji:)..yes if you want to test someone's character than see how he behaves when in power..<br />Thanks for appreciating it!<br /><br />Muthu:Men and women are different and this we have to understand..women are emotionally stronger whereas men are physically better..<br />We are made like that..<br />You didnt read the post properly..I have written that men can take care of their own people only and mother is closest to them, its about caring for those who are not blood relations...Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-51549093889530411872012-06-26T02:57:05.063-07:002012-06-26T02:57:05.063-07:00Very hard perspectives. Rather than superior and i...Very hard perspectives. Rather than superior and inferior characteristics, I would like to think as women and men having rather unique characteristics. Yeah, There was a time when women were oppressed; I think the main reason behind that-- is rather the crowd mentality of society to follow in the path of the predecessors rather than gender distinctions. I know men who still take care of their mom and Women who can be brutal. Rather than bringing gender into the fray, I would simply like to credit the individual's characteristics.muthuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02849537728128467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-28830330013157332812012-06-25T22:45:03.305-07:002012-06-25T22:45:03.305-07:00Very well written, Renu ji... there is a lot of wi...Very well written, Renu ji... there is a lot of wisdom in what you have said here, especially... "And I dont believe that to remove a malady, we must do injustice to some or misbehave....." and.... "Being good is all about being fair when you have everything going for you, not doing so when you have no choice." <br /><br />Wonderful post.Ashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10677346098586090998noreply@blogger.com