tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post7874488003029833007..comments2024-03-11T22:31:56.001-07:00Comments on anoobhooti: Am I being selfish?Renuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-9882228896497957562015-09-21T07:20:14.893-07:002015-09-21T07:20:14.893-07:00thoughtful post
valid questions and i do not thin...thoughtful post <br />valid questions and i do not think its selfish to expect <br />No1 Mantra is never expect anything from anyonesmhttp://www.realityviews.in/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-19938733119567530432015-09-18T21:24:59.046-07:002015-09-18T21:24:59.046-07:00Well, well I think you are giving much to what oth...Well, well I think you are giving much to what others feel. Indeed it is necessary that we not hurt the other , but then tethering your happiness to what others do, feel for you or how they reciprocate your actions is giving away too much. Let me be honest here from my experience. This word "sacrifice" is indeed twin edged . Those who claim or feel have sacrificed is sure to extract their pound of flesh later , one day. That will be a situation of distraught.<br /><br />My take is if someone is not appreciating you, well move on. There is no sense in hanging on like a limpet. The matter is clear. anilkurup59https://www.blogger.com/profile/07961961217418715354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-76155370308085274922015-09-17T00:49:20.664-07:002015-09-17T00:49:20.664-07:00Sometime back, I used to get upset because of such...Sometime back, I used to get upset because of such people. Many friends are like that too. These days I have stopped worrying and just do my part.Avada Kedavrahttp://ashscerebrations.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-37097158549116466572015-09-16T18:19:21.664-07:002015-09-16T18:19:21.664-07:00Ignore them and carry on with your life.Ignore them and carry on with your life.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-60898287150736174262015-09-16T09:04:04.280-07:002015-09-16T09:04:04.280-07:00Ashwini CN: people are too hypocritical now a days...Ashwini CN: people are too hypocritical now a days...<br /><br />Happy Kitten: very tru my dear very true..I too think like that but sometime human mind strays:)<br /><br />Amrita: Even i dont like to send back the empty vessel..:)Generally i do what I feel I should and move on, but with some people you feel attachment and thats the reason their lack of grace hurts....but the truth we cant change others, only ourselves.<br /><br />Loco mente:..:)..are you too saggi:)<br /><br />Jeevan: Exactly jeevan, thats what I feel..that may be i am not a priority for them.Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-85037840753247896822015-09-15T05:52:35.864-07:002015-09-15T05:52:35.864-07:00I think it doesn’t differ much from each other. Pe...I think it doesn’t differ much from each other. People care for us is an attitude... but to spend time and sharing is depend on their priorities. Jeevanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14063201530500784222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-45082158747009903252015-09-15T04:47:53.345-07:002015-09-15T04:47:53.345-07:00I related to each word you have written...
And whe...I related to each word you have written...<br />And when I read that word "saggi" I understood everything...<br />Cheers buddy :)Locomentehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08173005313179202281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-55974529247198468532015-09-15T04:21:08.547-07:002015-09-15T04:21:08.547-07:00Renu I totally understand what you are talking abo...Renu I totally understand what you are talking about here. And no it does not mean you are being selfish. It is just your parameters of behaviour are different from others. That does not make either of you wrong. <br />For instance our upbringing shapes a lot of our attitude. I for example have seen my mother always praise people for any gift,always return a gift and one typical thing she used to do was never return an empty vessel of anyone sent any food. She never consciously taught me to do all this but I sort of picked them up. There were a few episodes where others did not do the same to me and I used to feel offended. But then I realised in this fast paced world people are too busy doing their own stuff. Its OK to expect them to return a favour but it's also ok for them not to. When I read discussing this with a friend she said'you keep doing what you think you should else these traditions will die 'so I try. But if I think from my Mil 's perspective there are some rituals which I don't for the lack of time and facilities. <br />So do what is feasible. Hold back if you think you are being 'used'. You are the best judge. :)Amritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06075910411728252444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-37625344402632706342015-09-14T22:27:00.651-07:002015-09-14T22:27:00.651-07:00Everyone goes through this phase of life..guess on...Everyone goes through this phase of life..guess one can be content that one did the best when needed. I am sure it was returned maybe through someone else. Maybe this is how it works?Happy Kittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14406399936808407736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-42231223264217550862015-09-14T08:48:06.774-07:002015-09-14T08:48:06.774-07:00Khushi: may be, I should do that:)
Ankita: thank ...Khushi: may be, I should do that:)<br /><br />Ankita: thank you Ankita!<br /><br />Indu Chhibber:This is not about my children, they are better than I expected:).its about my extended family...<br />Some social etiquettes are necessary for everyone I think, otherwise it creates so much of confusion, like it is in my mind..whether to consider them family or keep them at a distance...<br /><br />Sandhya:..Yes in India, even extended families take lots out of you,one makes lots of adjustments for them, but most of the time all is in vain.<br /><br />Sweetyshinde:: Why not..infact you are better qualified, because being young you may know their how their mind work.<br />Your first two line are totally accurate, but since they are not my children i am taking about, but extended family, They have taken a lot out of me, but today they seem to have vanished.Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-75463342822758605562015-09-14T07:42:45.903-07:002015-09-14T07:42:45.903-07:00Hi Renu, I don't know if I'm qualified to ...Hi Renu, I don't know if I'm qualified to comment. But maybe the fact they don't pester you is an indicator they consider you independent, able and competent. I'm sure that's what you are. <br /><br />But if you still wish them to call, then its best to state your wishes to them openly. Sometimes, people miss the most glaringly obvious to-do things in life. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-65371083862457473122015-09-14T07:24:14.394-07:002015-09-14T07:24:14.394-07:00This happens with everybody, Renu! I hurts when we...This happens with everybody, Renu! I hurts when we think people our responsibility to help at one stage, just turn away when we need them most. What you are doing is right...just carryon with life, engage yourself as much as possible...I know this is not that easy to follow! Sandhyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06478831923010850316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-78561629249927844942015-09-14T07:17:12.536-07:002015-09-14T07:17:12.536-07:00You are not demanding something unreasonable,we al...You are not demanding something unreasonable,we all want to feel loved.But life might be very hectic for those whom you find lacking,it is not about exploitation or not caring.The flow of 'mamta'or affection is downwards.We love our kids and bring them up;they have to look after theirs.That explains the neglect we might feel from our kid.About others,well laziness too-at least it prevents me from calling up folks--not that i dont care for them.indu chhibberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17755152757229783585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-3202725449202819632015-09-14T04:14:04.172-07:002015-09-14T04:14:04.172-07:00diff people have diff ways of expressing love. com...diff people have diff ways of expressing love. coming quickly out of depression is a remarkable trait :)Ankita https://www.blogger.com/profile/08423815874935620837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-3902099509493840352015-09-13T23:13:08.931-07:002015-09-13T23:13:08.931-07:00AS you said , "I am doing my Karma,they their...AS you said , "I am doing my Karma,they theirs" . <br /><br />So relax and take a chill pill! :) khushihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00178951667935595375noreply@blogger.com