tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post8825550512721463113..comments2024-03-11T22:31:56.001-07:00Comments on anoobhooti: DOWRY LAWS IN INDIARenuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-43751186167156838832008-08-27T11:26:00.000-07:002008-08-27T11:26:00.000-07:00Yes, My email is singh.malika73@gmail.comI think l...Yes, My email is singh.malika73@gmail.com<BR/>I think like western contry we should also plan our marriage by ourselves and then seperate from the family and stay alone and try to understant each other. There will not be much interferance from family for dowry and day to day life and frequently visit both parents. This will solve the differece between wife and husband and they will have their own time also.Malikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09068312271440321123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-91484772694479679702008-08-21T21:46:00.000-07:002008-08-21T21:46:00.000-07:00I invite you to be a member of CHOKHER BALI.pls gi...I invite you to be a member of CHOKHER BALI.<BR/>pls give your e-mail i d.<BR/>regards <BR/>sujataसुजाताhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12373406106529122059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-23282744396998623632008-08-21T21:13:00.000-07:002008-08-21T21:13:00.000-07:00Malika : No malika, the incident happened only aft...Malika : No malika, the incident happened only afte few months of marriage, and u r right that things pile up slowly, but i very strongly oppose this extreme step, not because it has hurt a boy's family but because life is very precious, and there are many more people in this world who love u too much,If u dont find compatibility go ur own separate way,. I have seen the suide of 2 very young man due to the incompatibility and then saw the devastation their step caused to their parents. and here these people are from lower middle class, not educated much to think rationally. In their society slapping is not something unheard of.Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-30946539046756091192008-08-21T21:05:00.000-07:002008-08-21T21:05:00.000-07:00ISH: But i have seen many cases where women are vi...ISH: But i have seen many cases where women are vitimising men,evn today's TOI has this as a main news on II page.I strongly feel that to bring a better tomorow for some we need not to destroy others.men and women are 2 units of a family who should work in a harmony and be on the same side of fence not opposite.<BR/><BR/>Swats:That has been true for a long time-I mean about bribe, now the time has come to change that.we must stop giving it, come what may.<BR/><BR/>Flyingstars :Laws are archaic and people implementing them have a rotten mentality, they see the truth, know the truth,and still do the opposite. Its not only laws, but our whole system needs a thoroufgh shaking.Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-9109993448060487892008-08-21T21:03:00.000-07:002008-08-21T21:03:00.000-07:00I think this should not have happen if girl and bo...I think this should not have happen if girl and boys would have concentrated about their family life. I don't think only one argument can go that far and girl will take poison. usually in this type of case things pile up and one day peak comes and a person feel that they don't have anything in life. their presence and absence does not affect anybody. Thats why person should not think or blame anybody on that. No one can say thats boys side fault, if they have not seen anything bad between them. there must be something cooking on. If he is the only bread earning guy then why he did that. why they did not solve the problem, slapping somebody and showing their power is not a solution. he should be punished for that. I agree other people should not be punished for that, but I don't think only one slap can make any body (7 yrs marriage life) take poison.Malikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09068312271440321123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-41888621860327875992008-08-21T18:50:00.000-07:002008-08-21T18:50:00.000-07:00hmmm...some of our Indian laws are too archaic &am...hmmm...some of our Indian laws are too archaic & time has come to change them but the power centres really cares about it...indeed our justice system has its own loopholes & people willingly or unwillingly take advantage of them at various points of time....really a sad incident & the society should need to take note of it & do something!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-87840604270252388952008-08-21T10:37:00.000-07:002008-08-21T10:37:00.000-07:00not just dowry laws..look at our education system ...not just dowry laws..look at our education system thts choking..racism, corruption..etc<BR/><BR/>here laws r made 2 b broken..u bribe n get away..<BR/><BR/>THNX FOR DROPPING BY MY BLOG RENU :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-90077771364897099322008-08-21T09:40:00.000-07:002008-08-21T09:40:00.000-07:00ya, the laws are in favour of women, and this must...ya, the laws are in favour of women, and this must be a one of case..but mostly if u see, i think women are on the receiving end.. it should be fair, ofcourse, but against one such case i am sure there would be 10 others where men get away wo being charged legally.I scribble herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02329210605846554191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-32043886675492949532008-08-21T06:30:00.000-07:002008-08-21T06:30:00.000-07:00I have also seen many cases where either the boys...I have also seen many cases where either the boys had to give lot of money to get divorce though it was demanded by the girl(she wanted separation) and in some cases they are living together but an unhappy life due to the girl's stubbornness and I, me ,my family attitude.Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-13286751851509566542008-08-21T06:10:00.000-07:002008-08-21T06:10:00.000-07:00i have been personally affected by this :( n din w...i have been personally affected by this :( n din wanna blog bout it to avoid further problems.. but u jus spoke my mind.. gals shud kno tht marriage is not like a one time honeymoon.. n most of all if the mother teaches the values .. which i definitely have acquired from my mom.. there wont b any such cheap issues of misusing law..<BR/><BR/>i already c my in-laws as my fam (m not even married yet, my fiance's fam)n i think even in case of misundersdting i wud never wanna harm my own family.. the concept of love is often forgotten!sansmercihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16611930777294716832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-44365125878486868152008-08-21T04:43:00.000-07:002008-08-21T04:43:00.000-07:00Monika, I have hardly ever seen this type of laws ...Monika, I have hardly ever seen this type of laws working, specially in our country where coruption is so rampant, its better to remove them, they havent stopped the bride burning or dowry deaths, but increased the victimisation of innocents in so many cases, better change the mind set of people , remember , for bringing a better change we shudnt go to the other extremeRenuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-79651565691257894322008-08-21T04:39:00.000-07:002008-08-21T04:39:00.000-07:00My space:least we can do is not to encourage this ...My space:least we can do is not to encourage this haughtiness of girls, Independence doesnt mean waywardness,<BR/><BR/>Piper:Now we will have to remove the bias that its always the boy'and his family who exploit.Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-6347778269861063822008-08-21T04:17:00.000-07:002008-08-21T04:17:00.000-07:00I feel so incompetent when i see innocents sufferi...I feel so incompetent when i see innocents suffering and me watching helplessly.....Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-7546341280868898422008-08-21T04:15:00.000-07:002008-08-21T04:15:00.000-07:00You`ve hit the nail, I guess. The problem arises w...You`ve hit the nail, I guess. The problem arises when mothers encourage such behaviour on the part of their daughters. I`ve seen a couple of marriages fall apart when there`s been severe and unwanted interference from the girl`s family! Its not always that the boy`s side is to be blamed.Piper ..https://www.blogger.com/profile/02315500028808314079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-67297508471229302512008-08-21T03:53:00.000-07:002008-08-21T03:53:00.000-07:00A very thought provoking post...It is really sad c...A very thought provoking post...It is really sad cos many girls actually see marriage as ticket to freedom..in this case due to the girls childish behavior so many more have to suffer..my spacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15558028124092198778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-27880289833448518692008-08-21T02:18:00.000-07:002008-08-21T02:18:00.000-07:00I don6 know actually what to do, but we can certai...I don6 know actually what to do, but we can certainly do is...teach our daughters to be sensible. and one thing I know is that adjustment is nevr a bad word, if it is done looking at the long term prospective of a happy family.before marrying a daughter, rather for anybody before marriage, there should be a coaching:) because marriage is not ticket to shopping and enjoyment only.Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-59769106206601966892008-08-21T01:41:00.000-07:002008-08-21T01:41:00.000-07:00Hmm.. thought provoking post. Actually I know some...Hmm.. thought provoking post. Actually I know someone too who has been made a victim to the laws set by soceity. The girl`s side more often than not, takes undue advantage of such impractical laws. But I guess the change has to come at higher levels. What can the common man do? Pbly protests are in order. But who shall take the initiative? Its sad really..Piper ..https://www.blogger.com/profile/02315500028808314079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1553143156226303719.post-16681362782885560342008-08-21T01:34:00.000-07:002008-08-21T01:34:00.000-07:00its a very tricky situation... the dowry laws in I...its a very tricky situation... the dowry laws in India are indeed skewed towards women and I have personally heard of a couple of women misusing the same but the problem is that if u make it any lenient it doesn't work.. it is indeed disheartening to the see the children who have no fault here suffering... may be they should appeal but then i guess that would hardly of help to a already devasted familyMonikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02627040210376581730noreply@blogger.com