Marriage and divorce

Recently there was a case in the court where court granted divorce because wife wanted the men to leave his parents..I dont remember the details , but there was lot of noise by women saying that when men take the girls away from the parents its called marriage, but when a girl wants to keep a man away from parents its divorce why?

Really why?

I think it has many reasons, some  in culture and traditions and some due to practicality.

In our families its sons who bring a wife in our home..yes some places daughters also bring gharjamais, but thats only exceptions..as a rule girls only move to their inlaws. and even in case they are going to live in a separate city, but after marriage they first come home to their inlaws only..so the first step towards change would be.
The boys and girls should arrange their marriage on their own and celebrate it at a neutral place with their own earnings.
After marriage they should shift to their own home..they should arrange for that.
That way neither girls parents need to spend, nor boys parents need to give lot of jwellery and clothes.
Unless the young people decide to be totally financially independent they cant bring a change.

Second thing ..in many families parents spend all their future money on their sons in the hope that once they get settled they will look after them..as is our social structure..But when their DIL doesnt want them they have nowhere to go..After a few years parents will become wise when it becomes a rule, but today they are helpless..so for all the girls who think they cant take the responsibility of inlaws need to state it at the time of choosing the groom.

Till such time that a totally fair system evolves..its the duty of both ..sons and daughters to look after their parents in need..living together is not necessary, they may arrange a separate place for them but helping them with whatever they need financially or physically is their moral responsibility..Its true for both set of parents.

Milking the Rivers - the art of High profile Advocacy*

*I got all this info in email from my friend..found it worth sharing...

The Rivers have become the perennial source of revenue for the team of few politically connected lawyers. ?? Forget about serving their State free of cost, the team has extorted huge sums of public money in the name of appearances, conferences, clearkage, travelling in first class, meetings in five star hotels.

Just take the Mahadayi dispute. We have the legal team of many lawyers and tens of water experts. Mr. Fali Nariman charges Rs.4,50,000/- (Rs four lakhs fifty thousand) per appearance and Rs.1,00,000/- (Rs. One lakh) per hour !! He has already had 50 hours of conferences just for the application to be filed in Mahadayi for interim measures!. There were five hearings. The total fee paid to Mr. Nariman just for the application was Rs. 70,20,000/- (Rs Seventy lakhs twenty thousand).
The total fee paid to lawyers for the application we lost is Rs. 5,00,000,00/- (Rs. Five crores)

The lawyers who represented are sriyuts

1. Fali Nariman
2. Mohan Katarki
3. Kashi Vishveshwar,
4. Zirali,
5. S.S. Javali,
6. Divan
7. Advocate General
8. Anitha Shenoy
9. Nishant Patil.

The fee paid in the water disputes is as follows.

1. S.Vijay Shankar Rs. 6,10,000/- (rs six lakhs ten thousand)
2. Ravivarma Kumar Rs. 30,75,000/- (rs thirty lakhs seventy five thousand)
3. Present AG Rs. 10,000,00/- (rs ten lakhs)
4. Fali S Nariman Rs. 2,60,30,000/- (rs two crores sixty lakhs thirty thousand)
5. S.S.Jawali Rs.1,14,52,900/- (rs one crore fourteen lakhs fifty two thousand nine hundred)
6. Mohan Katarki Rs. 2,41,58,828/- (rs two crores forty one lakhs, fifty eight thousand eight twenty eight)
7. Brijesh Kalappa Rs. 67,99,534/- (rs sixty seven lakhs ninety nine thousand five thirty four
8. S.C. Sharma Rs. 41,05,000/- (rs forty one lakhs five thousand)
9. Anitha Shenoy Rs.1,04,37,085/- (rs one crore forty three lakhs thirty seven thousand eighty five)
10. Nishant Patil Rs. 82,75,437/- (rs eighty two lakhs seventy five thousand four thirty seven)
11. M.B.Zirali Rs. 80,49,499/- (rs eighty lakhs forty nine thousand four ninety nine
12. Kashi Vieshwar Rs. 27,47,426/- (rs twenty seven lakhs forty seven thousand four twenty six)
13. Clerkage Rs. 26,03,000/- (rs twenty six lakhs three thousand)

The clerkage fee was paid to Mr. Nariman. Which clerk has he paid.? All clerkage fee is pocketed by the senior lawyers.

S.C. Sharma is junior of Mr. Nariman and he pocketed more than Rs. forty .

Nishant Patil? He is the son of Justice N.K. Patil of Karnataka High Court. He was enrolled only on 26 June 2009 and was included in the Mahadayi legal team in 2011 within just two years of his enrolment. He has already pocketed more than rupees eighty lakhs ! There are several lawyers in Delhi and Karnataka who are more meritorious and experienced than him. But the considerations are altogether different.

Please see the names. Except one or two, rest of them are close to the politicians and political cronies. One congress crony has made the billing of more than 67 lakhs.
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Most of the lawyers on the team (with greatest respect including Nariman) have become spent force and huge liabilities. Mr. S.S.Jawali is on the Cauvery panel also for last 45 years !
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One Advocate General who wanted to argue as “Kannadiga” and claim to be Samaritan pocketed rupees thirty lakhs.
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While the Tamilnad lawyers have offered pro bono services for the legal work, the scenario here is converse. The entire legal team barring one or two, have wasted public money. They travel in first class, they use Govt cars, they have meetings in five star hotels
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The total legal expenditure for water and border disputes is about 15O crores. !
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The conviction is lacking. The dedication to serve their State free of cost or with nominal fee is completely missing. The rivers are being used to make ugly fortune.
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Really sad state of affairs.

Pakistani Actors

Now a days a hot debate is going on whether Pakistani Actors should be allowed to stay and work or not.
People in favour of them say that actors are artists and they have no boundary.
But i want to ask why..actors dont need food, or social services or place to live, dont they have mind to think..why? Are they working here for the love of art, without taking any money?And answer to everything is a big NO. These people earn money here, they dont even respect the place which keeps them gives them work.

Some say they come here on visa given by govt, but as was the news on TV they all come and work on tourist visa.

I dont understand the logic behind defending them except that we as Indian have no more ethics just a materialistic mind, we will just look for money ,nothing else.

If our army also start thinking that why they should fight and put their life in danger, as they have nothing personal against Pakistani soldiers, then what will happen?

We may criticize anything and everything that's the beauty of democracy but when its about our national pride and security, we should give our whole hearted support to the govt. and army..no two thought about it..no ifs and buts.

People like some bollywood stars and producers need to be taught a lesson that patriotism is not  just talking about it and showing thru the reels only..it is required in real life also.

Today we need to show that when the time comes we can sacrifice anything.