Today on Twitter I saw few deriding west and all that . I don’t agree that everything in west is bad and here everything is all hunky dory in families. Good and bad people are everywhere.. and certain ways of doing things are different.
Good things which I like about western culture..
Individuality is encouraged, one is given lot of choices in everything. And independence is cultivated. And it is taught from the very beginning the concept of give and take, like if someone is kind to you, you also return it in some way and in very small small things.
children leave home early and make their own life, so they don’t feel obligation to look after parents but in general most of them care and do.
What I don’t want us to emulate is
They give too much freedom to adolescents and too much exposure to sex, teenage pregnancies are biggest problem in any society. I feel that one should do only when one can take the consequences.otherwise whole life goes for a toss and a dysfunctional generation is born.
Secondly marriages shouldn’t be taken lightly, never marry in haste and repent at leisure. And divorce shouldn’t be a first option if you have kids ,multiple marriages and kids from that bring so many negative influences. I would advise not to marry unless you have patience to compromise.or don’t have children in multiple marriages.
In India basically our culture is good and very selfless but it has its own problem. Because however we may adulate parents, they are not very fair and impartial. Of course they look after children selfless ly in childhood( though not all parents do even that) they take their pound of flesh with their grown up children.Our society puts lot of pressure on children to take care of their parents financially, emotionally and physically and here I differ, I feel it’s a two way street, where parents should also get down from their high chair and be nice to their son family and they also have equal responsibility to make others happy.
I see many parents who want to run everything their own way , if they are living together. They must take retirement from active participation in everything.