Sushant & Bollywood

Now a days with the suicide of Sushant Singh , everybody is busy abusing bigwigs of Bollywood and blaming nepotism in the industry. And it’s true also .They are considered Bollywood Mafia who never lets the outsiders gain firm footing.
But this is same in any Industry may be here little more.  But the lure of money and glamour makes everybody forget everything and do whatever it takes whether it is sucking up to the bosses, taking insults or casting couch. I know it’s not easy to be ignored by the likes of khans and Kapoors,but  one should be prepared for that and if one has talent and luck, one day they will get everything like Akshay, Aushman , Kartik, Irfan and many others got , but there are many others who didn’t get their worth like k K Menon, Ranveer Shorey , Randeep Huda even Rajpal Yadav but everyone has made a living better than any other profession.
It’s like any other profession, some reach the top and some don’t and there is no reason or logic behind it. Sanjeev kumar was more talented than Jeetendra but less of an actor. Even the biggest heroes and singers have taken part in destructing new comes career but then nobody’s criticised them, instead they were given awards and idolised.
Kangana is the latest example.. she made an extraordinary movie and it was enjoyed by one all and still it didn’t get any award or any mention anywhere, .  Here we make star if heroines like Kareena and Sonam Kapoor who are best only at degrading people and sitting on high pedestal due to their money and film family.
But inspite of everything blaming anyone for an adults suicide and that too outsiders is useless. For a certain extent his family and close friends can be held responsible , nobody els. Because it was their responsibility to see his welfare. But a lot depends on the individual, they forget everything in their ambition. One should always depend and give importance to family , relationships and basic values., . I see that small town people get so caught up with money and glamour they forget their roots.He earned more than he could in whole life in any other profession, why couldn’t he wait or leave?
I have an apeal to everyone out there.. life is very precious and everything has a solution, keep your family with you and as the most important thing in your life.
And however strong Bollywood cartel may be, but making a career or star is done by public only, as long as trash is made hit, people will keep making trash and minting money and we shall keep watching Gullyboy taking all awards and Manikarnika with nothing.
It’s time public gets aware and supports good content.
Magazines like Filmfare are also responsible as they ignore content and support and publicise only people with vested interest, as there was no other actor other than SRK for them for 10 years, till he went down.

Dreams of parents

Now a days counselling and admissions are going on for colleges, so I see parents fretting around and always talking about reservations and bad system, and whatever is bad in country..but I  feel that..

The very first thing parents should learn and teach their children also to give their best in the given circumstances..prepare the children ,not the road they are going to walk on.

The same people who crib about reservation and corruption and source,never hesitate to take any advantage of people, system or in their job.Then it never comes to their mind that they are depriving some meritorious person of his/her due. If they can get the admission through some back door, they will certainly go for it.

I am not justifying reservation, but that is a problem we cant tackle.its a bigger issue and needs political will.

Some people suggest that we should prepare our children to go abroad, forgetting that the level of excellence or money( one needs to have atleast one of this) needed to go abroad, can open many doors even in India.The children who are not able to qualify here, will not be able find a place there also.

Then people say every parent has a dream for children and when its not fulfilled, heart is broken..again I would say, its not a dream,its a wishful thinking. To see dreams and fulfill them, we need to work really hard and have a commitment and focus..and try and try till we get it.

In our times, parents never accepted that their child is studying well, they were always cynical or negative..padhte nahi ho.always underestimated....today parents always overestimate their children and find faults outside.

FRIENDS

Today i saw a quote and liked it..it was.like intelligent people have few friends because they are selective something like that..and as soon as I posted it in my group, discussion started. Those who have lot of friends, felt that it was a blow to their intellectual status and it left me wondering, how and why we make friends, and why some people have lots and some only few.

Actually making or not making friends, it all depends on liking and nature and we have all sort of people in this world.

There are some who like like to be surrounded by people, so they make lot of friends, and obviously they are not very selective about them. Because its very difficult to find lot many people who are like minded, you get only few.And in this scenario, not many people are genuine friends.

And there some people who like to be surround by one or two but like minded people,who believe in same things and have similar tastes, though sometimes opposites also attract.

For me personally I am a loner, prefer my own company over just any other person.I cant be friendly with just anyone and everyone. I help everywhere, whenever required, but I am friendly to a very few.and this has been the scenario from my childhood. I like my books more than artificial people , because i find many people who have no ethics and honesty in relationships, whereas for me these things are more important than affection even. And fake relationships are more painful than being on your own, because every second day you are hurt with their attitude. Today its a material world, people side where they gain, they dont have any permanent likings.

That way i can say that I like wise enemies more than foolish friends or even relatives.

What do you think?

Life lessons

Now a days I see lots of messages where govt and systems are criticized and then many where the other side is being shown, and  i think why not spend the same time bettering the system, so i feel that..first we should change ourselves and then only start showing mirror to system or govt, because nothing works without people..govt. is nothing but people only..so here are few areas where we can change ourselves..

First one is paying taxes, we should hide our income and pay full tax, shouldnt take any recourse to find loop holes in the system.

Secondly..no one should get unauthorized constructions in their homes. go the right way.

Never try try to find short cuts or jugaad for any legal recourse.

Do not get your children admitted to schools where donation is required....May be inconvenient but thats the price we should be ready to pay for a better country.

Dont try to find your son/daughter an admission in colleges through money..let them study according to their capabilities..careers are made by passion to study, not by money.

Dont give any bribe anywhere,,,may be you may have to run around be prepared for that inconvenience.

Last but not the least..dont give respect to money but to values, ethics and honesty...earning shouldnt be equated with success.A fulfilling life can be lived with limited money but empathy for others is very important.

Once we can do all that then only we get the right to point fingers to others.

Greetings

I am totally fed up of seeing those happy new year messages everywhere..isnt there over dose of greetings everywhere? Does it make anyone feel better?

I really dont understand modern Etiquette, specially on Facebook..and whatsapp...

People sending 10 times happy new year,in fact if one gets the same message 20 times, one is forwarding all to all in one" contact.. then individually posting on face book and then there in the comments all friends affirming ..I thought liking any post means we affirm the statement..
In whats app, if i share something then it means i agree with that and like that , I share it to MY people, I dont need reactions which mean nothing..And if i get a forward , and there is something special to say about that i say, otherwise I dont believe in just giving reactions like .thumbs up or smileys.though i am guilty of doing that sometimes due to peer pressure:)

Arent we creating bulk of digital trash for nothing? if we have so much of free time why not put it to some good use.to better yourself or society or your children.And i really wonder if its for entertainment, if it is then,its a hopeless.

Mother,s day

Now a days is the season of mothers..yes, dont laugh, wherever you see ,be it face book or whats app or blogs, mothers are being glorified so much.

I dont believe that any relationship is better than the other or one is required more than the other,,its the time and need which define it.

Small children need parents and that tine this is the most important relationship.

But once they grow up and are settled in life, most of the time parents create only problems in their life.This time spouse is most important and then it will be time for children.

So in the whole span of our life at different points different people are important and they should be treated that way, only then life would be beautiful.

I have seen many mothers who were partial to their sons, didnt do much for daughters..but once they grow up, it becomes a fashion to say..my mother is best..do they really think so?

Parents love us and so do we..its a relationship of give and take only, if a child is uncaring or doesnt do anything for the parents, they never like him/her or do anything for them.Its only good ones who get everything.and for bringing up, nobody is obliging anybody..they are doing their duty,as the children do by looking after the old parents..

I know that not many think like this , but I do, as I have seen enough people who didnt look after their children, they were not good parents.

parents and responsibilities

Whenever I see the posts on old parents, old age homes and the people's comment..he is a good son, or he is a bad son...all being judgmental without even knowing the circumstances and problems of the young people....I feel like saying something with real experience...

I want to ask all the young girls who become idealistic..how many of them are ready to live with their in laws and look after them..inlaws who are financially dependent on you?..live with them life long...with respect and care?

Not many will be amiable to do so..Looking after parents means sharing your money,time, and all other resources, making changes in your life style and having many restrictions and sometimes forgoing your dreams too or changing their direction.

Its so easy to brand the children specially sons,..... but I know the pains and travails of the children who do so..because I have been doing it..and here are inlaws who were not even good to the same DILs and did all they could to make their life uncomfortable and miserable, but when their time comes they and the world with them wants the sons to look after them, pamper them etc etc..why? and make the children feel guilty..

I refuse to have such beliefs..I have been looking after my MIL even now when we ourselves are senior citizens, though she was never good to me but I take care of her to the best of my capabilities because thats what is taught to us....but today I resent her presence in my life because I am at the fag end of life and cant wait to live it..and I refuse to feel guilty for such feelings...

Its the duty of parents also to see that they dont misbehave with the girls they are to live later on...secondly they should always maintain one place where they can retreat for some time, it will rejuvenate both them and children...Dependent parents should also learn to adjust...and whatever they can, they should do to bring comfort to their children.They shouldnt always think about themselves only..

Many parents who are not financially sound will say , when we have nothing what can we do..but money is not the only thing you can give, you have a heart..make it loving, care for your children..dil se...and help them with their work..make a place in their heart...but nobody will do that, they want to be accepted for what they are, but want children to change for them..

Wherever parents are wealthy,they should never give all the wealth to their children..no.. keep it with you, make a will....let them make their life on their own...they will learn the values in life...

Its all in the mind..once you start thinking positively,you can make your life yourself...whether its parents or children..and I dont ever want anyone to stop living because of me....If I am lacking in physical strength or financial independence, the repercussions should be 80% on me and 20% on children,not the vice versa...If I am physically semi independent or dependent, and have money I must keep a care giver to look after me and my personal idiosyncrasies , and If I cant afford,I must accept the situation and make peace..same for finances, if I am financially dependent, I must learn not to demand anything, or very little and the same set of values go for children and everyone...Its called living life to the best of your capabilities.....

RIGHT YA WRONG

I have been thinking for a long time, what is right?
To reach the aim or target , by any ways or
The ways we follow are more important than the end?
Some people say-there is no harm in a little twisting here or there if our intentions are good and our ultimate aim is for the benefit of may be society or country or mankind whatever it is.But then like they say--chori to chori ha--one cant give it any other name.and it will always leave its footprints on your mind.
There are so many people who justify corruption by less paid people, but i dont agree with that, because in a world there would be many people earning more and many less, earnings dont decide the morality of a person.
Personally i think means are more important than the end, we must choose the right path and it will always take us to a good end,may not be the pinnacle of success , but the satisfaction of the journey will certainly outweigh that.Journey is more important than the manjil(end).Intentions only make us feel good......like may times we say..but my intentions were not like that ,so what.., but they dont affect anything else, its only our deed which bring results. and any unfair mean for a righteous cause also will certainly somewhere bring unfairness.
What do you think?

Changing times

I was thinking that how with the times sensibilities also change..Like when I was young before marriage I wore salwar kameez , and after marriage, as was the custom sari..never found it uncomfortable or cumbersome, instead whenever some one from my in laws side wanted to see me in other dresses, I felt shy and uncomfortable....Today girls feel more comfortable in any  dress other than sari.

After marriage, when my surname changed, i never felt that its an attack on my identity, I felt even happy with Mrs. so and so..with my changed status.

In the same way I never ever thought that after marriage , I will do everything as in my parents place or follow the traditions of my parents family..I took to everything in my inlaws house very naturally, because i was brought up with that..I was given lot of love and everything, but i never thought that I will have any share in my parents's property, nor i will have any responsibilities  towards them...both remained with my brother.My duties and rights both  were in my new home.

Because of this type of thinking, in our times girls took less time in becoming one with the new family.

SCOUTING FOR A PARTNER

Now a days on of my nephew is looking for a life partner. And we came to know that today arranging a marriage is tough job, because earlier only boys had expectations, today girls have more expectations than boys, so matching them is quite difficult.
One thing i noticed that most of the time when boys scout for a girl , they like the girls who are good looking if not beautiful and talkative, and independent type,and they dont mind giving girls expensive gifts and doing other expenses while dating, but after marriage, they want wives to be economical, domesticated and polite.
And whenever they meet prospective candidates, they never ask relevant questions, instead its about trivia.like hobby, food etc.Though people change over time, i thought of certain things, which should be clarified before marriage...

1. Both should know what they are looking for in a marriage..is it about eating out more, more movies and good clothes and exotic vacations only............................................................My thought...marriage means housekeeping, managing the extended family, cooking,and managing finances, so think who will do what?
2. Is the partner ready to live with other one's parents? and if he situation arise how will they manage?.......................................................My thoughts..In our society its assumed that boys parents will live with them, so any girl assuming otherwise should be clear from the beginning,and if and when girls parents need them, boys should be ready for that.
3. what do they think about having  children..
4. what is their outlook about savings and expenditure?
5. And most importantly..are both going to work? then what will be their coping mechanism?..My thought....is that if both work then both shouldnt be ambitious in career, one needs to take it easy..And if only one works, then other should take the responsibility of house without expecting any help from working spouse.

One's whole life changes with marriage, so its very important to take a decision with lot of mulling over all aspects.I like to think before marriage, and then make it work.

New Year and my resolutions

Another year passed and again its time to think about resolutions. So far my track record has been very good, whatever I resolve, I follow, but this year what I am thinking of, needs others co-operation too. You see recently I crossed the milestone of 60..and got the proper stamp of a senior citizen( though women are considered senior citizen after 58 only)..I feel that its high time I got complete freedom from all societal pressures.Now everybody may think that at my age what pressure I can have,but this is not true.I have so many.But now I want to say that..

I will not call or talk to anybody whom  I dont want to.for whatever reason.I feel irritated with forced talk..result may be the loss of relationship,but i am ready to loose that.

I will not go anywhere, where I dont find the need to go like there are so many occasions where its just a formality to show your presence, and in the process, one spends sometimes lot of money and bears the inconvenience..most of the time its for some deaths in the families, sometimes its for marriages also..But here my belief is that if i care for someone, I do my best for them, and to them I will show my grief also, but going long distances just to give attendance is a waste of resources and i find it very awkward to condole somebody verbally.

I dont want to be extra nice to bad people..yes there are some vicious people whom you want to blast left and right and being nice to them is a strain on my energy.

I  shall voice my opinion freely without thinking of consequences :)

Dont you think that there should be a certain span of life when you live as you want?
Now friends, tell me, are my resolutions feasible, will I be able to follow them?

Suicide

Recently an army man's suicide made me think about it..Generally suicide is considered a crime, even insurance doesnt pay for it and here Delhi Govt. promised one crore to his family.isnt it instigating people to do it..because ours is a poor country and one crore is a big amount.Govt. should pay where its right, legal and required.Not to someone who is doing a crime.

I have seen many people commiting suicide due to different reasons, family feud, marital discord, poverty.etc etc. and most of the time some or other people are blamed for their act. But according to me,no where we can blame others for that..its like this..In life many people are getting exploited but not everyone becomes Phoolan devi and this is not the course we can advocate.Life is difficult for everyone at sometime..and one has to face it .

I saw one youngman committing suicide after marital discord with wife..now tell me there may be a divorce also and there are many other people who needed him and this was 35 years back when anti dowry act was not so popular.

Many time I have seen people acting differently and depressed, but then nobody bothers, they should get medical help, but blaming others.. family members or office colleagues or boss or society is not right.

We can do multiple things to make a better society and living environment, but blaming others is not one of them.

From the beginning, one must inculcate the feeling that adults have all the responsibility for their own life..how they live, or how they treat it.

We are a society of blamers.....some body doesnt work hard..but not getting promotion is boss' bad attitude or the eaisest way to say is because I dont do buttering.
Road is dirty.blame the govt..but we will always throw the trash there.
I didint get the job..not because I may not be worthy of it, but because i didnt have a push
We never take responsibility for our actions.

Marriage and divorce

Recently there was a case in the court where court granted divorce because wife wanted the men to leave his parents..I dont remember the details , but there was lot of noise by women saying that when men take the girls away from the parents its called marriage, but when a girl wants to keep a man away from parents its divorce why?

Really why?

I think it has many reasons, some  in culture and traditions and some due to practicality.

In our families its sons who bring a wife in our home..yes some places daughters also bring gharjamais, but thats only exceptions..as a rule girls only move to their inlaws. and even in case they are going to live in a separate city, but after marriage they first come home to their inlaws only..so the first step towards change would be.
The boys and girls should arrange their marriage on their own and celebrate it at a neutral place with their own earnings.
After marriage they should shift to their own home..they should arrange for that.
That way neither girls parents need to spend, nor boys parents need to give lot of jwellery and clothes.
Unless the young people decide to be totally financially independent they cant bring a change.

Second thing ..in many families parents spend all their future money on their sons in the hope that once they get settled they will look after them..as is our social structure..But when their DIL doesnt want them they have nowhere to go..After a few years parents will become wise when it becomes a rule, but today they are helpless..so for all the girls who think they cant take the responsibility of inlaws need to state it at the time of choosing the groom.

Till such time that a totally fair system evolves..its the duty of both ..sons and daughters to look after their parents in need..living together is not necessary, they may arrange a separate place for them but helping them with whatever they need financially or physically is their moral responsibility..Its true for both set of parents.

Milking the Rivers - the art of High profile Advocacy*

*I got all this info in email from my friend..found it worth sharing...

The Rivers have become the perennial source of revenue for the team of few politically connected lawyers. ?? Forget about serving their State free of cost, the team has extorted huge sums of public money in the name of appearances, conferences, clearkage, travelling in first class, meetings in five star hotels.

Just take the Mahadayi dispute. We have the legal team of many lawyers and tens of water experts. Mr. Fali Nariman charges Rs.4,50,000/- (Rs four lakhs fifty thousand) per appearance and Rs.1,00,000/- (Rs. One lakh) per hour !! He has already had 50 hours of conferences just for the application to be filed in Mahadayi for interim measures!. There were five hearings. The total fee paid to Mr. Nariman just for the application was Rs. 70,20,000/- (Rs Seventy lakhs twenty thousand).
The total fee paid to lawyers for the application we lost is Rs. 5,00,000,00/- (Rs. Five crores)

The lawyers who represented are sriyuts

1. Fali Nariman
2. Mohan Katarki
3. Kashi Vishveshwar,
4. Zirali,
5. S.S. Javali,
6. Divan
7. Advocate General
8. Anitha Shenoy
9. Nishant Patil.

The fee paid in the water disputes is as follows.

1. S.Vijay Shankar Rs. 6,10,000/- (rs six lakhs ten thousand)
2. Ravivarma Kumar Rs. 30,75,000/- (rs thirty lakhs seventy five thousand)
3. Present AG Rs. 10,000,00/- (rs ten lakhs)
4. Fali S Nariman Rs. 2,60,30,000/- (rs two crores sixty lakhs thirty thousand)
5. S.S.Jawali Rs.1,14,52,900/- (rs one crore fourteen lakhs fifty two thousand nine hundred)
6. Mohan Katarki Rs. 2,41,58,828/- (rs two crores forty one lakhs, fifty eight thousand eight twenty eight)
7. Brijesh Kalappa Rs. 67,99,534/- (rs sixty seven lakhs ninety nine thousand five thirty four
8. S.C. Sharma Rs. 41,05,000/- (rs forty one lakhs five thousand)
9. Anitha Shenoy Rs.1,04,37,085/- (rs one crore forty three lakhs thirty seven thousand eighty five)
10. Nishant Patil Rs. 82,75,437/- (rs eighty two lakhs seventy five thousand four thirty seven)
11. M.B.Zirali Rs. 80,49,499/- (rs eighty lakhs forty nine thousand four ninety nine
12. Kashi Vieshwar Rs. 27,47,426/- (rs twenty seven lakhs forty seven thousand four twenty six)
13. Clerkage Rs. 26,03,000/- (rs twenty six lakhs three thousand)

The clerkage fee was paid to Mr. Nariman. Which clerk has he paid.? All clerkage fee is pocketed by the senior lawyers.

S.C. Sharma is junior of Mr. Nariman and he pocketed more than Rs. forty .

Nishant Patil? He is the son of Justice N.K. Patil of Karnataka High Court. He was enrolled only on 26 June 2009 and was included in the Mahadayi legal team in 2011 within just two years of his enrolment. He has already pocketed more than rupees eighty lakhs ! There are several lawyers in Delhi and Karnataka who are more meritorious and experienced than him. But the considerations are altogether different.

Please see the names. Except one or two, rest of them are close to the politicians and political cronies. One congress crony has made the billing of more than 67 lakhs.
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Most of the lawyers on the team (with greatest respect including Nariman) have become spent force and huge liabilities. Mr. S.S.Jawali is on the Cauvery panel also for last 45 years !
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One Advocate General who wanted to argue as “Kannadiga” and claim to be Samaritan pocketed rupees thirty lakhs.
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While the Tamilnad lawyers have offered pro bono services for the legal work, the scenario here is converse. The entire legal team barring one or two, have wasted public money. They travel in first class, they use Govt cars, they have meetings in five star hotels
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The total legal expenditure for water and border disputes is about 15O crores. !
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The conviction is lacking. The dedication to serve their State free of cost or with nominal fee is completely missing. The rivers are being used to make ugly fortune.
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Really sad state of affairs.

Pakistani Actors

Now a days a hot debate is going on whether Pakistani Actors should be allowed to stay and work or not.
People in favour of them say that actors are artists and they have no boundary.
But i want to ask why..actors dont need food, or social services or place to live, dont they have mind to think..why? Are they working here for the love of art, without taking any money?And answer to everything is a big NO. These people earn money here, they dont even respect the place which keeps them gives them work.

Some say they come here on visa given by govt, but as was the news on TV they all come and work on tourist visa.

I dont understand the logic behind defending them except that we as Indian have no more ethics just a materialistic mind, we will just look for money ,nothing else.

If our army also start thinking that why they should fight and put their life in danger, as they have nothing personal against Pakistani soldiers, then what will happen?

We may criticize anything and everything that's the beauty of democracy but when its about our national pride and security, we should give our whole hearted support to the govt. and army..no two thought about it..no ifs and buts.

People like some bollywood stars and producers need to be taught a lesson that patriotism is not  just talking about it and showing thru the reels only..it is required in real life also.

Today we need to show that when the time comes we can sacrifice anything.

No means No

I heard so much about Pink that it became necessary for me to watch it and watch I did;)..I have never heard so much of clapping by youngsters in the hall ever .
One thing this movie wants to establish is that NO means NO..Even if a women is a prostitute, if she is not interested in physical relationship with some one ,then forcing her is crime.and thats the way it should be everywhere.I agree and the way the young men of a influential family behave is totally abominable...why the parents have all the rules for girls only, why they dont teach boys to behave?
This is the biggest problem in our society and for this mothers are also responsible.And  the way our system is corrupt, where police writes the FIR only for influential people and victimises normal citizen,it also shows that we are loosing character due to the greed of money,and respect for moneyed.
But somehwere the life style of three protagonist also rankles me,living alone is not a crime but living recklessly is.In a country where law and order is not very good, and people are not accustomed to the girls wearing short dress, drinking , spouting obscene jokes with unknown boys, doing all this and not expecting trouble..either they are too naive or mindless.These three girls dont know those boys except one, they were friends of a friend, still they sit together , drink together and when these unknown boys invite them to a resort, they go there for dinner..what were they thinking?
We havent got an ideal society where gender doesnt matter, it matters here...And till our society becomes a real progressive one where girls will be safe everywhere, onus lies on the girls to take care of their safety..why be reckless and put yourself to danger.
In the competition to be equal to boys, girls are even copying their bad habits too.

As a movie is a visual medium, I would have liked to see some beauty also..but looks like they economised on everything...why everything so.unapealing. Amitabh bacchan looks so old.more than he really is,As his wife, if there was any good actress like Shefali chaya even...No hero,villains even look like villain or extras.

BACHELOR WOES

Recently I was in Hyderabad for renting out my flat. and i cameto know that society association has decided not to allow landlords to let houses to bachelors, I find this very strange.I asked them that tomorrow your son goes somewhere for job or education and people denied him flats , how will you feel?
But they were adamant and when I talked to my nephew , he gave me enough to think about, how bachelors suffer..

1. For them its very difficult to find a suitable dwelling due to people'e aversion to bachelors and whatever they find they end up paying more than the usual rent, though they may not be getting a high salary.
2. Most of the people in surroundings, still consider them child and dont give them respect due as a tenant.
3. They are admonished for everything they do..like even if they are celebrating bdays, they are asked to stop music and stop disturbing people, whereas other residents may have pooja or bhajan or marriage ,whatever and may disturb them for whole night or day.

Isnt it time we introspected our attitude...we shouldnt be prejudiced for anything.Yes while giving them on rent, we can have conditions about cleaning or any damage or coming and going, but not giving them is unfair. Its a kind of racism only.

OLYMPIC WINNERS

Now a days whenever i open the newspaper i see someone or other felicitating the Olympic winners..Isnt it that we Indians always do over the top things, we criticize for nothing, and once someone achieves something we go out of the way to praise. I am not saying that they dont deserve it, they deserve it truly  BUT.arent we going overboard with the bounties?
Instead now is the time to retrospect...
what is wrong in our system?
somebody should look  into the complaints of sports persons during the games
And then instead of giving everything to these few why not bring  a system where all the aspiring players get support.
If all the corporates sponsor even one player of any game, we can have thousands of good sports people and players dont have to suffer for basic things.

Attire

This post is spurred by Shilpa's comment on my last post:). Actually i always wonder that when people go abroad they always change their way of dressing. Those who start living there, it may be out of necessity also, but for a short trip I dont understand the reason. Either they are not happy wearing what they wear here or..dont know what. For me i am the same person wherever i go. I wear what I like and find comfort in..So many times people suggest me to make new clothes when I am going out, but I  dont. Though i wear cotton only, still i wear the same. When i wear sarees there at festivals and special occasions, I get so many ooh and aahs and wows..even from my generation, because most of them go either for salwar kameez or jeans and top.

Attire for me is completely a comfort equation...whatever I feel good in, I wear,cant wear anything for the sake of fashion only. Yes one thing I take care that my choices should never embarrass my family:)..For me.yes clothes make a person, but what is inside thats more important

New Year begins

Last 2 months have been very hectic for me, and I have lost touch with all my friends on blogger..I hope to catch up soon...

In the past year many important things happened to me..but with some catches.
Like we were blessed with a granddaughter, but couldnt go to see her for 7 months..
My nephew got married to his childhood sweetheart, but my husband couldnt join us,
My daughter and son.inlaw came but couldnt stay with us much because they couldnt reach Chennai due to floods.
My husband went to Belgium two times but I couldnt accompany him even once.

Today when i think about life and my expectations,..I feel that i want peace more than anything..I dont have any desire for any materialistic things..whatever i have i am very happy with that, but I want to surround myself with like minded people, people who respect elders..one thing which irritates me no end is the rudeness and aggression for no reason, .I want to say that to all  that choose your battles carefully...define your priorities in life and be sensible.

My own resolution for this year is to learn to say NO.to anything which I cant do or dont want to do.and to some people..even...

Here comes a brand new year for you to enjoy and accept the realities of life. Fill them with whatever your heart desires without any regrets this year. Stay blessed.