Difficult Daughters...Manju Kapur

For a long time  I have been looking to read something by this writer and last week  when I went to Hyderabad and my friend told me that she had bought it, I was thrilled, I asked her to give it to me as i would finish it in two days.

This is a story of Veermati set in the Punjab before partition. Veermati belongs to a wealthy family with her grandfather and father both being Aryasamaji believe in educating the girls.And when she falls for her neighbour..and oxford educated professor who is already married with a child, some blame comes on education too.Everything is so natural and real here, the back ground, living style, language..everything..It shows that in earlier times children were married in the childhood, as the professor is and when he grows up into a well educated intellectual, he feels no compatibility with his wife, he tries to educate her, but she is not interested. And though in all other respects she is a good wife and daughter.inlaw, he feels deprived and falls for a young beautiful girl who is studying.So far so good, but if he lacked that feeling of companionship only why he lusts after her and makes an illicit relationship with her?..why couldnt he be satisfied with a platonic relationship only.and then he is not shown as a good father even,somewhere he abandons his family for the girl..Here he falls from my eyes, he is a very intelligent man, but not with a good character.The story is shown thru the eyes of Veermati.as it happens..
The description of joint families, how the girls were treated and how much families cared for good will and respect in the society.everything is shown as it was..very interesting read..after a long time I read something with real people and real characters

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If I were a month, I’d be November..weather is good and has my Bday too:)

If I were a day of the week, I’d beMonday..I like to get up fresh and start the work:)

If I were a time of day, I’d be Morning...love to have my tea with newspaper and computer both.

If I were a season, I’d be the autum !

If I were a planet, I’d be Moon!

If I were an animal, I’d be the bird who could soar high!

If I were a direction, I'd be the South!

If I were a piece of furniture, I’d be a side table where one keeps the most important things of the day!

If I were a liquid, I’d be Water!

If I were a tree, I’d be a Coconut!

If I were a tool, I’d be screw driver which can repair evrything

If I were an element, I’d  be gold ..pure and real...gets better with tribulations.!

If I were a gemstone, I’d be coral!

If I were a musical instrument, I’d be dholak!

If I were a color, I’d be white!

If I were an emotion, I’d be Hope or courage !

If I were a fruit, I’d be a banana..complete food!

If I were a sound, I’d be the song of the nightingale !

If I were a car, I’d be Tata sierra!

If I were food, I’d be rasogulla!

If I were a taste, I’d be sweet!

If I were a scent, I’d be fragrance of jasmine!

If I were a pair of shoes, I'd be tall and confident!

If I were a bird, I’d be a crow who brings uo other's kids as his own.

If I were a Fast bowler, I’d be the ....!..i dont like cricket:)

If I were a Batsman, I’d be the ...!

It was a tag given to me long back,and I am doing it now,I would like to tag..Harman,Bikram, A,Bhagyashree and sandhya

HAPPINESS?

Recently I read on Jyothi's blog..is everyone happy?..good question! Could we ever be happy forever?..Happiness is a very momentary feeling and whenever someone does something in accordance with our feelings we are happy.But all the time happy....quite a difficult task, as all the time we cant expect the world to behave to our liking..
But we can be at peace all the time if we detach ourselves a little with the results.We may do our duty and the right thing and then stop worrying about the results.Many people keep advising me that now that i have fulfilled my duties in life, I must live Bindaas, not worry about others and say and do what I like.And i shouldnt at all think about people younger to me but say the right thing. But that is not possible in a civilised society. We can never do anything if it might hurt others.Saying the right thing is also useful only if it makes any difference in a positive way.But then any relationship which cants sustain the truth or has no tolerance is not worth keeping also.And older people have more responsibilities in keeping the decorum and being kind, I dont like old people to be selfish, or manipulative or unkind as I feel that if not whole life, but now when we are so near to god, we can leave aside worldly temptations and may try to be a little saintly.we have enjoyed the life and done everything, now just be good.

I see so many people who try to show off as if they are the only good people and they do only good, but show them the mirror, they cant stand it.Truth is never easy to face,never easy to understand.

So many times I think that we must divide the life into phases and there must be a fixed time for shouldering the responsibilities and  for living free of obligations. According to me..

From birth to 20 years..this time should be fully devoted to education, children shouldnt be given any responsibilities.big or small, instead this time should be spent in building health, character and education only.

From 20-40..is time to indulge, make careers, and families and enjoy.and do whatevr you want to do with your life, build it in your own way.

40-60..This is the time for responsibilities, towards your family,,including parents, and society.

After 60..one must live.Bindaas...without any responsibility..neither of parents, nor children, do everything as you like, without any pressure.Because I feel, that atleast some time should be in life when you can live as an individual, in your own way..it is a dream for me.

What do you think?

Baby Pigeons

Baby Pigeons?
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Have you ever wondered why you don't see baby pigeons?

Have you ever wondered why pigeons spend so much time walking
when they could be flying?

Some of US spend so much time walking when we could be flying.

This is why you don't see Baby pigeons -

First of all, unlike other birds, pigeons hide their nests.
When they emerged in Asia, pigeons were cliff-dwellers.  Now
they build their messy nests of sticks inside the guts of
bridges, or atop tall buildings, or on top of your air
conditioner.

Also, pigeons are very protective and babying parents.  They lay
only two eggs at a time, and spoil those babies shamefully.  By
the time they leave the nest, the babies are almost the same
size as their parents.

That's why you don't see baby pigeons.

The parents spoil the kids by keeping them sheltered and inside
away from the world until they are almost grown.

Is it any wonder why they fly as little as possible?
Think about that the next time you see a pigeon,
a big one walking.


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FLIP CART..here they dress children as adults and they talk also in adult tone.best is the one where two children dresses as software people are taking milk from a vending machine..and in one two little girls getting beauty treatment..really hilarious.

RELIANCE MOBILE.one with Anushka and Ranvijay..all the situations shown are funny, but the best is where on boy's mother's bday girl calls first and enjoys his discomfort:)

BRU COFFEE..one with Shahid and Priyanka, where priyanka has damaged Shahid's car.

AIRTEL..the latest ones.har ek friend jaroori hota ha..specially the one in restaurant where a boy tell his budget constraint to the waiter and he manages the girls..

HISTORY CHANNEL..with Salman khan

HDFC BANK..that one..sar utha ke jiyo, where a son tries to help his father in getting down from the train and fathers wants to do so on his own..

Whenevr i see them, I feel that bthere are very few advertisement with celebrities,which have any recall quality and none is exceptional..its always the ideas which click, then why they spend so much on getting filmstars?

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CADBURY..where a boss(Jugal hansraaj) rewards an inefficient secretary with choclates)..what sort of advt is this?

Hema malini praising a washing powder or

Madhuri dixit telling us about dish washing soap..how more ridiculous it can be?

Shahrukh advocating fairness cream to boys....

All those soap  ads, they are so misleading...

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what is your list?

GIFTS

Diwali is awaited with so so much of enthusiasm and now its gone:(.and it is synonymous with gifts.Dont know why but I am not a gracious person while accepting gifts, I feel very awkward too.So many times I keep mulling that from the next year i will take a vow not to accept anything from anyone..then postpone it for another year:).Actually now at my age I dont want to take anything..I just want to give..though my hubby says that if you dont take, then you cant give also:)

Lot many people decide the type and amount of gift depending on the status of recipient,rich people get opulent gifts,whereas not so make do with ordinary things. whereas I think gifts should be decided by the status of the person who si giving..and I keep thinking that I must have that uniformity in mind, but then mind starts thinking that wouldnt it be injustice to a person who is giving you more? and I am always in a confusion about what is right..and if  are you are reading my blog regularly, you must be knowing by now that I have this fetish for doing the right thing always.To me being righteous and fair is very important...and on the other hand I dont like to be taken for granted too.

So what do you think is the right way?..Should we always reciprocate only? or should we keep giving even if some people dont?

THE CAT

The Cat
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Dwight Nelson recently told a true story about the pastor of his
church.

He had a kitten that climbed up a tree in his backyard and then
was afraid to come down. The pastor coaxed, offered warm milk,
etc. The kitty would not come down.

The tree was not sturdy enough to climb, so the pastor decided
that if he tied a rope to his car and drove away so that the
tree bent down, he could then reach up and get the kitten.

He did all this, checking his progress in the car frequently,
then figured if he went just a little bit further, the tree
would be bent sufficiently for him to reach the kitten.

But as he moved a little further forward, the rope broke.

The tree went "boing!" and the kitten instantly sailed through
the air  - out of sight.

The pastor felt terrible.

He walked all over the neighborhood asking people if they'd seen
a little kitten. No. Nobody had seen a stray kitten. So he
prayed, "Lord, I just commit this kitten to your keeping," and
went on about his business.

A few days later he was at the grocery store and met one of his
church members. He happened to look into her shopping cart and
was amazed to see cat food. Now this woman was a cat hater and
everyone knew it, so he asked her, "Why are you buying cat food
when you hate cats so much?"

She replied, "You won't believe this," and told him how her
little girl had been begging her for a cat, but she kept
refusing. Then a few days before, the child had begged again,
so the Mom finally told her little girl, "Well if God gives you
a cat, I'll let you keep it?"

(Can you see where this is heading?)

She told the pastor, "I watched my child go out in the yard, get
on her knees, and ask God for a cat. And really, Pastor, you
won't believe this, but I saw it with my own eyes.

A kitten suddenly came flying out of the blue sky, with its paws
outspread, and landed right in front of her."

Never underestimate the Power of God and what may appear to be
breaking on one end, is answering prayer on another.


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