SOCIAL JUSTICE

In last few year we had manyincidents where politicians had realtion ship with other women and they were murdered like Bhanwari devi, Madhumita and many more. Most of the time its always the politicians who are blamed for everything, but in todays world a consensual relation puts the onus on both of them and in some case even on the husband of the involved women , as he supports this menage troi for the greed of money..Amarmani and his wife were even  convicted for the murder of MadhumitaLet me tell you a little about the case if you dont know that Amarmani was a minister in Mulayamsingh;s cabinet and Madhumita was a poetess and his mistress.Murder is a very gruesome crime and the person perpetrating it should be given harsh punishment, but I think that Madhumita also gets some blame for her character and greed. What happens that whever an upcoming(in life or society) young girl gets close to an influential and rich person, she brushes aside everything; morals, character and the concern about others. She compromises on everything to reach the uppercrust of society and when she gets there, then her amnesia goes and she wants all other things also.And we have this habit of supporting havenots even in their greed...otherwise morals shouldnt differ between rich and poor..When Madhumati had relations with Amarmani, it was not that she was kept in dark about his matrimonial status, but still she started the relationship with scant regard for society, or about his family, without thinking that in this process of self gratification she is hurting some innocent people-his wife and children.But when
She conceived , on basis of that she started demanding the status of wife.
I feel that in the above situation both are equally responsible for the situation, and none should be maligned, but our society being what it is always condemns the rich, so what Amarmani does -he plans her murder with the help of his wife.And in the process whole family is ruined,including two young kids. If we change our mindsets, and in any compromising situation between two consenting adults, we dont start any blaming or defaming game, there wont be the need for any one to think of going to the extreme of murdering.I am not condoning the murder, but as an aware citizen its our responsiblity to see where the problem lies.

Annual trip

Today i am flying to  Zurich. This the first time I am taking Emirates, , lets see how it is.So far I have taken AI,Lufthansa,BA an AA and I found Lufthansa best. From Chennai all flights take almost the same time.And this( Emirates) is quite good in that respect while going from here..Its Dubai from here and then Zurich. and baggage allowance is also good.
As such I am only a housewife in common parlance, but the amount of settlements and arrangements I have to do before leaving....there is no limit..check everything, from fridge to groceries, all should be enough but not too much to get spoiled, specially in Chennai'weather. I always like to do everything in advance, dont like last minute work, but this time due to lot of constraints, I am compelled to do everything today only:)..so friends I am going to hurry and worry:)

AGNIPATH....I saw this movie and couldnt sit thru..dont understand how could people like it, may be this generation who is watching it for the first time. The same happened to me with RA ONE and DON2...I couldnt watch them...

Remakes should be some thing like Rajshrees made Nadiya ke paar in Ham aapke ha kaun..the same story but treatment was so different and even today I can watch both of them any no of times.

Ladies VS Ricky Behal..This is a con movie where hero cons 3 girls and then they set up a con for him, but is he really conned.The high light of this movie is Parineeti Chopra, she is a delight to watch and then the scenery of Goa.

Friends with Benefit...Very light and entertaining movie..here also I liked Mila Kunis more than Justin Timberlake..she is a natural.

The Lincoln Lawyer:..its about a lawyer who will defend even criminals for money, but once he realises that he has jailed an innocent and a wealthy person is trying to manipulate him to beat the system, then he changes his course..Matthew conaughey is just awesome to watch...

How to loose a guy in 10 days..I saw it just for Matthew Conaughey and he didnt dissappoint me:).

Life as we know it...Two strangers get a custody of an orphaned girl child when her parents die in an accident and make them guardian..Entertaining romantic comedy.and Katherine Heigl looks very sweet..

Tried watching Dangerous Ishq and Tere Naal Love Ho Gaya..but couldnt:(

Mahabharata..one imp quote

Yudhishthira--How might a man overcome difficulties?

Bheeshma--never practice deceit.

Behave with restraint, control all worldly desires.

Do not speak when addressed in foul language,

do not injure others;

give, rather than take.

Do not sin in thought,word or deed, never harm any creature.

Always speak the truth even though your life may be at stake.

Speak words which are agreable,always spend your wealth well.

Bow to all gods,listen to the doctrines of all creeds, have faith

GENDER AND RESERVATION

When our new president was chosen last time, her support by some woman and celebrities set me thinking that for the highest post in our country, the eligibility criteria should be the gender or merit?Should we be proud of a person's qualities or gender? I fail to undertand the hype about a woman being the president.Did the tenure of Rabri Devi made Bihar any better? Did the atrocities stop against woman over there.And If we want to be progressive in the real sense then we must stop thinking in the terms of woman and man, instead always support the talent, qualifications.

Today we see that a person who has been unsuccessful as a minister is being promoted to be a president..what logic?

Everytime a minister is accused of corruption , he resigns and after six months he is inducted again at a senior and better position.good logic na?

Its the same as in reservations in education, we must give the financial and other support to underprivileged so as to make them qualify for higher education, but the higher education shoould be on merit and merit alone. Otherwise we shall have serious repercussions in the long run.

TAG

I am tagged by Irfanuddin of Apni BOLI and

The Rules....
1- You must post the rules.

2- Answer the questions given by the person tagged you.
3- Tag eleven new bloggers.
4- Set eleven new questions given by the person who tagged you.
5- Inform them about the tag.

And the questions are...

1- Why are you, you?

very difficult question..but I am what I am because of my upbringing and then circumstances,and that way I think that every person is a product of that only.

2- Do you enjoy your job?

I am a homemaker and thoroughly enjoy my work, I loved looking after my children when they were young, I still do, though they dont want me to do that now:)...I love keeping my house spic n span and doing everything for my husband, love everything about it.

3- What is your favorite time of the day?

In the morning when my husband leaves for office and then I make a cup of tea and read newspaper:)

4- Have you ever come close to death?

Not as such, but when I had a thyroiditis, anything could happen,but I believe that one can die any minute, young or old, its destiny, I am not afraid of death at all.

5- What is your idea of living a good life?

Depends on the age, today my idea of good life is living in a simple cottage,amidst lots of greenery and space,devoting some time for doing good work for others and living without any responsibility and expectations.

6- What are you wearing right now?

OMG..I am in gown:(

7- What's the strangest habit you have?

I feel more compassion for the unknown people than relations..and I dont like the people who are always for..I me, my children and relations only.

8- Have you ever eaten a crayon?

NO

9- When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?

why?,,I notice everyday..

10- Did you dream last night? Can you share that dream here with your readers ?

strangely yesterday I really dreamt, I always dream about water.and I always find myself capable of flying:)...LOL:)

11-Who is the second to last person called you today? (now don’t check your mobile history)

Called my mom..though I had to check the mobile:)

I was tagged by Sandhya too long back and her questions are.....

1. Do you remember your first day in school?

No:(

2. Your favourite song which you hum often.

I like many songs but dont hum any one more than the other.

3. Which was your favourite subject in school?

English

4. Are you happy with yourself always, well... most of the time, for what you are today?

Yes,.most of the time I am contented,


5. Role model in your life?

Keep changing all the time, no one special..

6. Have you got the habit of cursing often?!

NO NEVER..I dislike bad language.

7. What do you do when you are very happy?

Drink tea, listen to music or read a book

8. Do you believe in God or destiny or luck?

In all three...

9. Any regrets in life?

Not studying more..

10. A sweet memory which you talk about often?

My children'schildhood


11. Do you think you are a good son, daughter, brother, sister, spouse, parent? Mark yourself, if you can!

I dont think I have excelled anywhere.be it daughter, mother or spouse....But I tried my best.

Now I would like to tag...

BIg A little A

SRS

Meera

ASH


NRIGIRL

And my questions are

1. What is one thing you would like to change in your life?
2. what irritates you most?
3. Do you comment on the blogs for increasing your readership or when you genuinely feel like reacting?
4. what is blog to you?
5. who is the most important person in your life?
6. what does life mean to you?
7. How much propriety and protocol mean to you
8. what is the most memorable moment of your life?
9. what would you want a good to be like?
10. Do you believe in..everyone has his own place in life..or giving importance to whom you like?
11. I am bored of making questions arent you bore of answering?

MY DAUGHTER

MY daughter keeps saying to me..when men were exploiting women, nobody said anything but today when women are doing it, there is so much of noise everywhere. I told her that it wasnt so. Men were also blamed but at that time there were not many avenues to publicise, today Internet has made it so.Ask any women in the age group of around 60 and you will find that 80% were not happy in their marriage. But they remained there because..
They were not economically independent or didnt want to struggle in life.
They feared the society..log kya kahenge.

Secondly it was the same women who were exploited, made the life of their DIL miserable, sons were helped by mother only or rather instigated by them..
And when I write so much, it doesnt mean I have an ideal life..no I had a usual MIL and still have and today I have both..MIL and DIL and so I know the both sides of a coin. And I dont believe that to remove a malady, we must do injustice to some or misbehave.....I Make it a point, not to do anything with my DIL which rankled me as a DIL..to me as a person, it matters that I dont do anything wrong...

If yesterday men were making life miserable, so today girls should do so?Then what is the difference between them and us.When they had power, they were self centred, today if we have power, we must show them what is fair dealing.Being good is all about being fair when you have everything going for you, not doing so when you have no choice.

God made women with lot of love and care and its only they who can love others with abandon, men dont have that quality, they can love their own only. So should we abandon our qualities and embrace their vices(smoking, drinking, promiscuity) to become equal..isnt it like burning our own house to  get light.
If somebody is stealing, it doesnt mean we can steal and we are not thieves.

We are much superior to men, why do want to be equal...Inspite of doing everything, my MIL has stayed with me only, and its me only who does all her work and looks after her, could my hubby do the same. Could he keep my mother for so long,without her doing anything for him and always saying bad things,NO..he would never be able to do that and so I think of myself as a much better person and human being,let him think whatever, but i dont need or want equality.