Is it a disadvantage to be too efficient? everybody thinks of efficiency only in positive way only, but practically i have seen that sometimes it brings lot of disharmony in life. Like there is this friend of mine, who is super efficient in everything in her house, everything is done at the right time, everything put at the right place, she has been like that from the beginning.Now the problem arises because she can only praise some one or appreciate when that person is better than her, because for her thats the bar to qualify and not many people come up to that, so she makes others unhappy and at the same time she also gets stressed out. Had she been sloppy or lazy, she would have admired everybody and made them happy because not many people in this world try to be worthy of praise and appreciation, they just want it for what they are.....
Like when somone says that she is over worked as she looks after the children and at the same time does the house work,I wonder what is so big about it or what is so big about it I have dont it all the time and been happy with it...
So one thing must be understood that we get praise either from the people who look upto us for some reason, or we must do something to deserve it, children can be encouraged with appreciation for little things but in adults they have to qualify with some hard work and consideration...
Like when somone says that she is over worked as she looks after the children and at the same time does the house work,I wonder what is so big about it or what is so big about it I have dont it all the time and been happy with it...
So one thing must be understood that we get praise either from the people who look upto us for some reason, or we must do something to deserve it, children can be encouraged with appreciation for little things but in adults they have to qualify with some hard work and consideration...
8 comments:
You made me smile when you said efficiency can act as a disadvantage as one's bar is set high that others fall below the standard and are denied due praise.I feel certain sloppiness is desirable as otherwise one would lose the human touch!!
A good perspective from you.
Setting high standards for oneself and being perfect in everything really brings stress in life. I have seen and experienced it and it causes stress in relationships too
i feel its not efficiency only - any ones who possesses an attribute does not appreciate one who lacks it. for instance intelligent people cannot stand stupidity, punctual people cannot stand people who are not, humble people cannot stand show offs, healthy people cannot stand people who are lackadaisical towards their health.. i could go on....
but then your post brings me to another point is praise that important? why is it so important to always measure ourselves in the eyes of someone else? one may not be efficient and may not gain the praise of an efficient person, but one might be a very good listener and who minds a good agony aunt? so there is always something or the other thats valuable.
KParthsarthi:may be, I think we need to be flexible..need to appreciate other people for what they are:)
Chitra:yes and thats why I keep looking at solutions.
Amrita: You have analysed it so well...Yes there is always something about everybody that is valuable, but many people want to be considered good in everything even if they are not, and when they dont get that appreciation, then they blame the other person, instead of introspecting:)
aww thank you so much for liking my analysis ;) my friends say i over analyse :) but this is the thing i like about ur space.. there is always room for healthy debate and discussion.
Amrita: I love diverse opinions, they always give me something new to think about and solve my purpose of blogging.....
Loved yours and Amrita's discussion :D Would just add that I don't think efficiency is a bad thing, but it can become so if ego gets tied up into it.
Salomie:As Amrita said, once you have that attribute, you take it for granted:)
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