Monday, March 1, 2021

Old age a blessing or

 Whenever I see people wishing old people many more years, I really wonder if they are really that naive to think that more years are blessings or Am I too skeptical..

Because I don’t think or see many people looking after their old parents or restricting their life. I know it first hand.I have been looking after my mother-in-law forever and know how many compromises are needed, my children never had a room of their own, my finances were always stretched to the best . And myself and my husband couldn’t go to see even our children together for last 15 years,.and we see our life ending like that.. she is still here, though invalid and living like a vegetable, we have to give her bath food everything. She is 101 and my hubby 72 and it’s very difficult situation for him to be in. Now all his other siblings who wanted my MIL to live a long life and suggested all sort of things have just become indifferent and gone their own way, leaving us with the mess.

So I really feel that we must think about it, not that wishing makes anyone live long, but why wish something which brings misery to all.

And secondly before reaching 60, retiring age, if parents are alive, all siblings should get together and collectively decide who will take care of what and how. 

I always feel that any age is good if one is able to do one’ daily chores, beyond that nothing is blessing, only a curse. And we should wish a happy time and good health not years to anyone beyond 75.

What do you think?

4 comments:

SG said...

Actually it is a Jewish custom. They even wish Long Life when mourning a dead person. It is just a formality or courtesy.

Amrita said...

Of course old age is a curse. When there is no meaningful contribution to others or even a capability to take care of one self, that is mere existence. In the natural world, such merely existing animals die. It is the natural order of things to nurture the young and let the old perish. It is just due to medical science that we are prolonging many lives.
I may come across as very rude, but I would not want any elder of mine of myself to survive to such a point that people should wish the person is no more. My nani, takes care of herself at 82. Her brother at 85 is still practicing as a doctor for free. There was a granny in UK who was a legend in the gaming world and motivated many younger one. But being a burden on others is a sad life.
But again life and death are not in our hands :(

Renu said...

SG: I see many Indians being emotional and melodramatic as long as they don’t have to do anything.

Amrita: I totally agree with you and I don’t think it is rude but being realistic. I see that only those who don’t have to do anything become very idealistic and all.

Renu said...

SG: I see many Indians being emotional and melodramatic as long as they don’t have to do anything.

Amrita: I totally agree with you and I don’t think it is rude but being realistic. I see that only those who don’t have to do anything become very idealistic and all.

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