COUNTING

Count how many good teeth you have.
.So you now know how many good teeth you have.
Did you notice something?
For the vast majority, the number of good teeth FAR outnumbers the bad.
You have far more good teeth but it's the bad teeth that get all of the attention. One bad tooth can cause us so much pain thatwe forget about all of the good.
So it is with life.One bad relationship and we think all men/women are bad.
One bad experience with a member of a different race. religion or culture and we think all who are different from us are bad.
A company can have a thousand employees and we can have one bad experience with an obnoxious employee and we think the whole company is bad.
One bad apple doesn't spoil the whole bunch but it will eventually spoil the whole bunch if you don't remove the bad apple. Infection spreads.
Some things you have to extract to keep it from spoiling the whole bunch.Like someone a child) had to get his two front teeth extracted to prevent further pain and to even prevent the spread of infection to the rest of his body.
Extraction of things in our lives is often necessary but seldom pleasant.
He had to be sedated, strapped down, and numbed.He still hollered.
Eagles fly high but have you ever noticed eagles don't have a lot of stuff strapped on their backs.
Some of us haven't reached the heights that we are destined to reach because we haven't extracted some things.It's too much on our backs and in our spirits.
You know what things they are.As plain as I am writing this and as clear as you can see theseletters, you know what things in your life need extracting.We all have them.Extraction hurts but the continuing pain of decay hurts evenworse and for much longer..More often than not, people will have major problems by the time they schedule counseling. Many are helped through counsel.Even though I can often see things that they cannot, most of thestuff that they need to change, THEY ALREADY KNOW!"I know I need to do this""I know I need to change that""I know this is wrong""I know I shouldn't feel this way""I know I should leave this relationship""I know this is not good""I know I should. . . "Many already know the things in their life that need to beextracted.So do you.The problem is not the knowledge in many instances.It's the pain of extraction.Pulling anything with deep roots is a problem.
The closer anyone is to the child and the further they are from maturity, the more sedation, straps and numbing they will need.
A child will even endure the pain for months or years until thetooth eventually falls out from the decay.Often we endure the pain far longer than necessary until it falls out and has nearly knocked us out.
Learn the lesson of extraction.For though we may have far more good teeth,This is a lesson we all need to know.You just need to remove some things.Just as a hot air balloon is mired to the ground with sandbagsoften so are we.It's not that we don't have the wind to fly,we've just got too many sandbags.Some need to be extracted and then we can fly.
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BTW i wanted to ask..has anybody seen Shree Krishna on Colors? Not for anything religious or something well made, but watch it once to see that child who is portraying krishna....I find him out of this world..it is mesmerising to watch him..walking, talking doing pranks and all that, fantabulous!

SLUMDOGMILLIONAIRE,GHAJINI,HEYYBABY

SLUMDOGMILLIONAIRE...Since there was so much of noise about it I had to see it and realised that this hype and publicity..even if it is negative will become the reason IF it becomes a hit...very ordinary movie depicting shit..literally, nothing extraordinaire...except the tag of FOREIGN MADE. Since its about slum children, it shows slums and their life, they may have some beautiful moments also, but no..it captures only the ugliness of their life....crime, filth and meagre surroundings. The only endearing moments are a few with the young Jamal...it is all a fairy tale about a slum child getting lucky all the time in his life..........One thing I found strange...when they show a statue of Lord Rama, it looks so much like Shiva.......... .and they crying hoars that it is a movie depicting REALITY.....But i kept searching and dint find it anywhere except in the filth.....what is real...
A child going through the faeces for Amitab bacchan, or
Only muslims get killed in riot..or
All the orphans in India end up either in prostitution or in crime depending on their gender or
Not a single person is good in India,
A boy without any knowledge can get a seat on KBC or
he can get lucky in all the questions...I mean its just too muc...coincidence or luck or whatever but everything is so implausible...and here I am not raising the questions some other bloggers have raised...(of KBC not aired live etc)...nothing appeals here.
For my taste too gory at places.....only Irfan Khan and Anil kapoor made it tolerable.

Ghajini......reminds me the movies of 80's..what with the excess of cruelty and violence.Most of the situations and characters are artificial.....I am yet to see a billionaire indiustrialist..so simple and without any family, so much that in his worst condition also..there is no one with him.

A girl so sweet and helping like Asin is there and this situation of telling a lie about affair has been done to death in movies like Sajan(Manoj kumar Asha parekh) and there was one more also, but even then the part with Asin is beautiful, I loved it,She is fabulous and can give a tough competition to all bollywood heroines, where only dresses are considered important.She reminded me of kajol in earlier movies...now sometimes even kajol goes overboard.

Amir is also very good and looking nice in long shots, but in close ups..age is catching up my dear:).......Two songs are hummable...tum mujhe mili and gujaarish, but the second half is too violent and without any logic.....like how he gets this animal strength, and those tattoes,so many loose ends.......................

HEYY BABY..........I like the best scene where........Reitesh and fardeen listen to a young girl wearing a very short skirt talking to her father...saying.....she will wear it because her boyfriend likes it and father's dislike doesnt matter to her..:) and then there conservation..

Reitesh.....our angel will also say one day that we are not important to him and will wear such dresses.

Fardeen.....she wont have any boyfriend..only a husband and that too we will choose for her:):)and he wouldnt be anything like us....hehe

see the fathers talking:), but the first hour of the movie was quite boring with a crass and vulgar comedy.

MY THOUGHTS ON VARIOUS THINGS

GIFTS ALL PACKED

ITEMS I PACKED IN THEM

Today my post is more about my reaction to different readings in newspaper and blogs:)


I was reading this news about Julia Robert's stay in Bangalore..award winning Julia Roberts and her cameraman husband......find it quite amusing ,these adjectives which journalists add to people..isnt it funny....are the awards to be flaunted like that or must the profession be always added before the name, cant say about others but I dislike both praise and demeaning in this way..............like somewhere I read...small time actress.....i mean what is this..an actress is an actress......and then they have coined a word...starlet seems to me rhyming with piglet:).I dont know if there is any such word for male actors also?


Then i read at a blog how she felt bad at the behaviour of her parents and few incidents reminded me of my children's childhood. When my daughter used to get her report card, her friends used to say that if they had got marks like her their mothers would be at the top of the world and my daughter would say...but my mom will ask me why 95, why not 98, where did u loose 3 marks?............I never meant to hurt my daughter, it never even came to my mind, since she was at topper and we had such expectations from her.Even for the water bottles, they used to break one in a month atleast, and same for the keds. Even sometimes my son also has this complaint that he never got the praise for his marks, if he was in top 5 we wanted him in top 3 and when he was in top 3 we wanted him right at the top:)..again the expectations and now it has become the bad word in my dictionary.if the children feel so hurt by these things that means parents are wrong somehwere..but where and how...can a middle class parent can afford to ignore the studies and academics in India......tomorrow if the children are not well settled, wont they blame parent..wont they say....we were young but you were adults, you should have been strict with us? wont we as parents wouldn't feel unhappy if we are not able to enhance their careers? Then may be we as parent would feel guily of not fulfilling our duties sincerely.....Seems to me that for parents its a nowin situation...you be strict and make them study, get them settled...still they feel hurt, You let them free..they dont study...dont fare well...they blame you for their failures. Sometimes being a parent is the toughest profession in life.But personally I would say that I loved my children more than anything in the life, nothing else mattered to me more than their happiness and life, and I took most of the decisions thinking about them first.......... Many times i have seen that strict parents make their children's life much better and happier.in the long run.......while pampering them silly makes them suffer in their life later.....like an efficient person always gets lot of appreciation and praise which makes him always happy and increases his confidence in life, whereas for the others, no compliment and no praise makes them feel sometimes as if they are not good for anything,Once i was in Warora and there was this young married girl who was educated but knew nothing at all about housekeeping.She belonged to a rich family where everything was done by servants.and she was miserable as she didnt feel like doing any housework and made her husband's life also miserable with a dirty ill kept house, no cooking( eating outside all the time..and this is not a healthy option, plus being a small place it was not feasible also, they always had their meals at the guest house where food was prepared with lot of oil and spices, I never liked it much), she was very good to talk to and so i learned a little about her....it was about ,not teaching ur chidren any work and then by chance her husband got a job in a such place where whithout doing anything one couldnt live......may be it was mismatched priorities, but then learning about the household never goes wasted,like i taught my daughter to work hard, be economical.....or i would say i didnt teach her, she learned by watching me and today with her hard working nature she is able to manage a job , house everything so well and makes so many people happy and I am so proud of her which i couldnt be if she was a lazy. and all that.
Heard somwhere that negativity sells...... but i dont think also, its always the positives in life which make it beautiful,and getting more comments with the negativity cant be a criteria for a post.I believe that more we write about positive values and good in life, more it is spread.
In the last post I wrote about Screen awards and we all blasted them...but on retrospection I thought that arent all the awards same..even these awards on blogs? How many people think twice before awarding them or giving those beautiful adjectives to one and all, if we cant be genuine in a small thing where it wont even alter anything much how can we expect others to reform. here we comment for the sake of increasing traffic, and sometimes even talk not worth mentioning even ,get so fullsome praise.....arent we fake then? We must clean our cupboards first then think about others....I am taking a resolution today that whatever i comment must be genuine and the same for awards, are you?


And last:) yesterday i did Haldi Kumkum in my style.....putting a few photographs here:), I prepared Halwa,peanuts masala,aloo bonda & sewian pulao in refreshments and gave them all a small token gift ( a small jewellery box,bindi,hanki,haldi kumum and supari

STAR SCREEN AWARDS

Yesterday i saw Star Screen Awards, and i was wondering what the awards function have become...just a song and dance show? Do they even entertain us? Is it really entertainment to see them doing oneupman ship all the time and taking potshots at any small fry( this is the most hated part for me, because I hate hippocracy, if they have the guts then make fun of biggies...why have laughs at the cost of small actors? Is this what we have come to get in the form of entertainment? when we hanker so much for Oscars, why we dont bring some standard and accountability in our own awards.
Earlier i used to think that Screen awards are better than those Filmfare ones where the awards are fixed, but yesterday's ceremony belied all my expectations...there wasnt a single item which could be called enjoyable..neither dances..they were all looking the same with same moves and dresses......and for this they get crores...nor the anchors did us any proud....and Ashutosh Gowrikar took the cake:)
Yesterday's favourites were Rock on and Jodha Akbar, only saving grace were the few awards won by a really meritorious film...WEDNESDAY. Personally I found it strange that Shahana was given the award and Illa Arun not...because Illa did a very different character in Welcome to sajjanpur and did with so much of aplomb...she deserved it. JA was good , but couldnt be called the best movie of the year.
The lyrics..singer ..male and female both were from one movie and for the best music it was a different movie..i find it quite a contradiction in itself...if there was no good song or good lyrics, then how come the music was best?
Few awards...even my H..he knows not much about bollywood, but after watching with me has become a little pro:)..even he predicted...like best actor in a comic role...Tusshar and the best Jodi...Abhishek and John.......See some people have to get something:), becuase now it has a become a trend either they must be given an award or a few crores for their performance..otherwise they dont come to the function...always the excuse is there...no dates:) . I read somewhere that Akshay demanded multicrores for a performance and when organisers couldnt afford that they promised him an award, but here..he though he was getting best actor, but he was given the best popular actor:), so all that charity and magnanimity he showed of refusing the award, as Aamir deserved it.
One thing i have always felt bad about is the snobbish attitude of anchors...like even sometime for senior actors also, they dont take the nbames with some respect, then when abig shot gets an small award even, he is given ample time on the stage, but whenevr not so big get an award, they are not asked to say anything,, it has happened so many times that sometimes even i wanted some to say, but they were not given an opportunity and this time the anchors went even an step further like hurrying up, or getting forward without giving anytime to the awardees.
So yesterday the presence was quite low..No Shahrukh..he is most unsporting person..never comes to a function unless he gets something,Amitabh,Abhishek,Salman, etc etc.
Faraha was glowing but no good as an anchor...her remark..what we have to do for money...was really in a bad taste..shows her highhanded attitude.
Rekha..She never changes..the same sarees..kanjivarams and jwellery shop and hyper on the stage:)
Twinkle Khanna was looking most elegant and beautiful, never saw her like this even in the movies:), their pair was looking best.
Aishwarya was also looking very good in her Indian attire.
Jaya Bacchan was for a change in an elegant white saree and her solitaires(earrings) were the rock size.
Kangana was looking ravishing and Hritik gentleman that he is.
Now for a little gossip:)
Jaya never once smiled at Aishwarya, even when she got the prize:)
Akshay expecting to get the best actor for singh iis kingh..isnt it too much?
It was pathetic to see...
Akshay getting miffed at not getting the best actor award,
Rekha stating..she has nothing..no one and no money.
Ashutosh and Sajid having a verbal fight,
Watching Sajid in a backless dress
and irritating to see Neeraj Pandey with his Chewing gum all the time,
And so quite a lacklustre affair.......
And now I WISH YOU ALL

Happy
Republic
Day !

Thanks for writing

La belle dame sans merci...awarded me with this beautiful award, her words are so sweet that i want to quote her here..........

I wud like to thank all my readers but specially thank the commentators who take an effort to leave their opinion n motivate me and this award is for the extra special people who are here regularly marking me feel alive and important, so i know i am not blabbering to myself here, i do have an audience for the crap i write ... So here we go, this is for u for putting up with me :)anoobhooti - Renu! am sure she knows this is coming to her first! i was unknown, unsettled, unorderly and almost felt unwanted in this blogosphere until i knew that she'll be among the first few to comment... n i try to watch my language too for her :) (ah can u believe i jus said that?)... and yea she is my lucky charm, somehow after she started makin visits, this place has become a picnic spot :) my circle of blog friends has increased invariably.

I am so very much honored Swarna, thank you for all the love you shower on me, because for me love is more important than accolades even.

Your reference has made me sure that i am really lucky for others:) hey i am not being arrogant or anything like that, its just that i am happy and sharing my happiness:) and it reminded me of a few other incidences also...once i was in Dewas and there i started buying my groceries from a very small shop near to our place.Once , he was extra courteous and nice to me, when i asked the reason, he said..madam since you started buying here, my shop is doing very well, i felt so happy, and the same thing happened at one more place. And now when we went to Dakshin chitra..the lady astrologer there said..that you H and children..if they do anything in ur name, it will be very succesful..........its all for fun and feeling happy, nothing else:), there is no harm in being narcisstic also sometime:)

Now since most of the people have got all these awards, i wouldnt like to name anyone. its for everyone who writes something worth reading.

One More tour-..KANCHPURMA,MAMMALAPURAM

SHORE TEMPLE

FIVE RATHAS

VRAHADESSHWAR TEMPLE

KAMAKSHI TEMPLE

MY MIL GOING IN THE RESTAURANT

On 15 th Jan, we planned to revise our memories of Kanchipuram and Mammalapuram.This time we took a conducted tour from TTDC. It started at 6.30 AM quite an early hour from their office at Wallajah road. We went via guindy to kanchipuram. Its 75 km that way. First we saw their Kamakshi temple, beautiful place..its said that here Parvati got married to Shiva under a mango tree, though the guide told us that the mango tree is a new one.,Then we saw Ekambareshar mandir and Vrahdeeshwar temple also. In the last one there was big queue for watching and touching the golden lizard. it is said that some sages were given a curse to become a lizard and here if you touch them its considered good for you. so some people just wanted to be there, without bothering about the long queue:)...... Even For Vrahadeshwar bhagwan..it is said that whatever you desire there, it will be fulfilled. There was so much crowd for the darshan of Laksmi temple inside that we couldnt dare to even think of standing..just saw from outside.

kanchipuram is famous for kanjivaram sarees, last time I went there I bought a few and they were liked by everyone.But this time there were 3 women from Delhi..they were looking at sarees and dress material and they only told me that they didnt find anything cheaper here , but i felt that the reason was.....their friends told them that here you will get the materials..tanchoi for 500/..and thats not the price one can get real Tanchoi, its only possible to buy some synthetic material in that:) so may be impractical expectations:)..I find it a heaven for silk sarees.

Then we headed for breakfast to TTDC hotel. It was the usual..pongal,idli,bada and tea...preparations were good but the place was just OK..ambiance wise and cleanlinesswise both.

And then we started for Mammala puram...it was 65 km from there. First we went to Five Rathas.....there are 5 chambers each for arjuna, bhima, nakul, sahdev and one for draupadi...as told by our guide, where Yudishthira lived I dont know:), actually these are the remnants of that time.....but beautiful to see and enjoy..we had a lovely time taking snaps and all. and the next stop was Shore temple near the beach...These are also the remnants of old time,and they are all monolithic structures so one looks with awe. The way is full of shops selling varied items and eatables also. Lovely place, i thoroughly enjoyed.

Now the time to lunch..though it was nearly 3PM, we went to TTDC beach resort for lunch..it was south indian lunch but the vegetable were prepared in a north indian way..so good mix.. I love the MATTHA here:).

Now back to Chennai..on the way we stopped for boating at Mutukadu.

Then we had our next stop...VGP beach.....its a theme park with beautful architectural structure and in the evening they light it so well from the outside. We saw it last time, this time we didnt go inside as 40 minutes is not the sufficient time to see anything and we were tired also. That we kept for one full day..some other time:)

PONDICHERY

GANDHIJI'S STAUE ON THE BEACH

BEAUTIFUL RESTAURANT ON THE BEACH

SEE THE HIGH TIDE !

AUROVILLE---TEA JOINT ........and my DH giving the pose:)

MATRIMANDIR

BOATING AT MUDALIARKAPPAM

BREAKFAST TIME

This is the best time in Chennai to see around and the bonus is My H also gets the leave on sakranti, so we decided to make a trip to Pondichery. We took a sight seeing tour from TTDC, once I tried APTDC but their management was very bad and selection of restaurants even worse
For this one day tour, we were supposed to report at 6.30 in the morning, quite an early morning it was for us..but that time so pleasant, one feels so happy, tranquiel.......the bus was late and we started around 7.15 from here.It is 175 km from Chennai to Puducherry...... a very scenoinc journey.....I could see and see the lush green fields, and the the sides of the road.

Just before Mammalapuram, he stopped for breakfast. It was a very good, neat and clean AC restaurant with delicious food. We had our fill og Idli, vada , dosa and tea.In our tour there were two tourists fron UK..one Elizabeth from birmingham and Brigette ...they had Idli for the first time..they wanted me to write the name of it, so that they could ask later for them in their food:) I was more than happy to do that----white pan cakes..Idli:).
Our next stop was Mudaliyar kappam.... a boat house..where we had a very enjoyable boating experience... there was a young couple and the girl was shouting...no life jackets? how can we do without that...I smiled and thought..must be from IT sector, been abroad. and showing that:)..In India we are habitual of sitting in very primitive boats even and here it was a motor boat, and we had a good time. they had pedal boats also and for then they provided life jackets:)

Around 11.30 we reached Auroville.........A huge place, well maintained, with lot of natural beauty and walking trails even, most of the inhabitants were cycling, weather was also pleasant.First we were shown a video about auroville. Their charter says.......this place is not owned by anyone and belongs to every human being. There is a one and a half km walk to see Matrimandir..place for meditation..one has to take prior permission to see it from inside, so we saw it from outside only. and came back and had a very good tea:)..very relaxing.

Now we went to the beach......its a very rocky beach and tide is quite aggressive there.
Now the time for lunch..here we went to Sangeetha and had traditional lunch of rice, sambhar, rasam,2 vegetables, papad, he was supposed to give rawa kesri also but he cheated....and dint give anyone unless asked for.Now the time Aurvindo ashram.........This area is the most beautiful place..its a french colony in white colour and all the houses have french architecture with roads of cemented tiles. Ashram is the personal house where there is a tomb type SAMADHI for ma and arvindo, people meditate there ,and buy literature about them..pin drop silence is maintained.


We saw ganpati temple from outside only as it was closed.
Time to come back..had evening tea also on the way with bajji and vada:)
Quite enjoyable trip as a picnic, but didnt find anything so special, we have the beaches, temple in Chennai also..almost the same types. Tell me if any of you have been there and saw something which I missed.
A good read....http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Speaking_Tree/A_letter_from_a_father_to_his_little_son/articleshow/4002613.cms