Why do we say such things and what we want to prove? its only ego and nothing else. I see many......
Old dependent parents saying that they dont need children, they can live themselves....I would like to tell them that if they can do so, they why are not they doing it..why say man..do it and show it to everybody..but the fact is that they cant live......because they love their children too much. and cant manage ......because they are old, physically and sometimes financially also dependent..., but dont want to accept it ...what is the harm in giving some credit to children and make them happy?..but we will be nice to strangers and aquaintances but when its our family we become misers even in showing love and gratitude.I rarely see any parents praising their children who look after them day and night and sometimes even put their own life on backburner, they can praise those who are not doing anything for them and even living separately....but no appreciation for the ones who do everything.Whereas living together is totally different from looking after for one moth or two....I remember once my neighbour used to crib that his mother praises his brother a lot who lives in Canada and comes once in two years and gives her 1000 $, whereas he who looks after her and spends also double the amount is not good enough..why this dichotomy?
Many wives keep saying that they can live without husbands and manage well..i would like to suggest that why delay..do so..There are many marriages where husbands are providing finance and security, but wives are not ready to make homes and do their duty.They never realise that the life style they are leading and living a life of luxury is all because of the man who is working hard to make their life comfortable and being a housewife its their duty to make a happy home for him, but they dont want to do their part of bargain..yes in traditional marriage..a man is a provider and woman homemaker...and woman are making the home a hell.....by disregarding family they came into by their care a damn attitude and laziness.
Then i see many people today who make their parents miserable in their last stages of life and this is the worst.This is one duty we must do..yes there are ways of tackling every situation, but parents must not be made to cry because of our harsh words or rudenesss.Parents blessings always make our life smooth in so many unknown ways.If we cant do anything for them then so be it, but never ever say bad words .We must make sure that they are taken care of, even if we cant personally look after them.That is better than living together and having bitterness all the time. Its very sad to see that parents are least needed people today..nobody wants them, may be their value is realised only after their departure.
There is nothing good in saying..I dont need people..I say I dont need things, but I need people, my family, I need my children and they need their spouses , so I also need them, in the same way I need my hubby and he needs his family, so I too need them. and needing someone is not a sign of weekness.
It is better to lose our ego to one we love than lose one we love because of ego.