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I am in Seattle for last one week. I was feeling so much of jet lag that didnt feel like doing anything.
When I was coming here I had one hour and twenty minutes time at London to connecting flight and I was flying BA and there they were making so long queues that it was impossible to reach. I asked many attendants that they may allow me to come forward in the queue, as I have a connecting flight, but they were totally indifferent to my much so that I almost missed my flight, when I reached at the boarding gate..running..huffing puffing, they said its closed, then I requested, shouted ..did everything and got in..but it was a bad was simply bad management of crowds and BA has economised too much on in flight food I wouldnt recommend them at all...If the same thing had happened in India, everyone would have blasted them and termed incompetent and what not.

More I live outside, more I value my country, my people.

Here one day my daughter made some roa…


somebody gave  this tag long back, I am putting it now:)

01. Bought everyone in the bar a drink.....never been to a Bar, once we went to a restaurant in nagpur and there many have Bars..but the receptionist soon as he saw me..said..mam it is not for family:), may be i look like that:)

02. Swam with dolphins ...dont know swimming:(

03. Climbed a mountain ....not as a climber, but going to vaishno devi is also a climbing of a type i think:)

04. Taken a Ferrari for a test drive------never

05. Been inside the Great Pyramid ...:(

06. Held a tarantula -....ugh

07. Taken a candlelit bath with someone -

08. Said “I love you” and meant it whatever i say..I always mean it, whether sorry or love

09. Hugged a tree - absolutely!

10. Bungee jumped - No, I am a Darpok:)

11. Visited Paris - yeah:)

12. Watched a lightning storm at sea---No

13. Stayed up all night long and saw the sun rise Seen the sunrise at many tiger hill darjeeling,kanyakumari etc

14. Seen the Northern Lights …


Just now read the a post by fellow blogger and it made me think on the same point in my way.Most of the time it is said that shun the negative people, dont be near them or dont be near people who make you feel abused, or unhappy or hurt you.. whatever.. but is it always possible.Suppose you have such people in your immediate family..then what to my coping strategies are.....of course with difficult people:)....

First we must introspect.where we can change ourselves. Most of the time we like people who are like us. For example, I am a very meticulous,cleanliness freak and very economical in everything. Now I want  everyone to be like that and those who are not they irritate me or frustrate me.And I want to change them to my thinking..but is it possible to change anyone? so what can be done is..I will have to change myself if I want to be stress free in life.The very first thing I must understand is that I cant run everyone's life. I am free to do what I want in my life, but …


I saw this one now, though this is not a new one and its sequel has also come, but I was interested , so.
This is a story of betrayal,intrigue manipulation..everything like this.Sahib(Jimmy Shergill) is a raja of some small town in UP.His father had a mistress and later married her and left everything in her name. So he is king with no money. Bibi (Mahi Gill) is neglected by sahib, as she did the crime of falling in love with someone else, so the sahib also has a mistress. Bibi is getting hysterical and when she gets a new young handsome driver.gangster, she uses him cunningly to kill the mistress.  Now that handsome driver Babbloo(Randeep Hooda) had come with his own motive to spy on Sahib ..

First half is very interesting..Randeep hooda is the best, its really sad that such a talented actor hasnt got his due in bollywood and then Deepal Shaw as the daughter of sahib's right hand man is very refreshing and enjoyable in her role..Rest of the cast is also good as..Jimmy shergill l…

Some cafes

Best thing I love about Europe is its little quaint cafes...and sitting arrangements made out side..people sitting..enjoying coffee , croissant, tarts leisurely and watching the people go by..

One day we went to this little cafe nearby in Kilchberg, where they serve breakfast and after that they close and open again in was so calm and quiet, beautiful..from our seat we could enjoy the view of Zurich lake and city.Tarts ..I really like, though here they put lot of cream, infact too much for my taste, I prefer more of fruit..

Then One day we were roaming around old also they have little markets in open space..stalls type, called Christmas market..I dont find much interest in their merchandise because after conversion, for me everything is way too much, I can get everything in India at lesser price, so why not buy in your own country.

Then we sat in a cafe on the roadside looking over the was so windy and chilly, that this cafe had provided one blanket o…

Christmas time

Now Christmas fever has started .so everywhere Christmas decorations and everything in the shape of Santa and other related items is available. It looks so festive.
But some times I feel  that this is where consumerism starts...Even my child wants and now..there is no end to gifts...we keep buying things, even if we have no place to keep them and most of the things are forgotten after 15 days.Aren't we wasting the resources?
Why we have connected everything with gifts and things?
Cant we enjoy with what we have?
Today there is no line between need and want..whatever I want I need that.Nobody wants to see the repercussions of this self centred nature.We are teaching the same thing to our children also..they want gift at the drop of the hat..
I feel totally disenchanted with this  trend...of shopping indiscriminately..

Me Time

I dont understand this me time concept at all...and I hear about it all the time.Earlier women were busy looking after husband , children, inlaws extended families, guests..list was long, facilities were less and so was the affordability and they hardly got anytime on their own, then it would have made some sense,  but the irony is that they never thought of it and never demanded. Whereas today when most of the women have nuclear family and there also they are not totally responsible for everything..everybody is pitching in, rest is being done by maids or restaurants:).

In our time for everything we made efforts, today..if you got up problem..have your breakfast at the cafe outside.dont feel like cooking order something...nobody is bothered about calculating how much damage its doing to their finances or health..

When they are already leading a leisure life, why do they need me time?..I am talking about women who are not doing a job...

I always feel strongly that both the sp…

Smile please..

I have been to Zurich many times and it is such a coincidence that 35 years back my husband was working in Annecy (France) and when we were there, then also we visited Zurich.And that time we saw museums and tourist places. But in all my other trips I enjoy walking in the old town or banhoffstrasse and just roaming around....I am really surprised that nothing changes here, everything remains the same, except that may be population has increased that also not so much as compared to other places.

Here, wherever construction is going on for roads or anything, everybody cribs that they do all this to create employment, they dont need it, road was already good enough.

One thing I really like here and would like to emulate is that everybody works with a smile, meets with a smile..nobody seems to be grumpy...though one of the biggest reason is they have enough money for everything, but still its a habit spreads energy.

Here in Silcity there is a restaurant..Vapiano,there they g…


Living in Chennai has made me averse to cold. So in Zurich, though its not very cold, I am still finding it uncomfortable and taking time to adjust.
Whenever we have any gathering here, topic invariably comes about India and its good and bad points. Most of the people will say that ...there purchasing power has increased so much,but otherwise it hasnt changed much..same dirty places, no infrastructure, no safety etc etc...girls have become so forward, drinking so much...

Though many points are true, but said like that irritate me so much..if everything is so bad why people come here, why cant they live without visiting India and mind it they dont come here for family only..they want shopping too...

India is still cheap for them because of all its underdevelopment only..once we have everything in order, we will not remain so economical. Yes we have many disadvantages, but the same is true in Zurich,one cant afford maid everyday, they charge 25 F per hour, so…


I have been absent from this space for long, because I was down with energy now.and on 4th i am leaving to no time..please  be with me:) will write as soon as possible:)

Is it Racism?

The incidents in Delhi, Gurgaon and Banlore make me feel so ashamed..are we living in a progressive society where people are killed for not speaking their language.
One of my friend said that people should blend..fine..thats very good if they blend, its to their advantage if I dont know tamil, I am at a loss and miss so many things but in what way I am harming locals I fail to understand...why this compulsion to learn their language?

Are we becoming dictators and telling the people to behave...and behave in such a way, otherwise you cant live here..what sort of society we are going to make?...why not be tolerant of difference and celebrate..there is so much beauty in diversity, why people want a homogeneous would be so boring..

Do all the people who go outside the country blend so much?..Dont they make a mini India outside..and we revel in why such a big cry for everything in your own country?and then we say we are educated..sorry we are not..we are ju…

Think about it....

How could celebrities be so Hema malini said that widows shouldnt gather in Vrindavan...Are the widows coming there on their own will? Do they have any choice? Are they enjoying there? They live a pathetic life without proper food, clothes or entertainment.Being a woman, least she could do was to empathise with them and give them better conditions.
Secondly, if one thinks that way..isnt she an outside in Mathura, even in Mumbai?

The same can be said about Raj Thackeray..why he always says that he will stop people coming from outside..what is outside? Did he stop NSG from saving Mumbai people? why was he silent then?

I remember once I was in Warora, and one Kannada person worked under  my husband, and he called us for dinner, and there his wife  in very naive way said that lot of north Indians have settled in Bangalore now and there is no place for us..and all that, and her husband felt so embarrassed..( we are north Indians)...:)..And they wanted their children to s…


Here is a conversation between mother and her son ( ..I wrote this post 5 years back...since the original conversation is in Hindi, I am putting the translation in brackets..

When she eats something

Son;---mom kuch khaane se pehle soch liya karo sugar ha , thoda parhej karo
            ( Think of your sugar before you eat ,eat less)
when she doesnt eat.....

Ma kuch khao, aise kaise chalega, agar sugar low ho gayi to.
( Eat something, I dont like it, sugar level will go down)

When she works......

ab itna kaam na kiya karo ki haalat hi kharaab ho jaaye, thoda rest kar lo.
(Dont over work yourself,you will get fatigued, rest a little)

when she rests....

isiliye to aapki itni fat ha, main jab bhi aata hoon aap rest hi kar rahi hoti ho, thoda active rahiye tabhi theek rahengi.
THis is the reason you are so fat, whenever I see you, you are resting, be active, then only you will be fine

When she gets dressed...

ab itna bhi na saja kariye, aap age ke hisaab se rahiye wahi accha lagta ha,moth…


I loved the last one....  1. Faith is the ability to not panic. 2. If you worry, you didn't pray. If you prayed, don't worry.  3. As a child of God, prayer is kinda like calling home every day.  4. Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape.  5. When we get tangled up in our problems, be still. God wants us to be still so He can untangle the knot. 6. Do the math. Count your blessings. 7. God wants spiritual fruit, not religious nuts. 8. Dear God: I have a problem. It's me.  9. Silence is often misinterpreted, but never misquoted. 10. Laugh every day - it's like inner jogging.  11. The most important things in your home are the people.  12. Growing old is inevitable, growing up is optional. (Preach it!)  13. There is no key to happiness. The door is always open. Come on in.  14. A grudge is a heavy thing to carry.  15. He who dies with the most toys is still dead.  16. We do not remember days but moments.


We want good governance
we want clean roads
we want no corruption
we want everything but from others, on our own we dont want to do anything..
If judiciary is sentencing a  person we protest, we destroy national property, we stop work in offices, we close the schools.only because that person was kind to us personally..what is it ultimately..only US..nothing else, we bother about self only....

Why cant we go about everything in a civil way, or we want to say that whenever judiciary gives a verdict in our favour, we shall be democratic, otherwise we cant respect law of the land orthe highest institution even.

I always thought that south is more educated and more intellectual, but with this attitude, I am rethinking...none of the intellectuals have come out and said that we must honour the verdict and if we want we can appeal against it.what do we want..anarchy....or that law should have different course for different people.....everybody is thinking of his own benefit only...

So far I …



Its a beautiful book . Its about a retired muslim couple residing in Vizag.Both are very progressive minded , secular and intelligent too..specially Mrs. Ali.Their widow niece adopts an orphan Hindu boy and loves him like a mother, but both Hindu and muslim fanatics trouble them, they find it better to put that boy in an orphanage than living with her as family.Then there is widening of roads in cities without taking into consideration the problems of people living there.So many issues are corruption in electricity department,hindu muslim interactions,and one gets many good insights when Mr. ali is reminiscing about his childhood and all, when young people took interest only in their profession and family and older people were into religion. and he finds it dangerous that today youngsters are getting into religion and becoming fanatics..not a good sign.according to him..
Over all very interesting, and tell us that ev…


I keep reading everywhere that why there are all the instructions and protocol for the children, why not any one for elders , parents and in laws, so i thought why not? lets have one which will appeal to them, and as it is giving advice, comes so easily to us Indians.....ask anyone whenever a match is lost..everybody must be telling you how the strategy of the captain was wrong, and how the batsman didnt cut the ball, and how the fielder lost the easy to play the game sitting in your drawing room:), its like discussing realistic movies and poverty in India over Champagne and caviar:), so here are the guidelines for parents and elders, take it at your own peril, the product is not guaranteed:)
You are born in this world to take care of your children only, so do it well, dont have any other thing in your mind or life.
A child is an individual by birth , so respect them ..even at the cost of your self respect:)( you shouldnt have any).
Before telling is a bad word.…

Dowry decoded

I have seen many people demanding reservation , sometimes for women or under privileged for bringing them equality. But I feel that asking for privileges and then saying we are equal is a total contradictory. The way we say that respect is commanded , not demanded( though in certain situations it is demanded), same way we cant demand equality, we must command thru our abilities and capabilities.

We always feel the need to have laws and rules for everything and think that may be then change will come but change has to come from within..For example everybody decries dowry but but how many people...

Say no when it comes to marry their sons, ,,why dowry is bad only when you are marrying daughter?

If we start thinking differently and instead of giving all our attention and money for marrying our daughter, we educate her, let her stand on her own feet..economically and then think about marrying a person who is like minded, educated with a good character, not with a fat package or status p…

Palace of Illusions....Chitra bannerjee Divakaruni

Palace of Illusions....Chitra bannerjee Divakaruni

I had given the requisition of this book two years back to my library and now got it....very interesting book. It is the story of Mahabharata from the side of Draupadi. The story starts from her birth and ends when she dies. I has many lessons for today even...She goes to an Ascetic and told three thing which she should be careful dont always speak your mind, dont get too angry and dont laugh at somebody as they may bring catastrophes in your life and family. And the same thing happens..In her Swayamvar, to save her brother, she insults Karna,and in return she loses him (in her heart she always loved Karna) , and makes him an arch enemy of her husband.Then she laughs at Duryodhan and sows the seed of destruction, and last in her Vastraharan, she takes a vow of not plaiting  her hair till Dushasan is dead..In the same way all incidents are there due to some reason, and its always karma  and everything is explained very wel…

Do parents differentiate....

I read on a fellow blogger's about her two daughters asking--mama whom do u love more?and it stirred in me a host of memories from my childhood to my kid's, like when we were young we four sisters and one brother and whenever my dad came home and called any of us, the one who was not called will never remember me, dont call my name, you are all the time calling her only and all that..........while in a big family its never possible to call all five in a go:)
My poor mother was always accused of partiality among us, some were called her favourite and she had to bear the brunt of that।Of course as e quite common in Indian families sons are given more importance and on top of that my brother came after 4 sisters, so he was always the VIP,but since my brother was very cute and gentle even in childhood and today also is a very caring person and we all sisters also love him too much so he was not there in sibling revelry.My sisters feel that somewhere they…

MY response

Today I got this forwarded by a friend....

(Son to his father)
Dear Pop, I am very sorry to hear about mom’s ill health. During my last visit I had asked her to get her check ups done regularly and she had nodded in affirmative and this news is real shock to me. I could sense the distress you are going through my dear Pop and I really wish I was there with you. My presence would not make any changes in the situation but would give you some support.  I spoke to my seniors and they have refused to give me any further leave as we have a client presentation and I am representing the company and am shouldering responsibilities which are not so easy to shudder. I am feeling upset about not being present with you but your effort of nurturing my future would also go in vain if I throw this opportunity in the air. So please try to understand me and forgive me for being selfish if its so. I am have already wire transferred 10,000 USD and hope it would be of great help to you. You have always bee…

vice and virtue

Today i find lots of changes in the fabric of society, it has become a polyester from Khaadi, No stain is bad, it can be washed, however dirty you make it, still it can look clean, not like Khadi--which is to be maintained sprightly clean, cant take a single spot.

Earlier even a hint of some bribe, scandal used to make big noise in the society and a big embarrassment to the person. Its not that there were no tainted persons , or no corruption or no opportunists., because greed is a human quality, so existed in all the ages, everybody knows that Mahabharata took place only because of Duryodhana's greed. But there was a stigma attached to every vice, so whoever indulged, did so on the side,and when confronted would not accept it easily.
See how the times have changed.Today nobody has any scruples, instead of feeling ashamed they will start telling you the names of hundred other people who are corrupt and all that। क्या सब के चोरी करने से चोरी चोरी नही रहती ?

here i want to say that…

kya karen ham aise hi hain:)

I have come back after a lo0ng vacation. I was in my home town in UP.and one thing I realise every time I go there is that how much your mother tongue is important to you..there its so relaxing to speak Hindi and listen Hindi:).

And the next thing is never gets the same flavour anywhere else and then summer fruits, I havent eaten..peaches, apricots,berries, leechis  dussehri mangoes and many more for many years, here one rarely sees them.

But inspite of all this I am always happy to be my place, my routine everything.I really wonder when people want to live with children, leaving their own circle of friends, routines and life styles....May be that those living on their own have to work more, may have less what..I would any day prefer that...I love my independence too much to sacrifice that..

Are you on Whats App?

First it was Orkut, then FB and now whats APP..anybody and everybody is into it and people forward the messages without reading properly or understanding the message and sometime create mayhem:):). Recently one of my sis forwarded a message...a very simple one where it was extolled that women should look after themselves TOO..only then they can look after the family...People took it as women should give self first preference everything else comes later...

Now the circle or label of people who are in Whats app and all is such that its very difficult to find women who are sacrificing themselves or being dominated by such messages are totally useless here. Even in earlier generations I have seen many old women who kept a facade of all giving type but they were not actually so....I have seen that before serving everyone they took out the portion for themselves, because in a big family nothing may be left when they eat..not bad..actually they were prudent. Then I saw many who woul…


In the last one month I saw many movies and would like to share the highlights only ..the best one I saw was Queen, this is the story of a simple middle class girl who is chased by one of his father's friend's son and they fall in love and their marriage is set, just before that the boys goes to London and feels that this girls is not up to his standard and ditches her on wedding day,without thinking about the prestige of her parents, financial losses and her heart break.Even his parents support him by keeping quiet.This girl had a dream of going to Paris and Amsterdam for honeymoon and since the trip was booked ,she goes alone..the way she comes out of her shell and breaks many stereotypes, forms the story and its beautiful to watch,and her ex fiancee later on wants to marry her, says sorry and all but now she has tasted freedom, freedom from a system where a girl is at the mercy of guy, he decided whether she should work or not, whether she should drink o she is…


I keep thinking that what is the main  thing that affects the most in building personality traits,
what is that core thing required ,is it upbringing? but then a parent has 4 children but they are never alike, one may be emotional, other one practical, one very straightforward in life, other one may be selfish;
 so then is it environment?......but then many poor kids who are living among criminals ,even then they are honest..........
then what iis it?   Sometimes I wonder, what is that thing which
makes a person what he/she is;
 I think basic nature is the result of permutations and combinations of genes which may be different even in siblings and the habits are acquired through upbringing, environment and surroundings. and basic nature is very difficult to change, it is  inherent and based in the psyche.

Think about it and tell me.

Love And togetherness

But let there be spaces in your togetherness
And let the winds of heaven dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love ;
let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup,
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous,
But let each one of you alone.
Even as the strings of a flute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping ;
For only the hand of life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together,
For the pillars of the temple stand apart.
And the oak tree and the Cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

Its written by Kahlil Gibran, I read it some where and liked it. Its like Chhayavad of Hindi written by the writers like JayshankarPrasad etc, where human love and love of god are merged together in description.


When i started blogging, I had just one thing in mind that I wanted to voice my opinion. I didnt know how to reply to comments or waht to comment on others blogs. Then I started looking at other blogs and in that quest found some precious friends too, but from the beginning I could never comment if I didnt want to say anything and couldnt read the blog if it wasnt interesting to me. I couldnt bother about number of readers or blogs..NO actually  I bothered a lot:), i also wanted those 100 comments, but I couldnt change myself for them.

Even today I find it very amusing that so many bloggers come to my place and comment only if I have gone there  commented on theirs, and suppose for some time they are writing on a subject which is not appealing to me, and I am not commenting there, they stop coming here.
From my side  I can assure you that if i find the content interesting, I go to that blog and if I have something to say I do that, I rarely bother whether that person comes to mine or…


Car Care

Remember to check battery, electrical wiring, headlights , tyres, engine, wipers and the underbody anti- rust coating on a regualar basis.Tyre pressure, tread depth and spare wheel should also be checked. Replace cloth floor mats with plastic/ rubber mats as it avoids dampness and bad odour.

Driving Care

Avoid driving when it is pouring heavily . But if urgent, drive using first gear only and avoid using full accelerator.Lower your window panes while driving through water logged areas. If the car stalls in between, do not try to push start or crank start. It is advisable to get technical help and towing the vehicle to the the nearest authorised garage. Avoid parking the vehicle near a newly built compound wall or under big trees, as storms or heavy thundershowers may collapse them.

Personal Care

A well equipped first aid kit with bandage, pain relief spray, antiseptic cream, anti-allergics such as Avil and Aspirin should be kept handy, also carry umbrella / raincoats. People…

men and women

This I got in my email,
It is a good comparison of personality and attitude, some are true, some are said with tongue in the cheek:), but worth reading.......
If Rekha, Meena and akshata  go out for lunch, they will call each other Rekha, Meena and akshata; If Amit,Brij and Shyam go out, they will affectionately refer to each other as Fat Boy, Godzilla and Four-eyes.

When the bill arrives, Amit,Brij and Shyam will each throw in 500/; even though it's only for 1200/. None of them will have anything smaller  and none will actually admit they want change back.  When the girls get their bill, out come the pocket calculators.

A man will pay 500/  for a 300/ item he needs.;  A woman will pay 300/ for a 500/ item that she doesn't need but it's on sale.

A man has six items in his bathroom: toothbrush and toothpaste, shaving cream, razor, a bar of soap, and a towel. The average number of items in the typical woman&…
Liebster Award I have been nominated by Usha Menon for Liebster Award . After a long time I am posting an award:) and I thank Ushaji for considering me worthy of this award. 
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