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GUIDELINES FOR MODERN DAY PARENTS
I keep reading everywhere that why there are all the instructions and protocol for the children, why not any one for elders , parents and in laws, so i thought why not? lets have one which will appeal to them, and as it is giving advice, comes so easily to us Indians.....ask anyone whenever a match is lost..everybody must be telling you how the strategy of the captain was wrong, and how the batsman didnt cut the ball, and how the fielder lost the catch..so easy to play the game sitting in your drawing room:), its like discussing realistic movies and poverty in India over Champagne and caviar:), so here are the guidelines for parents and elders, take it at your own peril, the product is not guaranteed:)
You are born in this world to take care of your children only, so do it well, dont have any other thing in your mind or life.
A child is an individual by birth , so respect them ..even at the cost of your self respect:)( you shouldnt have any).
Before telling..no telling is a bad word..asking your children to do anything, tell them all the reasons and logic, but of course dont expect them to justify their actions.
Give them all the freedom...This is a free world and you may be sued for slavery, But of course if they do anything wrong..its your responsibility and duty to take care of that.
If they want to take all the decisions of their life without your consent..let them take...they are right , its their life, and dont ever say that...hamaare time me aisahotatha..times have changed , but remember only for them, not for you--if you ever express a desire to become modern., dress fashionably .......then listen to them saying...live according to your age or..are you out of your mind?
They have every right to compare you with their friend's parents who...pamper their children silly, give lot of money and freedom, but you have no right to compare them with other children...u r spoiling their personality by continuous comparison.
Dont ever expect anything from them..obedience or anything else......You havent done anything special..all parents do that for their children,They have already given you a lot..by being your children.
If you are extra caring and protective...you are suffocating them, stifling their life, but if you dont, then you are indifferent..you dont care.
You may suppress all your dreams for their future, but they cant kill a single desire,an outing or their daily routine even for you, as it will be ruining their life .
and all this for the sake of being called a parent..the word means a person totally selfless and devoted to children.
List is endless..will keep adding:)..even you may add...
Now a days whenever i open the newspaper i see someone or other felicitating the Olympic winners..Isnt it that we Indians always do over the top things, we criticize for nothing, and once someone achieves something we go out of the way to praise. I am not saying that they dont deserve it, they deserve it truly BUT.arent we going overboard with the bounties?
Instead now is the time to retrospect...
what is wrong in our system?
somebody should look into the complaints of sports persons during the games
And then instead of giving everything to these few why not bring a system where all the aspiring players get support.
If all the corporates sponsor even one player of any game, we can have thousands of good sports people and players dont have to suffer for basic things.
Recently I was in Hyderabad for renting out my flat. and i cameto know that society association has decided not to allow landlords to let houses to bachelors, I find this very strange.I asked them that tomorrow your son goes somewhere for job or education and people denied him flats , how will you feel?
But they were adamant and when I talked to my nephew , he gave me enough to think about, how bachelors suffer..
For them its very difficult to find a suitable dwelling due to people'e aversion to bachelors and whatever they find they end up paying more than the usual rent, though they may not be getting a high salary.Most of the people in surroundings, still consider them child and dont give them respect due as a tenant.They are admonished for everything they do..like even if they are celebrating bdays, they are asked to stop music and stop disturbing people, whereas other residents may have pooja or bhajan or marriage ,whatever and may disturb them for whole night or day.
Isnt it …