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One father sided with his DIL and grandchildren when his son had differences,because he thought that they were right, and the4 consequences..son took the divorce and when married again, he didnt even call his father who was in the same city..I felt so sad, how could children be like that?.Are the parents there to just support you and agree with you? dont they have the right to differentiate between right and wrong?.whats happening......

One couple who married against their parent's wishes wanted protection from police because they feared their parents, what has happened to parents? could they even think of killing their offsprings?.saying the right thing is their right, but taking lives is not...How can they even think of hurting their own children?
... They are a shame for the name of parents ...they dont deserve to be called parents.

Being parents mean looking after your children when they are young and always wishing them well and never doing anything to hurt them...please …



It was a hit movie , so I was interested, but felt very dissappointed.Its like the movies of 80,90 where villain created a mayhem everywhere.I dont like to see such violence and when police is shown efficient and still they are beaten, their families killed and what does their efficiency mean..nothing..they know everything and still are incompetent..thats why i loved Wanted and Dabangg..they were better crafted without mindless violence...The only plus point about this movie is Genelia..she always brings whiff of fresh air.. a delight to watch.....John has everything going for him, but story makes him a loser.

I nevr thought that Saif who is from a privileged back ground, could esaay the role of underprivileged, but he has done it,but Prateik is really good.One good thing about this movie is that they have said all there is for and against reservation, through all the characters and left it to the audience to decide what is good..though thru their protagonist …


Yesterday i had a very interesting discussions about children with a friend. I am of the view that all normal well to do couples must have atleast two thought being that this

Makes a happy family..
single child feels very lonely, here they get company.
Children need somebody very close to them whom they can confide and share their thoughts.
Since parents wont live forever, one must have someone related in blood.
One enjoys the life more, and festivals too

but their thoughts shook my faith, theb say..
Today nobody has time and they dont talk to their siblings very often.
people are located globally, so distances are too much too visit often.
financially also it is convenient to have one only.

what do you think?

Dignity in living

Dignity..small word with big meaning......most of the people think that with age dignity comes naturally,though it should, but I have seen many old people behaving greedily, in a manner most unsuited to their

Once in a kitty party there were mostly aged their 60/s 70/s and all of them from wealthy families, that i knew because they were talking about no. of cars they have, how big their houses are and all that and when they played tambola, they wanted even 5/ to be divided in 3 people and given., they couldnt leave that to their friends...I was shocked,because I have never bothered about small things like that.

Then there was this old lady who was so miserly with domestic help that would never ever give anything to her whereas she would part with everything for her daughters or relatives....again shocking to me, because to me being good means doing things for others, For their own blood , everybody does and it is out of attachment, so it has no value to me.

I have s…


My son came home from school one day, with a smirk upon his face.
He'd decided he was smart enough, to put me in my place.
"Guess what I learned in Civics Two,
that's taught by Mr. Wright?
It's all about the laws today,
The "Children's Bill of Rights."

It says I need not clean my room,
don't have to cut my hair.
No one can tell me what to think, or speak, or what to wear.
I have freedom from religion,
and regardless what you say,
I don't have to bow my head,
and I sure don't have to pray.
I can wear earrings if I want,
and pierce my tongue & nose.

I can read & watch just what I like,
and get tattoos from head to toes.
And if you ever spank me,
I'll charge you with the crime.
I'll back up all my charges,
with the marks on my behind.

Don't you ever touch me,
my body's only for my use,
not for your hugs and kisses,
that's just more child abuse.

Don't preach about your morals,
like your mama did to you.


I had heard a lot about it.This the story of Pakistani who went to London, settled there and married a British girl, and for that he is ridiculed in his community.And when his daughter Mary grows up and wants to marry a Britisher, he takes her to Pakistan with the promise that after coming back he would accept her boy friend.But once there he gets her forcibly married to her cousin.Mansoor and leaves her in a village where he cant stay even one more day as toilets are not good.
Mansoor has been brainwashed by a fanaticmaulvi who thinks that music is prohibited by Islam and he makes him a jihaadi. Mansoor's brother doesnt agree to him and goes to US to follow his dream in music and ther 9/11 happens and he becomes a victim of racial profil, goes to jail and tortured so much that looses his brain and then deported to pakistan to his family.
Mary tries to get away , but fails initially, later she manages to send a letter to london to his boy friend and is freed with the he…

Goa-north goa

it is country club resort at Anjuna Beach

Goa-north goa we took a one day tour for north Goa, from Fernandes travels, here the buses are normal ones, no AC coaches.But in Goa, though weather is humid and sultry, breeze is so much, sometimes it looks as if you are going to fly with this fast wind,its really pleasant.North Goa is mainly beaches, first Miramamr beach,its in the city of Panaji,3 kms only,then Fort Aguada---this is actually a reservoir for water supply, as Aguada means water in portugese,its a 17th century fort,now looks like in ruins like in Mandu ,we passed thru a lake and boating point where dolphin shows are organise,sadly not there now a days(same reason-offseason),( i took this trip in July) for the namesake he took us to a temple also, nothing famous, as the famous shantadurga temple is on some height and one has to climb some stairs and all,passed through mapusa city,its famous for its fridaybazar, not there now a da…


My nephew...Rahul keeps writing a lot, and this time when I saw his shayari, i was surprised to see a young boy writing so deeply..I am sharing some with you all......

"unhone hume kuch is tareh chod diya zindagi ke beech majdhar me.
..maut ki arzoo bhi na kar sakey hum unke laut ke aney ke intezaar me!!"

"mehfillo ki shano shaukat me bhi aapki baato jaisa maza kahan..
.pehle meelo ka safar kat jaata tha aapki zulfo ke saaye me...
.par ab toh hum ruk kar khoye rehte hai unhi chand palo ki yaado me...
.jhoota lagta hai ye sara sansaar...
.ek aapko chodke sach kuch bhi toh nahi!!"

"woh sheesha hi kya jisme aapki parchai na dikh sake....
.woh dil hi kya jisme aapki rooh na bas sake...
.zaroor dekhe honge aapne apne ashiq hazzar..
.par woh aashiq hi kya jo apke liye jal na sake..

.jaan toh khuda ki den hai jab chahe maaang lo..
.mera dil toh tumhare aankhoon ki roshni hai .
.isse jab chahe bhuja do"

"pani ki mithas toh koi pyasey se pooche...
.aapki muskaan ki khoobsoo…

Part 2

For my last post, not many people gave their point of view, as I know that they neither can agree, nor would like to say that I am wrong...And my good friend Amrita thinks that since now I am a MIL I can think of that side only. aisa nahi ha.MILs   USED to be like that but today tables have turned....whether someone believes it or not, I cant force anyone, but I try to be always fair in life...And whenever this topic comes, most of the readers go off the point and comment on generality.instead give your point of view on THAT particular point I am raising.because in one post we cant cover such a vast and volcanic relationship of Saas bahu:)

Now i am going to tell you some real today girls are behaving and you tell me all that right..when we are so vocal aabout MILs terming them monster inlaws and giving them a bad name/ being a MIlL means a meek person always looking for appreciation/sanction  from the younger lot for the myriad things she does for them..



when 2G scam people got bail, there was so much of media coverage and welcome..why? were they coming out after doing something extraordinary.or patriotic or it was some achievement?

Why papers brand two Bihari students nabbed..was there any necessity to write Bihari?..was the crime associated with their home town?

Why all the negative news and people are given front page and rest the last? why give publicity to bad people?

Why Neetu Chandra is a permanent feature in TOI page 3 everyday  ? is there any connection?..Now dont ask me who is that..thats what I wonder, because  she doesnt have much on her achievements list, still given all the space all the time.....

Why in any insurgent operation, media highlights that they were tracked because of informers?.why put them in danger?.and i thought informers were protected.


Yes that was the title of the article in TOI...children are getting angry and aggressive at a very young stage and the reason specialists attribute it to is...parenting.or atleast it has the biggest role.

Today parents want to give children everything they couldnt get as a child, never thinking about what is good for them.

Parents pamper the children with the process making them feel that things are most important in life.

And the kids are growing up to be self centred and materialistic and want to get everything fast and not with much efforts.

children should be taught from the beginning....
the value of restraint,
importance of hard work..that nothing comes free
Living within people say that Indian economy is most resilient, then it is because of Indian habits of saving ,living within means, but if we adopt the habits of living like there is no tomorrow, or living on credit cards, we shall be there  sooner or the recession....


Yesterday I was reading outlook favourite magazine and there was an article by Sumana Mukherjee about financial inequality in siblings and its effect on relationships.

Earlier when there were many siblings, it was well nigh impossible for all of them to be in the same league, though today with one or two children its possible,.So is it possible to maintain cordiality without jealousy and sarcasm?

I think it is possible and for that everybody needs to be sensitive, not to his/her own feelings but for others.For those who are well off..they must restrain a little when with others, conversations shouldnt be all the time about acquiring things only, rather the time together should be spent in common interests.Never thrust your affluence in other's face....
And those not so well off, they need to develop some confidence that  their family loves them, and money doesnt make the life go round.They must learn to live happily within their means without expecting to get anything fro…


The movie starts with a fight between Luv(Ali Jaffer) and his girl friend Piyali Patel in London and they break up after a long relationship of 5 years and then calls his brother Kush( Imran) in India to find him a girl, as he wants to marry and settle down.And the search starts and they find it is not so easy..Then thru some advt, they come across Dimple( katrina ) who  has lived in London all the time and is a total Bindaas girl who is misunderstood in India..both point of views are very good like...
in India any girl who is carefree and wears mini or Western clothes is considered easy and slut and everybody thinks that she could sleep with everyone.
Every country has its own culture and sensibilities and there is nothing wrong or right in them, but one has to either live accordingly or bear the consequences.
She is chosen and the preparation starts and suddenly it dawns on both..Kush and Dimple , that they are in love..and now the movie is all about their planning about getting eac…

Difficult Daughters...Manju Kapur

For a long time  I have been looking to read something by this writer and last week  when I went to Hyderabad and my friend told me that she had bought it, I was thrilled, I asked her to give it to me as i would finish it in two days.

This is a story of Veermati set in the Punjab before partition. Veermati belongs to a wealthy family with her grandfather and father both being Aryasamaji believe in educating the girls.And when she falls for her neighbour..and oxford educated professor who is already married with a child, some blame comes on education too.Everything is so natural and real here, the back ground, living style, language..everything..It shows that in earlier times children were married in the childhood, as the professor is and when he grows up into a well educated intellectual, he feels no compatibility with his wife, he tries to educate her, but she is not interested. And though in all other respects she is a good wife and daughter.inlaw, he feels deprived and falls for a y…

Tag from manasa

If I were a month, I’d be is good and has my Bday too:)

If I were a day of the week, I’d beMonday..I like to get up fresh and start the work:)

If I were a time of day, I’d be to have my tea with newspaper and computer both.

If I were a season, I’d be the autum !

If I were a planet, I’d be Moon!

If I were an animal, I’d be the bird who could soar high!

If I were a direction, I'd be the South!

If I were a piece of furniture, I’d be a side table where one keeps the most important things of the day!

If I were a liquid, I’d be Water!

If I were a tree, I’d be a Coconut!

If I were a tool, I’d be screw driver which can repair evrything

If I were an element, I’d  be gold ..pure and real...gets better with tribulations.!

If I were a gemstone, I’d be coral!

If I were a musical instrument, I’d be dholak!

If I were a color, I’d be white!

If I were an emotion, I’d be Hope or courage !

If I were a fruit, I’d be a banana..complete food!

If I were a sound, I’d be t…


Recently I read on Jyothi's everyone happy?..good question! Could we ever be happy forever?..Happiness is a very momentary feeling and whenever someone does something in accordance with our feelings we are happy.But all the time happy....quite a difficult task, as all the time we cant expect the world to behave to our liking..
But we can be at peace all the time if we detach ourselves a little with the results.We may do our duty and the right thing and then stop worrying about the results.Many people keep advising me that now that i have fulfilled my duties in life, I must live Bindaas, not worry about others and say and do what I like.And i shouldnt at all think about people younger to me but say the right thing. But that is not possible in a civilised society. We can never do anything if it might hurt others.Saying the right thing is also useful only if it makes any difference in a positive way.But then any relationship which cants sustain the truth or has no tolerance …

Baby Pigeons

Baby Pigeons?

Have you ever wondered why you don't see baby pigeons?

Have you ever wondered why pigeons spend so much time walking
when they could be flying?

Some of US spend so much time walking when we could be flying.

This is why you don't see Baby pigeons -

First of all, unlike other birds, pigeons hide their nests.
When they emerged in Asia, pigeons were cliff-dwellers.  Now
they build their messy nests of sticks inside the guts of
bridges, or atop tall buildings, or on top of your air

Also, pigeons are very protective and babying parents.  They lay
only two eggs at a time, and spoil those babies shamefully.  By
the time they leave the nest, the babies are almost the same
size as their parents.

That's why you don't see baby pigeons.

The parents spoil the kids by keeping them sheltered and inside
away from the world until they are almost grown.

Is it any wonder why they fly as little as possible?
Think about that the next time you see a pigeon,
a big one wal…


There are some advertisements which click with you as soon as you see..some of them are.....

FLIP they dress children as adults and they talk also in adult is the one where two children dresses as software people are taking milk from a vending machine..and in one two little girls getting beauty treatment..really hilarious.

RELIANCE with Anushka and Ranvijay..all the situations shown are funny, but the best is where on boy's mother's bday girl calls first and enjoys his discomfort:)

BRU with Shahid and Priyanka, where priyanka has damaged Shahid's car.

AIRTEL..the latest ones.har ek friend jaroori hota ha..specially the one in restaurant where a boy tell his budget constraint to the waiter and he manages the girls..

HISTORY CHANNEL..with Salman khan

HDFC BANK..that one..sar utha ke jiyo, where a son tries to help his father in getting down from the train and fathers wants to do so on his own..

Whenevr i see them, I feel that bther…


Diwali is awaited with so so much of enthusiasm and now its gone:(.and it is synonymous with gifts.Dont know why but I am not a gracious person while accepting gifts, I feel very awkward too.So many times I keep mulling that from the next year i will take a vow not to accept anything from anyone..then postpone it for another year:).Actually now at my age I dont want to take anything..I just want to give..though my hubby says that if you dont take, then you cant give also:)

Lot many people decide the type and amount of gift depending on the status of recipient,rich people get opulent gifts,whereas not so make do with ordinary things. whereas I think gifts should be decided by the status of the person who si giving..and I keep thinking that I must have that uniformity in mind, but then mind starts thinking that wouldnt it be injustice to a person who is giving you more? and I am always in a confusion about what is right..and if  are you are reading my blog regularly, you must be knowin…


The Cat

Dwight Nelson recently told a true story about the pastor of his

He had a kitten that climbed up a tree in his backyard and then
was afraid to come down. The pastor coaxed, offered warm milk,
etc. The kitty would not come down.

The tree was not sturdy enough to climb, so the pastor decided
that if he tied a rope to his car and drove away so that the
tree bent down, he could then reach up and get the kitten.

He did all this, checking his progress in the car frequently,
then figured if he went just a little bit further, the tree
would be bent sufficiently for him to reach the kitten.

But as he moved a little further forward, the rope broke.

The tree went "boing!" and the kitten instantly sailed through
the air  - out of sight.

The pastor felt terrible.

He walked all over the neighborhood asking people if they'd seen
a little kitten. No. Nobody had seen a stray kitten. So he
prayed, "Lord, I just commit this kitten to your keeping," and


I havent been a big fan of Amitabh bacchan , as a person, but this time I watched a few episode of KBC and I am hooked.He is so cordial and nice to everybody and makes everyone so happy. The format of show has also changed a there is more interaction with the contestants, a sort of bon homie being generated and contestants from the unprivileged section are getting more chances..its all so heartening to see.

Here I am quoting what AB wrote on his blog..its worth reading.....

Each contestant that I meet on the sets of KBC expresses similar desire. They are of challenged means. They have not the luxury of home and house of their own, yet all they ever want is to create an environment in the house so that their entire family can come together and live together. This desire to remain together, to care and consider the conditions of their elders is one that is universally expressed each day. And for this I wish to thank all those that think similar. These old concepts of being un…


This time of year is my favourite as most of the festivals fall in this period.Though sometimes in a month I have 15 days fast:)Last week was karvachauth.And I feel amused to see how the face of festivals have changed. In our childhood festivals meant cleaning the house, decorating it and lots and lots of cooking and making sweets and snacks and then distributing. To a some extent it is still like that for me.We dont cook or light a gas only in mourning, so its considered bad omen not to cook on festivals.But today its a given that many of the women dont cook on Karvachauth and their hubbies take them out to dinner.But I dont  do that, I still make special dishes and we have a sumptuous dinner on all the festivals.Then we give byana to MILs...and MILs give sari and other gifts to DIL..basically these give and takes were meant to bring them together..MILs welcome the new entrant into their family with love and gifts and DILS give the gifts to get blessings and as a thanks giving to the…



I had seen the trailers and they were quite amusing. This movie is actually more of a documentary about Amitabh Bacchan.AB is a gangster who has left India and living in Paris running a pub. When he gets to know that his son is being targeted by mafia, he comes  back to save him.Sonu Sood is his son and Hema  malini his wife And Raveena his girlfriend.The director couldnt decide what he wanted to make, because it starts in a comic way and ends seriously..If one wants to take it in a light way, its ok, but if you take it seriously, then itsa all wrong. What I liked was....
When Hema says that she left him because of his gangster ways, AB asks her..we first met when i was in handcuffs..then you didnt realise I was a gangster, when you came to see me in jail, you didnt know that i was a gangster, you loved me and married, only after our son was born you realised that....
and she left him in the jail later on and vanished.
Charmme kappor..the daughter of Raveena is r…

Some misconceptions

I read on Harman"s blog about how people have certain myths. I have also experienced it and some more.People have certain biases or preconceived notions like....

Any one who speaks good English is a learned man, whereas its only a language proficiency only.And fluency in English doesnt indicate the intelligence or knowledge..

Anyone who cant speak English is not worth knowing, as he doesnt know much, whereas he might be a real learned man..its time we differentiate in real sense.

Anyone dressed well is competent and if not well.sloppy..but this definition also limits to appearance only, many fashionable and well dressed people are totally dumb otherwise.Fashion is a choice of dressing only, it doesnt have anything to do with intellect.

Fair complexion and beauty and youth is given preference everywhere..whereas there are some professions which demand this time in AI..air hostesses  there were so aged,plump and ordinary looking, and their service was very poor without any…

A Small Story of Appreciation for Managers

Below is the email my hubby forwarded to me, and it applies as much to family as to corporates..its a beautiful story with a very important message, so I am sharing with you all.

A Small Story of Appreciation for Managers
This is a powerful message in our modern society. We seemed to have lost our bearing & our sense of direction.

One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "none".

The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, …

Fasting in Navraatri

Navratri has gone and so the fasting for us too.I feel so nice during those days. Fasting is one process which is advised in every religion..muslims fast twice a year in Ramadan, Christians have their own lent period, Jains have their paryushions.etc etc. Most of the commandments are also similar these are the days  a sort of penance, so be pious,share the food, donate ,and dont harbour bad feelings.
We have one more, like eat satvik food.As food affects our mental process.Many people make fun of the people who are fasting and feasting saying that what is the point in fasting if you are making no so many dishes or eating all that,but they themselves cant do it even for a day with all that feasting too, but i have never felt so, Even to my children i say keep the fast, but you may feast , but on restricted items only, but inspite of that my daughter does it and son doesnt, so fine.its their choice.Though I dont eat fried items and lot of sweets as my age and health doesnt allow …


Yesterday i read an article and I have been watching that Shastrarth also on CNBC with DR Devdutt Patnaik and since both of them are related with the topic of my last I thought of sharing that.

On CNBC they discussed that  for todays corruption and  valueless society.if we want to see everything through spirituality and Vedas, what will be out justification or clarification for that..why its happening?.its because we are in the process of changing from an animal to human being.Its the nature of animals to look after self only  thats the reason they live in Jungle  raj, where every big animal eats up the smaller ones..and they have no discipline in life, they do whatever they want and whenever they want and always looking for self survival only and will do everything for that because they dont have any code of conduct or society or any ethics.

Now thats what happening to us also..its always the INDIVIDUAL..we will do what pleases us or satisfies our materialistic desires, phys…


Just the other day I went to see an exhibition of Craft council in Valluvar kottam and saw some beautiful things crafted by hands. I felt bad that I do shop so many things abroad whereas we are getting such good things and at a fraction of price here only, the only problem is that  these can be found in exhibitions only..wish they make a permanent place for them like shilparamam in Hyderabad.

Today I see that youngsters are getting too sensitive and touchy about everything others say, whereas I( feel that it is the way we take it that matters, there are so many questions which are used only as small talk, and may not have that serious intonation like asking...
when are you having kids? doesnt mean that others intend to run your family decisions or anything..just starting a conversation....
When are are you going to complete the family?....its a universal truth that daughter and son both complete the family, but if one doesnt feel the same,no problem..its your life  and same way …

Credit living

American way of living is failing slowly slowly and here we are picking their habits , so thats going to be our future 20 years onward.what i found ridiculous over there was.....

Banks giving mortgage for 30 years, 40 years where payment years go beyond retirement.And giving loans to people beyond their capacity. In this area  I had an experience where I learned alot, Once I used to run a departmental store and there were many customers who will get tempted to buy the things and request me to give them on instalment and I being naive thought no harm in this and even felt happy that I am making sales, but..two cases I can point out where it was a clear mistake...
Giving a domestic maid earning 300/ month a credit of 1000/ is always wrong, she is going to be a defaulter and she did.
To a young girl working in a five star hotel,once I started giving, she had no end to her shopping of cosmetics and ultimately vanished without payment.
Business cant be done without some strong basic rules and …