Wednesday, November 23, 2011

SIBLINGS

Yesterday I was reading outlook money.my favourite magazine and there was an article by Sumana Mukherjee about financial inequality in siblings and its effect on relationships.

Earlier when there were many siblings, it was well nigh impossible for all of them to be in the same league, though today with one or two children its possible,.So is it possible to maintain cordiality without jealousy and sarcasm?

I think it is possible and for that everybody needs to be sensitive, not to his/her own feelings but for others.For those who are well off..they must restrain a little when with others, conversations shouldnt be all the time about acquiring things only, rather the time together should be spent in common interests.Never thrust your affluence in other's face....
And those not so well off, they need to develop some confidence that  their family loves them, and money doesnt make the life go round.They must learn to live happily within their means without expecting to get anything from siblings or grudging them their riches.

Life is all about perspectives....this is mine what about you?

16 comments:

Sherlyn said...

In such scenario both the siblings need to be sensitive towards each others sentiments.One sided traffic wouldn't help a bit.Money although is not solely responsible for happiness or for sorrow but it is needed to have comfort in life.Definitely bragging about one's riches is rude and inhuman.A bit of maturity from siblings is all that is needed to sustain the cordiality in the relationship.
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Swats said...

'Financial inequality' is indeed one of the major reasons behind sibling rivalry and it is really sad.

Thankfully, there is only 'sibling revelry' between my brother and me.

Money and status have become so important tht ppl hv started taking relationships for granted. Today, ppl prefer to revere the rich and influential..they seem to hv very little regard for the average not-so-well-to-do person..

KParthasarathi said...

A nice subject.Affluence in life is a matter of luck or purva karma.Hard work alone does not fetch wealth.Amongst siblings family wealth may be distributed equally but making them grow further is the result of individual effort.There are bound to be differences but not withstanding this it is only in a few families that siblings have good relationship.In most cases there is cold war,bad blood or litigation.The points raised by you are worth remembering to foster harmony.

Sujatha Sathya said...

You are right the inequality between siblings is a sticky situation.
Sensitivity to the other's feelings would help & if the other person doesn't expect to benefit it helps too

Never thrust your affluence in other's face....
very well said

Sandhya said...

Nice one! But in practicality, it is very difficult to follow! The gap between rich sister and poor sister will always be there, however much the rich one helps her younger sister. At least status wise nearly equal sisters are closer, I have seen!

Renu said...

Sherlyn.yes efforts are needed from both the sides....
I cant chk the sites because they want me to sign up which i am aversee to do:(

Swats: abhi aap bahut young ho, let you get married have, children, then only all.these thingscome in the picture..
Since we are loosing values, money has become very important...
but it shouldnt come in relationships..

KParthsaarthi:exactly...its not like socialism where everyone is equal in terms of money...so both have to take care..

Sujatha sathya: for the harmony,affluent one need to be sensitive not to hurt other's ego and the other one has to have some self respect and not get attracted to big gifts.

Sandhya: I nevr advocate that in relationships there should be help..monetary to anyone, because then the ones who are giving are bound to have a patronising attitude, which may not suit to the takers, and it brings lot of discontent also...I feel that everyone must live happily with what one has.thats the best attitude, try to better yourself only, otherwise be satisfied with what god has given you, if god didnt want you rich, nobody can....

Purvi said...

I agree :)
Maintaining healthy relationship requires only certain small gestures and restraints :)

chitra said...

I agree with what sandhya says.There are many instances I have seen where not so rich sister taking a back seat either because of her own complex or not treated at par by her own siblings.

deeps said...

thats a thought to think about...
i guess money does play in deciding relationships though that doesnt sound good...

Rachna said...

Relationships are of much more value than money. But, this is a sticky situation to be in.

Renu said...

Purvi: we must give the relations importance due to them.


deeps:but if we think otherwise, we can change the situation?

Rachna:..yes if have our priorities right , we wouldnt have any problem.

Chitra;Earlier it was like that, but now with so much awareness, we must bring a change.

Bikramjit said...

Well i think that we can help each other too .. if one is well of fthen it doesnot harm if he helps the other to raise ..

problem comes when no one does anything for anyone and distance grows :)

Bikram's

Renu said...

Bikram:helping is good only in emergencies, helping on day to day basis spoils the attitudes in a relationship....
If one wants an equal and selfrespecting relationship, one must avoid taking unnnecessary help...

Harman said...

...love the post!
I agree with bikram,,
if one is wealthy in family they shld try to help rest and make others comfortable..there is no harm...good things pay back!

Rahul Bhatia said...

Well said!

Renu said...

Harman: Thanks!

Sometimes helping siblings adopt a patronising attitude, which doesnt go well in the equation.

Rahul Bhatia: thanks! and welcome here!