Sunday, December 30, 2012

ENGLISH VINGLISH



I saw English Vinglish with so much expectations , but was disappointed, I think everybody knows the story, so I shall tell you what I noticed..

I never endorse the view that those who know English are better off and more intelligent, because English is only a language, they know one more language, nowhere it becomes equal to poise, confidence, styling , affection,intelligence, everything as if its a Alaadin ka chirag. Sreedevi is shown as clumsy,unappealing housewife who is brusque with her husband, never affectionate..and according to her nobody respects her..( I dont give much importance to her teenage daughter, because many children feel that way but if tackled properly they change, I feel that its her upbringing too which is at fault).

and then she learns English and suddenly she becomes a diva. smart(starts wearing trench coats instead of shawl), gets oodles of confidence, and people start respecting her..gets accolades from everyone( her husband always appreciates her cooking but that is not important to her)..

I have seen many women who dont know English but are respected by everyone in their family and outside.Respect is not for English language, its for the person..

Even her encounter with visa people and all are ridiculous, because translators are always provided to those who dont know English.
I never like the woman who encourage extra marital affections for trivial reasons, one has to be strong in the character everywhere...
Dont know why people liked sridevi in this role, I found her looking haggard and her mannerisms awkward..would have preferred some other actress may be Tabu. or Divya balan



Desirable Daughters..Bharati Mukherjee
Most of the Bengali writers write about NRI Bengali's and their life, this is also about them and their own community.sort of Ok only

Equal Music...Vikram Seth
I liked his Suitable boy,and ten two lives too, so thought of reading it, but it couldnt interest me at all, so much so that i couldnt read it even.

I got two books from Robert Ludlum..
1..Traveyane...its not like Ludlum at all..no action, no supense, just talking..

2...Janson Directive...again it looks like a very old story written in a very small font and dint find it interesting.

and now..


नया साल मंगलमय हो, सब के जीवन में समृद्धि, खुशहाली लाये 

हमारी  शुभकामनाएँ 




Thursday, December 27, 2012

Mother

In all the relationships this the one which is the backbone of every relationship in life, because its mother only WHO moulds the personality of an individual into what he becomes when he is grown up, so if one tries to be a good and efficient mother, many other problems of future are solved.and since mothers are adulated so much, itys time they took the responsibility also for the wrong doing s of their wards..Nobody can be a good mother by just pampering and providing for all the whims of their children.Mothering means giving them a good foundation with good values..... Of course there is no fixed formula for that, and it depends on person to person and circumstances, still if few basic things are maintained lot of work is done

when the kids are young that is time to start their education for discipline and moral values and better if its done through practice. At this time we can make their foundations strong with our love and model behaviour. Children always imbibe their elders. Whatever is learned in the childhood, stays forever.Normal practice is to leave them free when they are young , thinking-bade ho kar sab seekh jaayenge , but its not like that, habits are formed in the beginning only.and love doesnt mean just giving ,its judicial giving and judicial withholding.And sometimes listening to a firm NO makes them resilient,teaches them acceptance of life, where they cant get everything ..

In the teen years, they need a friend and confidante,so try to be friendly,not a friend, because its necessary for the children to respect the parents,no matter what,this habit of respecting parents brings in them a lot of discipline in life.This is the time to teach them to be confidant, not to be in awe of peer pressure, tell them about the rights and wrongs in the life,and if there is any problem, then parents are the best people to solve that.Give them a confidence that they can share anything with you, their fears, their choices everything. Dont be judgemental.When the children are taught values from the beginning, they may come to some cross roads in life and may be in a dilemma, but be sure they will never deviate from the path of righteousness.Trust them. This is the most turbulent phase of their life support them, be like a rock behind them and see them grow into confident individual.

Then it is time for them to choose a profession, let them make a choice, dont choose it for them.Its their life and they should have every right to take its decision.Give them freedom, but tell them that freedom with itself brings lot of responsibilities.Tell them the pros and cons of everything but the final decision should be theirs.Life is not always a bed of roses, let them find it for themselves, they will respect and value everything more this way. The best gift parents can give to their children is ROOTS---that is unstinted support in their ventures and.... WINGS. freedom to do what they want, its not that o parents can teach only, sometimes they can learn a lot  also from them .Dont do everything for them, rather tell them how to do it..Parents who try to do everything for their lot, are not making their life comfortable, rather sowing a seed for lifelong dissatisfaction, because when they will not get the same treatment from others in life, they will never appreciate anyone and wont get any appreciation too,They will be miserable due to their dependency habit.

Last duty-for the parents, if you feel like that is -finding them a partner, here also if they choose themselves, accept it happily,believe that you have inculcated enough sense of propriety, and values, so hopefully they will not go wrong. or they will learn..

Monday, December 24, 2012

SHOBHA AT SIXTY..SHOBHA DEY

KALKI: SELECTED STORIES
 This is a translation from Tamil by Gowri Ramnarayan.The stories are from old era, written in the same way as Premchand wrote in Hindi.The situations at that time were very different and morals very high, but there were all sort of people too.But all stories tell us about some ideal.first is about girl education, where a girl lost the love of her life because she couldnt read, and so she studied  and devoted her life to girl's education.Then there is one about untouchability, child marriage etc.
Nice read.

SHOBHA AT SIXTY..SHOBHA DEY
Shobha dey writes in her style about life after sixty.Its a sort of management guide for woman written in a simple and interesting way.Some very simple solutions for complicated problems, though i am sceptical of them working.As is common with all the people who have everything, they say they like simple things and they work from them, cant believe how much of that is true and how much just to make an image. But some ideas are really good and workable too, so all in all a good read...

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Humanity

Lately where ever i see there is a huge cry for justice for that unfortunate girl in Delhi. Govt is so pressurised from everyone that they are promising all help in treatment.Everybody is so disgusted that they want castration or death to the rapist..
But nobody is looking for any long term solutions, In dont think that only stern punishment can deter the others. And so many times rapes are not reported, people are not caught even.I always think that the men who did this, they are also the brothers, and sons, how their families feel? and what type of mother they have to have brought up such a son..
We need to bring back the values in life..
All the women need to bring up their children with certain moral values and for that they need to live those ones.
When the children watch everything, families never bother
. When children speak wrong language, they are just brushed off.
.Nobody becomes a pervert or criminal just one fine day, the signs are there for the families to see , but they dont take pains to reform them.

How many parents instill good values in children by telling them everyday and by living them?,,they are just taken for granted...hamaare bacche hain acche hi hain aur honge.Parents are giving too much pocket money to children, vehicle when they are underage for license even and money is giving them the freedom to drink and enjoy.....

Most of the time we are so involved with the finance factor or convenience that we completely forget morals.
Only police or govt cant solve the problem..Its the whole society which has to change.to learn to respect the moral values instead of financial status.
we must bring education to everyone.
And every mother must strive hard to bring up HUMAN  children, not those robots
Teach your children to respect other human beings
When women harass their DILs they send a message to men that women have no value or respect..
Its parents duty to teach children to care for others too, not only..I,ME,Myself.
We must learn to co exist, stop the vulgar display of wealth...
We are running fast in the western direction whereas our society is not prepared for that( though i dont think that direction is good because they are battling with young unwed mothers, adopted children and plethora of problems, but all that we shall earn by suffering only)

We must talk to the accused families to know ..did they never know about their men?...otherwise why they didnt bother?

Till such time that we have better police, better administration and better society, it is in the good of girls only to live with precautions and safety..
Never take a bus in which there is no other passenger..
Keep a chilli spray and knife in your purse.
Try not to travel alone(though it didnt help this girl)
Keep a helpline no on speed dial on your phone.
If you are travelling at night, immediately take auto's no and driver's name and sms both to you family..everyday.
Best of Luck for surviving in this jungle!

Sunday, December 16, 2012

QUEEN OF DREAMS

For a long time I wanted to read something by.Chitra Bannerjee Divakaruni, so when i got hold of this book, I coudnt stop myself, and this is very interesting, I couldnt do anything till I finished.In the story Rakhi is an Indian born in US and living there .Her mother is a dream teller(sort of clairvoyance).She was a poor orphan in the slums of Calcutta, where one dream teller saw her gift and took her under her wing,They taught her everything about dream telling and controlling their dreams, their interpretation and helping others through them. But for this special gift, she was supposed to live a lonely life,no marriage and not even talking much.But she falls in love and leaves the sect and goes with him to US.and in the bargain looses here special gift.But then at sometime she becomes restless without her dreams and longs for them back in her life, so she secretly works and collects money for the ticket back to her sect.and just when she is ready, she finds that she is pregnant.and when she doesnt get any instructions thru her dream, she gives birth to a girl, and then her dreams comeback, but with a condition that she cant sleep with her husband.Then the story is about the effect on her husband and her daughter, and how she helps other people and many more things....I just loved this book and now I am going to read more of her writings.

Loving and not needing the person is the purest form of love...I just loved this line of hers.


WISE AND OTHERWISE..SUDHA MURTHY
This is a compilation of many incidents in Sudha Murthy's life, they form a story and every incident gives us a lesson in life.I think everyone should read it .it teaches us values, humanity and ways of life.There are 51 of them,I shall cite a few...
One poor boy who was given money for his boarding and studies, returned two months allowance when there was holidays..
In sahyadri hills, a tribal leader taught humility, when he refused to accept anything without giving something because thats their culture, their ancestors taught them...do not take without giving
That our youngster do not know anything about history about who was Jhansi ki rani and what is her contribution to the freedom
Why the important days like 15 august and all are declared a holiday, because most of the people enjoy the holiday forgetting the importance of the day.
How for any charities, politicians of that area are felicitated and real donors are relegated to back ground.
How people will spend a lot on clothes, parties, jewelleries, but when it comes to helping others, they have no money or many excuses.
People who seek help should also have some qualities.ask for help only when you have exhausted all your resources and  when money is needed for medical or education purposes.One shouldnt need to take money for holidaying or for better standard of living, even if it is from relatives.
There are many more jewels in the book and you will have to read it to know:)

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Strasbourg

Strasbourg is the capital of Alsace region in eastern France.We went driving over there from Zurich.its two and a half hour drive. The city is just after crossing the border of Switzerland.With a small child wherever we went , we could start only around 11 or 12 and then as soon as you start lunch time is there. Since we were in a hurry to reach, we thought of picking Pizza from Migros and started our journey.My grandchild A is totally averse to sitting in the car seat and so after some time, he just started howling, whatever we did nothing made him happy, so my son stopped the car at one place and  walked him on the roadside and he was happy:).We reached around 2 , then took the hotel, kept the luggage there and started towards the city.

The main area is around cathedral. So we looked for a parking space some where, and this is the biggest work abroad..to look for a parking , ultimately my son dropped us at a cafe and went away to park.Like most of the other cities, this is also located around a river. From the cathedral, a mini train runs a one hour trip of the city.We decided to take it next day.The place around cathedral is so beautiful and lively that we wanted to enjoy that.Thats the beauty of Europe..these squares in the city.without any vehicle, with restaurants, musicians, sometimes rides too and designer shops as well as local souvenir, one can find everything...its fun to walk around..

In the evening i found very good Mediterranean food, just outside our hotel,to me falafal salad is fine with coke, and their dressing was.hmm..yummy..I loved it..

Next day we took the train and the trip was very enjoyable, specially the area of Petit France..its so beautiful.half timbered houses in cobbled streets..with an old world charm..everywhere everything is written in french, otherwise German is common..
But it was an open train and with bright sun it became unbearable hot for my child, and we wanted to hurry up.Had our lunch at those open restaurants.though lunch was awesome pizza, but the taste was spoiled as my son lost his glares..I never thought that there too people are like that...
CATHEDRAL SQUARE
SOUVENIR SHOPS
IN FRONT OF RAILWAY STATION
PETIT FRANCE
MAKING SOUVENIR FROM PENNY
All in all we had a very enjoyable trip, its a beautiful place worth seeing.

Monday, December 10, 2012

Derive happiness from your work, not from the things


I got this as email fwd but the feelings expressed are exactly mine and expresses much better than I ever could, specially the last line.......derive happiness from your work not from the things...


'The Blunt Truth about Making Millions', Article by
Adam Khoo, Singapore 's youngest millionaire.
 
'Some of you may already know that I travel around the region pretty frequently, having to visit and conduct seminars at my offices in Malaysia, Indonesia, Thailand and Suzhou (China). I am in the airport almost every other week so I get to bump into many people who have attended my seminars or have read my books.

Recently, someone came up to me on a plane to KL and looked rather shocked. He asked, 'How come a millionaire like you is travelling economy?' My reply was, 'That's why I am a millionaire. ' He still looked pretty confused. This again confirms that greatest lie ever told about wealth (which I wrote about in my latest book 'Secrets of Self Made Millionaires'). Many people have been brainwashed to think that millionaires have to wear Gucci, Hugo Boss, Rolex, and sit on first class in air travel. This is why so many people never become rich because the moment that earn more money, they think that it is only natural that they spend more, putting them back to square one.


The truth is that 
most self-made millionaires are frugal and only spend on what is necessary and of value. That is why they are able to accumulate and multiply their wealth so much faster. Over the last 7 years, I have saved about 80% of my income while today I save only about 60% (because I have my wife, mother in law, 2 maids, 2 kids, etc. to support). Still, it is way above most people who save 10% of their income (if they are lucky). I refuse to buy a first class ticket or to buy a $300 shirt because I think that it is a complete waste of money. However, I happily pay $1,300 to send my 2-year old daughter to Julia Gabriel Speech and Drama without thinking twice.

When I joined the YEO (Young Entrepreneur' s Organization) a few years back (YEO is an exclusive club open to those who are under 40 and make over $1m a year in their own business) I discovered that those who were self-made thought like me. Many of them with net worths well over $5m, travelled economy class and some even drove Toyota's and Nissans (not Audis, Mercs, BMWs).


I noticed that it was on
ly those who never had to work hard to build their own wealth (there were also a few ministers' and tycoons' sons in the club) who spent like there was no tomorrow. Somehow, when you did not have to build everything from scratch, you do not really value money. This is precisely the reason why a family's wealth (no matter how much) rarely lasts past the third generation. Thank God my rich dad (oh no! I sound like Kiyosaki) foresaw this terrible possibility and refused to give me a cent to start my business.

Then some people ask me, 'What is the point in making so much money if you don't enjoy it?' The thing is that I don't really find happiness in buying branded clothes, jewellery or sitting first class. Even if buying something makes me happy it is only for a while, it does not last. 
Material happiness never lasts, it just give you a quick fix. After a while you feel lousy again and have to buy the next thing which you think will make you happy. I always think that if you need material things to make you happy, then you live a pretty sad and unfulfilled life.

Instead, what make ME happy is when I see my children laughing and playing and learning so fast. What makes me happy is when I see by companies and trainers reaching more and more people every year in so many more countries. What makes me really happy is when I read all the emails about how my books and seminars have touched and inspired someone's life. What makes me really happy is reading all your wonderful posts about how this BLOG is inspiring you. This happiness makes me feel really good for a long time, much much more than what a Rolex would do for me.


I think the point I want to put across is that happiness must come from doing your life's work (be in teaching, building homes, designing, trading, winning tournaments etc.) and the money that comes is only a by-product.
 
If you hate what you are doing and rely on the money you earn to make you happy by buying stuff, then I think that you are living a life of meaningless.......'


Friday, December 7, 2012

Mumbaistan..Piush Jha

This time my daughter on my bday gifted me the membership of this book borrow library...www.bookborrow.com.. and this is the first book I read. It has three stories..one about a girl rabia who is aLeT terrorist, and Tanveer a small time criminal who is blackmailed by ACP to work for police against terrorists.
Second story is about organ trading, exploitation of dalits and their revenge.
Third story is about a man in coma..and this is the most interesting one. All the stories are about deceit, betrayal, corruption and crime.written in a day to day language  it is interesting to read as it is a thriller.
But I want something more from any book, something to learn, something new to know or some good language, some insight into anything, anyone, sadly its none of that.

Second book i demanded was..Secrets of Naga..as i had heard a lot about this trilogy from Amish Tripathi, but didnt like it, its a sort of metaphorical story...I didnt enjoy reading about Shiv Sati and other divine characters talking in common language..and behaving like humans.

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Life cycle

When I was young and had two children and a very active social life, there was no time for anything else and i must have missed many opportunities for self.for education, job and awareness. Life seemed to be so complete that i became quite complacent for personal growth...
And when children grew up a little, they always wanted ME only everywhere, whether it was their lunch time or home work or anything else, and then  sometime i wanted some me time..Like whenever I used to go for my annual trips I would ask my children and hubby not to even call me:) because if I didnt pick the phone they would get angry with me, so i wanted to be free of all expectations..it was liberating to feel NOT NEEDED...But my children and hubby used to keep tab on my travelling time, safety and everything..they will call me before I left, once in the middle of journey and then when I reached safely, they will be relieved..and I think somewhere deep inside me I liked that feeling of being cared:)..
Because today when children have become busy in their own world,they neither have time nor inclination to keep track that much, I miss that...
Its human tendency that what we get we dont like, but miss it when it is not there,( thank God my husband still  keeps track of me, wherever I go).
Its called life cycle, where sometimes you like it if you are not needed, and sometimes you want to feel that you are needed


Friday, November 30, 2012

Celestine Prophecy..James redfield

This was the book I reading, it tells you a lot what is said in our culture like waves, current passing thru people or like yoga, where if one concentrates, one can channelise the energy into a powerful tool which can do lot many things.And one's behaviour is decided  equally by environment and understanding.

The story is about eleven insights in manuscript found in a church and church people dont want them to be known, so they sabotage every effort from the scientists and explorers to read them, and understand them. Church thinks that their autonomy will be affected, if people start believing the insights.

The book tells us that there are no coincidences in life, they are always insights, its upto us to understand, where they want to take us or what they want to tell us.Only aware people recognise them.

The best thing i liked is that they say that  if we talk to a plant and take care personally, it grows better and its fruits are more nutritious than others..think if a little love and care can do this to a plant what about humans?

The insights explain everything of human behaviour and natural phenomenas..interesting ideas, but would have been better if they were incorporated in an interesting story, its a very dry read and heavy too.

So for light reading I read SKY IS FALLING and ARE YOU AFRAID OF DARK...by Sydney Sheldon, both in his signature style.and better. Earlier I stopped reading him when I found that there were more intimate explicit descriptions than story, but these two are totally different, full of continuous happenings and no sleaze.
Picture courtesy.Flipcart

Saturday, November 24, 2012

Dreams for everyone but...

We always dream for a good education, good spouse, good job, big house, bigger car, children's education and  marriage, their future, our retirement...and always plan for everything, but have you heard anybody planning  about the upkeep of his/her parents in old age? And thats the reason  that many children, though loving and good get fed up of their parents..yes you are reading right..I see many people getting irritated with their parents and secretly wishing  them away and then living in guilt. Most of the people always thing about the problem, but if they think about the solution may be they can get it.
Now when the life expectancy is increasing and sometimes one has to look after the parents till one is old oneself, or we can say for long time its not unusual to get fed up..because when children take long time in getting settled or getting jobs, parents also ridicule them, scold them and call names..but since they are parents they dont offend anyone, but children disrespecting their parents offend many's sensibilities because our society favours the old.and it is not good also..
So what is the solution.....
First thing as soon as we start earning we must ear mark a small amount aside every month for the parents, it will come handy to those who feel financially constrained.
Get your parents health insurance at an early age, its very helpful.
Whether you live with them or not, provide them with all the basic requirements..healthy fresh food, neat clothes to wear and a safe roof over their head,, but draw a line, dont let them interfere with your life.You live your life they way you want to , and then you will never get frustrated with parents.
Spend some time (regularly)with them.talking about something which is pleasant to them or they like..rest of the time you spend as you like .
If you have  parents who are semi invalid,.and you need to go out and have a good social life,then keep a help with them, you may economise somewhere else but  not here.and enjoy without a guilt..
Never ever be disrespectful to them or let your spouse be....
If they are capable, encourage them to have their own circle and help them in maintaining that, dont grudge it..

Last but not the least.....its our duty and a great debt of our parents and we must not hesitate in repaying that..its upto us whether we make it a burden or joy.




Monday, November 19, 2012

OH MY GOD

This movie has taken a totally new viewpoint and thats the USP here andAkshay totally shines as Krishna,The God. Movie is short and crisp and it  tries to preach people about working hard and be aware of those god man and woman who run religion like business.
liked it.

EK THA TIGER
Its like a James bond in Hindi..no..I think its better than that. Very nice movie with beautiful locations. Though initial chase reminds me of Bourne Identity and later on fights remind me of some other English movies, but everything is filmed very nicely and its a delight to watch.
Loved it.

Cocktail
Usual menage troi..these situations are bound to arrive with modern permissive society, and many more hearts will be broken..Saif and Deepika live together , saif considers her friend, but she falls in love. Saif loves Diana penty....I didnt like Diana penty at all, found to be the weak point here..very boring movie..
hated it.

Bol Bacchan
:First Rohit shetty movie which is so boring, though all his movies have slapstick comedy, but make some sense...Abhishek is looking ugly and acts horribly. Prachi desai is looking sweet.
Boring

Rowdy Rathore
A very 70's type movie with violent villains, lawless village and all, but treated with comic style, it works.and Akshay and Sonakshi  both look good and are a treat to watch.
Liked it.


Friday, November 16, 2012

Never


“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” 

Today as soon as I opened my inbox, I saw this quote sent by one of my good friend...This is a good quote for moral boosting,but I find it practically very impossible to follow...There are certain relationships in life , where whatever you do for them, you will always be an option only for them, never a priority..but you yourself are so bound by your love or we can call it ..mayamoh in Hindi...that they will always remain a priority to you.....

and we cant change that too, because changing the status quo will mean destroying that relationship, because relationships which are acquired, not blood related are very fragile..,They may cement over long time, but only if both the sides realise their importance, otherwise they remain just like that..a facade..which is if well maintained, life is smooth......otherwise full of friction and bitterness.....

so we cant be prudent here, instead it pays to be emotional:)....and I always believe that god has the best bank..where whatever you deposit you get back multiplied many times..the only thing is you may not get from the same person or area, it may be some other source, but you are nevr left alone...

and so I will say make anyone your priority, even if you are only a option to them, if it makes you happy, never feel that you are being taken for granted..or why nobody acknowledges the good done by you.,because people are very small and inconsequential, why bother about their acknowledgement, God always notices everything and his computer is very accurate...his ways are strange ,but best...

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Person first

sometimes I wonder why I cant separate any one's professional life from personal one.Like I cant appreciate anyone professionally unless I feel that he/she is a good human being with good character. And once someone goes down that way, nothing can redeem him/her in my eyes. In that way all my reviews of actors are biased, because I always see the person first than work.

And the same happens to me in my all relationships.everybody has to have that humanity to get my love respect, otherwise however i may want but I cant..even if someone may care for me a lot....what is the problem with me?..even in blogging world, I have to like the person in that blogger to like the content or atleast somewhere their persona affects me..

is it the same with everybody or me only?

Friday, November 2, 2012

KARVACHAUTH

Today is karvachauth.. a day of pampering for woman..This is one day when I like to buy lots of red bangles and wear them.Most of the women get lot of gifts.from husband, mother, MIL and if old enough like me, from DIL too...all depends on what type of family members you have:)..That way I am very lucky, Even if by mistake I say that I like something or I want something, be it my husband or my DIL or my son or daughter, they will get it, so for fear of having too many things, I never show my liking for anything when I do window shopping...
I love doing all things associated with festivals and nevr question why me, why not husband, because it makes me feel special. I celebrate my womanhood, instead of trying to change a man into woman and myself trying to be a man.No i am happy as a woman..I love getting attention from my hubby and me making special food for him.

May The Sindoor,
Testify Your Prayers,
The Mangal Sutra Reminds You Of,
The Promises That Binds You.both
And The Color Of Mehndi,
Prove The Depth Of Your Love.to each other
On This Blessed Night,
May The Jingling Of Churis,
Fill Your Life With Good Luck,
The Twinkling Of Payal,
Announce Your LoveFor Him ,and his for you

May The Moon Light,
Flood Your Life With,
Happiness & Joy,
Peace & Harmony.
Happy Karwa Chauth..!!

These above lines , I have takeN from internet only, not written by me:)

Friday, October 26, 2012

some inspiring thoughts


Written by a 90 year old.   This is something we should all read at least once a week!!!!! Make sure you read to the end!!!!!!

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio.

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.  It is the most-requested column I've ever written.



My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1.  Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2.  When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3.  Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4.  Your job won't take care of you when you are sick.  Your friends and parents will.  Stay in touch.

5.  Pay off your credit cards every month.

6.  You don't have to win every argument.  Agree to disagree.

7.  Cry with someone.  It's more healing than crying alone.

8.  It's OK to get angry with God.  He can take it.

9.  Save for retirement starting with your first pay cheque.

10.  When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11.  Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12.  It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13.  Don't compare your life to others.  You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14.  If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15.  Everything can change in the blink of an eye.  But don't worry; God never blinks.

16.  Take a deep breath.  It calms the mind.

17.  Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

18.  Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger..

19.  It's never too late to have a happy childhood.  But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20.  When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21.  Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear your new clothes.  Don't save it for a special occasion.  Today is special.

22.  Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23.  Be eccentric now.  Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24.  The most important sex organ is the brain.

25.  No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26.  Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'

27.  Always choose life.

28.  Forgive everyone everything.

29.  What other people think of you is none of your business.

30.  Time heals almost everything.  Give time time.

31.  However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32.  Don't take yourself so seriously.  No one else does.

33.  Believe in miracles.

34.  God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35.  Don't audit life.  Show up and make the most of it now.

36.  Growing old beats the alternative - dying young.

37.  Your children get only one childhood.

38.  All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39.  Get outside every day.  Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40.  If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

41.  Envy is a waste of time.  You already have all you need.

42.  The best is yet to come.

43.  No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44.  Yield.

45.  Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."
Have a great life ahead ..

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

How Opal mehta Got kissed got wild and got life

This novel is by Kavya Vishwanathan,a very young author and has a fresh and funny approach. This is the story of a young Gujarati girl of affluent educated parents settled in New Jersey.Since she is the only daughter they have pinned all their hopes on her getting into Harvard.She is an extraordinarily intelligent student, so it shouldnt be tough for her. But in the interview for admission, she is asked to get a social life, because they want rounded individuals,not automatons, and she is shocked because so far she was so focused on her goal that she didnt bother about making friends or having fun.And how her parents make a plan to get her popular,make friends and all makes the crux of the story.The way her parents plan every little thing sometimes borders on being ridiculous, but they get desired results.All in all an interesting novel, and for me all books, good or bad leave some teachings and impressions, for this they are--
1-Having fun has different meaning for different people,its not always going to parties, wearing
fashionable clothes, for some fun could be in solving physics formula also.
2--If one focuses one's mind on anything,nothing is impossible to achieve, only a well planned
and continuous effort is required.
3--parents should not burden their children with their over expectations and let the children
image courtesy..wikipedia.org
decide their own choices.

Friday, October 19, 2012

guidelines for elders..

This is a tongue in cheek post:)

I keep reading everywhere that why there are all the instructions and protocol for the children,and  why not any one for elders , so i thought why not? lets have one which will appeal to them, and as it is giving advice, comes so easily to us Indians.....ask anyone whenever a match is lost..everybody must be telling you how the strategy of the captain was wrong, and how the batsman didnt cut the ball, and how the fielder lost the catch..so easy to play the game sitting in your drawing room:), its like discussing realistic movies and poverty in India over Champagne and caviar:), so here are the guidelines for parents and elders, take it at your own peril, the product is not guaranteed:)

You are born in this world to take care of your children only, so do it well, dont have any other thing in your mind or life.

A child is an individual by birth , so respect them ..even at the cost of your self respect:)( you shouldnt have any.

Before telling..no telling is a bad word..asking your children to do anything, tell them all the reasons and logic, but of course dont expect them to justify their actions.

Give them all the freedom...This is a free world and you may be sued for slavery, But of course if they do anything wrong..its your responsibility and duty to take care of that.

If they want to take all the decisions of their life without your consent..let them take...they are right , its their life, and dont ever say that...hamaare time me aisa hotatha..times have changed , but remember only for them, not for you--if you ever express a desire to become modern....are you out of your mind?

They have every right to compare you with their friend's parents who...pamper their children silly, give lot of money and freedom, but you have no right to compare them with other children...u r spoiling their personality by continuous comparison.

Dont ever expect anything from them..obedience or anything else......U havent done anything special..all parents do that for their children,They have already given you a lot..by being your children.

If you are extra caring and protective...you are suffocating them, stifling their life, but if you dont, then you are indifferent..you dont care.

You may suppress all your dreams for their future, but they cant kill a single desire for you, as it will be ruining their life for nothing.
and all this for the sake of being called a parent..the word means a person totally selfless and devoted to children. 


List is endless..will keep adding:)



All the above material is fictitious and any resemblance to anyone's life is coincidental only, the writer doesnt take responsibility for that:), read it at your own risk:)

Sunday, October 14, 2012

Why it happens

Why it happens that some people are able to idolise and respect their parents blindly and some question their all actions and try to brand them in rights and wrongs?

Is it because the some parents are really that good and idealistic or is it the perspective of their children?

Why some people owe all their happiness and success to the blessings of their parents whereas other feel that its only because of their own hard work?

Why some people only talk about how great their parents were, whereas others always think where they were wrong, and what all wrong they did to them?

some people say that its only middle class people who always find faults with everyone, whereas those who rise in life, rise above all that....

When i observe others, I find many example of people who idolise their parents, follow some protocols in behaviour are all very successful in life,..may be parents blessings work for them.....

Though i could never be like that,for me it was always that right is right, wrong is wrong, irrespective of the person,...and I always wonder, why I couldnt be like that, why cant i just admire and worship my parents without thinking about the flaws..Am I perfect?..when i compromise in so many things, why couldnt I do that for my parents?......what is it in life that brings such devotion?..does this have something to do with parents or children?.
.Lots of questions but no answers..can anybody help me find them?

Friday, October 12, 2012

APPENZELL

When i was in Zurich, one day we went to Appenzell..its the best of Switzerland.specially the drive.vast green spaces, all well maintained..lots of trekking trails. And all that we used to see in Yash chopra movies:) all houses are decorated with murals or fresco.Its a small village full of beautiful landscapes.

this was the revolving table set on the road with wine bottles.

We parked the car and took a stroll in the bylanes of the village.Then my littleone got attracted to the soap bubbles in air and I was thinking ,from where it is coming,then I saw that on the top of a souvenir shop there is a toy joker continuously dispensing soap bubbles.

Best thing about Europe is the cobbled roads in the city full of cafes and designer merchandise.Its heavenly to walk and see and eat....It looks like people have no work there, they just enjoy life.but its not so. I think they believe in..work hard and party harder.

First time I saw cattles grazing,otherwise i never see animals in the open anywhere.

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

LONG DUE--DONE BELATEDLY:)

Thanks Shalom for this premio award ! And I feel realy honoured as this award is about "acknowledging the values that every blogger shows in his/her effort to transmit cultural, ethical, literary and personal values every day." Wow ! And when I think of values..Shalom is the first one who comes to my mind, in all my posts, I have seen her comments always advocating the right thing but since she has herself given it to me....I would like to give it to---Gappa,HHG,destination Infinity and Mardhi Manini and Amrita.

Now This one brings a broad smile to my face..... Thank You Amrita ! feels nice to be loved by a fellow Chennaite:) and the feeling is cordially reciprocated with a big hug:), its a christmas gift to me and here are no rules:), so I wud like to give it to........
Deeply dip......I just love ur stylogue, my daily dose:).
Cess; I love ur MMJ:)
Maddy; I like ur pictures very much:).
Nidhie : I like reading the serious topics here.











Thank You Pixie..for giving me not one, but two awards at a time,This is the first Cup of my life:) Thank you Deeplydip for being my Santa ! I am starting my new year with so beautiful gifts. and i would like to spread this cheer to everybody, so no names here:)





Thank u my dear friends...,Nancy,Starry and Pixie, feels like a family to me:) , I have received this award from reflections for my food blog...Meri Rasoi ( means my Kitchen) and its exactly that. I write everything as I prepare it.
This award is given to a blog that invests and believes in PROXIMITY - nearness in space, time and relationships! These blogs are exceedingly charming. These kind bloggers aim to find and be friends. They are not interested in prizes or self-aggrandizement. Our hope is that when the ribbons of these prizes are cut, even more friendships are propagated. Please give more attention to these writers! Deliver this award to eight bloggers who must choose eight more and include this cleverly-written text into the body of their award."
It makes me feel really good as thats the aim of my blog.
So I would like to deliver it to
Shalom
Sanmerci
Aneri-masi
My space
Swat
Frankly speaking.
JP
Rebel








Thanx Deeplydip , Your Stylogue is the one I turn to, when i need some fresh air:)








I was awarded with this award...cool blog..by Deeplydips.. on 29th Nov.It was a birth day gift to me( as mine falls on 30th. Appreciaion always works as inspiration to me to be regular on my blog,Thank you Deeplydip for liking my blog !



The Rules are:



1. Put the logo on your blog
2. Add a link to the person who awarded you.
3. Nominate 10 other blogs.
4. Add links to those blogs on yours.
5. Leave a message for your nominees on their blogs.
PJ
Starry nights
A
Pixie
Manasa
suku
ISH
Sukku
SR

























































































































and Tulip and Mishti..though presently both of them are absent in the blog world










Then on 10th Dec. I got this award from Shalom.....and on 13th by Starry nights and on 16th Dec. by Pixie for my Anoobhooti .This award is given to a blog that invests and believes in PROXIMITY – nearness in space, time and relationships! These blogs are exceedingly charming. These kind bloggers aim to find and be friends. They are not interested in prizes or self-aggrandizement. Our hope is that when the ribbons of these prizes are cut, even more friendships are propagated. Please give more attention to these writers!
Deliver this award to eight bloggers who must choose eight more and include this cleverly-written text into the body of their award.




















And now this Christmas gift from Amrita;;....she has really spread cheer and happiness in my life, its...



Faith makes all things possible;



Hope makes all things work but



love is the only thing which makes all things beautiful.










I would like to spread it to everybody, all the blogs on my blog roll, they are there because I love to read them and want to read them.










And then 2 awards from Pixie: a cup and a placquard for world peace.......I never won any cup in my life...so one more wish granted to me by her:), Thank u Pixie!



And here is my Santa again...from Deeplydip.......A CUP .....now my cup of cheer is full, brimming with joy and gratefulness for all my blogger friends.



I would like to give it to Sukku, Monika.Ajit



Now its a long list to link and inform, so please bear with me with a smile and take it from here, in case I am not able to inform formally to each and everyone



THANKS !







































Monday, October 8, 2012

TV UPDATE

Recently I saw Ishkjaade,,though its not new..but I liked it, so want to share it..When i see some new actors and good at their craft, I feel that older lot should make way for new ones. Some old heroes like..Sharukh, Akshay, Ajay, Sanjay...all look so haggard and jaded, same for the heroines, and then on top of that oldies like sridevi..Madhuri, karishma, Raveena, they all want to come back....why spoil their image in the minds of viewers...

I like Parineeti very much, she is so natural ,like a fresh breeze...Only minus point in this movie was cliche end..why cant they show a new beginning..I have seen the umpteen movies where Hindu Muslim love cant conquer, except in Bombay.I would have preferred to see some progressive thinking here.... Gohar Khan as the dancer, is so adorable. Arjun kapoor is Ok.

Now a days I am getting addicted to Grey's Anatomy, and  another of my favourite is coming here..ACCORDING TO JIM..its a wonderful comedy.I love it.

And this time Bigboss has taken a very eclectic mix of people and quite interesting too and removed Sanjay dutt as anchor, he was such a spoiler last time, so may be I could watch that too..

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Loving and Living together...

Everyone thinks that if we live with the people we love, life would be a bliss, But it is not always so. There is a big difference in loving and living together.

I am not saying it in context to spouses only...Normally it looks like if we love someone, living together would be right, enjoyable and fun. But in my opinion its not always so.one may love so many people, and some a lot,but  living with them 24 hours..may be still difficult.... Because love comes from heart , but living together needs different type of synchronisation, similarities and adjustments.and practicality.

Living together and in harmony needs a lot of practical compromises, sharing of space,finances privacy and work.and lot of etiquette.. and as everything in life it has its own pros and cons, but there are more pros.....
It makes one a better human being, brings more patience in a person and makes you care for others....sometimes more than yourself.



Friday, September 28, 2012

continuation

People always think that family comes first and in so many proverbs also it is said that job and office will not be there for you, its only family who will be there in times of crisis.

But I disagree a little here, I think there wouldnt be any family, if one doesnt have a job...and neglecting one's profession, which gives him all that bread, butter and jam and respect, will not get a happy family.

Its the balance which matters, and if family comes first, then would you like if..

someone close to you is sick and all doctors are celebrating festival...

Will you be safe if Army people start being with their family all the time?

can you travel peacefully if all the traffic policeman want to be with their family on festivals....it can go on...

All essential services need commitment, and all these people do their jobs on all days irrespective of festivals or anything..do they love their family any  less than others? ..NO..only difference is that they are committed individuals with high regard for their professions..the way it should be...
One must choose the profession with lot of consideration and then be honest with it...And I respect those who do it...everybody cant be an idealist, but we can aspire to be atleast, the way we aspire for material things.

Thursday, September 27, 2012

what do you think?

Recently one of my friend was telling me how much his son cares for them..like this one time she had a little skin problem..nothing much, but  his son got to know and he immediately  cancelled all his appointments .he is a doctor..and took her to a specialist, got all the tests done and all that, and as usual my mind started thinking..was that good on his part...what about his patients? dont they have any rights or wouldnt they be left in the lurch? shouldnt everybody have some responsibility professionally too....

My take is that one should leave the professional responsibilities only when life is at stake, for all rest of the things family should be adjusted..and i respect those people who take their professions seriously or justify every penny they take......

what do you think?

Saturday, September 22, 2012

ZURICH

First time i saw Zurich, it was in 79, I was very young..just 23 and with a small child. That time i just saw it as one of places among my hubby's itinerary. But by the time I made next trip...the child had grown to be a young man and I had read all those Ludlum novels where all the action happens on Limmat quay or banhofstrasse.

Zurich is one of the most beautiful, vibrant and fashionable city I have seen. Most of the people vote for Manhattan, but I like Zurich more,    I love walking down cobbled roads in the old town full of designer shops and in between one could fine one with beautiful affordable things too.This is the only place where I saw men in suit going on a cycle..women with Prada and Louis Vuitton travelling in metro..And most of the people dress fashionably most of the time,not in casuals. Cafeteria are full of people leisurely enjoying their coffee.

Iscon temple
Jelmoli is one of the main luxury store in the most popular street..banhofstrasse.and in their food section, when i went to buy Falafal, I was surprised to see the attendant speaking fluent Hindi..He told me that he had a Sardarji with him who taught him, but to learn such typical Hindi words, it was amazing.Then there is this Hltl restaurant where one can get all Indian food, there we had buffet in 56 chf, and one got an awesome variety of Indian food, including kachori, samosa and then Mediterranean and Chinese too, otherwise one could fill plate with all one wanted and they would weigh and charge.I like the Mexican food at Papa Joes, its very yummy..everything ..and then Movenpick icecream..in 4.5 chf its a treat..I loved the flavour..caramelato.

Papa joes

Zurich airport
On Janmashtami we went to Iscon temple and there was a big crowd of Indians, and Iscon devotees were dressed in Indian way and they prapared all the Indian dishes and then some of theirs with Indian touch like Pizza, tart and all with vegetarian ingredients...

Monday, September 17, 2012

Emirates

I havent blogged for last 2 months, and i am sorry that i could nt reply to the comments even.I was in Zurich with my children and with my grand child I couldnt do anything else:)..now slowly I will catchup on all the blogs and all the other things.
I started my journey by Emirates, so i shall start with them only. I had heard so much about it from everybody, infact everyone appreciates them, so I was intrigued. Yes there service is good in the sense that they have more no of attendants and they come pronto..they dont go away and rest all the time as in some airlines they do.Secondly they serve nimbu paani as soon as we are set..this is my biggest requirement, because  a lot of time passes in checking, security and boarding and I am parched.
Their stock on entertainment was mind boggling..lots of movies,..
Food section, I didnt like, most of the time choice of items is wrong and secondly with buns they serve either butter or jam, I think both are needed plus yogurt is a must for vegetarians.
Rest everything was fine, they were always punctual and i had a pleasant landing.

Saw Dubai airport..and i was surprised that though its near home and many people spoke hindi, there was no Indian restaurant or cuisine available.It is a shopping destination, so has lot of shops, I didnt buy anything, but their local perfumes were quite reasanable..10$ for 100 ml.but in other things I didnt find rates any better..

Thursday, July 19, 2012

Are you rich then....


When I saw ..DIL DOSTI ETC... wondered why the movies which are called realistic are like this and Page 3 also  always show ...

Rich man as philandering husbands,

Rich mothers without any morals always embarrassing their children with their promiscuity,

Rich fathers encouraging their daughters to go up in life leaving the morality behind.

Rich boys taking physical relationships very casually,

Middle class bearing the brunt of being backward,

Morals and values being derided by rich and upheld only by not so rich

So is there a connection between being rich and immoral?

Cant we have both..values and money?

Is really all rich are like that?...I hate to believe that.


But If all above is true then upper class society is totally decadent ....I am happy being a middle class genuinely..not one of those who get rich without values and then shout at the top..I have my middle class values intact:)

I have a firm belief that...

Beauty and brains can be together,

Money and character are not antonyms, but the qualities can go together,

Not all poor are ethical, nice and kind, nor all rich are cruel and dishonest.

The way rich people are shown in the movies...nobody could admire them, but i admire, TatasBirlasMurthys.....I refuse to believe that with money, vices come naturally.



What do you think?

Sunday, July 15, 2012

SOCIAL JUSTICE

In last few year we had manyincidents where politicians had realtion ship with other women and they were murdered like Bhanwari devi, Madhumita and many more. Most of the time its always the politicians who are blamed for everything, but in todays world a consensual relation puts the onus on both of them and in some case even on the husband of the involved women , as he supports this menage troi for the greed of money..Amarmani and his wife were even  convicted for the murder of MadhumitaLet me tell you a little about the case if you dont know that Amarmani was a minister in Mulayamsingh;s cabinet and Madhumita was a poetess and his mistress.Murder is a very gruesome crime and the person perpetrating it should be given harsh punishment, but I think that Madhumita also gets some blame for her character and greed. What happens that whever an upcoming(in life or society) young girl gets close to an influential and rich person, she brushes aside everything; morals, character and the concern about others. She compromises on everything to reach the uppercrust of society and when she gets there, then her amnesia goes and she wants all other things also.And we have this habit of supporting havenots even in their greed...otherwise morals shouldnt differ between rich and poor..When Madhumati had relations with Amarmani, it was not that she was kept in dark about his matrimonial status, but still she started the relationship with scant regard for society, or about his family, without thinking that in this process of self gratification she is hurting some innocent people-his wife and children.But when
She conceived , on basis of that she started demanding the status of wife.
I feel that in the above situation both are equally responsible for the situation, and none should be maligned, but our society being what it is always condemns the rich, so what Amarmani does -he plans her murder with the help of his wife.And in the process whole family is ruined,including two young kids. If we change our mindsets, and in any compromising situation between two consenting adults, we dont start any blaming or defaming game, there wont be the need for any one to think of going to the extreme of murdering.I am not condoning the murder, but as an aware citizen its our responsiblity to see where the problem lies.

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Annual trip

Today i am flying to  Zurich. This the first time I am taking Emirates, , lets see how it is.So far I have taken AI,Lufthansa,BA an AA and I found Lufthansa best. From Chennai all flights take almost the same time.And this( Emirates) is quite good in that respect while going from here..Its Dubai from here and then Zurich. and baggage allowance is also good.
As such I am only a housewife in common parlance, but the amount of settlements and arrangements I have to do before leaving....there is no limit..check everything, from fridge to groceries, all should be enough but not too much to get spoiled, specially in Chennai'weather. I always like to do everything in advance, dont like last minute work, but this time due to lot of constraints, I am compelled to do everything today only:)..so friends I am going to hurry and worry:)

Sunday, July 8, 2012

AGNIPATH....I saw this movie and couldnt sit thru..dont understand how could people like it, may be this generation who is watching it for the first time. The same happened to me with RA ONE and DON2...I couldnt watch them...

Remakes should be some thing like Rajshrees made Nadiya ke paar in Ham aapke ha kaun..the same story but treatment was so different and even today I can watch both of them any no of times.

Ladies VS Ricky Behal..This is a con movie where hero cons 3 girls and then they set up a con for him, but is he really conned.The high light of this movie is Parineeti Chopra, she is a delight to watch and then the scenery of Goa.

Friends with Benefit...Very light and entertaining movie..here also I liked Mila Kunis more than Justin Timberlake..she is a natural.

The Lincoln Lawyer:..its about a lawyer who will defend even criminals for money, but once he realises that he has jailed an innocent and a wealthy person is trying to manipulate him to beat the system, then he changes his course..Matthew conaughey is just awesome to watch...

How to loose a guy in 10 days..I saw it just for Matthew Conaughey and he didnt dissappoint me:).

Life as we know it...Two strangers get a custody of an orphaned girl child when her parents die in an accident and make them guardian..Entertaining romantic comedy.and Katherine Heigl looks very sweet..

Tried watching Dangerous Ishq and Tere Naal Love Ho Gaya..but couldnt:(

Thursday, July 5, 2012

Mahabharata..one imp quote

Yudhishthira--How might a man overcome difficulties?

Bheeshma--never practice deceit.
Behave with restraint, control all worldly desires.
Do not speak when addressed in foul language,
do not injure others;
give, rather than take.
Do not sin in thought,word or deed, never harm any creature.
Always speak the truth even though your life may be at stake.
Speak words which are agreable,always spend your wealth well.
Bow to all gods,listen to the doctrines of all creeds, have faith