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I saw English Vinglish with so much expectations , but was disappointed, I think everybody knows the story, so I shall tell you what I noticed..

I never endorse the view that those who know English are better off and more intelligent, because English is only a language, they know one more language, nowhere it becomes equal to poise, confidence, styling , affection,intelligence, everything as if its a Alaadin ka chirag. Sreedevi is shown as clumsy,unappealing housewife who is brusque with her husband, never affectionate..and according to her nobody respects her..( I dont give much importance to her teenage daughter, because many children feel that way but if tackled properly they change, I feel that its her upbringing too which is at fault).

and then she learns English and suddenly she becomes a diva. smart(starts wearing trench coats instead of shawl), gets oodles of confidence, and people start respecting her..gets accolades from everyone( her husband always appreciates her cooking …


In all the relationships this the one which is the backbone of every relationship in life, because its mother only WHO moulds the personality of an individual into what he becomes when he is grown up, so if one tries to be a good and efficient mother, many other problems of future are solved.and since mothers are adulated so much, itys time they took the responsibility also for the wrong doing s of their wards..Nobody can be a good mother by just pampering and providing for all the whims of their children.Mothering means giving them a good foundation with good values..... Of course there is no fixed formula for that, and it depends on person to person and circumstances, still if few basic things are maintained lot of work is done

when the kids are young that is time to start their education for discipline and moral values and better if its done through practice. At this time we can make their foundations strong with our love and model behaviour. Children always imbibe their elders.…


 This is a translation from Tamil by Gowri Ramnarayan.The stories are from old era, written in the same way as Premchand wrote in Hindi.The situations at that time were very different and morals very high, but there were all sort of people too.But all stories tell us about some ideal.first is about girl education, where a girl lost the love of her life because she couldnt read, and so she studied  and devoted her life to girl's education.Then there is one about untouchability, child marriage etc.
Nice read.

Shobha dey writes in her style about life after sixty.Its a sort of management guide for woman written in a simple and interesting way.Some very simple solutions for complicated problems, though i am sceptical of them working.As is common with all the people who have everything, they say they like simple things and they work from them, cant believe how much of that is true and how much just to make an image. But some ideas ar…


Lately where ever i see there is a huge cry for justice for that unfortunate girl in Delhi. Govt is so pressurised from everyone that they are promising all help in treatment.Everybody is so disgusted that they want castration or death to the rapist..
But nobody is looking for any long term solutions, In dont think that only stern punishment can deter the others. And so many times rapes are not reported, people are not caught even.I always think that the men who did this, they are also the brothers, and sons, how their families feel? and what type of mother they have to have brought up such a son..
We need to bring back the values in life..
All the women need to bring up their children with certain moral values and for that they need to live those ones.
When the children watch everything, families never bother
. When children speak wrong language, they are just brushed off.
.Nobody becomes a pervert or criminal just one fine day, the signs are there for the families to see , but they…


For a long time I wanted to read something by.Chitra Bannerjee Divakaruni, so when i got hold of this book, I coudnt stop myself, and this is very interesting, I couldnt do anything till I finished.In the story Rakhi is an Indian born in US and living there .Her mother is a dream teller(sort of clairvoyance).She was a poor orphan in the slums of Calcutta, where one dream teller saw her gift and took her under her wing,They taught her everything about dream telling and controlling their dreams, their interpretation and helping others through them. But for this special gift, she was supposed to live a lonely life,no marriage and not even talking much.But she falls in love and leaves the sect and goes with him to US.and in the bargain looses here special gift.But then at sometime she becomes restless without her dreams and longs for them back in her life, so she secretly works and collects money for the ticket back to her sect.and just when she is ready, she finds that she is pregnant.a…


Strasbourg is the capital of Alsace region in eastern France.We went driving over there from Zurich.its two and a half hour drive. The city is just after crossing the border of Switzerland.With a small child wherever we went , we could start only around 11 or 12 and then as soon as you start lunch time is there. Since we were in a hurry to reach, we thought of picking Pizza from Migros and started our journey.My grandchild A is totally averse to sitting in the car seat and so after some time, he just started howling, whatever we did nothing made him happy, so my son stopped the car at one place and  walked him on the roadside and he was happy:).We reached around 2 , then took the hotel, kept the luggage there and started towards the city.

The main area is around cathedral. So we looked for a parking space some where, and this is the biggest work look for a parking , ultimately my son dropped us at a cafe and went away to park.Like most of the other cities, this is also loca…

Derive happiness from your work, not from the things

I got this as email fwd but the feelings expressed are exactly mine and expresses much better than I ever could, specially the last line.......derive happiness from your work not from the things...

'The Blunt Truth about Making Millions', Article by Adam Khoo, Singapore 's youngest millionaire. 'Some of you may already know that I travel around the region pretty frequently, having to visit and conduct seminars at my offices in Malaysia, Indonesia, Thailand and Suzhou (China). I am in the airport almost every other week so I get to bump into many people who have attended my seminars or have read my books.

Recently, someone came up to me on a plane to KL and looked rather shocked. He asked, 'How come a millionaire like you is travelling economy?' My reply was, 'That's why I am a millionaire. ' He still looked pretty confused. This again confirms that greatest lie ever told about wealth (which I wrote about in my latest book 'Secrets of Self Made Milli…

Mumbaistan..Piush Jha

This time my daughter on my bday gifted me the membership of this book borrow and this is the first book I read. It has three about a girl rabia who is aLeT terrorist, and Tanveer a small time criminal who is blackmailed by ACP to work for police against terrorists.
Second story is about organ trading, exploitation of dalits and their revenge.
Third story is about a man in coma..and this is the most interesting one. All the stories are about deceit, betrayal, corruption and crime.written in a day to day language  it is interesting to read as it is a thriller.
But I want something more from any book, something to learn, something new to know or some good language, some insight into anything, anyone, sadly its none of that.

Second book i demanded was..Secrets of i had heard a lot about this trilogy from Amish Tripathi, but didnt like it, its a sort of metaphorical story...I didnt enjoy reading about Shiv Sati and other divine charact…

Life cycle

When I was young and had two children and a very active social life, there was no time for anything else and i must have missed many opportunities for self.for education, job and awareness. Life seemed to be so complete that i became quite complacent for personal growth...
And when children grew up a little, they always wanted ME only everywhere, whether it was their lunch time or home work or anything else, and then  sometime i wanted some me time..Like whenever I used to go for my annual trips I would ask my children and hubby not to even call me:) because if I didnt pick the phone they would get angry with me, so i wanted to be free of all was liberating to feel NOT NEEDED...But my children and hubby used to keep tab on my travelling time, safety and everything..they will call me before I left, once in the middle of journey and then when I reached safely, they will be relieved..and I think somewhere deep inside me I liked that feeling of being cared:)..
Because to…

Celestine Prophecy..James redfield

This was the book I reading, it tells you a lot what is said in our culture like waves, current passing thru people or like yoga, where if one concentrates, one can channelise the energy into a powerful tool which can do lot many things.And one's behaviour is decided  equally by environment and understanding.

The story is about eleven insights in manuscript found in a church and church people dont want them to be known, so they sabotage every effort from the scientists and explorers to read them, and understand them. Church thinks that their autonomy will be affected, if people start believing the insights.

The book tells us that there are no coincidences in life, they are always insights, its upto us to understand, where they want to take us or what they want to tell us.Only aware people recognise them.

The best thing i liked is that they say that  if we talk to a plant and take care personally, it grows better and its fruits are more nutritious than others..think if a little lo…

Dreams for everyone but...

We always dream for a good education, good spouse, good job, big house, bigger car, children's education and  marriage, their future, our retirement...and always plan for everything, but have you heard anybody planning  about the upkeep of his/her parents in old age? And thats the reason  that many children, though loving and good get fed up of their parents..yes you are reading right..I see many people getting irritated with their parents and secretly wishing  them away and then living in guilt. Most of the people always thing about the problem, but if they think about the solution may be they can get it.
Now when the life expectancy is increasing and sometimes one has to look after the parents till one is old oneself, or we can say for long time its not unusual to get fed up..because when children take long time in getting settled or getting jobs, parents also ridicule them, scold them and call names..but since they are parents they dont offend anyone, but children disrespectin…


This movie has taken a totally new viewpoint and thats the USP here andAkshay totally shines as Krishna,The God. Movie is short and crisp and it  tries to preach people about working hard and be aware of those god man and woman who run religion like business.
liked it.

Its like a James bond in think its better than that. Very nice movie with beautiful locations. Though initial chase reminds me of Bourne Identity and later on fights remind me of some other English movies, but everything is filmed very nicely and its a delight to watch.
Loved it.

Usual menage troi..these situations are bound to arrive with modern permissive society, and many more hearts will be broken..Saif and Deepika live together , saif considers her friend, but she falls in love. Saif loves Diana penty....I didnt like Diana penty at all, found to be the weak point here..very boring movie..
hated it.

Bol Bacchan
:First Rohit shetty movie which is so boring, though all his movies ha…


“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” 
Today as soon as I opened my inbox, I saw this quote sent by one of my good friend...This is a good quote for moral boosting,but I find it practically very impossible to follow...There are certain relationships in life , where whatever you do for them, you will always be an option only for them, never a priority..but you yourself are so bound by your love or we can call it ..mayamoh in Hindi...that they will always remain a priority to you.....
and we cant change that too, because changing the status quo will mean destroying that relationship, because relationships which are acquired, not blood related are very fragile..,They may cement over long time, but only if both the sides realise their importance, otherwise they remain just like that..a facade..which is if well maintained, life is smooth......otherwise full of friction and bitterness.....
so we cant be prudent here, instead it pays to be emotion…

Person first

sometimes I wonder why I cant separate any one's professional life from personal one.Like I cant appreciate anyone professionally unless I feel that he/she is a good human being with good character. And once someone goes down that way, nothing can redeem him/her in my eyes. In that way all my reviews of actors are biased, because I always see the person first than work.

And the same happens to me in my all relationships.everybody has to have that humanity to get my love respect, otherwise however i may want but I cant..even if someone may care for me a lot....what is the problem with me?..even in blogging world, I have to like the person in that blogger to like the content or atleast somewhere their persona affects me..

is it the same with everybody or me only?


Today is karvachauth.. a day of pampering for woman..This is one day when I like to buy lots of red bangles and wear them.Most of the women get lot of gifts.from husband, mother, MIL and if old enough like me, from DIL too...all depends on what type of family members you have:)..That way I am very lucky, Even if by mistake I say that I like something or I want something, be it my husband or my DIL or my son or daughter, they will get it, so for fear of having too many things, I never show my liking for anything when I do window shopping...
I love doing all things associated with festivals and nevr question why me, why not husband, because it makes me feel special. I celebrate my womanhood, instead of trying to change a man into woman and myself trying to be a man.No i am happy as a woman..I love getting attention from my hubby and me making special food for him.

May The Sindoor,
Testify Your Prayers,
The Mangal Sutra Reminds You Of,
The Promises That Binds You.both
And The Color Of Meh…

some inspiring thoughts

Written by a 90 year old.   This is something we should all read at least once a week!!!!! Make sure you read to the end!!!!!!

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio.

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.  It is the most-requested column I've ever written.

My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1.  Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2.  When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3.  Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4.  Your job won't take care of you when you are sick.  Your friends and parents will.  Stay in touch.

5.  Pay off your credit cards every month.

6.  You don't have to win every argument.  Agree to disagree.

7.  Cry with someone.  It's more healing than crying alone.

8.  It's OK to get angry with God.  He can take it.

9.  Save for retirement starting with your first pay cheque.

10.  When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futil…

How Opal mehta Got kissed got wild and got life

This novel is by Kavya Vishwanathan,a very young author and has a fresh and funny approach. This is the story of a young Gujarati girl of affluent educated parents settled in New Jersey.Since she is the only daughter they have pinned all their hopes on her getting into Harvard.She is an extraordinarily intelligent student, so it shouldnt be tough for her. But in the interview for admission, she is asked to get a social life, because they want rounded individuals,not automatons, and she is shocked because so far she was so focused on her goal that she didnt bother about making friends or having fun.And how her parents make a plan to get her popular,make friends and all makes the crux of the story.The way her parents plan every little thing sometimes borders on being ridiculous, but they get desired results.All in all an interesting novel, and for me all books, good or bad leave some teachings and impressions, for this they are--
1-Having fun has different meaning for different people,…

guidelines for elders..

This is a tongue in cheek post:)

I keep reading everywhere that why there are all the instructions and protocol for the children,and  why not any one for elders , so i thought why not? lets have one which will appeal to them, and as it is giving advice, comes so easily to us Indians.....ask anyone whenever a match is lost..everybody must be telling you how the strategy of the captain was wrong, and how the batsman didnt cut the ball, and how the fielder lost the easy to play the game sitting in your drawing room:), its like discussing realistic movies and poverty in India over Champagne and caviar:), so here are the guidelines for parents and elders, take it at your own peril, the product is not guaranteed:)
You are born in this world to take care of your children only, so do it well, dont have any other thing in your mind or life.
A child is an individual by birth , so respect them ..even at the cost of your self respect:)( you shouldnt have any.
Before telling…

Why it happens

Why it happens that some people are able to idolise and respect their parents blindly and some question their all actions and try to brand them in rights and wrongs?

Is it because the some parents are really that good and idealistic or is it the perspective of their children?

Why some people owe all their happiness and success to the blessings of their parents whereas other feel that its only because of their own hard work?

Why some people only talk about how great their parents were, whereas others always think where they were wrong, and what all wrong they did to them?

some people say that its only middle class people who always find faults with everyone, whereas those who rise in life, rise above all that....

When i observe others, I find many example of people who idolise their parents, follow some protocols in behaviour are all very successful in life,..may be parents blessings work for them.....

Though i could never be like that,for me it was always that right is right, wrong i…


When i was in Zurich, one day we went to Appenzell..its the best of Switzerland.specially the drive.vast green spaces, all well maintained..lots of trekking trails. And all that we used to see in Yash chopra movies:) all houses are decorated with murals or fresco.Its a small village full of beautiful landscapes.

this was the revolving table set on the road with wine bottles.
We parked the car and took a stroll in the bylanes of the village.Then my littleone got attracted to the soap bubbles in air and I was thinking ,from where it is coming,then I saw that on the top of a souvenir shop there is a toy joker continuously dispensing soap bubbles.

Best thing about Europe is the cobbled roads in the city full of cafes and designer merchandise.Its heavenly to walk and see and eat....It looks like people have no work there, they just enjoy life.but its not so. I think they believe hard and party harder.

First time I saw cattles grazing,otherwise i never see animals in the open anywh…


Thanks Shalom for this premio award ! And I feel realy honoured as this award is about "acknowledging the values that every blogger shows in his/her effort to transmit cultural, ethical, literary and personal values every day." Wow ! And when I think of values..Shalom is the first one who comes to my mind, in all my posts, I have seen her comments always advocating the right thing but since she has herself given it to me....I would like to give it to---Gappa,HHG,destination Infinity and Mardhi Manini and Amrita.

Now This one brings a broad smile to my face..... Thank You Amrita ! feels nice to be loved by a fellow Chennaite:) and the feeling is cordially reciprocated with a big hug:), its a christmas gift to me and here are no rules:), so I wud like to give it to........ Deeply dip......I just love ur stylogue, my daily dose:). Cess; I love ur MMJ:) Maddy; I like ur pictures very much:). Nidhie : I like reading the serious topics here.

Thank You Pixie..for giving me not one,…


Recently I saw Ishkjaade,,though its not new..but I liked it, so want to share it..When i see some new actors and good at their craft, I feel that older lot should make way for new ones. Some old heroes like..Sharukh, Akshay, Ajay, Sanjay...all look so haggard and jaded, same for the heroines, and then on top of that oldies like sridevi..Madhuri, karishma, Raveena, they all want to come back....why spoil their image in the minds of viewers...

I like Parineeti very much, she is so natural ,like a fresh breeze...Only minus point in this movie was cliche end..why cant they show a new beginning..I have seen the umpteen movies where Hindu Muslim love cant conquer, except in Bombay.I would have preferred to see some progressive thinking here.... Gohar Khan as the dancer, is so adorable. Arjun kapoor is Ok.

Now a days I am getting addicted to Grey's Anatomy, and  another of my favourite is coming here..ACCORDING TO JIM..its a wonderful comedy.I love it.

And this time Bigboss has taken a…

Loving and Living together...

Everyone thinks that if we live with the people we love, life would be a bliss, But it is not always so. There is a big difference in loving and living together.

I am not saying it in context to spouses only...Normally it looks like if we love someone, living together would be right, enjoyable and fun. But in my opinion its not always may love so many people, and some a lot,but  living with them 24 hours..may be still difficult.... Because love comes from heart , but living together needs different type of synchronisation, similarities and adjustments.and practicality.

Living together and in harmony needs a lot of practical compromises, sharing of space,finances privacy and work.and lot of etiquette.. and as everything in life it has its own pros and cons, but there are more pros.....
It makes one a better human being, brings more patience in a person and makes you care for others....sometimes more than yourself.


People always think that family comes first and in so many proverbs also it is said that job and office will not be there for you, its only family who will be there in times of crisis.

But I disagree a little here, I think there wouldnt be any family, if one doesnt have a job...and neglecting one's profession, which gives him all that bread, butter and jam and respect, will not get a happy family.

Its the balance which matters, and if family comes first, then would you like if..

someone close to you is sick and all doctors are celebrating festival...

Will you be safe if Army people start being with their family all the time?

can you travel peacefully if all the traffic policeman want to be with their family on can go on...

All essential services need commitment, and all these people do their jobs on all days irrespective of festivals or they love their family any  less than others? ..NO..only difference is that they are committed individuals with high…

what do you think?

Recently one of my friend was telling me how much his son cares for this one time she had a little skin problem..nothing much, but  his son got to know and he immediately  cancelled all his appointments .he is a doctor..and took her to a specialist, got all the tests done and all that, and as usual my mind started thinking..was that good on his part...what about his patients? dont they have any rights or wouldnt they be left in the lurch? shouldnt everybody have some responsibility professionally too....

My take is that one should leave the professional responsibilities only when life is at stake, for all rest of the things family should be adjusted..and i respect those people who take their professions seriously or justify every penny they take......

what do you think?


First time i saw Zurich, it was in 79, I was very young..just 23 and with a small child. That time i just saw it as one of places among my hubby's itinerary. But by the time I made next trip...the child had grown to be a young man and I had read all those Ludlum novels where all the action happens on Limmat quay or banhofstrasse.

Zurich is one of the most beautiful, vibrant and fashionable city I have seen. Most of the people vote for Manhattan, but I like Zurich more,    I love walking down cobbled roads in the old town full of designer shops and in between one could fine one with beautiful affordable things too.This is the only place where I saw men in suit going on a cycle..women with Prada and Louis Vuitton travelling in metro..And most of the people dress fashionably most of the time,not in casuals. Cafeteria are full of people leisurely enjoying their coffee.

Iscon temple Jelmoli is one of the main luxury store in the most popular street..banhofstrasse.and in their food sect…


I havent blogged for last 2 months, and i am sorry that i could nt reply to the comments even.I was in Zurich with my children and with my grand child I couldnt do anything else:) slowly I will catchup on all the blogs and all the other things.
I started my journey by Emirates, so i shall start with them only. I had heard so much about it from everybody, infact everyone appreciates them, so I was intrigued. Yes there service is good in the sense that they have more no of attendants and they come pronto..they dont go away and rest all the time as in some airlines they do.Secondly they serve nimbu paani as soon as we are set..this is my biggest requirement, because  a lot of time passes in checking, security and boarding and I am parched.
Their stock on entertainment was mind boggling..lots of movies,..
Food section, I didnt like, most of the time choice of items is wrong and secondly with buns they serve either butter or jam, I think both are needed plus yogurt is a must for vege…

Are you rich then....

When I saw ..DILDOSTI ETC... wondered why the movies which are called realistic are like this and Page 3 also  always show ...
Rich man as philandering husbands,
Rich mothers without any morals always embarrassing their children with their promiscuity,
Rich fathers encouraging their daughters to go up in life leaving the morality behind.
Rich boys taking physical relationships very casually,
Middle class bearing the brunt of being backward,
Morals and values being derided by rich and upheld only by not so rich
So is there a connection between being rich and immoral?
Cant we have both..values and money?
Is really all rich are like that?...I hate to believe that.

But If all above is true then upper class society is totally decadent ....I am happy being a middle class genuinely..not one of those who get rich without values and then shout at the top..I have my middle class values intact:)

I have a firm belief that...

Beauty and brains can be together,

Money and character are not antonyms,…


In last few year we had manyincidents where politicians had realtion ship with other women and they were murdered like Bhanwari devi, Madhumita and many more. Most of the time its always the politicians who are blamed for everything, but in todays world a consensual relation puts the onus on both of them and in some case even on the husband of the involved women , as he supports this menage troi for the greed of money..Amarmani and his wife were even  convicted for the murder of MadhumitaLet me tell you a little about the case if you dont know that Amarmani was a minister in Mulayamsingh;s cabinet and Madhumita was a poetess and his mistress.Murder is a very gruesome crime and the person perpetrating it should be given harsh punishment, but I think that Madhumita also gets some blame for her character and greed. What happens that whever an upcoming(in life or society) young girl gets close to an influential and rich person, she brushes aside everything; morals, character and the conce…

Annual trip

Today i am flying to  Zurich. This the first time I am taking Emirates, , lets see how it is.So far I have taken AI,Lufthansa,BA an AA and I found Lufthansa best. From Chennai all flights take almost the same time.And this( Emirates) is quite good in that respect while going from here..Its Dubai from here and then Zurich. and baggage allowance is also good.
As such I am only a housewife in common parlance, but the amount of settlements and arrangements I have to do before leaving....there is no limit..check everything, from fridge to groceries, all should be enough but not too much to get spoiled, specially in Chennai'weather. I always like to do everything in advance, dont like last minute work, but this time due to lot of constraints, I am compelled to do everything today only:) friends I am going to hurry and worry:)
AGNIPATH....I saw this movie and couldnt sit thru..dont understand how could people like it, may be this generation who is watching it for the first time. The same happened to me with RA ONE and DON2...I couldnt watch them...

Remakes should be some thing like Rajshrees made Nadiya ke paar in Ham aapke ha kaun..the same story but treatment was so different and even today I can watch both of them any no of times.
Ladies VS Ricky Behal..This is a con movie where hero cons 3 girls and then they set up a con for him, but is he really conned.The high light of this movie is Parineeti Chopra, she is a delight to watch and then the scenery of Goa.
Friends with Benefit...Very light and entertaining also I liked Mila Kunis more than Justin Timberlake..she is a natural.
The Lincoln Lawyer:..its about a lawyer who will defend even criminals for money, but once he realises that he has jailed an innocent and a wealthy person is trying to manipulate him to beat the system, then he changes h… imp quote

Yudhishthira--How might a man overcome difficulties?

Bheeshma--never practice deceit. Behave with restraint, control all worldly desires. Do not speak when addressed in foul language, do not injure others; give, rather than take. Do not sin in thought,word or deed, never harm any creature. Always speak the truth even though your life may be at stake. Speak words which are agreable,always spend your wealth well. Bow to all gods,listen to the doctrines of all creeds, have faith