Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Life cycle

When I was young and had two children and a very active social life, there was no time for anything else and i must have missed many opportunities for self.for education, job and awareness. Life seemed to be so complete that i became quite complacent for personal growth...
And when children grew up a little, they always wanted ME only everywhere, whether it was their lunch time or home work or anything else, and then  sometime i wanted some me time..Like whenever I used to go for my annual trips I would ask my children and hubby not to even call me:) because if I didnt pick the phone they would get angry with me, so i wanted to be free of all expectations..it was liberating to feel NOT NEEDED...But my children and hubby used to keep tab on my travelling time, safety and everything..they will call me before I left, once in the middle of journey and then when I reached safely, they will be relieved..and I think somewhere deep inside me I liked that feeling of being cared:)..
Because today when children have become busy in their own world,they neither have time nor inclination to keep track that much, I miss that...
Its human tendency that what we get we dont like, but miss it when it is not there,( thank God my husband still  keeps track of me, wherever I go).
Its called life cycle, where sometimes you like it if you are not needed, and sometimes you want to feel that you are needed


17 comments:

KParthasarathi said...

To be loved and cared for,unobrusively if you like it that way,is a great blessing.You are fortunate indeed.

Jeevan said...

that's sweet and right about the human tendency :)

goingbeyondthepages said...

That's how relationships change with time. We just have to constantly keep changing our expectations... not easy I know :)

Amrita said...

True Renu very very true. But one thing is for sure, you were cared for then and you are now too. Your children might not be able to keep a tab because they might be busy and because of the time differences also many a times. But i am sure you would always be in their thoughts. Because when you give so much love, the one thing you surely get back is love.

And yea these things happen, its human nature i think to crave for things which we are not getting ne more. But life goes on :(

Ab main senti kyun ho rahi hoon? :D

Found In Folsom said...

Absolutely human tendency. what we have right now, we don't like it. What we don't have, we want it. And when we get it, we don't enjoy it. So, live the moment :)

Zephyr said...

Isn't this called 'space' in a relationship? To give a slack sometime and then hold tight at others? We all need to breathe free from time to time, but also need to be smothered at others :)

Renu said...

KParthsarthi: yes I also feel I am lucky:)..but sometimes doubts too creep in.

Jeevan: and we are not able to change this feeling..

Goingbeyondthepages:..its very difficult to change the expectations:(

Amrita: You always understand me so well:)..we are alike na...and we are senti:) ..all the time.

Found in Folsom: Live in the moment..best philosophy, if one can follow.

Zephyr:..true sometimes we need space, and sometimes this space hurts us:(

SG said...

We want to have the cake and eat at the same time.

anilkurup said...

Gregarious nature is in all of us . isn't it?

Bikramjit said...

hmmm I am sure we all will have to go through this sometime ..

life changes even if we dont want it to be ..


Bikram's

rama said...

Yes, it very true Renu. Even bringing up children changes as we grow old, you see when we were young we would have liked them to behave in a particular manner, whereas, when we become older/ grand parents, our thoughts, our attitude towards the way children too changes, we become more lenient, and the same strictness that we see in our own children in bringing up their children doesn't seem so right.
That is the irony .

Irfanuddin said...

hhhmmmmm....i think lot of people here can relate with this post.....
well, nothing much can be done about all this and the only way is to take things as they come....

best wishes,
irfan.

Renu said...

SG: we want but do we get it?

Anilkurup: yes we need people around us all the time.

Bikram: Life changes and we have to accept it.

Rama; yes, there are so many changes I see in myself, some are logical and I understand but some puzzle me:)

Irfanuddin: Do we have any choics?..sadly no..

rudraprayaga said...

Change is nature's rule.

Harman said...

so true .. you have interpret in a right way .. easily I can relate!
that's a cycle!

Renu said...

rudraprayaga: Change is inevitable and we have to accept it.

Harman: I have written a true experience:)

Rahul Aggarwal said...

we dont value the thing till the time we have it only to value it later once we dont have it..!