Friday, October 26, 2012

some inspiring thoughts

Written by a 90 year old.   This is something we should all read at least once a week!!!!! Make sure you read to the end!!!!!!

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio.

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.  It is the most-requested column I've ever written.

My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1.  Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2.  When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3.  Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4.  Your job won't take care of you when you are sick.  Your friends and parents will.  Stay in touch.

5.  Pay off your credit cards every month.

6.  You don't have to win every argument.  Agree to disagree.

7.  Cry with someone.  It's more healing than crying alone.

8.  It's OK to get angry with God.  He can take it.

9.  Save for retirement starting with your first pay cheque.

10.  When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11.  Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12.  It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13.  Don't compare your life to others.  You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14.  If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15.  Everything can change in the blink of an eye.  But don't worry; God never blinks.

16.  Take a deep breath.  It calms the mind.

17.  Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

18.  Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger..

19.  It's never too late to have a happy childhood.  But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20.  When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21.  Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear your new clothes.  Don't save it for a special occasion.  Today is special.

22.  Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23.  Be eccentric now.  Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24.  The most important sex organ is the brain.

25.  No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26.  Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'

27.  Always choose life.

28.  Forgive everyone everything.

29.  What other people think of you is none of your business.

30.  Time heals almost everything.  Give time time.

31.  However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32.  Don't take yourself so seriously.  No one else does.

33.  Believe in miracles.

34.  God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35.  Don't audit life.  Show up and make the most of it now.

36.  Growing old beats the alternative - dying young.

37.  Your children get only one childhood.

38.  All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39.  Get outside every day.  Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40.  If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

41.  Envy is a waste of time.  You already have all you need.

42.  The best is yet to come.

43.  No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44.  Yield.

45.  Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."
Have a great life ahead ..

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

How Opal mehta Got kissed got wild and got life

This novel is by Kavya Vishwanathan,a very young author and has a fresh and funny approach. This is the story of a young Gujarati girl of affluent educated parents settled in New Jersey.Since she is the only daughter they have pinned all their hopes on her getting into Harvard.She is an extraordinarily intelligent student, so it shouldnt be tough for her. But in the interview for admission, she is asked to get a social life, because they want rounded individuals,not automatons, and she is shocked because so far she was so focused on her goal that she didnt bother about making friends or having fun.And how her parents make a plan to get her popular,make friends and all makes the crux of the story.The way her parents plan every little thing sometimes borders on being ridiculous, but they get desired results.All in all an interesting novel, and for me all books, good or bad leave some teachings and impressions, for this they are--
1-Having fun has different meaning for different people,its not always going to parties, wearing
fashionable clothes, for some fun could be in solving physics formula also.
2--If one focuses one's mind on anything,nothing is impossible to achieve, only a well planned
and continuous effort is required.
3--parents should not burden their children with their over expectations and let the children
decide their own choices.

Friday, October 19, 2012

guidelines for elders..

This is a tongue in cheek post:)

I keep reading everywhere that why there are all the instructions and protocol for the children,and  why not any one for elders , so i thought why not? lets have one which will appeal to them, and as it is giving advice, comes so easily to us Indians.....ask anyone whenever a match is lost..everybody must be telling you how the strategy of the captain was wrong, and how the batsman didnt cut the ball, and how the fielder lost the easy to play the game sitting in your drawing room:), its like discussing realistic movies and poverty in India over Champagne and caviar:), so here are the guidelines for parents and elders, take it at your own peril, the product is not guaranteed:)

You are born in this world to take care of your children only, so do it well, dont have any other thing in your mind or life.

A child is an individual by birth , so respect them ..even at the cost of your self respect:)( you shouldnt have any.

Before telling is a bad word..asking your children to do anything, tell them all the reasons and logic, but of course dont expect them to justify their actions.

Give them all the freedom...This is a free world and you may be sued for slavery, But of course if they do anything wrong..its your responsibility and duty to take care of that.

If they want to take all the decisions of their life without your consent..let them take...they are right , its their life, and dont ever say that...hamaare time me aisa hotatha..times have changed , but remember only for them, not for you--if you ever express a desire to become modern....are you out of your mind?

They have every right to compare you with their friend's parents who...pamper their children silly, give lot of money and freedom, but you have no right to compare them with other children...u r spoiling their personality by continuous comparison.

Dont ever expect anything from them..obedience or anything else......U havent done anything special..all parents do that for their children,They have already given you a being your children.

If you are extra caring and are suffocating them, stifling their life, but if you dont, then you are dont care.

You may suppress all your dreams for their future, but they cant kill a single desire for you, as it will be ruining their life for nothing.
and all this for the sake of being called a parent..the word means a person totally selfless and devoted to children. 

List is endless..will keep adding:)

All the above material is fictitious and any resemblance to anyone's life is coincidental only, the writer doesnt take responsibility for that:), read it at your own risk:)

Sunday, October 14, 2012

Why it happens

Why it happens that some people are able to idolise and respect their parents blindly and some question their all actions and try to brand them in rights and wrongs?

Is it because the some parents are really that good and idealistic or is it the perspective of their children?

Why some people owe all their happiness and success to the blessings of their parents whereas other feel that its only because of their own hard work?

Why some people only talk about how great their parents were, whereas others always think where they were wrong, and what all wrong they did to them?

some people say that its only middle class people who always find faults with everyone, whereas those who rise in life, rise above all that....

When i observe others, I find many example of people who idolise their parents, follow some protocols in behaviour are all very successful in life,..may be parents blessings work for them.....

Though i could never be like that,for me it was always that right is right, wrong is wrong, irrespective of the person,...and I always wonder, why I couldnt be like that, why cant i just admire and worship my parents without thinking about the flaws..Am I perfect?..when i compromise in so many things, why couldnt I do that for my parents?......what is it in life that brings such devotion?..does this have something to do with parents or children?.
.Lots of questions but no answers..can anybody help me find them?

Friday, October 12, 2012


When i was in Zurich, one day we went to Appenzell..its the best of Switzerland.specially the drive.vast green spaces, all well maintained..lots of trekking trails. And all that we used to see in Yash chopra movies:) all houses are decorated with murals or fresco.Its a small village full of beautiful landscapes.

this was the revolving table set on the road with wine bottles.

We parked the car and took a stroll in the bylanes of the village.Then my littleone got attracted to the soap bubbles in air and I was thinking ,from where it is coming,then I saw that on the top of a souvenir shop there is a toy joker continuously dispensing soap bubbles.

Best thing about Europe is the cobbled roads in the city full of cafes and designer merchandise.Its heavenly to walk and see and eat....It looks like people have no work there, they just enjoy life.but its not so. I think they believe hard and party harder.

First time I saw cattles grazing,otherwise i never see animals in the open anywhere.

Wednesday, October 10, 2012


Thanks Shalom for this premio award ! And I feel realy honoured as this award is about "acknowledging the values that every blogger shows in his/her effort to transmit cultural, ethical, literary and personal values every day." Wow ! And when I think of values..Shalom is the first one who comes to my mind, in all my posts, I have seen her comments always advocating the right thing but since she has herself given it to me....I would like to give it to---Gappa,HHG,destination Infinity and Mardhi Manini and Amrita.

Now This one brings a broad smile to my face..... Thank You Amrita ! feels nice to be loved by a fellow Chennaite:) and the feeling is cordially reciprocated with a big hug:), its a christmas gift to me and here are no rules:), so I wud like to give it to........
Deeply dip......I just love ur stylogue, my daily dose:).
Cess; I love ur MMJ:)
Maddy; I like ur pictures very much:).
Nidhie : I like reading the serious topics here.

Thank You Pixie..for giving me not one, but two awards at a time,This is the first Cup of my life:) Thank you Deeplydip for being my Santa ! I am starting my new year with so beautiful gifts. and i would like to spread this cheer to everybody, so no names here:)

Thank u my dear friends...,Nancy,Starry and Pixie, feels like a family to me:) , I have received this award from reflections for my food blog...Meri Rasoi ( means my Kitchen) and its exactly that. I write everything as I prepare it.
This award is given to a blog that invests and believes in PROXIMITY - nearness in space, time and relationships! These blogs are exceedingly charming. These kind bloggers aim to find and be friends. They are not interested in prizes or self-aggrandizement. Our hope is that when the ribbons of these prizes are cut, even more friendships are propagated. Please give more attention to these writers! Deliver this award to eight bloggers who must choose eight more and include this cleverly-written text into the body of their award."
It makes me feel really good as thats the aim of my blog.
So I would like to deliver it to
My space
Frankly speaking.

Thanx Deeplydip , Your Stylogue is the one I turn to, when i need some fresh air:)

I was awarded with this Deeplydips.. on 29th Nov.It was a birth day gift to me( as mine falls on 30th. Appreciaion always works as inspiration to me to be regular on my blog,Thank you Deeplydip for liking my blog !

The Rules are:

1. Put the logo on your blog
2. Add a link to the person who awarded you.
3. Nominate 10 other blogs.
4. Add links to those blogs on yours.
5. Leave a message for your nominees on their blogs.
Starry nights

and Tulip and Mishti..though presently both of them are absent in the blog world

Then on 10th Dec. I got this award from Shalom.....and on 13th by Starry nights and on 16th Dec. by Pixie for my Anoobhooti .This award is given to a blog that invests and believes in PROXIMITY – nearness in space, time and relationships! These blogs are exceedingly charming. These kind bloggers aim to find and be friends. They are not interested in prizes or self-aggrandizement. Our hope is that when the ribbons of these prizes are cut, even more friendships are propagated. Please give more attention to these writers!
Deliver this award to eight bloggers who must choose eight more and include this cleverly-written text into the body of their award.

And now this Christmas gift from Amrita;;....she has really spread cheer and happiness in my life, its...

Faith makes all things possible;

Hope makes all things work but

love is the only thing which makes all things beautiful.

I would like to spread it to everybody, all the blogs on my blog roll, they are there because I love to read them and want to read them.

And then 2 awards from Pixie: a cup and a placquard for world peace.......I never won any cup in my one more wish granted to me by her:), Thank u Pixie!

And here is my Santa again...from Deeplydip.......A CUP my cup of cheer is full, brimming with joy and gratefulness for all my blogger friends.

I would like to give it to Sukku, Monika.Ajit

Now its a long list to link and inform, so please bear with me with a smile and take it from here, in case I am not able to inform formally to each and everyone


Monday, October 8, 2012


Recently I saw Ishkjaade,,though its not new..but I liked it, so want to share it..When i see some new actors and good at their craft, I feel that older lot should make way for new ones. Some old heroes like..Sharukh, Akshay, Ajay, Sanjay...all look so haggard and jaded, same for the heroines, and then on top of that oldies like sridevi..Madhuri, karishma, Raveena, they all want to come back....why spoil their image in the minds of viewers...

I like Parineeti very much, she is so natural ,like a fresh breeze...Only minus point in this movie was cliche end..why cant they show a new beginning..I have seen the umpteen movies where Hindu Muslim love cant conquer, except in Bombay.I would have preferred to see some progressive thinking here.... Gohar Khan as the dancer, is so adorable. Arjun kapoor is Ok.

Now a days I am getting addicted to Grey's Anatomy, and  another of my favourite is coming here..ACCORDING TO JIM..its a wonderful comedy.I love it.

And this time Bigboss has taken a very eclectic mix of people and quite interesting too and removed Sanjay dutt as anchor, he was such a spoiler last time, so may be I could watch that too..

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Loving and Living together...

Everyone thinks that if we live with the people we love, life would be a bliss, But it is not always so. There is a big difference in loving and living together.

I am not saying it in context to spouses only...Normally it looks like if we love someone, living together would be right, enjoyable and fun. But in my opinion its not always may love so many people, and some a lot,but  living with them 24 hours..may be still difficult.... Because love comes from heart , but living together needs different type of synchronisation, similarities and adjustments.and practicality.

Living together and in harmony needs a lot of practical compromises, sharing of space,finances privacy and work.and lot of etiquette.. and as everything in life it has its own pros and cons, but there are more pros.....
It makes one a better human being, brings more patience in a person and makes you care for others....sometimes more than yourself.