I keep reading everywhere that why there are all the instructions and protocol for the children,and why not any one for elders , so i thought why not? lets have one which will appeal to them, and as it is giving advice, comes so easily to us Indians.....ask anyone whenever a match is lost..everybody must be telling you how the strategy of the captain was wrong, and how the batsman didnt cut the ball, and how the fielder lost the catch..so easy to play the game sitting in your drawing room:), its like discussing realistic movies and poverty in India over Champagne and caviar:), so here are the guidelines for parents and elders, take it at your own peril, the product is not guaranteed:)
You are born in this world to take care of your children only, so do it well, dont have any other thing in your mind or life.
A child is an individual by birth , so respect them ..even at the cost of your self respect:)( you shouldnt have any.
Before telling..no telling is a bad word..asking your children to do anything, tell them all the reasons and logic, but of course dont expect them to justify their actions.
Give them all the freedom...This is a free world and you may be sued for slavery, But of course if they do anything wrong..its your responsibility and duty to take care of that.
If they want to take all the decisions of their life without your consent..let them take...they are right , its their life, and dont ever say that...hamaare time me aisa hotatha..times have changed , but remember only for them, not for you--if you ever express a desire to become modern....are you out of your mind?
They have every right to compare you with their friend's parents who...pamper their children silly, give lot of money and freedom, but you have no right to compare them with other children...u r spoiling their personality by continuous comparison.
Dont ever expect anything from them..obedience or anything else......U havent done anything special..all parents do that for their children,They have already given you a lot..by being your children.
If you are extra caring and protective...you are suffocating them, stifling their life, but if you dont, then you are indifferent..you dont care.
You may suppress all your dreams for their future, but they cant kill a single desire for you, as it will be ruining their life for nothing.
and all this for the sake of being called a parent..the word means a person totally selfless and devoted to children.
List is endless..will keep adding:)
All the above material is fictitious and any resemblance to anyone's life is coincidental only, the writer doesnt take responsibility for that:), read it at your own risk:)
Friday, October 19, 2012
guidelines for elders..
This is a tongue in cheek post:)