Friday, October 19, 2012

guidelines for elders..

This is a tongue in cheek post:)

I keep reading everywhere that why there are all the instructions and protocol for the children,and  why not any one for elders , so i thought why not? lets have one which will appeal to them, and as it is giving advice, comes so easily to us Indians.....ask anyone whenever a match is lost..everybody must be telling you how the strategy of the captain was wrong, and how the batsman didnt cut the ball, and how the fielder lost the catch..so easy to play the game sitting in your drawing room:), its like discussing realistic movies and poverty in India over Champagne and caviar:), so here are the guidelines for parents and elders, take it at your own peril, the product is not guaranteed:)

You are born in this world to take care of your children only, so do it well, dont have any other thing in your mind or life.

A child is an individual by birth , so respect them ..even at the cost of your self respect:)( you shouldnt have any.

Before telling..no telling is a bad word..asking your children to do anything, tell them all the reasons and logic, but of course dont expect them to justify their actions.

Give them all the freedom...This is a free world and you may be sued for slavery, But of course if they do anything wrong..its your responsibility and duty to take care of that.

If they want to take all the decisions of their life without your consent..let them take...they are right , its their life, and dont ever say that...hamaare time me aisa hotatha..times have changed , but remember only for them, not for you--if you ever express a desire to become modern....are you out of your mind?

They have every right to compare you with their friend's parents who...pamper their children silly, give lot of money and freedom, but you have no right to compare them with other children...u r spoiling their personality by continuous comparison.

Dont ever expect anything from them..obedience or anything else......U havent done anything special..all parents do that for their children,They have already given you a lot..by being your children.

If you are extra caring and protective...you are suffocating them, stifling their life, but if you dont, then you are indifferent..you dont care.

You may suppress all your dreams for their future, but they cant kill a single desire for you, as it will be ruining their life for nothing.
and all this for the sake of being called a parent..the word means a person totally selfless and devoted to children. 


List is endless..will keep adding:)



All the above material is fictitious and any resemblance to anyone's life is coincidental only, the writer doesnt take responsibility for that:), read it at your own risk:)

12 comments:

My journey said...

Sorry but I would like to defer from "give them all the freedom". Parents should see in which direction the child is going and if it is good encourage it and if it is bad just try to mould him/her in other direction which he/she likes.
But yeah comparison is never a good thing!
Happy Durga Pooja :)

sm said...

you hit it very hard
thoughtful post
yes no guarantee kids will give love, as per one surveay
out of 3 old people in India 1 has to suffer pain at the hands of his own kids.

SG said...

Good one. I have a few to add:

When you retire, transfer all your savings and your home in your children's name.

Voluntarily move out of the house and move into senior citizens home.

Renu said...

MY journey:..Thats what children want:)..

Happy Durga puja!!!

sm:children love parents, but they cant be the way parents want them to be...they have their own life to enjoy.

SG: This one take the cake:)

Zephyr said...

Tongue in cheek or reality check? I am glad that someone represents the older generation. Every one of the points is sau takke right. Can't think of anything to add offhand :)

Dilip said...

A great post that throw's up issues & concerns common to many. I feel the best but most difficult way to bring up children is by the parents themselves setting example.

This perhaps is the best form of communication.

Kind regards.

Found In Folsom said...

Do you really think all of the above is possible? or at least some of them for an ordinary human being?

Rahul Aggarwal said...

i believe in only 1 thing applicable to both child and parents ...live and let live ..infact applicable to all...!

anilkurup said...

I do not remember having come here before.

I agree with your candid statements- advise. It is often that parents do the opposite and the children are pushed too far and the result unhappiness for all.

I wonder how many in a scale of ten parents will accept the children's wish and hopes about their future and not suffocate them with their whims and fantasies.

Renu said...

Zephyr: Thanks Zephyr:):):)

Dilip: exactly..thats the best way.

Found in Folsom: for whom parents or children?

Rahul Agggarwal: good policy for everything but till children are young, they need to be guided..

Anil Kurup: welcome here Anil!

Parents are learning slowly to let the children be, but somewhere children also need to be told...till they are not adult, but once they have grwon up, parents need to step aside and let them take charge of their life, not before that..

rudraprayaga said...

What you said is true because children are separate individuals.Let them choose their ways.

Renu said...

rudraprayag:Kahlil Zibran also said the same thing so beautifully..