Sunday, October 14, 2012

Why it happens

Why it happens that some people are able to idolise and respect their parents blindly and some question their all actions and try to brand them in rights and wrongs?

Is it because the some parents are really that good and idealistic or is it the perspective of their children?

Why some people owe all their happiness and success to the blessings of their parents whereas other feel that its only because of their own hard work?

Why some people only talk about how great their parents were, whereas others always think where they were wrong, and what all wrong they did to them?

some people say that its only middle class people who always find faults with everyone, whereas those who rise in life, rise above all that....

When i observe others, I find many example of people who idolise their parents, follow some protocols in behaviour are all very successful in life,..may be parents blessings work for them.....

Though i could never be like that,for me it was always that right is right, wrong is wrong, irrespective of the person,...and I always wonder, why I couldnt be like that, why cant i just admire and worship my parents without thinking about the flaws..Am I perfect?..when i compromise in so many things, why couldnt I do that for my parents?......what is it in life that brings such devotion?..does this have something to do with parents or children?.
.Lots of questions but no answers..can anybody help me find them?

16 comments:

sulagna ™ said...

I think its also because of age and situation..as a kid no matter how perfect parents are a child is rebellious , in some cases the child might have experienced a bad upbringing..but i have come to realise with time time it all heals and we love our parents for what they are and accept this truth.

My journey said...

It all depends on the kind of environment they are brought up. Some people take their parents for granted and some think that because of their blessings they are there where they are. And for me right is not always right and wrong it not always wrong, it depends on the perception of the way one sees things.
On a lighter note, this could be a good topic for debate on CNN IBN Face The Nation program anchored by one and only one Sagarika Ghose. :)

muthu said...

hmhm.... I think its not about idolizing but about loving them along with their mistakes and other things that we may not accept entirely. I know that my father nor my mother are not perfect. But then, I am also, not that perfect- So, I simply love them and stand with them all the way. :)

Bikramjit said...

parents blessing will always work.. most of the people who are good have had good parents too..

moreover no one is perfect.. I am like that I know my success is because ofthe hard work put in by a lot of people Parents, teachers friends ..

I can understand right is right , wrong is wrong BUT what our parents did , when they did , in that condition and TIME that was right .. they did the right according to their wisdonm ..

the problem comes when we start to talk how cud they do this or that .. because we are not in the situation in which they made a choise .. and it takes a long long tie to be in same situation

I have never spoken in front of my parents ever and I doubt if i ever will , I find that rude YES when the time comes I have discussed things with them and sometimes they take my point of view too ..

Bikram's

SG said...

Nothing wrong in idolizing our parents. Matha, Pitha, Guru, God. Even Guru and God take a backseat.

chitra said...

I agree with Muthu. Nobody is perfect.there were many situations where I disagree with my mother. But she is old I shower my love on her. She also feels happy chatting to me. These are the small pleasures we ca do in return for what they have done for us..am i right Renu?/

Found In Folsom said...

It's all in the head. Right or wrong, do what you think is best. I respect my mom for all she has done for the person I am today. But, I can equally shout out her flaws too. It's all human nature. What is right for you, could be wrong for others and vice versa. So, I think you should just be the person you are.

Rahul Bhatia said...

True Renu! One must revere the parents for what they give and being thankful is the least one can do!

Dilip said...

Interesting case! Yes there is no perfect solution. It will help if parents gain some insights on psychology and parenting. Give them love, care and guidance and then leave the rest to the Almighty :)

Renu said...

Sulugna: yes we all love our parents and we should do so, but my question is why some have a blind devotion and others cant or dont?

My Journey: thats one point that upbringing brings that quality in a person..in a way we are holding parents only responsible for that:)

I dont watch CNNIBN:)

MUthu: to me not loving your parents is never a option in life,and nevr should be..its all about respecting and idolising them unconditionally and those who are able to do it..I admire them.

Bikram: to me you are what children should be...I admire you for your values and clarity of thoughts..like what they did in their circumstances and all that...

Thats the way it should be, why do we even think about what they did wrong..

SG: No.no, rather i think one should idolise without any biases.

Chitra: we can nevr do enough for our parents, Chitra..atleast I feel like that for myself..I want to do my very best for my mother .

Found in Folsom: yes..I just want to better that person who I am...

Rahul Bhatia:We must try to look after them and give them all the happiness we can.

Dilip: I always say that..do your best and leave the rest to god:)




sulagna ™ said...

Renu its usually a relation which requires a two way show of love and affection..if parents have been unfair or not responsible then its obvious the child can not grow to idolize them.
As a teenager i agree if parents refuse to give in to a child spoilt demands, then the child will be angry..but over time, the same child, since guided in the right path will realise the point of saying a no and grow to respect his parents.

sm said...

right is right, wrong is wrong, irrespective of the person
agree with you

Renu said...

Sulagna:.may be, but I doubt that those who idolise, their parents have no fault.

sm:I think we shouldnt judge our parents.

Rahul Aggarwal said...

sometimes, we idolize our parents not out of respect but fear and we call it respect ..

nobody is perfect in this world .. even parents commit mistakes .. children look upto their parents to be perfect and with all the right things because god is there but not present or available all the time..so they make their parents their god as they can easily ask questions and thus idolize them ..!

i sometimes do not support my elders or parents if i feel it's not correct to support .. neither my parents or elders support me if they believe that i was wrong in that thing..!

Shalom said...

The last para you wrote strongly reminds me of my mom. She is like that, she has to speak out against wrong regardless of who the other person is, whether her mom, or my dad or me. But the bottom line is she says it out of love. 'Hate the sin, not the sinner', that is what she believes in. I hope that saying helps.

Renu said...

Shalom:Thats true, but I feel that I should have a very simple mind which simply worships the parents..