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I am tagged by Irfanuddin of Apni BOLI and

The Rules....
1- You must post the rules. 2- Answer the questions given by the person tagged you.
3- Tag eleven new bloggers.
4- Set eleven new questions given by the person who tagged you.
5- Inform them about the tag.
And the questions are...
1- Why are you, you?
very difficult question..but I am what I am because of my upbringing and then circumstances,and that way I think that every person is a product of that only. 2- Do you enjoy your job? I am a homemaker and thoroughly enjoy my work, I loved looking after my children when they were young, I still do, though they dont want me to do that now:)...I love keeping my house spic n span and doing everything for my husband, love everything about it.
3- What is your favorite time of the day? In the morning when my husband leaves for office and then I make a cup of tea and read newspaper:)
4- Have you ever come close to death? Not as such, but when I had a thyroiditis, anything could happen,but I believe th…


MY daughter keeps saying to me..when men were exploiting women, nobody said anything but today when women are doing it, there is so much of noise everywhere. I told her that it wasnt so. Men were also blamed but at that time there were not many avenues to publicise, today Internet has made it so.Ask any women in the age group of around 60 and you will find that 80% were not happy in their marriage. But they remained there because..
They were not economically independent or didnt want to struggle in life.
They feared the society..log kya kahenge.

Secondly it was the same women who were exploited, made the life of their DIL miserable, sons were helped by mother only or rather instigated by them..
And when I write so much, it doesnt mean I have an ideal I had a usual MIL and still have and today I have both..MIL and DIL and so I know the both sides of a coin. And I dont believe that to remove a malady, we must do injustice to some or misbehave.....I Make it a point, not to do a…


This is the book I am reading. Its written by Rashmi Bansal.It is inspiring story of 20 social entrepreneurs who found new ways to solve old problems. Its very inspiring and soul lifting to see so many people with so much passion.It makes one feel the confidence in the basic goodness of mankind and good in life. Though all of them inspire you, but some more than the others , specially to me they are...

Bindeshwar Pathak of Sulabh shauchalay...He tried to bring change in such a basic need of humans and nobody thought of that earlier and what hurdles he faced and endures so much, but where there is a will there is a way.

Harish Hande..He founded energy project, making solar lights available in villages with no light, a man who studied in US, stayed in villages, did the fittings himself and lived ordinarily.

Dhruv Lakra..He founded Mirakle couriers with giving employment to deaf people.

Anshu Gupta: founder of Goonj..he is quite well known now.

Anand Kumar of Super 30 who not onl…


Recently i heard  a woman of a young boy a days I feel afraid of what will happen, when he marry as no girl is interested in living with inlaws...

True, but has anybody thought why this mindset is because...

Parents wouldnt let the couple decide about their life,day to day living,everything has to be asked from them and done thru their consent only.

Parents think that sons are there to do and give only, if they are successful then its because of their parent's sacrifice only, so they need to repay everything with interest.

Since parents are experienced they know everything better and have a right to advise and be listened to..

Whenever children go out they must take their parents too..because they couldnt do all these things only because they devoted all their money and time to children

But now when they are suffering are they ready to learn the lesson...

I feel that for parents its enough if they can live with the children, more than that they they sho…


country club resort

 rooms at resort
 outside restaurant at resort

Trip to goa--here the journey is as beautiful as the destination.The last 2 hrs train journey is too good to be worded, the train passes thru dense tropical forests, tunnels and sometimes at one side u see a huge valley lush green, a pleasure to watch, then some falls also, and Dodh sagar falls is just amazing, the water falls from a great height and with so much of force that its completely white thats the reason its called so.I would recommend everybody to go to goa by train not by air:)

We had our tickets till Vasco, but the TT told me that everybody gets down at Margao(Mudgaon), so we got down there. The station has a very good restaurant with almost everything available and in very reasonable prices and its clean also.But since we had our bookings at country club,it was better for us to go till vasco, any way we took a taxi,and since the distance is quite a lot ,this is very unnecessary expenditure,he charged us 89…


As I had written earlier in my post woman too..dowry is not all that bad, its made so by unscrupulous people, otherwise it was given to make young couple's life comfortable and in lieu of property which was given to sons.
And most of the people think that parents of boys are responsible for this menace and only they can change it. But it is not so, parents of girls are equally responsible and they really have the power to eradicate it...

1..All parents must give equal upbringing to girls and boys both...give them education, let them work.

2.Dont look for boys from high status only or for arranged marriages, let the girls choose their partners irrespective of caste and status.

3.If the girls want equality, then they shouldnt have any qualms about marrying a boy who earns less than them, or less educated than them, or is from a lower class......

4...Parents must give equal rights to daughters in their property( as there would be no dowry)

5..It would be better if boy and girl earn …


Kahani.........Everybody praised this movie so much, that I had to see it and it was worth it.Just the type I frills, no fancy dresses and locations, all real people.....Vidya Balan comes as a  fresh breeze and Kolkota comes alive in this movie.Its a suspense movie, so no point in telling the story.I miss the melodies in today's movies....
Yesterday I watched Vivah for dont know which time, may be6th or 7th, and though it has many silly things like girls always too shy and with certain mannerism and poor people with huge mansions, still it mesmerises me because of Shahid and Amrita Rao...and two song specially..haan yeh haq ha and haar phoolo ka nahi... I feel the movie is good if it remains with you a long time after watching it and it happens with this.Romance like this is much more hypnotic than those of in you face type dealings.

picture courtesy...
This movie has total new people celebrate divorces and shops are full of g…

Some thought

“ People are made to be loved and things are made to be used. The confusion arises in the world when “people are used and things are loved”. ‘Get used to being used .. because if nobody uses you, it means that you are really useless’  The nicest thing about the future is that it always starts tomorrow.
 2. Money will buy a fine dog, but only kindness will make him wag his tail.
 3. If you don’t have a sense of humor, you probably don’t have any sense at all.
 4. Seat belts are not as confining as wheelchairs.
 5. A good time to keep your mouth shut is when you’re in deep water.
 6. How come it takes so little time for a child who is afraid
     of the dark to become a teenager who wants to stay out all night?

 7. Business conventions are important because they demonstrate how many
     people a company can operate without.

 8. Why is it that at class reunions you feel younger than everyone else looks?
 9. Scratch a cat and you will have a permanent job.
 10. No one has more driving ambition than…


Life is such a big teacher , it teaches everything.everything you didnt want to learn and everything you didnt want to know even...she  was living a dream..mainly because she was such a simple girl, no other interest other than studies and house work. And in that she was really good. achiever there and excellent here.People talked about gender biases and parents differentiating between daughter and sons, but she never thought about it.Her parents loved her and it was enough for her, she never bothered about what they were doing for her brothers, as they were  so dear to her too and she loved themm from her heart. But life changed everything when she got married...neither her parents considered her own, nor inlaws.Her parents didnt bother about her comfort or needs, they did their duty and wanted to shake hands off and inlaws..they were typically inlaws type who wanted more and more from her parents, and her parents didnt even want to do anything, not even the traditional gifts( thoug…


I visited Goa 4 years back, but its moemories are still alive in my mind. We stayed there in country club resort and its just beautiful with delicious food.There were two touristic trips..north Goa and South goa.

For the south goa we started the tour from Dona Paula--from its highest point one can see the confluence of river Mandovi and juari with arabian sea . basically this is a view point with a very romantic story attached to it.Long time back there was a beautiful daughter of viceroy name Dona who used to come to beach and sit there in the evening.She got friendly with a son of fisherman and this frienship turned to love. When her father came to know about it, he got the boy murdered. When Dona knew this she jumped into the sea and comitted suicide, so this point is called suicide point also.

Then we went to see old Goa churches- BOM JESUS BASILICA--here in lies the incourruptible remains of St. francis Xavier, it is a miracle ,after every 10 years they show them to the public, …