Friday, November 16, 2012

Never


“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” 

Today as soon as I opened my inbox, I saw this quote sent by one of my good friend...This is a good quote for moral boosting,but I find it practically very impossible to follow...There are certain relationships in life , where whatever you do for them, you will always be an option only for them, never a priority..but you yourself are so bound by your love or we can call it ..mayamoh in Hindi...that they will always remain a priority to you.....

and we cant change that too, because changing the status quo will mean destroying that relationship, because relationships which are acquired, not blood related are very fragile..,They may cement over long time, but only if both the sides realise their importance, otherwise they remain just like that..a facade..which is if well maintained, life is smooth......otherwise full of friction and bitterness.....

so we cant be prudent here, instead it pays to be emotional:)....and I always believe that god has the best bank..where whatever you deposit you get back multiplied many times..the only thing is you may not get from the same person or area, it may be some other source, but you are nevr left alone...

and so I will say make anyone your priority, even if you are only a option to them, if it makes you happy, never feel that you are being taken for granted..or why nobody acknowledges the good done by you.,because people are very small and inconsequential, why bother about their acknowledgement, God always notices everything and his computer is very accurate...his ways are strange ,but best...

22 comments:

anilkurup said...

I guess relationships per se are fragile and has to be handled with care , blood relations or acquired.

As for the big brother putting things in order and etc well.....!

Reflections said...

I like ur perspective, I think that way too:-).

rama said...

Well said Renu!

goingbeyondthepages said...

Inspirational :) But I wonder how to make the heart understand that.

goingbeyondthepages said...

Inspirational :) But I wonder how to make the heart understand that.

SG said...

I certainly agree.

Rhapsody B. said...

Blessings....
provactiv piece
love the quote, i think it was by Maya Angelou.....

have a great day.
rhapsody

sm said...

nice quote
one should make priority its chain like chain A priority B, For B A is option and for P A is priority with times it may keep changing

Renu said...

Anil Kurup: yes tahts true, but blood is always thicker than water, and so those relationships get meneded, others not..
as for big brother.it all depends what you believe in, our trust only changes everything.

Reflections: Thanks:)

Goingbeyondthepages:we have to make our heart understand..its the positive thinking at its best:)

SG: Thanks!

Rhapsody B: Thanks..this quote is from Mark Twain..

sm: it may be possible..like all parents love their children and the chain goes on...

KParthasarathi said...

A different insight on the quote.Bestowing your love or affection without expectation of any reciprocity is familiar to followers of Bhagavad gita.
Nicely written ,Renu

Harman said...

so good and so true. I cant agree more makes sense!
have a lovely week ahead!

Renu said...

KParthsarthi:Thank you sir!.specially because it brought you here:)

Harman: Thanks Harman !

Rahul Bhatia said...

God's computer is accurate! So agree with you:)

My journey said...

I dont think people are small or inconsequential its their deeds that make the person as he/she is. We must not cast aspersion on their characters. We should take care of ourselves but not what others want.
And we should not never expect anything in return, if it comes back its their greatness. I would suggest you to watch 'Pay it Forward' movie. Its great! :)

Bikramjit said...

wow what a quote ,
I think that is my downfall I give a lot of importance to everyone and try not te make others angry by doing something that I might love to do ..

I want to start thinking with my MIND and not use my heart at all because thats how the world is becoming and that is the norm

Bikram's

Found In Folsom said...

Hmm..My sister has that quote on her status all the time. But, it's not possible, Renu. I agree with your first para. Also, we do so much selflessly, but a small token of acknowledgement or appreciation is all we are asking for. Doing everything without expecting anything, I can't do it. Thought I do it, I crib about it

Renu said...

Rahul: I have seen it Rahul that he returns everything multifold.

My Journey: may be I didnt explain properly..I didnt mean to cast aspersions on character, what i meant was that in comparison to god people are inconsequential..its god who is important.
Its the best thing if we did everything without expectations..
I have added this movie to my watch list:)

Bikram: Its best to balance our heart and mind both and dont try to change yourself for others..do what you like as long as your deeds dont hurt any one...

Found in Folsum: exactly the same thing my daughter said:).and i told her that so what if some people dont appreciate me, but god does. because he has given me two children who are like jewels, thats the biggest return I could get.

Shalom said...

It is pointless to expect most people to realise, let alone acknowledge, what you do for them. So yes I agree, we should always do what is right in God's eyes, and forget about others' acknowledgement.

Zephyr said...

Reading this late, but am happy I didn't miss it. Lovely sentiments Ranu and knowing you, I can understand how you make others your priority even if you might be an option for them. Hugs.

Renu said...

Shalom:Thats the main point, it gives us stress only if we think of return.

Zephyr:Thanks Zephyr !..There are some people in your whom you love and you get happiness out of loving them, so why not get that happiness instead of worrying about return:)

Rahul Aggarwal said...

awesome quote but very difficult to follow...

we always end up being an option ..

but am not sure whether its correct or not but one should not do work or give happiness or love to someone with a thought of getting it back in the same way .. acknowledgement feeling should never be there...don't you think ?

Renu said...

Rahul..yes its difficult to follow but if you do, it brings lot of peace, same way as what you are suggesting..selfless service, love or work, but thats also difficult to follow:)..nothing is easier.