Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Dignity in living

Dignity..small word with big meaning......most of the people think that with age dignity comes naturally,though it should, but I have seen many old people behaving greedily, in a manner most unsuited to their age..like..

Once in a kitty party there were mostly aged woman..in their 60/s 70/s and all of them from wealthy families, that i knew because they were talking about no. of cars they have, how big their houses are and all that and when they played tambola, they wanted even 5/ to be divided in 3 people and given., they couldnt leave that to their friends...I was shocked,because I have never bothered about small things like that.

Then there was this old lady who was so miserly with domestic help that would never ever give anything to her whereas she would part with everything for her daughters or relatives....again shocking to me, because to me being good means doing things for others, For their own blood , everybody does and it is out of attachment, so it has no value to me.

I have seen many grown ups cheating in playing games at parties, old ladies helping their grand children in winning and cribbing when they couldnt..it all surprises me, because the people who cant keep their morals even in such small things, what can we expect from them?.where is that spirit of playing, playing fair and happily..why winning is so important?

And then that fatal attraction for food..my mother used to tell us when we were young that eating too much is never a good omen and takes away the wealth of the house and secondly any homemaker is Annpoorna and she brings prosperity to her home if she puts family over self...and we all siblings are like this..... will always keep things for others, like if any day quantity of cooked vegetable was less, then it will be left even after every body has eaten, because everyone will leave for the other one,sharing comes so easily to us, and so I feel very surprised when I see in the families people taking food without any thought to others,or distributing unequally,or keeping the best for self...

I think that with age one must exercise restrain..with everything, be it talking, eating,sightseeing or any type of greed.specially if they are not physically competent..since they have come to this age, it already means they have seen enough of everything...why not make your life a gift to others?..an inspiration....

18 comments:

Rachna said...

Some very valid points, I must say.

Bhagyashree said...

Something for u at my space

Arti said...

What a wonderful post. In our house too, we keep food for animals and poor people like maids and watchmen. Also if we cannot help those who are poor than what is the use of our wealth... I would like to share one quote with you which my father always tells me 'The real power of money is the power to give it away'...
We must learn to live like humans... Caring, Sharing and being kind to others.

Irfanuddin said...

indeed, there are people around us who never ever changes their attitude in life even with growing age.....

Sandhya said...

Very well said, Renu! After some age we have to behave in a proper manner and win respect from others.

Harman said...

I agree ..very true..
The morals are actually the values given to us by parents and when we stoop that low it shows up in the community as well as friends ..what depth we have ....and which family we come from..
Having two houses or four cars...nobody cares.. its actually how generous your heart is ...shows how rich you are in real life.

chitra said...

I also feel elders must be role models for youngsters otherwise what kind values children would learn. Really surprised to read there are elderly people who behave like this.

L KRUPAA said...

Well said. We need to be more dignified as we age. AS regards having food with any thought for others, speaks of discipline. There again the feeling of having given the best to others is great.

Jyothi said...

No, not all people age gracefully. And I am not referring to the physical appearance at all. Some actually get bitter as they grow old. Does this mean that when we are old, we become different people? Maybe life brings about changes in us as we grow. Sad, but true.

rahul aggarwal said...

very well said Renu.

i completely agree with you .. i've seen oldies behaving in the most unexpected immature manner and still have the courage to call themselves dignified .. sometimes the youngsters i believe are more mature then the seniors but the oldies just wave off saying that they learnt that from us!!!

regards
rahul

sm said...

yes great observation
yes people just love to win by hook or crook and many even do not think on the lines which you said
dignity, happy and fun play etc

Urmi said...

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R.Ramakrishnan said...

Very well articulated. Greed,rudeness, envy, being miserly, selfishness exist in large measure amongst many the older generation. Surprisingly many of them are educated,qualified holding degrees & diplomas from famed institutions.

KParthasarathi said...

The restraint you have mentioned in your last para should be practiced not only by elderly but even the youngsters as your mother had taught.
A nice post

Sujatha Sathya said...

5 divided by three--my god!! this is too much!
i was touched to read about the practice in your family
"""will be left even after every body has eaten, because everyone will leave for the other one,sharing comes so easily to us""" that's a really nice gesture

Rahul Bhatia said...

Very nice post and last para said it all! Merry Christmas

Reflections said...

"if any day quantity of cooked vegetable was less, then it will be left even after every body has eaten, because everyone will leave for the other one"

Loved this bit...reminded me of my childhood:-)

Renu said...

Rachna: Thanks!

Bhagyashree: Thanks Bhagya for mentioning me!!

Arti: what you father said is very true..sharing must be inculcated early in life.

Irfanuddin: thats very sad for them and their family too..

Sandhya: restraint makes us happy too and content in our life.

Lkrupa: yes giving others first is always my motto, and I believe in sharing..whatevr is there can be divided equally instead of one getting all and other nothing.

Jyothi: yes, I have seen many people getting jealous of youth who have got better things..we dont become different, but some people are just not able to accept life for what it is.

R.Ramakrishnan..In my experience that is culture which is taught theu family values not by education..

Kparthsaarthi:Yes..if that happens,it is good, but elders have no excuse to be like that.covetous.

Rahul Agarwal: that is true, but nobody get away saying that, from wherever we learn,bad behaviour has no excuse...

sm:today winning is evrything..

Urmi:Thanks! and wish you too a happy new year!

Sujatha sathya: yes Sujatha, my little sister who was just 10 years at that time but whenevr there was some sweet, she will keep her share for my brother( 6 years) who liked it.

Rahul Bhatia:Thanks!

Reflections:Our childhood was glorious in some aspects of life:)