Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Me Time

I dont understand this me time concept at all...and I hear about it all the time.Earlier women were busy looking after husband , children, inlaws extended families, guests..list was long, facilities were less and so was the affordability and they hardly got anytime on their own, then it would have made some sense,  but the irony is that they never thought of it and never demanded. Whereas today when most of the women have nuclear family and there also they are not totally responsible for everything..everybody is pitching in, rest is being done by maids or restaurants:).

In our time for everything we made efforts, today..if you got up late..no problem..have your breakfast at the cafe outside.dont feel like cooking order something...nobody is bothered about calculating how much damage its doing to their finances or health..

When they are already leading a leisure life, why do they need me time?..I am talking about women who are not doing a job...

I always feel strongly that both the spouses bring something to the marriage, if man is solely responsible for providing finances, then woman should shoulder the complete responsibility of the house..but I dont see that around me...most of the young woman want the man to help, in spite of the man working 10 hrs at his work..and still they want some me time..they have got all the me time in the world in the day...

I know that it sounds regressing but my practical experience says that whenever the men in the house are particular about the way house should be kept, and food also, women  become more efficient and skilled, and after  some time their personality is changed, they become independent and good at managing everything, but wherever men are liberal initially, women become  totally complacent and always ill at ease in everything.

I know that I am going to get lot of brickbats from the girls but still I feel that if we love someone, we must try to raise the bar for that person and make him/her a better person , instead of letting them go down.

We must not fall in love, but rise in love:)


11 comments:

SG said...

Completely agree with you.

Tara said...

Well being at work or at home all individuals deserve a personal space irrespective of gender. As you said women used to have more burden before but i feel responsibilities remains the same. Improved amenities doesn't mean today's woman are at leisure. Am a working woman but i still feel woman at home needs me time more than any working woman !

Happy Kitten said...

Have always been a working woman so I am not sure how it works out for the rest. But during holidays when I am at home, I have realized that I find more work to do and find less time for rest or leisure. Possibly because I do not manage my time well. I guess housewives who have learned to manage their time can find time for relaxation too. My Mother did.
As for changing after marriage, I think it works both ways. We rub each other and cannot help but change :) hopefully it has been for the better. In my case, I was not a stickler for perfection whereas my Hubby is one. I think it has changed me a bit for the better though at times it drives me mad too.

Renu said...

SG: Thanks!

Tara: I agree that evrybody needs some time..but today houswives are not so loaded with work, they get enough time in the day for themselves...atleast the circle I live in ,I see that they are not doing much...

Happy Kitten: Happy to see you in profile photo:)..I speak about only those women I see around me..and I see that they are more interested in shopping, eating out and less inclined to see the housekeeping..and still they want me time...
I have always seen whenevr one of the spouse is particular in something ..it may be economy or food habits or a clean house or discipline...in the long term they are better off, and the other one also improves.

Amrita said...

Totally agree on your comment that one of the spouse has to have a tight reign on things else the house might not hold together.
Well with respect to me time, am not sure, depends on situation to situation. Like for instance after child birth I used to very tired taking care of the little one all day all alone. So for me the me time was 30 mins exercise and then cooking. I needed that and my husband agreed. I feel it depends on what you are doing with the me time.

Dilip said...

A balance and understanding between the two :) is important.
Cheers.

shreya said...

I completely agree with u...Husband and wife should have enough understanding between them...

indu chhibber said...

Renu life today is hectic for all-whether working women or homemakers--even in nuclear families and even for people like me where only my hubby and i live.I have a maid to do the basic chores but still i feel i do not get enough me time-that is one slot when i relax with a cup of tea and something to read.

I think you were referring to those who lead a life of leisure--for them the whole day is a me-time.But working girls really have it tough.

Happy Kitten said...

The Stay At Home Mom Challenge--

Hilarious :)

http://www.scarymommy.com/stay-at-home-mom-challenge/

Jeevan said...

"but wherever men are liberal initially, women become totally complacent and always ill at ease in everything." I could see it happening around with my close relatives.

Renu said...

Indu Chhibber:.yes working girls have it tough, but I am talking about home makers...and affluent lot..they have got maids for everything..what are they doing..except shopping..dining out...

Happy Kittne:with children one gets busy, but the here also its upto the moms to train the kids:)

Jeevan: Even I see around me..