Tuesday, May 24, 2011

LONG TIME

It has been such a long time that I am at a loss where to start..actually my comp. wasnt working, and then I got into a lazy habit:)..so friends whats happening?.....

In the mean time lot of things have happened.Amma has come back, though it must be a case of TINA only..I just wish that all the changes reduce corruption a bit, though chances are not high.

Now a days I meet lot of people who are very hurt by their children's attitude, and I always tell them that here also parents are at fault..like there is a saying that a mother can bring up five children all by herself, but five children cant keep a mother..but this saying is not right..the relationship is different, our children will have the same devotion towards their children, and this is the way life cycle goes. Parents are supposed to bring up the children and then forget them, and since we dont do that, we get hurt.It is said that daughters are very caring and affectionate but I think that.daughters care for their parents only, but if they are from cultured families and taught values, they care for their parents as well inlaws too.And here comes the value of family you belong to.
But instead of complaining or living miserably we must try to find the solutions..parents can find their own forte if they think about it..today there are so many things one can do and live a purposeful life, the only thing needed is to look beyond the children...there is life after them also and good one....just explore....


17 comments:

Rachna said...

Very true Renu. Parents need to do their duty, bring up their kids and let them live their own lives. Clinging on to them or interfering in their lives makes everyone unhappy. Like you said, this is the time for them to pursue their interests and do what they desire.

Sandhya said...

As you say parents should find some past time and get themselves engaged. The life for the current generation is so fast that it is not easy for them to take care of their parents all the time. They will be definitely there to help them when the need arises.

Sandhya said...

Nice to see you back, Renu!

Jayashree said...

Good to see you posting again, Renu...

rama said...

Oh, your computer was the culprit, we were wondering what happened, no news , no blogs from your side.
Welcome back.
Nice topic,makes you think deeply.

Bikramjit said...

well said ..
but I am sure if the kids are brought up properly and with values they will look after there parents ..
as they would want themselves to be looked after by their kids ...

Bikram's

dr.antony said...

Do what we have to do.But dont expect anything in return.

Enigma said...

All I can say is parents are equally responsible for the way their children behave. And also instead of complaining they should find the gist of the problem and solve the matter.
I'm sure it will work! :)

deeps said...

indeed.. thats after a long time..

and yes, parenting is an art and obviously wont suit all those who have children but a few!!

Renu said...

Rachna:yes parents have to segregate themselves....we cant anymore cling or depend upon the children for anything.

Sandhya: Sandhya.its not all about need also as many parents are financially well of, its emotional support, which today's children cant provide.

jayshree: How are you doing? come over some time!!

Rama:I had some hard disk problem:(...this topic is very contemporary.

Bikram; I am not so sure about anything now-a days:)..wanting anything is totally different from giving it.

dr. Antony: these are the golden words, but so difficult to follow.

Enigma;true, parents are totally re4sponsible:):):):)..as they made the first mistake of bringing them in this world..hey I am joking:)

deeps:Parenting is the most thankless job:)

Babli said...

Wonderful post. You have portrayed the true fact very beautifully. I feel that everybody should do their work and duty without any desire to get in return.

Deeps said...

Good to have you back, Renu! I agree if parents find different avenues to keep themselves occupied then they will not have much time to brood or let negative thoughts creep into their minds.

Insignia said...

Things are changing. There would be differences in opinion. Just go about and dont expect

Jon said...

apparently Tamilians learnt a lesson on how great Amma's ;ove is and brougt her back home

Rajlakshmi said...

yeah interfering with children's life is no longer expected ...
but similarly children shouldn't leave their parents alone...
well written

Renu said...

Babli: what you say is the ideal thing, but human beings cant be such a saint:)

Deeps;This is the need of the time..to look beyond the children...

Insignia: change is good if it is for betterment but otherwise....

Jon:They had no choice.

Rajlakshmi:Before the children think of leaving them, parents should leave the children.

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