Yesterday i was talking to my daughter and she joked that i always compelled them to eat brinjal(she dislikes it) or that they were not allowed to choose vegetables,they were supposed to eat whatever was there in the menu,as I wanted them to eat all the different vegetables, as it is nutritious, so i thought may be I did wrong, I should have pampered them like some parents do where children eat whatever they want, do wahatevr they want, behave as they want, becuase I have seen that children brought up without any discipline of any kind are very attached to their parents as they think that their parents loved them too much.....whereas my thinking was to always inculcate a certain discipline, to make them adaptable to different conditions, make them independent. and to give them healthy food, of course balanced with ocasional pampering.
According to me to bring up the children with discipline be it in lifestyle, food or anything else, needs lots of efforts on the part of parents and certain sacrifices also. But then the results are also so satisfying as the children grow up
to be healthy individuals,without any vices,
to be such a person who bring happiness wherever they go.. ,
then sometimes children might be intelligent, but they need some guidance or a little push to reach their goals .......
.But sometimes I think that all these things parents do for the welfare of kids and they (kids) benefit also,but what do the parents get...sometimes the satisfaction of watching a succesful grown up and sometimes the accusations..mummy aapne hame roj baigan khilaya:) , aapne hame itna freedom nahi diya:)ofcourse in jest:).....whereas the second type of parents enjoyed their life and let their children also enjoy..if they become good and successful, its their luck and if they dont..well there will be always someone to blame:)
But given a choice again I would like to choose the same options.....I like to have certain discipline in life, certain decorum in behaviour, and that old world quality of wanting to make others happy:), so what if it is sometimes at the cost of our happiness also, that feel is so special, nothing can replace it.And I feel very proud when I see that my children have grown up to be a very sensitive ( remember for me being sensitive means being sensitive to other's feelings), and hard working persons, for that thing only I can hear it again and again....
mummy aapne hame roj baigan khilaya ha:) .......Once we had neighbours whose daughters were friends to my daughter. And they were so pampered, that if they wanted burger daily in lunch, they will get it, and if chowmein, so be it, they ate everything of their choice at their timings(no fix timings for lunch) and the result..both the girls became very fat, but the parents were hardly bothered, I could never be like that. and sometimes even children when they grow up, complain ...why you have made me like that, why you didnt make me independent and hard working etc etc.....you have ruined me.....
In matters of style, swim with the current;
in matters of principle, stand like a rock.~Thomas Jefferson~