Monday, August 31, 2009


Here is a lovely anecdote with a poem, I just loved it, so i am sharing it.I firmly believe that God has all the answers for me and he knows what is good for me. If something bad happens to me, then he wants to teach me a lesson, may be its me who is not able to understand what he is trying to tell me.And when I get something good, then he is rewarding me for my gooD Karma. And the people who suffer always live very near to god and are very dear to him whereas those who hurt others are always sent in this world as the messengers of Satan.

A young, new preacher was walking with an older, more seasoned preacher in the garden one day. Feeling a bit insecure about what God had for him to do, he was asking the older preacher for some advice.The older preacher walked up to a rosebush and handed the young preacher a rosebud and told him to open it without tearing off any petals. The young preacher looked in disbelief at the older preacher and was trying to figure out what a rosebud could possibly have to do with his wanting to know the will of God for his life and ministry.But because of his great respect for the older preacher, he proceeded to try to unfold the rose, while keeping every petal intact. It wasn't long before he realized how impossible this was to do.Noticing the younger preacher's inability to unfold the rosebud without tearing it, the older preacher began to recite the following poem:
It is only a tiny rosebud,
A flower of God's design;
But I cannot unfold the petalsWith these clumsy hands of mine.
The secret of unfolding flowersIs not known to such as I.
GOD opens this flower so sweetly,Then, in my hands, they die.
If I cannot unfold a rosebud,This flower of God's design,Then how can I have the wisdomTo unfold this life of mine?
So I'll trust in Him for leadingEach moment of my day.
I will look to Him for His guidance
Each step of the pilgrim way.The pathway that lies before me,Only my Heavenly Father knows.I'll trust Him to unfold the moments,Just as He unfolds the rose.


Friday, August 28, 2009

I was tagged by DEEPS for this different type of tag, and as usual I must be the last one to do it,
The rules are thus…
RULE 1You can only say Guilty or Innocent.
RULE 2You are not allowed to explain anything unless someone messages you and asks!
RULE 3Copy and paste this into your notes , delete my answers, type in your answers and tag 20 of your friends to answer this.

Asked someone to marry you? Innocent
Ever kissed someone of the same sex? Innocent
Danced on a table in a bar? Innocent
Ever told a lie? Guilty
Had feelings for someone whom you can’t have back? Innocent
Kissed a picture? Innocent
Slept in until 5 PM? Guilty
Fallen asleep at work/school? Innocent
Held a snake? Innocent.
Been suspended from school? Innocent
Worked at a fast food restaurant? Innocent
Stolen from a store? Innocent
Been fired from a job? Innocent
Done something you regret? Guilty
Laughed until something you were drinking came out your nose? Guilty
Caught a snowflake on your tongue? Innocent
Kissed in the rain? Innocent
Sat on a roof top? Guilty
Kissed someone you shouldn’t? Innocent
Sang in the shower? Guilty.
Been pushed into a pool with all your clothes on? Innocent
Shaved your head? Innocent
Had a boxing membership? Innocent.
Made a girlfriend cry? Innocent
Been in a band? Innocent
Shot a gun? Innocent
Donated Blood? Innocent
Eaten alligator meat? Innocent!
Eaten cheesecake? Guilty
Still love someone you shouldn’t? Guilty
Have/had a tattoo? Innocent.
Liked someone, but will never tell who? Innocent
Been too honest? Guilty
Ruined a surprise? Innocent
Ate in a restaurant and got really bloated that you couldn’t walk afterwards? Guilty.
Erased someone in your friends list? Guilty
Dressed in a woman’s clothes (if you’re a guy) or man’s clothes (if you’re a girl)? Innocent.
Joined a pageant? Innocent
Been told that you’re handsome or beautiful by someone who totally meant what they said? Guilty
Had communication with your ex? Innocent
Got totally drunk on the night before exam? Innocent.
Got totally angry that you cried so hard? Guilty!

See How boring I sound:)..I have lived a very staid and rule book type of life, and now to old to dare otherwise:)And Deeps has tagged lot many persons already, still I would like to tag...
Rebel and Swat are not going to do it:) so no point:) blog daughter:)
Poonam J
So friends one of these days when I drop on ur blog I am going to inform you, and in the meantime if you come here, please be kind enough to take this tag:)
Thank you !

Monday, August 24, 2009

BACK HOME :):):):)

Finally after four months I am back HOME.. and feeling so thrilled to be here, no place like your own country and your own home...go wherever you want, but in the end its good to be home.
Since I travelled by BA, all my flights went through London and all the time I had to spend half an hour explaining them why I dont have UK was such a pain that she will talk to UK US, and many other people till she gave me a clean chit and then again at the boarding she will stop me and recheck everything...the people abroad are so computerised that they dont use their mind at in India, at the booking counter, the girl just gave a call on walki talkie and within minutes she was told its fine and I was free to go in. And then when I see people criticising everything Indian, I just seethe....................
Even in the food section nothing is better than our even for water you have to call them twice and they served after boarding and then just before landing with a break of 6 hrs.....for me it was too much of a break. and I was hoping to watch atleast 2 movies and there was no choice this Hindi they were running only Rab NE bBana DI Jodi only:(.
When I got down at Chennai..that area was very dirty whereas they were screening evrybody for swine flu....what a contradiction.
For the last two days my phone hasnt stopped ringing...such an exhilarating feeling to be loved so much and surrounded by them..MY nephew came specially to see me and he is a complete delight....and the credit goes to my sister also..its how you bring up your children, she was telling me she wouldnt let him talk back to even the employees in their office becuase most of them started working before his birth and are older to him, so he should respect them, she always tells him..
That if a father is shouting at son..everybody will say ..see a father is teaching his son manners or scolding him.
but if a son shouts at father..everybody will say......see son is very ill mannered, disobedient(beta kitna badtameej ha baap se jawan lada raha ha)..meaning it will make you look bad only...
MY whole family is like that we dont teach our children to talk back or talk rudely to elders.I have been married for 33 years but never ever replied back to my MIl there must be many things I dislike but talking back doesnt come to me, I never talk back rudely to my mother also, and the same I have taught to my daughter also, and if she ever does that it will humiliate ME to no end and she always keeps it in her mind. Even when I got married, my father said just one thing to me.....beta kabhi sasuraal me jawab mat dena, sab yahi sochenge kaise pariwar se aayi ha) and I have kept his honour. I firmly believe that one gets happiness in life only with the blessings of elders.
The husband who brings light in the life of girls was not born out of tree, even otherwise in arranged marriages...first the family is seen then the boy...Not many girl's parent like a boy with why that family becomes so dispensable after marriage. Not a single girl will declare before marriage that
she will not like to live wirh then she and her family all will say..she will care like this and that.
I want the girls to have guts before marriage to say......they dont want inlaws or
if they want , then want them to behave like this,
or they will follow the traditions of their mother;s house here,
and all other things they want and then marry the boy who agree for their conditions.
Because then parent will also have the choice to accept or reject without any inhibitions. I see many girls getting married into rich joint families..enjoying the benefit of their status and money, but not complying the duties expected from them. Every family has its own traditions and everything, and it comes with all the pros and cant choose the pros and reject the cons..
When we talk everything before marriage..they must take stock before marriage what they are getting into..... if they like.commit, otherwise dont. Otherwise its not fair to the boy and his family.
My post is always about the type of people I see..I dont write about the bad MILs, becuase today I dont see them much. I feel that it went out with our generation. Iam a MIL but have so much of my own life to live that hardly have time to interfere with them, Rather I would say, I need my own privacy:)
I never ask to be waited upon
Never ask to take my permission to go out
never ask what they do in their life.
never interfere in their personal life.
I never say that she cant stay with her parents,(read somewhere that some girls have this problem that their mILs dont allow them to stay with their parents)
never asked her to stay with me more than she want to, she always stays with her parents mainly, comes to visit me and thats fine with me.
never ask her to cook.( I am a very good cook and can cook, bake make anything and everything:)and I think I can run a restaurant:)
I am independent financially also, I can give and do so with love( but my children do a lot for me and I believe that they also do it with love)
I only want her to be
respectful and polite,
in my house , or in my presence follow my traditions.( I only go for 2 months in two years and in that period if any festival falls)
Now I am going to put my house in order as the whole house is dirty and maid is on leave:)....
A belated happy Ganesh Chaturthi to you all!!!


Sorry friends ..I have removed the previous post as everybody felt it was my personal experience whereas it wasnt so, whereas I just wanted to show mirror to a few girls telling them how it looks if they do that and is that type of behaviour justified? I feel that some people just turn away their good luck and I feel sorry for them as they are unfortunate.

Monday, August 17, 2009


I saw many not so popular movies in the last days like..
STRAIGHT.......This is a fall out of few hit movies like Dostana and and few movie hit hero..Vinay Pathak. I dont think he is a hero material even for such movies..He is not like Amol Palekar or Farukh shaikh. The only good thing about this movie is the actor who played hero;s brother, I think he is Anuj.
SHORT CUT:..This is a comic take on the bollywood insider;s take, the only thing wrong is that they forgot whether they wanted to make a comedy or a serious movie.Arshad warsi becomes a super hit hero,called King Kumar by stealing the story and all that, but he is shown to be the same..sadak cchap even after becoming a hit hero with millions.And all the Challwallas making a film is taking it too far.But the incidents are quite an eye opener habout how this industry works. Akshay Khanna is hero with Amrita Rao. Chunky pandey has done his role with elan.
Luck: .........Here the concept is new but treatment is very shabby. Imran Khan has the fixed expressions throughout the movie and Shruti Hassan totally disappoints..neither a beauty nor a good actress. Danny and Mithun are wasted. Sanjay Dutt has essayed the role of don umpteen times,and he hasnt done anything new here....only Ravi kishan apeals a little.
IT COULD HAPPEN TO YOU:.This is a lovely movie,which shows that world loves the lovers.
FAR & AWAY: ..this is the movie set in the period of 1887 i think,with Tom cruise and Nicole kidman and liked it. So much like an indian love story:)
NEW YORK: This is a very well made movie about the plight of muslims in US after 9-11...with stellar acting from Irfaan Khan and Neil Nitin Mukesh, Even John Abraham and Katrina have done well. The end is very tragic and sometimes Omar;s attitude is little puzzling also. I feel that if any community wants to be considered fair and upright, they have to show it by weeding out the bad ones or not shelter them or support them anywhere.

Wednesday, August 12, 2009


A sign in the Bank Lobby reads:
"Please note that this Bank is installing new Drive-through teller machines enabling customers to withdraw cash without leaving their vehicles. Customers using this the facilities are requested to use the procedures outlined below when gaining access their accounts. After months of careful research, MALE & FEMALE procedures have been developed. Please follow the appropriate steps for your gender.
1. Drive up to the cash machine.
2. Put down your car window.
3. Insert card into machine and enter PIN.
4. Enter amount of cash required and withdraw.
5. Retrieve card, cash and receipt.
6. Put window up.
7. Drive off.
1. Drive up to cash machine.
2. Reverse and back up the required amount to align car window with the machine.
3. Set parking brake, put the window down.
4. Find handbag, remove all contents on to passenger seat to locate card.
5. Tell person on cell phone you will call them back and hang up.
6. Attempt to insert card into machine.
7. Open car door to allow easier access to machine due to its excessive distance from the car.
8. Insert card.
9. Re-insert card the right way.
10. Dig through handbag to find diary with your PIN written on the inside back page.
11. Enter PIN.
12. Press cancel and re-enter correct PIN.
13. Enter amount of cash required.
14. Check makeup in rear view mirror.
15. Retrieve cash and receipt.
16. Empty handbag again to locate wallet and place cash inside.
17. Write debit amount in check register and place receipt in back of checkbook.
18. Re-check makeup. 19. Drive forward 2 feet.
20. Reverse back to cash machine.
21. Retrieve card.
22. Re-empty hand bag, locate card holder, and place card into the slot provided.
23. Give appropriate one-fingered hand signal to irate male driver waiting behind you.
24. Restart stalled engine and pull off.
25. Redial person on cell phone.
26. Drive for 2 to 3 miles.
27. Release Parking Brake.