Since I travelled by BA, all my flights went through London and all the time I had to spend half an hour explaining them why I dont have UK visa..it was such a pain that she will talk to UK US, and many other people till she gave me a clean chit and then again at the boarding she will stop me and recheck everything...the people abroad are so computerised that they dont use their mind at all.........here in India, at the booking counter, the girl just gave a call on walki talkie and within minutes she was told its fine and I was free to go in. And then when I see people criticising everything Indian, I just seethe....................
Even in the food section nothing is better than our Maharaja.......here even for water you have to call them twice and they served after boarding and then just before landing with a break of 6 hrs.....for me it was too much of a break. and I was hoping to watch atleast 2 movies and there was no choice this time..in Hindi they were running only Rab NE bBana DI Jodi only:(.
When I got down at Chennai..that area was very dirty whereas they were screening evrybody for swine flu....what a contradiction.
For the last two days my phone hasnt stopped ringing...such an exhilarating feeling to be loved so much and surrounded by them..MY nephew came specially to see me and he is a complete delight....and the credit goes to my sister also..its how you bring up your children, she was telling me she wouldnt let him talk back to even the employees in their office becuase most of them started working before his birth and are older to him, so he should respect them, she always tells him..
That if a father is shouting at son..everybody will say ..see a father is teaching his son manners or scolding him.
but if a son shouts at father..everybody will say......see son is very ill mannered, disobedient(beta kitna badtameej ha baap se jawan lada raha ha)..meaning it will make you look bad only...
MY whole family is like that we dont teach our children to talk back or talk rudely to elders.I have been married for 33 years but never ever replied back to my MIl there must be many things I dislike but talking back doesnt come to me, I never talk back rudely to my mother also, and the same I have taught to my daughter also, and if she ever does that it will humiliate ME to no end and she always keeps it in her mind. Even when I got married, my father said just one thing to me.....beta kabhi sasuraal me jawab mat dena, sab yahi sochenge kaise pariwar se aayi ha) and I have kept his honour. I firmly believe that one gets happiness in life only with the blessings of elders.
The husband who brings light in the life of girls was not born out of tree, even otherwise in arranged marriages...first the family is seen then the boy...Not many girl's parent like a boy with nothing...so why that family becomes so dispensable after marriage. Not a single girl will declare before marriage that
she will not like to live wirh inlaws..no then she and her family all will say..she will care like this and that.
I want the girls to have guts before marriage to say......they dont want inlaws or
if they want , then want them to behave like this,
or they will follow the traditions of their mother;s house here,
and all other things they want and then marry the boy who agree for their conditions.
Because then parent will also have the choice to accept or reject without any inhibitions. I see many girls getting married into rich joint families..enjoying the benefit of their status and money, but not complying the duties expected from them. Every family has its own traditions and everything, and it comes with all the pros and cons..one cant choose the pros and reject the cons..
When we talk everything before marriage..they must take stock before marriage what they are getting into..... if they like.commit, otherwise dont. Otherwise its not fair to the boy and his family.
My post is always about the type of people I see..I dont write about the bad MILs, becuase today I dont see them much. I feel that it went out with our generation. Iam a MIL but have so much of my own life to live that hardly have time to interfere with them, Rather I would say, I need my own privacy:)
I never ask to be waited upon
Never ask to take my permission to go out
never ask what they do in their life.
never interfere in their personal life.
I never say that she cant stay with her parents,(read somewhere that some girls have this problem that their mILs dont allow them to stay with their parents)
never asked her to stay with me more than she want to, she always stays with her parents mainly, comes to visit me and thats fine with me.
never ask her to cook.( I am a very good cook and can cook, bake make anything and everything:)and I think I can run a restaurant:)
I am independent financially also, I can give and do so with love( but my children do a lot for me and I believe that they also do it with love)
I only want her to be
respectful and polite,
in my house , or in my presence follow my traditions.( I only go for 2 months in two years and in that period if any festival falls)
Now I am going to put my house in order as the whole house is dirty and maid is on leave:)....
A belated happy Ganesh Chaturthi to you all!!!