Wednesday, February 3, 2010


Below are commandments of life I got from a spiritual site I like, now I want to check what is there in the list and how much they relate to me, what i do and what need some improvement:)

1. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

This is the best mantra of life and brings happiness all around us, I have started doing it and it works like magic.

2. Memorize your favorite poem.

Instead of any poem I like songs:)

3. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have, or sleep all you want.

Another many times we hear something and make impressions which are far from truth, and as far as spending is concerned one must always save a substantial amount from one's earnings.Sleeping too much is bad for health and life both.

4. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
Oh.. hundred percent, I dont believe in lying in any sphere of life, I ask even my children not to give me cards where they promise me the moon, unless they can deliver:).

5. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
Its two hundred percent true..sorry is one word which is used in vain all the time, people say sorry just to calm other person, they never mean it. meaning it means, not doing the same thing again, thats the best way of saying sorry,

6. Be engaged at least six months before you get married and get your parents approval.
I believe in this totally for many reasons..six months period is mandatory because it will bring your fever down and let you see the reality, and by then if you are still in love, then it is a long lasting one, and parents approval is a must as marriage as it is a very difficult relationship and cant sustain without their support.

7. Believe in love at first sight.
I dont believe in this.

8. Never laugh at anyone's dreams.
True, because one always dreams about seemingly impossible things, but perseverant people make them possible also.

9. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt, but it's the only way to live life completely.
At a time I thought that there is no point in loving anybody as we get hurt only, but then I realised its like not living, I must be my natural self..a loving person, what others give me is their must be irrelevant to me.So now I have decided to be natural the way i am always going over the top while loving, exce-t that i wont care now what theya re doing in return.

10. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
OMG..this one takes the cake..anger most of the time brings out the worst in us, but then only our character is tested, I try to control myself and whenever I have lost it, I have regretted it.

11. Don't judge people by their relatives.
Of course how can we?

12. Talk slow but think quick.
I talk very fast and so is my thinking quick:)

13. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
so true when someone asks you about salary?

14. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
I agree.

15. Call your Mom.
Oh yes, I call my mom regularly, and so does my daughter, its my son who is irregular:).sometimes too much, sometimes too little.

16. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
I do>

17. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
I learn everyday with everything and everybody something or the other.

18. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.
True.specially with the children, they want autonomy in the family:) but rarely perpared to take the consequences:)

19. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship
But with me it happens....trying to change....
20. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
That I am very prompt in... saying sorry..which I mean and making amends, no verbal sorries for me.

21. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice
....Yeah, whenever I call my family, and if they reply in slow voices , I get unsettled.

22. Marry someone you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other skill.
This is what I told my son about how to choose a girl:)..(of course it shouldnt be the main quality:)

23. Spend time alone
Me time is very important to me.

24. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.

25. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
Even I think so.

26. Read more books and watch less TV
I follow this religiously....dont like TV much except for movies. give me books any time.

27. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll get to enjoy it a second time.
Doing so:)

28. Trust in God, but lock your car.
certainly..God is not a watchman for us:)

29. A loving atmosphere in your home is so important. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.
I cant even live with strife in the family.

30. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation; don't bring up the past.
This is one of the best most of time fighting people go so far in blaming that they forget the point even they were fighting about.Earlier I was also guilty of this, now trying to learn.

31. Read between the lines.
sometimes it is good, and sometimes it is bad also.Reading too much bings strees(between the lines of course:)

32. Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
Doing that presently:)

33. Be gentle with the earth.
Then only we can use it.

34. Pray -- there's immeasurable power in it.
Prayer can bring miracles.

35. Never interrupt when you are being flattered.
Flattery is also good to hear sometimes:)

36. Mind your own business.
This one is so true..interference anywhere is not good, lead your own life.

37. Don't trust someone who doesn't close their eyes when you kiss them.

38. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.
now will start this tradition.

39. If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That's wealth's greatest satisfaction.
I dont make a lot of money but still want to help others.

40. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.
That i know, because there is a saying in Hindi..khuda ganjey ko nakhoon nahi deta......God is always great and he knows better than us what we need.

41. Learn the rules then break some.
I believe in living by rules, no rule breaking for me.

42. Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.
Trying to understand this....true with children, difficult with a spouse:)

43. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

44. Remember that your character is your destiny.
Then I have a good destiny:)..character is one thing even I give the utmost importance in life.

45. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.
Yeah:) I do lot of cooking for my family and love them more than I should.

46. Realize that as you get older, you are not approaching death, but heaven.
That I have realised and I dont fear death and even if today i die I wouldnt have any regrets, I would die a happy person.


Wicked Witch of the West said...

Lovely! I have seen this a long time back, and so nice to see it again, when I can safely say I do a lot more of these well than I did then(just to be a tad less impulsive on the speaking :D) Will have to save this and reread :) And give my kids (well, at least, the one who can read) a cut down version.

Piper .. said...

Renu, what a beautiful post!
It is not showing in the beginning, because it was pbly in the drafts dated 22nd jan. So copy paste the whole thing in a new post and publish again, so all can read.

Renu said...

WWoF:..we mature with time:)..I need to read these things periodically to keep me on the track:)

Piper: thank you Mishy for telling me..kahin na kahin kuch gadbad kar hi jaati hoon:)..Thank you so much!!!

Ashish said...

Regarding the last one, I'm too young to think about this...I have a lot of unanswered questions...and I want to try to unravel few mysteries of the present the biggest of them is "people"!...I keep looking at various people and become judgmental about their personality...

Manjunath said...

Nice one....

the heading should have been 46 commandments to remember ;)

SUFFIX said...

Thanks for these invaluable reminders, few of them i do practise, let me grab other tips as well. Have a nice day Mam

Balvinder Singh said...

Those are great thoughts. And nice to read that you are following all of them religiously. Congrats.

Renu said...

Ashish:.what about the rest of 45?...I think we must leave the judgement part to God.

Balvinder:..Not following all of them:) but trying to.

manjunath: yes that would have been more appropriate, but then I just wanted it to be a bit different.

Suffix: Take stock of them at your blog, atleast we can also see:)
Good day to you too!!!

Ashish said...

The other 45 are fine but difficult to practice everytime ... we are just humans

Renu said...

Ashish: yes, but then nothing good ever came the esy way:)..they are difficult but we can always try:)

Sparkling said...

'Love them more than you should'???? When did love start to get quantified? :p

And btw, why didn't you answer point 37 :p

Okay, I'm sorry, I really like teasing you s'times, Renu :)

Renu said...

Sparkling: good question:)..but it happens at some time of your life, when you think that you shouldnt love someone so much:)

No sorry, I love your teasing:)..will tell you the answer when we meet:)

Deeps said...

Beautiful post,Renu. Loved the way you interpreted the commandments in your own context.

Amrita said...

Very bful post.. and hold ur breath for a longy long comment
Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully. -- I somehow feel ppl might take u for granted if this is done :S dunno happens with me
Memorize your favorite poem. -- Its If by rudyard kipling.. think i shd memorise it
6. Be engaged at least six months before you get married and get your parents approval.--We waited a year :) and yea with parents approvals :)
7. Believe in love at first sight.
I dont believe in this either.
10. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.Sooooo true
12. Talk slow but think quick.
I talk very fast and so is my thinking quick:)hahaha good one Renu
14. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.-- Completeeeeely!!
17. When you lose, don't lose the lesson. -- I am verrrrry forgetful :(
22. Marry someone you love to talk to.-- Hehe K is damn talkative too!
35. Never interrupt when you are being flattered.-- Its so rare tht it happens to me.. why wud i stop?
38. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.
now will start this tradition.-- Me tooo should
40. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.--Hard to digest but yea its kinda true... now also trying to cope with this.

Renu said...

Amrita::S dunno happens with happens with me too...people take you for granted, but then those people are really not worth it, so this way you get to know them, and then get beware of them and segregate them.

and not getting..this is also a way of thinking positive..and I get good logic also when I think like that.

Chanz said...

this is amazing Renu ji... there are few things which I follow and few which i dont... but i want to do 1 good thing every day.. every single day i will pick up one ofthese and would think abput how it will help me or even those around me..

Babli said...

Very nice, interesting and informative post. Its really difficult to remember all the 45 commandments but definitely it will help in our day to day life.

J P Joshi said...

A very good list.. good to read about your agreements/ disagreements with the list and also about how you are doing... will be doing a self assessment shortly.

muthu said...

A good list...

but if you take a deeper look you will see that...

the main aim of the list is to take an interest in your own life,

& have fun... dont you think so

Chandrika Shubham said...

Interesting! :)
I liked No.12 very much. :)

Shalini said...

beautiful post. It was very inspirational reading this. And I read it at the right time when I needed it. Will surely get back to it every now and than to keep myself on the path.

Love fully is the best one, if we were able to do these things, earth would be such a good place to live.

Renu said...

Chanz:drop this Ji:)..I know that you are a good soul,If we think in the right direction, we certainly follow that with our actions, so rest assured.

JP Joshi:..I will be looking forward to your self assesment....

Muthu:..may be, but never have fun at the cost of your values or others:)

Chandrika Shubham:..12th question or my answer?:):)

Shalini: Theses things are not so difficult..Its only a matter of making up our automatically comes.

Renu said...

BAbli: nobody can rememeber, its only that we can try to be a good human being, that will suffice:)

radha said...

Nice one. Like you said - be a good human being. That is what is important.

Renu said...

radha:..yeah ultimately everything comes to that only.

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