Showing posts from May, 2013


Just the other day my nephew was saying that people are neither good or bad,its vibes only we have good vibes with some and with some we dont...The same people are liked by some and disliked by some
And I have heard many people saying that in the outer world people love them whereas in family they are not valued...
Both above statements stem from the same....karma

In the first lets talk about vibes...what are vibes..we care for somebody, talk with love, spend our time, money on them, and do things for them and they get get good vibes from us..its our behaviour which gets us vibes, nothing else, if one misbehaves with some one, that someone will not good vibes from one..

The same person behaves differently with different persons...with one set of people he/she is all sweet, caring  ,polite and eager to please , and with other set of persons, she/he is arrogant, rude,and never ready to do anything for the result is obvious, first set of people will like and second one will dis…



Be careful from whom you get your advice.

Make sure they are where you want to go
or at least headed there.

For sooner or later, their advice will take you
where they are.

Make sure you want to go there.

This And That

Now a days  my blog is being read by more people than before but comments are less than may be i am getting lot of new readers..and i would request them to drop some would make me happy..

Lately i have been reading a lot, watching lot of movies too, so much so that I am not able to write anything about them.isnt it a contradiction? but this is happening to me..presently i am reading Lucknowi boy..Vinod mehta, and this time I would certainly write a review.

I Believe in infinithism and I read the book seriously and their view point is always new and positive.Yesterday i met one of their representative and came to know that they run a course of some 10-15 sessions where they teach about many to live your life with purpose and be successful and happy. As we see in todays life, people neither have good relationships nor good health, just earn a lot.So they bring that balance in far so good...But when I knew the fee for the course i was surpri…

some quotes I liked

Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.”
Eleanor Roosevelt
“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” Mark Twain
“Have the courage to say no.
Have the courage to face the truth.
Do the right thing because it is right.
 These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity.”

To be capable of steady friendship or lasting love, are the two greatest proofs,  not only of goodness of heart, but of strength of mind. William Hazlitt
Affection is not measured when both take care of each other  It is measured when one Ignores and the other still continues to care...

Don't be content with doing only your duty. Do more than your duty.  It's the horse that finishes a neck ahead wins the race. Andrew Carnegie.

Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings,  turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.

strawberry and worms

Strawberries and Worms

Personally I am very fond of strawberries and cream, but I have
found that for some strange reason, fish prefer worms.

So when I went fishing, I didn’t think about what I wanted.
I thought about what they wanted. I didn't bait the hook with
strawberries and cream. Rather, I dangled a worm or grasshopper
in front of the fish and said: "Wouldn't you like to have that?"

Why not use the same common sense when fishing for people?

~Dale Carnegie, from How to Win Friends and Influence People~


Today i saw a news that  in Chennai old parents committed suicide because there DIL filed a false report that his FIL misbehaved with him. It saddened me a lot.Parents always think that children will be their saviour when they grow old and then this..

I would say that parents must understand that the time of living with children is gone, so whether you are able to do less or more for your children, but make sure that you arrange for your old age, and never live with children. I have seen that wherever parents are rich or earn more than the children, they are respected and certain discipline is followed , but once children start earning more, DILs become totally irreverent and arrogant without any discipline in life. So whether we like it or not money matters.

Somewhere most of the people cant give up a life of comfort, even if it comes after forfeiting self respect, here I differ.I believe in living with dignity, may be without material comfort or some day to day problems even..Now t…

Extra Marital relationships

Recently I read two books one from Nirupama Subramaniyam and other from Anita Nair., and both had extra marital relationship at the core.Why do they happen? Normally people think that some dissatisfaction is at the core of that, but not necessarily. Sometimes, or many time people just think of themselves and enjoying the life.
Whether arranged marriage or love, there will always be a time when life settles to a routine without any adventure, and if one is ready to think then it is stagnation. Or sometimes its individual growth, one advanc3s and other is not able to grow with times and people feel incompatible. I hear many women saying after 25 years of marriage that they are ill suited to each other or they feel a vacuum in their life.Of course it happens, but sensible people find the solution withing marriage only.
The best way to find a solution is to communicate what you want, but the problem arise when its one sided and other just doesnt want to do anything to better or always th…


For the last week whenever I open any paper there are deals galore for mother's day, and gifts could be anything..from home appliances to home....I smile at the merchants finding one more idea to sell their merchandise.Now a days there are so many special days in a year that diificult to remember..mother's day, father's day.children's day,bdays, anniversaries and then our festivals,and Akshay tritiya and many more.....

Mother's day is celebrated with pomp and show whereas today only I read a news where one set of parents in Gujarat are running from pillar to post to get relief from their DIL and son who are tormenting them so much.Its not something you can celebrate in a day, it should be your day to day business. Today not many children want to live with parents, not in the same house. Those who live, are rude frequently and disrespect them frequently, but on mother's day all feel happy by giving some small token or a card. Ask anyone who celebrates these day…

Corruption in our homes

Now a days whenever we open the paper in the morning, there is a new scam..corruption is reaching new heights and we all feel sad and frustrated. But are we all not doing some little corruption in our daily lives..and doest it matter only with quantum or even spirit is important....
I have seen many people who consider themselves as pillars of society and are quite arrogant and snob, but totally corrupt financially...And they are called respectable people, though personally I dont respect anyone like that..Few examples...

Many people participate in the pilferage of by having a jugaad for running multiple ACs and paying for none, wheres poor just take it without paying anything, as in slums...

Many doctors get a govt job and collect the salaries without going there at all, all the while running their own practices. And many who go charge extra from the patients, and prescribe them expensive tests where their cut is predecided.Tests may not be even required and here …


Lessons in Forgetting..Anita Nair
a very good, interesting book and with a purpose.Meera is a corporate wife happy with her parties, elegant settings and etiquette's.whereas her husband is ambitious and wants to sell her house to start a business. When she denies it( she cant sell it as she has no right over it, but she doesnt tell it to him), he leaves her.Then the story is about how she picks up her life, meets Jak(Indian American, also divorced). And Jak is looking for the people who destroyed her daughter because she found a clinic where infanticide is being practised for money.Its quite interesting to read how Indians see a girl who is born and brought up in US and the different interpretation of same things and behaviour by Indians and Americans. How sensibilities change with upbringing and environment.

Stay Hungry Stay foolish...Rashmi Bansal
This is a very inspiring book. It is a compilation of 25 stories of IIM graduate who became entrepreneurs..I was very impressed with M…