Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Stress

Stress is the most common word today..everybody talks about it and has it and wants to lessen it.but nobody thinks about why it happens.Most of the time people attribute it to others..like the other people in their life are creating for them and adding to it. Nobody bothers to introspect and realise that most of the time stress is caused because of our behaviour..and wrong behaviour.If we dont do anything right, we get stressed , so why not do it right...but then they want temporary happiness with self gratification and invite stress in their life..

Just the other day i was talking to a young girl who felt that her stress was because of her in laws, and when I enquired a little more, I came to know that they are very accommodating, but she is very in disciplined in her life and can not run her house in normal timings, she likes to get up, eat and go out as and when the heart desires and  and since this way one cant manage   a family, stress comes.So instead of realising that stress is there because of her only, she blames her inlaws..easy escape goats.

Yesterday I saw Breakup and the fight between hero heroine is so common...husband not helping in the house, not remembering the grocery list and all that. I fail to understand why people dont communicate all this without shouting..and blaming each other.Wife must understand that husbands are human and you cant change them according to your desires in a perfect man and the same way husband must realise that sometimes they need to understand that wife also needs support and some molly cuddling even if they are tired..Most of the time couple is so wired in keeping their other relations in perfect sync that they forget to bother about their own life.

Change yourself instead of changing the world or wishing others to be perfect, try to perfect your self..



13 comments:

Rama Ananth said...

You are very right, if the attitude of change is there within each of us, life can indeed be stress free.

Rama Ananth said...

You are very right, if the attitude of change is there within each of us, life can indeed be stress free.

Avada Kedavra said...

Stress harms us in many ways. I am always under stress. :(
I don't quite agree with that girl's example though. She might be going out because she does not like to stay at home and that in turn maybe because of the way in laws treat her at home. There can be various reasons for her behavior and the stress can also be because of other reasons.

Renu said...

Rama Anath: Not all the time but most of the time it can happen:)

Avada Kedavra:I About the girl..I know her well and her family..
Some inlaws may be bad but not all, specially in today's times many are adjusting more than the girls..I am myself doing it..(adjustment)

Asha said...

Antidote for stress is meditation i feel. Our elders led a spiritual life and they handled stress very well. Similarly, in today's fast paced world with people having different priorities, various interesst and wanting to do so many things in such little time, very few can handle stress. we have to look within and the answer i feel is spirituality.

anilkurup said...

Agree with you.
Often we get stressed for matters that are beyond our capability.
Though adjustments and reasoning , understanding etc will help.

I find that many things do not go the way we would want. fretting and agonising is not of help. Though it is difficult got to swim with the tide without going down.

SG said...

If stress continues for a longer time, it can have devastating results. We should learn to let go of stress.

Renu said...

Asha: meditation is best..but if we want to prevent it, we have to improve ourselves.

Anil Kurup:We have to learn to accept everything..

SG: stress starts a chain of diseases...

Chai a Cup of Life said...

I really like and agree with your thoughts on this. Blaming others for your own stress is the easy way out which many (including me!) do all the time. I have also have seen the movie 'Breakup' and I did not like it for that reason that they just kept yelling at each other..

Renu said...

Chai A Cup Of Life:I felt bad in the Breakup when they didnt get together in the end....it was all a miss communication of the needs plus trying to change the other..

sm said...

yes one needs to change

Ashwini C N said...

Very true. We should first look for faults from within and try to correct them. Most often we tend to complicate simple things by our own assumptions and end up with problems which weren't there in the first place.

Renu said...

SM: Yes sometimes changing ourselves is the best thing..

Ashwini C N :)True, and most of the time we tend to blame others for everything in our life...