Then i the evening I watched a little of..TERE MERE BEECH ME..a show by Farah khan the director and choreographer...here are a few of her statements and questions to the guest .....
1--Now I am going to present two girls who are like SONS to their families......
Notice the saying sons..it shows our prejudice, why be like sons, why not good responsible girls?..I hear many families saying..for us our girls are like sons,..hello what do you mean by that, why cant girls be like girls only? it shows that whatever we say we still consider the boys better.whereas we keep denying any credit to boys even by saying that girls are more caring.
2--You have done for your families what normally the boys do.....
with this statement we say two things...like boys do a lot for their family again a contradiction because you must have heard many people say that girls are more caring, though i dont understand the meaning of their caring and we are showing our gender bias.
I have forgotten the other questions, but this show was full of such things. My opinion is that to bring equality in this world we will have to change our thinking..
Girls need not not to be like boys, they just need to be good in everything.We need both in our lives..boys and girls.
Girls need to be independent in everything in life...that way I like what John Abraham said about Bipasha...he admired her for being totally independent, never asking him for any work to be done or any maintenance of house or anything else.She can take care of ANYTHING... thats what is independence all about.
And to bring a change we need to have a righteous thinking....
today what I see is that girls like want a husband who
1...earns more ,
2---respects their parents and looks after them well,but should have some self respect and not stay with inlaws
3...is a metro sexual men..well groomed and helps in the house., soft hearted,but shouldnt be a sissy.
4--if possible with eight packs abs.but shoulnt look for beauty in a wife, as beauty is not important as the virtues.
5..strong enough to protect them,
6-pamper them silly,
8-shouldnt take or expect anything from inlaws
so you will see that most of the points are a contradiction ....
1....why earn more..there will be always one partner who will earn more and it could be either wife or husband..if wives can live with the husband's earnings, so can the husband with wife's
2-Why the boys living with inlaws are looked down upon..why?.if he has the duty to look after them , then he can stay also with them, secondly if you want him to take care and respect your parents, then you better do that to his parents..you just cant discard them from his life.
3--its humanly quite difficult.
8...is very gender biased, when girls always want their inlaws to DO EVERYTHING for them, then so should their parents..if the boys get the share in their parents property, so should the girls bring it in their marriage..to make it equal.
Why is this that whatever a girl brings to the marriage is DOWRY and what boys get is INHERITANCE.
Till we get a clarity of thoughts, we will have all these muddled up minds and sometimes girls and sometimes boys will keep getting exploited. To me everything boils down to one thing....Just be a good human being !
In Big Boss Raju Srivastava got evicted..it was Ok also, otherwise he would have lost his fans. Now I think its totally a manipulated game, though I would love to see Bakhtiar winnnig, but thats not going to happen, either Poonam or Vindu will win.
I saw..OH MY GOD..this movie is about a common man (Vinay Pathak) who promotes a scheme to get rich, one day his wife cries a lot in front of God to help him, now god comes in the form of lottery seller and insists Vinay to buy lottery and then a particular ticket, he doesnt listen to him, the he comes to him in the form of a gambler and let him wins 10 crores, he doesnt take as he doesnt want to take the gambling money, and then he changes the pamphlets of his scheme to currency notes and then the mayhem starts:)..very funny movie, though the message it gives doesnt sound good, because he faces all the difficulties becuse he wants honest money. Divya dutta plays his wife. And Saurabh Shukla as God is just fabulous and best dialogues are given to him..it was fun watching what God thinks when his different type of devotees come to him and cry.