Friday, April 4, 2014

Perspective

There is this perfect  joint family..atleast outsiders seem to think so..parents and  children living together in harmony..

whenever other parents see them they say...Their children are so respectful, so hard working..they are so lucky to have such children in today's times,and their DILs, so respectful and always asking them and looking after them so lovingly...(big sigh)...Here mine..she is so lazy and extravagant with no respect for elders....

Whenever the young people see them, they say....what a liberal family, their parents are so supporting and understanding, they dont interfere at all,..ek hamaare hain...They are always sitting on our head, asking everything, demanding so much that we have no time for our selves...:(

Its only perspective , we see what we want to see...

A perfect family can never be made by either parents or children , it has to be joint effort.
Parents should try to be as independent as possible and should'nt try to know and interfere in every little detail of their children's life....Its their life, let them live with all mistakes and all....Let them face the consequences of their actions, instead of try to warn them..they wouldnt understand...

And children should never be rude and disrespectful to their parents, if they cant do anything, they must explain and try to make them understand.And make provision for all their parent's requirements.They should treat them as part of family, not extra or burden.




12 comments:

manjujoglekar said...

I don't think there really is any such thing as a 'perfect family'. All families have ups and downs.

I think that as long as members of a family truly care about the happiness of one-another, things will be alright. :)

SG said...

Nice post. But each individual has different interpretation of a "perfect family".

Enchantress said...

I Agree :)

Jeevan said...

Well said! Joint effort is perfect bonding

sm said...

yes we see what we want to see
must learn to see both sides

Chai a Cup of Life said...

It is a joint effort needing a lot of communication and understanding. No family is perfect, but yeah some do appear to be.

Renu said...

manju joglekar: Right..I wrote only for the discussion sake and for what ousiders seem to think...

SG: exactly..

Enchantress: Thanks!

Jeevan: very true!

sm: Thats the crux of life..

Chai a cup of life: some seem to be because their memebers atleast make an effort in front of others:)

Sandhya said...

Different people have different ways of defining 'interference'! As you say, elders should try to be as independent as possible. They should not expect 100% attention from their children. All are too busy nowadays, unlike our times. Children should do their best not to hurt their parents. Other side of the fence is always green!

Nice post, Renu!

Ashwini C N said...

Very True. It is like a two-way street. Effort should come from both sides.

Renu said...

Sandhya:Even in our times, did we like it?.so why not change the way..

Ashwini CN:..yes, and both should understand the value of family..

loveonthebeach said...

Haha, joint family and perfect do not belong in the same sentence :)

Renu said...

loveonthebeach: well said!..it was quite hypothetical:)