Thursday, December 29, 2011


One father sided with his DIL and grandchildren when his son had differences,because he thought that they were right, and the4 consequences..son took the divorce and when married again, he didnt even call his father who was in the same city..I felt so sad, how could children be like that?.Are the parents there to just support you and agree with you? dont they have the right to differentiate between right and wrong?.whats happening......

One couple who married against their parent's wishes wanted protection from police because they feared their parents, what has happened to parents? could they even think of killing their offsprings?.saying the right thing is their right, but taking lives is not...How can they even think of hurting their own children?
... They are a shame for the name of parents ...they dont deserve to be called parents.

Being parents mean looking after your children when they are young and always wishing them well and never doing anything to hurt them...please learn the meaning of parents..

Tuesday, December 27, 2011



It was a hit movie , so I was interested, but felt very dissappointed.Its like the movies of 80,90 where villain created a mayhem everywhere.I dont like to see such violence and when police is shown efficient and still they are beaten, their families killed and what does their efficiency mean..nothing..they know everything and still are incompetent..thats why i loved Wanted and Dabangg..they were better crafted without mindless violence...The only plus point about this movie is Genelia..she always brings whiff of fresh air.. a delight to watch.....John has everything going for him, but story makes him a loser.

I nevr thought that Saif who is from a privileged back ground, could esaay the role of underprivileged, but he has done it,but Prateik is really good.One good thing about this movie is that they have said all there is for and against reservation, through all the characters and left it to the audience to decide what is good..though thru their protagonist they show that they are in favour of reservation. But at the same time they have shown the problems and miseries of poor upper class too.
Their solution is utopian and when we couldnt bring the underpriviloeged at par after 60 years of reservation, we must stop it.I favour the statement from Tanvi Aazmi that underprivileged must be given all the facilities for their primary education to bring them at par, but no reservation in either jobs or competitions.
Since it is a movie, they have ideal people like AB and his family, Tabelas so big that one can run instituions there...all sundry people supporting them.....

It is a very simple love story without any high octave scenes or situations..its just the treatment and Salman Khan who make it lovable and endearing..I liked it:)

If anybody is interested in watching some interesting serial, then please watch..AFSAR BITIYA....its a sheer delight to see real people and city and that girl.who is the protagonist.she is my ideal,and gets my respect all the way.A girl who does what she dichotomy anywhere ..and she is independent without being rude or uncaring,simple without beeing foolish, I think if they go properly, this girl could be an a person should be..
This and the girl in Hitler didi..both get my support, thats the way to be...thats s the meaning of being modern, progressive to me.

Sunday, December 25, 2011


Yesterday i had a very interesting discussions about children with a friend. I am of the view that all normal well to do couples must have atleast two thought being that this

Makes a happy family..
single child feels very lonely, here they get company.
Children need somebody very close to them whom they can confide and share their thoughts.
Since parents wont live forever, one must have someone related in blood.
One enjoys the life more, and festivals too

but their thoughts shook my faith, theb say..
Today nobody has time and they dont talk to their siblings very often.
people are located globally, so distances are too much too visit often.
financially also it is convenient to have one only.

what do you think?

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Dignity in living

Dignity..small word with big meaning......most of the people think that with age dignity comes naturally,though it should, but I have seen many old people behaving greedily, in a manner most unsuited to their

Once in a kitty party there were mostly aged their 60/s 70/s and all of them from wealthy families, that i knew because they were talking about no. of cars they have, how big their houses are and all that and when they played tambola, they wanted even 5/ to be divided in 3 people and given., they couldnt leave that to their friends...I was shocked,because I have never bothered about small things like that.

Then there was this old lady who was so miserly with domestic help that would never ever give anything to her whereas she would part with everything for her daughters or relatives....again shocking to me, because to me being good means doing things for others, For their own blood , everybody does and it is out of attachment, so it has no value to me.

I have seen many grown ups cheating in playing games at parties, old ladies helping their grand children in winning and cribbing when they all surprises me, because the people who cant keep their morals even in such small things, what can we expect from them?.where is that spirit of playing, playing fair and happily..why winning is so important?

And then that fatal attraction for mother used to tell us when we were young that eating too much is never a good omen and takes away the wealth of the house and secondly any homemaker is Annpoorna and she brings prosperity to her home if she puts family over self...and we all siblings are like this..... will always keep things for others, like if any day quantity of cooked vegetable was less, then it will be left even after every body has eaten, because everyone will leave for the other one,sharing comes so easily to us, and so I feel very surprised when I see in the families people taking food without any thought to others,or distributing unequally,or keeping the best for self...

I think that with age one must exercise restrain..with everything, be it talking, eating,sightseeing or any type of greed.specially if they are not physically competent..since they have come to this age, it already means they have seen enough of everything...why not make your life a gift to others? inspiration....

Wednesday, December 14, 2011


My son came home from school one day, with a smirk upon his face.
He'd decided he was smart enough, to put me in my place.
"Guess what I learned in Civics Two,
that's taught by Mr. Wright?
It's all about the laws today,
The "Children's Bill of Rights."

It says I need not clean my room,
don't have to cut my hair.
No one can tell me what to think, or speak, or what to wear.
I have freedom from religion,
and regardless what you say,
I don't have to bow my head,
and I sure don't have to pray.
I can wear earrings if I want,
and pierce my tongue & nose.

I can read & watch just what I like,
and get tattoos from head to toes.
And if you ever spank me,
I'll charge you with the crime.
I'll back up all my charges,
with the marks on my behind.

Don't you ever touch me,
my body's only for my use,
not for your hugs and kisses,
that's just more child abuse.

Don't preach about your morals,
like your mama did to you.
That's nothing more than mind control,
And it's illegal too!

Mom, I have these children's rights,
so you can't influence me,
or I'll call Children's Services Division,
better known as C.S.D. "

Of course my first instinct was To toss him out the door
But the chance to teach a lesson made me think a little more.
I mulled it over carefully,
I couldn't let this go.

A smile crept upon my face,
he's messing with a pro.
The next day I took him shopping
at the local Goodwill Store I told him,
"Pick out all you want,
there's shirts & pants galore.
I've called and checked with C.S.D.,
who said they didn't care
if I bought you K-Mart shoes instead of those Nike Airs.
And I've canceled that appointment to take your driver's test.

The C.S.D. is unconcerned so I'll decide what's best.
" I said "No time to stop and eat, or pick up stuff to munch.
And tomorrow you can start to learn to make your own sack lunch.
Just save that raging appetite,
and wait 'til dinner time.
We're having liver and onions,
a favorite dish of mine."

He asked "Can I please rent a movie,
To watch on my VCR?"
"Sorry, but I sold your TV,
for new tires on my car.
I also rented out your room,
you'll take the couch instead.
The C.S.D. requires just a roof above your head.
Your clothing won't be trendy now,
and I'll choose what we eat.
That allowance that you used to get,
will buy me something neat.
I'm selling off your jet ski,
dirt-bike & roller blades.
Check out the "Parent's Bill of Rights,
" It's in effect today!
Hey hot shot, are you crying,
and why are you on your knees? Are you asking God to help you out, instead of C.S.D.?"

Sunday, December 11, 2011



I had heard a lot about it.This the story of Pakistani who went to London, settled there and married a British girl, and for that he is ridiculed in his community.And when his daughter Mary grows up and wants to marry a Britisher, he takes her to Pakistan with the promise that after coming back he would accept her boy friend.But once there he gets her forcibly married to her cousin.Mansoor and leaves her in a village where he cant stay even one more day as toilets are not good.

Mansoor has been brainwashed by a fanatic maulvi who thinks that music is prohibited by Islam and he makes him a jihaadi.
Mansoor's brother doesnt agree to him and goes to US to follow his dream in music and ther 9/11 happens and he becomes a victim of racial profil, goes to jail and tortured so much that looses his brain and then deported to pakistan to his family.

Mary tries to get away , but fails initially, later she manages to send a letter to london to his boy friend and is freed with the help of mansoor's parents and british Govt, and she takes his father to court in Pakistan. Their an educated and liberal maulvi(...impressive Naseeruddin shah) dispels all fanatics thought by quoting religious scriptures and declares that Islam is neither against women, nor music and jihad doesnt mean terrorism, its fight within against everything bad

What i liked about the movie is....

Heroine Iman Ali.she is very good and lovable.
First time I got to see Muslim movie with real people in the real environment, otherwise in India they show only caricatures.
Naseeruddin Shah:)

and what I disliked...
Mary staying back there..that was so illogical for an intelligent movie, and the girl who didnt know Urdu, putting up a board in that language..letting her go back would have been more effective.
Though Naseeruddin shah is very impressive, but it makes the movie sort of preaching only..if they had shown the change of heart thru incidents or people gradually..would have been better.

The angle of 9/11 was not needed,Second brother's plight was made the story a little complex ..instead if they had shown more about Pakistan and the people there..would have been interesting .

Speedy Singhs

This is a NRI movie, just like bend it like Beckham,story is same, but it is interesting and the couple..Camilla belle and Vinay virmani, both are very good and look good, specially Camilla...I feel pity for Indian fathers who never support their children in fulfilling their dreams and always ridicule them, but when children reach the top, they come forward to claim that he or she is their child, they are not averse to glory then, and I feel proud of such children who make it despite all the hurdles.


This is a quite different type..
High profile wife(Nicole kidman) and her family go to Stepford to find peace and and make their marriage work. And they find there extraordinary peace and happiness in the people..all wives are so robotic in their smiles , work and looking after their husbands, and husbands are enjoying to he hilt and then it starts bothering Jo and when she investigates , she finds that all the wives have been turned into Robots by placing a chip in their brain..Then how she saves herself and gets back to her life.forms the story.

Friday, December 9, 2011

Goa-north goa

it is country club resort at Anjuna Beach

Goa-north goa

we took a one day tour for north Goa, from Fernandes travels, here the buses are normal ones, no AC coaches.But in Goa, though weather is humid and sultry, breeze is so much, sometimes it looks as if you are going to fly with this fast wind,its really pleasant.North Goa is mainly beaches, first Miramamr beach,its in the city of Panaji,3 kms only,then Fort Aguada---this is actually a reservoir for water supply, as Aguada means water in portugese,its a 17th century fort,now looks like in ruins like in Mandu ,we passed thru a lake and boating point where dolphin shows are organise,sadly not there now a days(same reason-offseason),( i took this trip in July) for the namesake he took us to a temple also, nothing famous, as the famous shanta durga temple is on some height and one has to climb some stairs and all,passed through mapusa city,its famous for its friday bazar, not there now a days-again the same reason:(,its capital is Bardez,then to Vagator beach--here Rangeela was shot,and many other movie, its quite long and they say there is avery good statue of head of lord shiva made by some hippy,though we couldnt see it as it needs lot of walking and climbing rocky train, me being an old person not possible, but its surroundings were beautiful with tall tress all around, thought they are spread all over goa.Next is Calungate beach, this is the longest beach and very popular in the season and last is Anjuna in this tour, at Anjuna Musafir was shot:). We had lunch at vagator beach, as that was the scheduled spot from the tour management,and as usual it was not good food.
One thing I saw in Goa that most of the restaurants are bamboo shacks with music and all, and speciality everywhere is sea food,and most of the people sitting ,drinking, as wine,feni,bear everything is very popular and cheap here.
we always had dinner at our resort, as the vegetarian food was just superb over there with good service and very nice , romantic surroundings .(ducks roaming in the waterways-I liked watching them).

Note..I own a membership in Country club and I would like to rent out my time share sometimes.In Goa their resort is at Anjuna beach.a very good location and it has very good facilities places also one may check on their website. anybody is interested in going there, please mail me takes two weeks to get the reservations done.

Thursday, December 8, 2011


My nephew...Rahul keeps writing a lot, and this time when I saw his shayari, i was surprised to see a young boy writing so deeply..I am sharing some with you all......

"unhone hume kuch is tareh chod diya zindagi ke beech majdhar me.
..maut ki arzoo bhi na kar sakey hum unke laut ke aney ke intezaar me!!"

"mehfillo ki shano shaukat me bhi aapki baato jaisa maza kahan..
.pehle meelo ka safar kat jaata tha aapki zulfo ke saaye me...
.par ab toh hum ruk kar khoye rehte hai unhi chand palo ki yaado me...
.jhoota lagta hai ye sara sansaar...
.ek aapko chodke sach kuch bhi toh nahi!!"

"woh sheesha hi kya jisme aapki parchai na dikh sake....
.woh dil hi kya jisme aapki rooh na bas sake...
.zaroor dekhe honge aapne apne ashiq hazzar..
.par woh aashiq hi kya jo apke liye jal na sake..

.jaan toh khuda ki den hai jab chahe maaang lo..
.mera dil toh tumhare aankhoon ki roshni hai .
.isse jab chahe bhuja do"

"pani ki mithas toh koi pyasey se pooche...
.aapki muskaan ki khoobsoorti koi humse aise pooche jaise ambar ki sarhad koi pakshi se pooche...
.aapke liye is dil ki tadap koi humari dhadkan se pooche...
mit gaye pyar ke khel me kayi..
.jo zindagi mili mar ke koi humsey pooche...
har baar dil jalakar jo rohni mili koi humse pooche..
.tum jo ho agar kisi aur ke..
.ghayal wafa jo kuch reh gayi koi humse pooche"

"kyun aye ho tum meri zindagi me ek haseen nagma banke...
.reh na paunga me us judai ke alam me...
chale jao na tum ek chota sa haseen sapna banke!!"

Monday, December 5, 2011

Part 2

For my last post, not many people gave their point of view, as I know that they neither can agree, nor would like to say that I am wrong...And my good friend Amrita thinks that since now I am a MIL I can think of that side only. aisa nahi ha.MILs   USED to be like that but today tables have turned....whether someone believes it or not, I cant force anyone, but I try to be always fair in life...And whenever this topic comes, most of the readers go off the point and comment on generality.instead give your point of view on THAT particular point I am raising.because in one post we cant cover such a vast and volcanic relationship of Saas bahu:)

Now i am going to tell you some real today girls are behaving and you tell me all that right..when we are so vocal aabout MILs terming them monster inlaws and giving them a bad name/ being a MIlL means a meek person always looking for appreciation/sanction  from the younger lot for the myriad things she does for them..

A....she always gives her MIL stale and spoiled food, whereas she is cooking lot many things.but MIL always gets half cooked or burnt items.

B..when she was getting was clearly told that boy is from an ordinary family and only son and parents are going to stay with them, but after marriage, she went on to stay separately and poor father is doing some small job to sustain himself ,........

C..She wouldnt cook for her MIL, and her food comes daily from a dhaba, whereas she goes on with her life

D..She asked her MlLnot to eat anything cooked by her, do everything herself, though her husband is a CEO and they are very affluent, but MIL is not supposed to take part of anything.

E..She starts crying even if she listens that her Ma is having high BP or something but ignores completely her MIL who is constantly battling with multiple diseases,..selective sensitivity.

F. A girl, asks the prospective many dust bins you have? dustbins she meant his family memebers,,,,though obviously she was not chosen.

I know many more incidences of being cruel and insensitive by dont tell me that may be son is at fault or INLAWS have done something very wrong..I have quoted only those examples where inlaws are normal  people..what will you say about them?

Just be impartial and tell me is all this right on part of girls? it okay to put aside your old parents like that, when they need you most..if we go on like this, a time will come when parents will also start being self centred, and it will be a sad day.

Yes women were victimised earlier, but we cant do one wrong to remove the other one...

.if earlier girls parents were looked down upon, then we cant humiliate boy's parents today..

Negative remedies never work for the betterment neither for people individually, nor for society..we must learnt to respect others first.

I read on someone's boys dont want to marry a girl who doesnt have brother..earlier older people used to think that without brother she will not have any peehar and all that , but one thing I know that those girls who dont have brothers have more radical thinking and sometimes not a balanced outlook, because they have seen only one side, they are fiercely protective of their parents and in a hurry to prove themselves that they are not any less than boys and in the process if some people are hurt so be it.And they are not bad at heart but they need to show the world..and assert themselves.



I was always of the opinion that we are better off because we dont have divorces so much.because i feel that divorce always makes a very St...