Thursday, May 22, 2014

Are you raising a brat

This was the heading of an article i read some time back...its a very valid question, because children dont become so automatically, they are moulded by parents. Recently i read certain guidelines from Mahatria of Ra too..like from the beginning children should be told that home is an organised place, where there is a place for everything, everything should be put in a proper designated place.

Parents should not fulfil all their children's demands, they should learn to accept NO..It makes them resilient in life and more accepting of problems, difficulties.

Pampering the children shouldnt be because you have money and affordability..NO,children should be taught the value of money, if they are given things at the drop of hat, they dont understand the value of anything, instead they will grow up to be unsatisfied human beings all the time, in spite of getting everything..

Children should see their parents behaving and living the values they teach

It is never the things which make a childhood beautiful..its parents involvement, love and time..instead of giving them everything materialistic, involve them in playing, hobbies and sometimes sharing also with not so privileged ones...

18 comments:

Dilip said...

Perfect advice worthy of being followed. I attended one of Mahatria Ra sessions in Pune - thrilling and inspirational.

Thank you for this lovely post.

Dilip said...

Perfect advice worthy of being followed. I attended one of Mahatria Ra sessions in Pune - thrilling and inspirational.

Thank you for this lovely post.

Sandhya said...

Scarcity of time to spend with the children, makes the parents to indulge them with whatever they ask for. This gives an adverse effect later. Children brought up without love and affection will be spoilt children.

B said...

Totally agree with you.. My parents would get me anything i wanted or ask for, but it was not for spoiling me..
I feared my dad so much, he would od his best to get me everything .. but I also knew that if i misbehave or anything I would have had it ..

These days parents get stuff for their kids just to shut them up thats all..

and yes i rmemeber the days of parks and playing cricket with parents ..

Bikram

Chai a Cup of Life said...

I agree Renu, it is up to the parents to teach our kids love and respect.

SG said...

Agree with you 100%. Children should be taught how to take the answer "NO".

Renu said...

Dilip: Thank you Dilip !I like mahatria's teaching and so his magazine..Frozen thought now called Infinity thoughts.

Sandhya: true..secondly whatevr parents couldnt afford, they want their children to have.

Bikram: earlier children were always afraid of their fathers and it was good because it brought discipline in their life...

chai a cup of life; yes Amelia, we need to teach them acceptance of everything their financial status, affordability..

SG: It turns them into an understanding adult..

sm said...

yes agree with you

proactiveindian.com said...

There's no doubt that it's parents who spoil their children. When the kid is young, these parents think it's cute. As the kid grows, some parents realise their mistake and change. Some parents continue to spoil their children.

Renu said...

sm; Thanks!

Proactiveindian.com: today sopciety is moving towards materialism, and thats what parents are teaching to their children..

Anil Anuragi said...

But we as a society are changing at a very rapid pace, when I see today's kids they don't even care to listen to elders. I see few examples everyday in my society where I live in.

Amrita said...

Totally agree.. could you write another post with some more details? :) would love reading it.

Renu said...

Anil Anuragi: Yes times are changing, we have to accept that..BUT a lot depends on how parents behave themselves...

Amrita: Thanks Amrita! sure, will try it..this topic is very close to my heart..

Jeevan said...

Agreed quite! Parents have great responsibility giving good morel children to society... at initial step many kids lack respect for relationship.

Zephyr said...

Perfectly said, But today it is easy for parents to assuage their guilt of not spending time with their kids by giving them expensive things and all that they demand. And yes, we can see the effects in the proliferation of brats around :(

Ankita said...

kids these days have become so precocious and arrogant that I feel like giving a tight one to most of them :X

a very relevant post

Salomie said...

Yes, very true advice. Giving in to kids and showering them with things is the easy way out .... it's much harder to instil manners, respect and morals, which is why so many people don't bother, sadly.

Renu said...

Jeevan: parenting is a gigantic task.

Zephyr:Everybody wants to take the easy way out..

Ankita:..:)..the main remedy is that when you have kids, bring them up with care and values..

Salomie:because today not many parents themselves are very disciplined..