I didnt write anything on mother's day.it doesnt mean that i dont care for my mother or anything such, its just that hyping any concept doesnt find favour with me,if I have time, I would love to celebrate all our traditional festival with all the traditions...so i dont want to add one more to my list.
To me being good in practical life means much more that all these days.I see many girls going hyper on this day, pampering their mother and all , but in total contrast misbehaving with their MIL,giving a royal treat to their mother, but not preparing even normal food for MIL..isnt she also a mother, even if she is your spouse's.
Most of the time all the successful women will say that they owe all their success to their parents or primarily mother and they are applauded, though I think after marriage, your spouse and his family also contribute a miniscule portion..but when boys give the credit to their mothers, they are ridiculed as mama's boys...cant understand this gender bias...
Secondly in a traditional family father works hard to provide all the things to his children, and with that money mother works hard to do everything at home..everybody is performing individuals duty.so I dont understand the logic that mother works more and its totally illogical in today's world, where girls are looking for equality, are working outside and fathers too share the house work.why this martyr image..beyond me...
I watch all this with lot of amusement, but personally I give much more importance to being a good human being than being a good, daughter, mother.etc etc..
To me being good in practical life means much more that all these days.I see many girls going hyper on this day, pampering their mother and all , but in total contrast misbehaving with their MIL,giving a royal treat to their mother, but not preparing even normal food for MIL..isnt she also a mother, even if she is your spouse's.
Most of the time all the successful women will say that they owe all their success to their parents or primarily mother and they are applauded, though I think after marriage, your spouse and his family also contribute a miniscule portion..but when boys give the credit to their mothers, they are ridiculed as mama's boys...cant understand this gender bias...
Secondly in a traditional family father works hard to provide all the things to his children, and with that money mother works hard to do everything at home..everybody is performing individuals duty.so I dont understand the logic that mother works more and its totally illogical in today's world, where girls are looking for equality, are working outside and fathers too share the house work.why this martyr image..beyond me...
I watch all this with lot of amusement, but personally I give much more importance to being a good human being than being a good, daughter, mother.etc etc..
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Renu, I too believe in what you said in the end to be a good human being is more important:)
becoming a good human being is most important
Mother's day, Father's day and Valentine's day are of shopkeepers' creations. In India, only the last one is popular since our mothers and fathers don't care for gifts while girl-friends do.
Yes. Good human is the most important but mother is the mother. Cannot be replaced. My daughter tells me "
Dad you did not carry for 9 months, so you don't know what a mother is."
Rahul Bhatia:yes because for their own family everybody can be good, but real goodness lies in being good to others.
sm: yes:)
Uptake: to me day today good behaviour counts more than the gifts..
Amrit: I dont deny that..but then all mothers are great..its not my mother only...
True being a good human being is most important.
I see no reason to glorify them on a particular day, Everyday is mothers day!
VERY true each day is mothers day and as you say its more to be a good human being for sure :)
Bikram's
Agree with you. And for me MIL is my only mother :)
Being a good person is crucial.
I agree that these 'days' are commercial creations. Our parents didn't need a 'day' to celebrate being parents. It came naturally to them and to us children too. I agree with the sentiments on being nice to the MILs too. But as I always say, MILs are not considered women, and so can't be considered mothers either :)
Ultimately as you say, if one is a good human being, one can be good in whichever role one plays.
Even I dont give much impotance to these days.. and you observation is very correc.. it is not just from you Mother that you learn... in fact you leave your home as young as 16 or so (if pre-board) is to be taken to account and then your experience is gleaned from the world.. u get married and u gain a lot more from a new home. in fact this learnin gis more crucial for your own survival :)
As for Father's, they remain your hero until you grow up! that is one of life's cruel jokes.
Lkrupa:..But as you know that its easy to glorify them on one day than do it all the time:)
Bikram:.If want to fete the mothers, then we should all of them, not our own mothers only...
Neha: I know Neha and I wish that you have a very fulfilling relationship with her..
Rachna: Thats the core value in our personality..
Zephyr:.I nevr feel impressed with the people who dont value others, everybody loves own blood relations, there is nothing special about it, but loving others need humanity and compassion.
Happy Kitten:..I just say that when you want equality, first bring it in your own behaviour, then demand it from the world.
Yes, it is most important to be a good individual. But loving someone more than others doesn't necessarily mean we are not good. There are various reasons why some people love their mothers more or fathers more. It all depends on the relationship. Yes, but we need to respect everyone. MILs who make their DILs feel like daughters, will definitely be treated like mothers. It is a give and take. And can't be demanded. At least that is my take on it.
It is not true that women do not thank their in-laws, if they have contributed to her success. I have read several accounts of women where they have done so. Read Dr. Geetha Arjun's book where she acknowledges her MIL's support. I have seen a show by Carnatic Vocalist Aruna Sairam where she spoke of her MIL's support and help. There are many such instances that I can cite.
It has become a fashion for some to simply bash up young women on some pretext or the other.
Jyothi:Loving someone more is not a crime, but misbehaving with some is...
I am talking about just being human to all...one may love more or less as one likes but being human is a must, and there I dont consider it good to behave well if you are treated well, otherwise not, that is not being a good human being..thats just human nature.One must try to be civil to all...
Anonymous: If you are so rankled why not give your name?.why hide behind anonymous?
I dont believe in bashing anyone, I dont need to, but truth needs to be told..if girls love their mother its good, but if boys do the same , they are ridiculed why?
Auntyji - Blogger gives people the choice of being anonymous. I do not have a google account, hence the anonymity. It certainly is not for fear. Why would some one fear a neighbourhood aunty who doles out helpful advice and suggestions?
Auntyji - In answer to your question on why boys are ridiculed if they name their mother as their source of inspiration or support, I would say, it is not true to a large extent. Look at this young man called Sarath Babu from BITS, Pilani who runs a successful catering company and is known as Idli King. He attributes his success to his mother. No one ridiculed him. A R Rehman, names his mom, time and again as his biggest support. No one makes fun of him. Peace!
Of course not fear:)..
If you live nearby why not give me ur name, we can meet personally too..
I see many bloggers making...and my write up was meant to the people who make fun, not for the rational ones, so please dont take offence...I am just for fair play in everyfield of life..true equality...
the bottom line says it all:
"I watch all this with lot of amusement, but personally I give much more importance to being a good human being than being a good, daughter, mother.etc etc.."
the bottom line says it all:
"I watch all this with lot of amusement, but personally I give much more importance to being a good human being than being a good, daughter, mother.etc etc.."
Rahul Aggarwal:.Thanks Rahul!
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