Every system has certain rules and if they are followed society works well as that is true for everything in life.Earlier parents never taught their daughters to disregard their in laws and look after their own parents.Rather they were happier if their daughters got established themselves in their sasuraal and took their responsibilities seriously.And after marriage they were supposed to belong to their inlaws and make their family there only..that was their own house, not parents home.
And for anything in life its not instant or accurate give and take, we take from some and we give to some and the balance comes, It cant be to the same person or same thing..our parents loves us unconditionally and we love our children in the same way and cycle goes on. We look after our inlaws, our Sisterinlaws look after our parents....and those who didnt have sons..well its their destiny, its god who decides that not we..there are some who dont have any children, they also live happily.
Showing love doesnt mean we compare the relations, we can never make our parent proud of us by doing so.But we can certainly make them respected by behaving well, working hard and be a good well mannered human being.I see so many girls behaving so abominably with their inlaws and pining for their own parents, they dont know that by doing so they are humiliating their own parents, as society doubts their sanskaars and puts a question mark on their values which are given to them by their parents.
Earlier the society was very decisive..after marriage, daughters were neither given any right,nor asked to do any duties...today is the transition ..period..where nothing is definite. Every system has certain flaws and it was earlier too, but instead of removing them everybody wanted to discard the system and bring a new one without realising that flaws are intrinsic part of most of the systems and it is individual who are responsible for them,not the system So changing the system doesnt change anything except that now victim and perpetrators change..and problems remain the same....