GOING ON VACATION
Now a days Chennai has a pleasant weather, i have done a lot of shopping and my cook is coming............ Life cudnt be more bliss than that:)...........and to top it all i am going to make a month long trip to my home town --- isnt it strange that we women may be married for 32 yrs and still we call our parents home our hometown:....when i got married, one our friend commented on this-----yaar yeh ladies kitne bhi saal ho jaaye shaadi ko fir bhi aise hi kahengi---hmaare yaahn aisa hota ha waisa hota ( how many yrs u may be married but women always use my home for their parents home) though it is a different matter altogether that parents always used to consider the girls as PARAYA DHAN.
In my time parents used to say for everything--go to ur Sasural( in-laws) and do whatever u want as if inlaws are going to be more accommodating than parents:). And at inlaws whatever u did..may be right but wrong according to them.....has ur mother taught you this only? and it was enough to make girl fiercely protective towards her mother and start defending or attacking whatever came to her.
Now when i think with an unbiased mind..again according to me:),
is it really worth defending ur parents when their ultimate motive was to get u married off any how?
Does the life run according to rights and wrongs?
What is better---bringing peace in the family and living harmoniously or sticking to the righteousness?
Isnt sometimes better to be selfish and look after ur family , because sometimes certain duties in life make ur own life very unpleasant.
If there is a conflict between two relationships whom shud one choose and what should be the criteria?
I have seen many girls and boys even facing unpleasantness in their families due to their extreme attachment to their parents, so is the attachment wrong? what is the parameter to judge all these things?
If ever u r on the cross roads where on one side is ur children's safe future, a family and on the other side is ur identity-.............?
i am leaving all these questions open to my readers to tell me what they think, I havent found perfect answers for all these things so far.
But now i see the trend is changing:)