What is love ?
When we see few young boys rashly driving the cars, they are under age, and then accidents happening----Is it the love ----- parents allowing them to drive----NO--love cant be so blind, real love means teaching them to live with the rules, not breaking the rules.
Allowing ur kids to always eat junk food and outside---NO its not love, because it will spoil their health and love is a positive emotion, it cant have any negative effects.
Is it our appreciation of others or criticism ? -----constructive criticism is always better than blind appreciation.so it shud be called love rather than blind pampering which spoils the person.
I always believe in rising in love, not falling in love, love makes anybody a better person, but if it is not, then it is time to think,......is it real love? Real love helps you grow as a person.
Is it the money we spend on others? or somebody doing something for us? or wishing us well?
Many times i have heard---
I dont care if somebody spends money on me, for me money has no value, it doesnt take the form of love for me----but tell me why wud any body spend on u if they didnt love u?
U dont love me , because u r always criticising me----but my love , tell me why wud anybody bother to criticise, if he/she didnt want to improve u.
So what special u have done for us, everybody does it for his/her parents/children/siblings/spouse whatever. But if something is done by everybody, does it loose its value?
Why are we never satisfied with the love and care we get from our people, why we always try to find something lacking?
some need money, some care, some appreciation, some-time and ,some everything ( I come under this category::)) ha ha). give them what they want, not what u want to give.
Me thinks---it is the form in which love is given is not appropriate, its where my first line of this post comes onto the picture,--we must express our love to the person in the form he/she wants, not in the form we feel and want to give.It is like this-if somebody is thirsty and instead of giving him water, we give him food, will he be happy?
My father always said-- he wants my presence at all special occasions, he didnt want any gifts from me, as he didnt like taking from his daughter.he wanted me to write them a letter every week-those were the days of letters not email:), now tell me if i had brought presents for him but never gone there at the right time and never wrote a letter thinking----a letter only cant prove my love, I love him most and all that, wud he have been happy. So I did what he wanted from me, making him proud of me and happy.
The same way when i go to my mother's place, I always follow the routine of the house, because that way I can spend my time with them, if I live in a vacations mood then i wont have breakfast with my brother(he will leave for the office), cant have morning tea with my mother, which both of us cherish.
But the other side of this is ----if we going on vacations and still follow the daily regimen, then how to enjoy? I dont know the balance here, so suggestions are welcome:) with open arm.
I think love is most understood and honoured and gets its well deserved place if it is given in the form the other person wants it to be.But it applies only for the adults. I invite everybody to give inputs and give me other perspectives also