Monday, June 30, 2008
If happy – they are friends
If sad – they are husband and wife ..............................................................
I was born intelligent - Education ruined me. .............................................................
Practice makes perfect..... But nobody's perfect...... So why practice? ................................................................
If it's true that we are here to help others, Then what exactly are the others here for? ..............................................................
Since light travels faster than sound, People appear bright until you hear them speak. ............................................................
How come "abbreviated" is such a long word? ................................................................
Money is not everything. There's MasterCard & Visa. .............................................................
If your father is a poor man, It is your fate but, If your father-in-law is a poor man, It's your stupidity. ........................................................
Behind every successful man, there is a woman And behind every unsuccessful man, there are two woman. ............................................................
Every man should marry. After all, happiness is not the only thing in Life. .......................................................
The wise never marry. And when they marry they become otherwise. ........................................................
Success is a relative term. It brings so many relatives.
Never put off the work till tomorrow What you can put off today. ................................................................ "Your future depends on your dreams" So go to sleep .............................................................
There should be a better way to start a day Than waking up every morning ...........................................................
"Hard work never killed anybody" But why take the risk ............................................................ "Work fascinates me" I can look at it for hours .............................................................
God made relatives; Thank God we can choose our friends. .......................................................... The more you learn, the more you know, The more you know, the more you forget The more you forget, the less you know So.. Why learn. ........................................................
A bus station is where a bus stops. A train station is where a train stops. On my desk, I have a work station.... What more can I say........
Pay attention to what you read. After you read this, you will know the reason it was sent to you!People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON. . .It is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die
.Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.The prayer you sent up has been answered.And now it is time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real!But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life.
Stop here and just SMILE.
Work like you don't need the money
.Love like you've never been hurt.
And dance like no one is watching.
Isnt it worth reading ? I got it from an spiritual site and just loved it, a very good interpretation of people and relationships and I think it is true also.
- Fry bread pieces and dip them in the syrup and take out immediately and put on the plate. As it is, it is a good sweet, crisp and sweet, but to make it more sumptuous or to serve it to the guest, put all the fried and dipped in syrup slices in a big plate. Thicken the milk, like rabri,add sugar and cardamom and pour over the slices. Garnish with chopped dry fruits and a very delicious rich dessert is ready.
- The second choice is put some flour in the syrup and some chopped dry fruits and either you can make the pan cakes or fry little balls ( for this put enough flour in the syrup to make it semisolid, ) or even you can bake it.If you bake it then it will be something like scones, fried one like Malpua.
Normally when we buy biscuit, some are always broken, so in 15 days quite a good quantity of broken biscuits is collected and we dont know what to do.We can make pudding out of that.
- make custard with half litre milk.....it should be flowing type. Now in a bowl put the biscuits, there shouldnt be big pieces, crush them into small pieces and pour over them the custard, it should cover them completely, and then pour some more. Chill it in the fridge, then add some diced fruits like mango, banana, and while serving garnish it with cherry.
So make it and tell me how did you like it:)
Sunday, June 29, 2008
Yesterday we went to Spencer plaza and there in the pantloon showroom , I stumbled upon a hard surface and hurt my little toe, since the cut was quite deep I had 6 stitches. Here I am not writing about it but the reactions of my family and friends---
Not now, but earlier the first reaction of my husband would be----why cant u walk properly-----this is a very patronising remark we always give to our children,.
From now onward wear shoes.
Sue the owners of Pantloon for making something not customer friendly.
I always feel that whenever somebody is hurt, most of the time it happens with the children, he/she must be given the utmost care lovingly.But what the parents do---immediately start scolding the child-----why did you go there? cant u see before going? or if they break something----how can u be so careless?
What i say is that can anything broken be more important than our child? Things come and go, but the childhood never comes back. Kids( or even adults sometimes) need assurance in life that they have someone to look upto in the hours of need& making a mistake is not a crime.
I remember when my son was young, playing outside, if any of his friend got hurt, he will bring him to our place saying-------my mom wont say anything and she will put ointment and all.
One can never make somebody injury proof, that is not the way life works.If once we fall while walking should we stop walking. Instead of huffing and puffing in all the problems, one should give the best treatment and move on.The way my brother once wrote to me---
Life is not about not getting problems and hurdles, but it is about getting the strength to face them.
Often, we pursue goals and desires that are unrealistic. We pursue them with faith and determination hoping that persistence will yield results, which is not a bad thing. However, when the goal seems distant we should not bang our heads against the wall in frustration.
Osho said "No matter what you do, life turns out the way it turns out. Struggling with life does not help at all".
A miracle must happen. But when it does not, the best thing to do is to fall in line with karmic happenings. Destiny has a role and is subject to certain limitations. I once asked my guru, "Can you change the destiny of your disciple?" The answer was "Why? A true guru will not interfere with the karmic destiny of his disciple. He will only help him spiritually". A young, talented girl who was frustrated with unrequited love, asked her guru: "Why doesn't God answer my prayers?" The guru replied, "If a child wants to play with a knife, will his mother give it to him even if he throws a tantrum? No.
While working out your destiny, you might come across better choices. May be there is something better in store for you.
Let go. Start afresh before the hurt becomes a wound".
In the pursuit of our dreams we encounter delays, blockages and obstructions. We throw up our hands in frustration and scream "Why can't i do it?" Don't push yourself against an unyielding wall. Take time off. Create a space. For on this journey, there are waiting rooms, transit lounges, and change of tyre on the way. Time, trust and tryst must synchronise with yield fulfilment. By that time you may have discovered a new purpose, a new goal, or even a new obsession. You may even find a spot of bliss.
Sahaj subah jo hoe so ho. When you fall in line with your karmic destiny, life is lived effortlessly.
It is said that happiness lies in the rhythm of life. Life is a flow. Cascade over the obstacles.
The rhythm of life gains grace and agility, when you move on without the baggage of frustration. Frustration can be as small as a prolonged wait for a raise in your salary or it may be as shattering as failure in a deep relationship. Frustration is self-consuming.
Effort has great value. But effort should be productive. Follow the law of least wastage. Despite that if things go wrong, follow the law of substitution. When nothing seems to work, follow the law of acceptance. Believe that whatever is in your destiny, acceptance becomes necessary.
Often, when you cooperate with your karmic destiny and internalise the law of acceptance, things just start happening. Your inner struggle is over. And your goals and intense desires are fulfilled in a mystical way.
One with Shabana Azmi and naseeruddin shah---but the idea of hindu muslim---caste considerations -------quite old now
and other one with Arbaaz and Mandira--this is a good one, but since I had read the same story earlier, it lost the novelty for me- Here mandira is bored wife of a rich banker and gets into a realtionship with an army Col. When the Col. is going on his posting , he giver her a diamond necklace, thinking that how will she explain it to her husband, she goes to a jeweller and pawns it asking only for 500/ and a receipt without any name. and then making a story sends her husband to take it. when Arbaaz brings it, there is only a ring, she is shocked and cant even say anything when he says--isnt it good in 500/--. and then one day when she comes out of his office she sees his secretery wearing that necklace---given to her by her BOYFRIEND-----samajhe na......................ha ha---------------------one always gets paid for his/her sins.
Friday, June 27, 2008
God: Hello. Did you call me?
Me: Called you? No... Who is this?
God: This is GOD. I heard your prayers.So, I thought I will chat.
Me: I do pray. Just makes me feel good.I am actually busy now.
God: What are you busy at? Ants are busy too.
Me: Don't know. But, I can't find free time.Life has become hectic. It's rush hour all the time
.God: Sure. Activity gets you busy.Productivity gets you results.Activity consumes time. Productivity frees it.
Me: I understand. Yet, I still can't figure out. By the way,I was not expecting YOU to call me on instant messaging chat
God: I wanted to solve your fight for time, by giving you someclarity. In this internet era, I wanted to reach youthrough the way in which you would understand.
Me: Tell me, why has life become complicated now?
God: Stop analyzing life. Just live it. Analysis makes itcomplicated.
Me: Why are we constantly unhappy?
God: Your today is the tomorrow that you worried aboutyesterday. You are worrying because you are analyzing.Worrying has become your habit. That's why you are not happy.
Me: How can we not worry when there is so much uncertainty?
God: Uncertainty is inevitable. Worrying is optional
.Me: There is so much pain due to uncertainty.
God: Pain is inevitable - it will come. Suffering is optional,you can choose.
Me: If suffering is optional, why do good people also suffer?
God: Diamonds cannot be polished without friction.Gold cannot be purified without fire.Good people go through trials, but, don't suffer.With that experience, their life becomes better,not bitter.
Me: You mean to say such experience is useful?
God: Yes. Experience is a hard teacher.She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.
Me: Still, why should we go through such tests?Why can't we be free from problems?
God: Problems are purposeful roadblocks offering beneficiallessons to develop strength.Inner strength comes from struggle and endurance,not when you are free from problems.
Me: Frankly, in the midst of so many problems,we don't know where we are heading ...
God: If you look outside, you will not know where you are going.Look inside.Looking outside, you dream.Looking inside, you awaken.Eyes provide sight. Heart provides insight.
Me: Sometimes not succeeding fast seems to hurt more thanmoving in the right direction. What should I do?
God: Success is a measurement decided by others.Satisfaction is a measurement decided by you.Knowing the road ahead is more satisfying.You work with the compass. Let others work with the clock.
Me: In tough times, how do you stay motivated?
God: Always look at how far you have come rather than how faryou have to go.Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.
Me: What surprises you about people?
God: When they suffer they ask, "Why me?"When they prosper, they never ask "Why me?"Everyone wishes to have truth on their side.Few want to be on the side of the truth.
Me: Sometimes, I ask, "Who am I? Why am I here?"I can't get the answer
.God: Seek not to find who you are, but, to determine who youwant to be. Stop looking for a purpose as to why you arehere. Create it.Life is not a process of discovery.It's a process of creation.
Me: How can I get the best out of life?
God: Face your past without regret.Handle your present with confidence.Prepare for the future without fear.
Me: One last question. Sometimes, I feel my prayers are not answered.
God: There are no unanswered prayers. At times, the answer is"NO.
"Me: Thank you for this wonderful chat.
God: Well, keep the faith and drop the fear.Life is a mystery to solve not a problem to resolve.Trust me.
Yesterday I wrote about a good samaritan and then I suddenly remebered one incident from the past........long time back, when we were in Noida, I used to go to learn shorthand and typing by bus. While returning I was standing at the bus stop and whenevr the bus came, the crowd surged, as there is no cue system in delhi, and i was left standing, then a young boy of 14-15 came, he was coming back after his sports, he saw this, and when the next bus comes, what I see that he stops it, and stands behind me, and doesnt get into the bus till i have boarded. he was a very well dressed boy, must be from a rich family and due to preconceived notions, one expects brattish,and may be rowdy but not this polite well mannered behaviour from them. I was so impressed, immediately the thought came to my mind----his parents are blessed to have a son like him, and i vowed to teach my children, who were young at that time, to be kind and polite all the time. These things are very small but leave a long lasting impression, this happened to me 20 yrs back but whenevr i think about that boy a smile comes to my fce and I mutter-god bless him!
I always try to help wherever I can, though in India pro active woman are still stared at, even if somebody asks the location of some placewhich I dont know, I try to go that extra mile to find it, even at the cost of my hubby's exasperation:)
Look people in the eye.
If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.
Never give up on anybody.
Miracles happen everyday.
Always accept an outstretched hand.
Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference
. Avoid sarcastic remarks.
Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery.
Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.
Lend only those books you never care to see again.
Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have.
When playing games with! children, let them win.
Give people a second chance, but not a third. Be romantic.
Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.
Don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It's there for your convenience, not the caller's.
Be a good loser. Be a good winner.
Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.
When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.
Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.
Keep it simple.
Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.
Don't burn bridges. You'll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.
Live your life so that your epitaph could read, No Regrets
Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the one's you did.
Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.
Take charge of your attitude. Don't let someone else choose it for you.
Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes.
Begin each day with some of your favorite music.
Once in a while, take the scenic route. Send a lot of Valentine cards. Sign them, 'Someone who thinks you're terrific.'
Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.
Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.
Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later.
Make someone's day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you.
Become someone's hero.
Marry only for love.
Count your blessings.
Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home. Wave at the children on a school bus.
Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.
Thursday, June 26, 2008
Just now i read on a blog about complimenting, read a lot about it in Chicken soup for the soul also.
Compliments are the most powerful tool in shaping someone;s personality. Good or bad, they have the power to make or break a person .A child , who gets lots of good compliments, is always full of positive energy and gets lot of encouragement to do well, be good, but negative comments always sap the energy.Normally what happens that we are very liberal with criticism but stingy when it comes to praise. It shouldnt be. Rather it should be the opposite, if we keep the criticism to us, it wouldnt make any difference, though I feel that some amount of constructive criticism is necessary for the betterment of a person.
Children who always get compliments always strive to be better and work hard towards that. And i have seen it in life that they turn out to be good person in life.While getting no appreciation or only negative comments make the person bitter in life and insecure about other;s affections and affects his or her total outlook towards life and people.
But the way too much of sugar makes the taste bitter, too much appreciation also can make a person too sure of himself, arrogant and selfcentred. So moderation is the key in everything.And as I said earlier even genuine criticism is also healthy.Plus compliments must be always genuine. I hate fake compliments. Like when somebody comes to dinner, they will always say---sab bahut accha ha---everything is good, which cant be, so better say any one thing which you really like, may be the dish, decoration and if nothing is there, then say thanks for the trouble the hostess took.
In the daily dealings also, one must never hesitate to compliment. compliment liberally and make the life and world a beautiful place to live in.
One thing I always believe in ; that be genuine in whatever we do or say.
yesterday I went outside for a little tid bit shopping. In the evening on the road just outside our apartments, the traffic is a continuous flow of vehicles.can you believe it I stood outside our apartments to cross the road for 20 minutes ( actually I am always quite scared of crossing the roads and extra cautious also ) and then one youngman of the nearby shop also wanted to cross the road and with him I crossed it. And then he waved the hand at me and it dawned on me that,he crossed just to help me:) and then went back to his side.It just made my day. These are the little gestures which make life so beautiful.People like him make me believe in all the good things in life. He didnt know me, not even my language, he knew only tamil, but he came out to help.
Then I thought over it that we see many big people in big cars least bothered about pedestrians, , they will just pass through with a needle;s space between them and people and we feel-what has world come to ? So its not money or splendour which makes you feel good but the goodness of people which moves you, makes you happy
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Today i read two news---one- that on an air india flight from jaipur to Mumbai, pilots slept so well that they pass their destination, even frantic calls from ATC go unanswered--why is this happening there can be two reasons only either they are overworked and exhausted or they they have no work ethics but in both the cases lives of so many passengers are put in danger and when there are so many lives at stake,govt. must find the solution and fast.
Second one came in Bitsaa mail
With reference to an article in the Times of India last week, it was brought to everybody's notice that APIIC is building a road on the lake which is opposite Wipro Manikonda, Hyderabad without proper permissions. This lake is being taken care of by Wipro. The article also threw light on how the land mafia/sharks might be involved in it. Unfortunately I'm unable to find that article on the internet and provide a link to the same.After the article was published, there was a lull in the road building activity. Today while coming to office, I was shocked to see the road building work in full swing! They are actually filling up the lake bed(buffer area) and running road rollers by breaching the lake fence .Is this another "Inconvenient Truth" that we just have to face, or can we do something about it? I visited the lake and notices the space between water level and wired fence - that has been put up by HUDA after agreeing to hand over th emaintenace to WIPRO - clearly ths violation is with comminvance and blessings of WIPRO - that puts up a public face of following GREEN policies - that include water conservation as a key constituent -
what is happening to our business people and govt ?
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
makes a person what he/she is;
affects the most in building personality traits,
what is that core thing required ,is it upbringing, but then a parent has 4 children but they are never alike, one may be emotional, other one practical, one very straightforward in life, other one may be selfish; so then is it environment?......but then many poor kids living among criminals even then they are honest..........then what is that.......................? I think basic nature is the result of permutations and combinations of genes which may be different even in siblings and the habits are acquired through upbringing, environment and surroundings. and basic nature is very difficult to change, it is in inherent and based in the psyche. Think about it and tell me.
Sunday, June 22, 2008
Expediency asks the question, ‘Is it politic?’
And Vanity comes along and asks the question, ‘Is it popular?’
But Conscience asks the question ‘Is it right?’And there comes a time when one must take a position thatis neither safe, nor politic, nor popular, but he must do it because Conscience tells him it is right
.~Martin Luther King~
Friday, June 20, 2008
So, your wife also works ?
Yes, she is a lecturer in a Delhi college and co-writes books also. actually this the best profession for girls.
Dont say that :), times have changed now.
yes, but the values are same., but the way a mother can look after the children nobody can.
But in the changed times ,father's are also doing the same.
No, aunty, you see when both are busy, and in the evening just 1 or 2 hrs are there,nobody wants to say anything to the kids. or if you have to leave them in the creche or with the servants(he is living with his inlaws.) they dont learn values and get spoiled.
Am I enlightened? ::))
I feel very happy, still we havent lost everything as I thought with this new generation, there are still some for whom values are more important than dreams.
Thursday, June 19, 2008
I walked into the store as I had done countless times before.There was nothing unusual about the night, just a routine stroll down the aisles of commerce. My five and two-year-old sons were with me.It was a huge store. You would know the name of the chain,but the name doesn't matter.Bright lights, wide aisles, and full shelves made for an awesome store. My sons naturally were interested in the toy section,so there we strolled.The modern stores don't have many helpers like the old days.I used to work in a drug store. My job was to price merchandise,stock the shelves, sweep the floor, ring the cash register, andwatch customers.I didn't watch customers for fun. Customers would steal in the old days. My job included helping customers find what they wanted but keeping a watchful eye to make sure they paid forwhat they found.Those old days came to mind as I wandered or rather was towed by anxious kids down the huge aisles.
How in the world do they keep people from stealing them blind?
There were no clerks or assistants watching us. What was to prevent us from pocketing any number of tempting items?I looked around, not for the purpose of stealing anything, butof scientific curiosity.How did they keep people from stealing?I knew the nature of people had not improved since I was aclerk. People stole then and they steal now.This was an extremely successful chain. Surely they couldn't be this trusting. Surely they couldn't be this benevolent thatthey would simply allow people to have whatever they felt like not paying for.Surely not.I am a scientist. I think. I analyze. I wonder. I seek answers.I am a businessman. No people watching, plenty of merchandise,a certain percentage of people who would take advantage of inattention, successful chain stores, it didn't fit.How could they trust so?They didn't. That much I knew. I know the commercial mind.They couldn't and didn't trust people that much.So why was no one watching?I knew that couldn't be either.Maybe they were watching.If so, then how were they watching?I knew if they were watching it would have to be though videocameras. I knew where they would need to be positioned.I looked up.Whoa!As many times as I had been in that store and similar stores ofthe chain, I had never thought to look up. I walked beneath totally unaware and unconcerned about the eyes above.As I looked up, I saw rows and rows of surveillance cameras.Somewhere between 100 and 200 cameras looked down as I surveyedthe roof of the huge store.If you didn't know already, you wouldn't know they were camerasbut I knew. Surveillance cameras are usually mounted behindblue colored domes. You can't see in, but the camera can seeout. It can point in any direction, and you don't know if andwhere it is looking.It can swivel, tilt, pan, and zoom. They can follow your everymove. They can zoom out to view the whole aisle or zoom in on apimple. Hundreds of them, and I never knew or guessed because I never thought about it.
It was a Eyes from above that watched every move of those below.So many walk without realizing every move is observed and recorded.Eyes from above.I walked differently once I saw the cameras. I had no intentionof ever doing anything wrong, with or without cameras; I just walked differently knowing that someone could be watching everysingle move that I made.It shouldn't have made a difference.But it did.We often go through life as if no one sees.As if no eyes from above are watching.Suppose we realized that?Every frown, every harsh word, every wrong deed, every good orbad twitch of our minds and muscles...Recorded.Eyes from above.Encased in a blue canopy.
It makes you walk differently once you realize that.
It really does.
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Remember to check battery, electrical wiring, headlights , tyres, engine, wipers and the underbody anti- rust coating on a regualar basis.Tyre pressure, tread depth and spare wheel should also be checked. Replace cloth floor mats with plastic/ rubber mats as it avoids dampness and bad odour.
Avoid driving when it is pouring heavily . But if urgent, drive using first gear only and avoid using full accelerator.Lower your window panes while driving through water logged areas. If the car stalls in between, do not try to push start or crank start. It is advisable to get technical help and towing the vehicle to the the nearest authorised garage. Avoid parking the vehicle near a newly built compound wall or under big trees, as storms or heavy thundershowers may collapse them.
A well equipped first aid kit with bandage, pain relief spray, antiseptic cream, anti-allergics such as Avil and Aspirin should be kept handy, also carry umbrella / raincoats. People with serious illness should carry their prescribed medicines while travelling.
In case you are stuck, park your car and look for the nearest garage. Be prepared to carry a list of the name of garages. It is also advisable that you create the ICE (In Case Emergency) number in your cell phone so that incase of an eventuality near ones can be informed. Also store emergency numbers of hospitals , police stations, fire stations
here the break-up of cost calculated by the government:
Basic Price = Rs 21.93
Excise duty = Rs 14.35
Education Tax = Rs 0.43
Dealer commission = Rs 1.05
VAT = Rs 5.5
Crude Oil Custom duty = Rs 1.1
Petrol Custom = Rs 1.54
Transportation Charge = Rs 6.00 Total price = Rs 51.90
So for a Rs 22 litre petrol at pumps, consumers in India pay Rs 28 tax extra.
Monday, June 16, 2008
I got this in email Fwded by my sister, since I find it quite funny I am putting it here-
This is a question that has gone unanswered for centuries, but, now we know. It requires a bit of explanation, first:
If you put a woman on a pedestal and try to protect her from the rat race ... you're a male chauvinist.
If you stay home and do the housework ... you're a pansy.
If you work too hard ... there's never any time for her. If you don't work enough ... you're a good-for-nothing bum.
If she has a boring repetitive job with low pay ... this is exploitation. If you have a boring repetitive job with low pay ... you should get off your lazy behind and find something better.
If you get a promotion ahead of her ... that is favoritism. If she gets a job ahead of you ... its equal opportunity
.If you mention how nice she looks ... its harassment. If you keep quiet . .. its male indifference.
If you cry ... you're a wimp. If you don't ... you're an insensitive bastard.
If you make a decision without consulting her ... you're a chauvinist. If she makes a decision without consulting you ... she's a liberated woman.
If you ask her to do something she doesn't enjoy ... that's domination. If SHE asks you ... it's a favor
If you like a woman to shave her legs and keep in shape ... you're sexist. If you don't ... you're unromantic.
If you try to keep yourself in shape .. you're vain. If you don't ... you're a slob.
If you buy her flowers .. you're after something. If you don't ... you're not thoughtful.
If you're proud of your achievements ... you're full of yourself. If you don't ... you're not ambitious.
If she has a headache ... she's tired. If you have a headache...you don't love her anymore.
Why do men die first?Because they want to.
This is a story of three friends; Govind-the protagonist is a maths graduate and inclined for business, Ish is an unsuccessful cricketer but still very passionate about cricket and Omi who belongs to a rightist hindu family. The story is based in Gujarat. Its about ish; passion for cricket, where he patronises a poor muslim boy who has a great knack in cricket and all three friends protect him, sometimes putting their life at the stake . Its about Govind who teaches maths to Ish;s sister and falls for her defying the protocol.Ish's sister Vidya is also one of her kind, today's modern girl,bold with lot of spunk.Its about Omi, who is a son of a priest , but he doesant want to be one. And in the back ground is earth quake, Godhra and communal riots.
I have read ONE NIGHT AT CALL CENTRE by the same author, it was an engrossing one, so I bought this one, but it is a very insipid novel with no life. Characters are mere caricatures of preconceived notions going on for years---like minorities are good and poor, rightists are bad and cruel and all that. and as the main characters none of them is exemplary nor even brings an extraordinary insight into the human mind. Everything is very ordinary-characrers, situations, and treatment.
So for me all in all a very boring book.,
Sunday, June 15, 2008
This year I have taken a few resolutions, now only my family members can tell me whether i have been successful or not? have they found any change in me.My resolutions are:----
- I will be nice to everybody.
- I wont complain for anything.
- I will not expect anything- emotional or financial from anybody.
- I will just not interact with the people who bring stress or negativity in my life.
- I will try never to hurt anybody by my action or words.
- I will do whatever I can for everybody.
- I will not give anybody undue importance in my life :)
- buy only what I need, no hoarding.
- I wont fear any body and do and say only what is right.
- Learn to appreciate--may be people or things.
- Show your appreciation.
- Forget the word ---criticism, shouldnt exist in my dictionary.
- whatever is supposed to happen , will happen anyway.
- I cant change a thing even, leave aside a person, except one that s me.
- Acceptance brings happiness in life.
- If we love someone unconditionally, then today or tomorrow or sometime in life we will certainly get the reciprocation, no matter what.
All this has brought lot of piece to my mind and my home:)
I was thinking of writing about it for a long time, but for some reason or other I couldnt. First i will tell you a few incidences:----
When my father was going to have his byepass operation, many of my well wishers used to sympathise me like this-----oh your dad is going thru this operation.............hmm........Its a serious operation na (as if I dint know ). I hope everything turns out fine.---I used to feel so irritated, i would just clinch my teeth and wished them to go away.
Once when my husband got into a serious health problem and was diagnosed with high BP, anyone who met me even after 6 months or 1 year, first sentence will be----aapki tabiyaat kaisi ha ab ? How much is you BP now. hey......hello...............its is six months now, are we going to be sick for our whole life now.
My sisters's friend recently lost her mother, obviously she was very depressed, but one has to come out of it. few of her friends insisted her to come to the ladies get to gether. And there what many of the ladies say to cheer her------ I am very sorry to hear about your mother. ( now when she wanted to forget that you are reminding her again ), I just couldnt come then--( but this is not her problem )
whenever any body has any problem, many people come for courtesy call and start telling their harrowing experiences, and complications either they or their friend circle have faced and depress the patient and start suggesting all sorts of treatments and doctors.
I have many more experiences like that, so I thought---one all the people are not well wishers they are just doing a formality, second may be people dont know how to be sympathetic,may be we can put a guideline for that--
- .Be genuine, atleast here one needs not to put any facade.
- If you have nothing to say, dont say anything, just be there quietly for the support.
- If you want to help them, tell them that you are there and you will do whatever is required, cooking the food or staying in the hospital as per the situation.
- Please dont suggest treatments and dont ridicule his doctor also, as the trust is paramount in healing the patient.
- Dont narrate the stories of complications and all that, you are not there to scare them.
- Its better if you dont talk about the sickness at all, you are there to cheer them, so why remind them--- I have seen it myself that I am always cheerful and dont worry a lot about my problems but others make me stressed by asking all the time about the problem.
- If one is genuinely caring, it always comes out, no matter what you do or dont do, so just be yourself.
- never ever at a happy occasion like a party or get together, ask some body about unpleasant questions. I you want to condole, go to their place and do it in private.
- Never say what are the probabilities and what can or may happen? nobody knows that leave it to god. That nobody knows for a healthy person even, so just be positive.
- They say in hindi
- खुशी बाटने से बढ़ती हे
- और दुःख बाटने से कम होता हा
- लेकिन मैंने देखा हा की दुःख सब को बताने से और बढ़ता हा,
- This is in Ascenda IT Park, Tharamani road near Tidel park. Its very spacious and covers most of the cuisines, has a good seating arrangement.
- As soon as we enter on the left side is KFC--a little unnerving for a vegetarian like me.
- Next one is Mcdonald--- they have most of the variety, we had a soft serve and softy on the coke, both were good.
- In the front we have PALIMAAR--vegetarian restaurant with all the north indian and south Indian fare and tea coffee. We ordered Idli, Mysore masala dosa,matar paneer, kulcha and pudina paraantha. Except paraantha everything was very good. Serving quantity is good. with Idli dosa they serve coconut chutney and tomato chutney and sambhar, everything in good quantity.
- then there is Pizza corner, Noodle house--famous restaurant for chineese food,one outlet for frankies and other dishes like that, Qwiky;s cafe-----they have pastries,coffee,doughnuts,and different types of bread and all.
- Movenpick: they have sorbets, ice creams coffee tea, sundae and all that, this is the one exorbitantly priced, one scoop of ice cream with strawbwrry sauce and banana chips was 75-90 and sundae were in the range of 175,255,455, a bit too expensive.
- one counter for all juices and north indian chaat---quite exhaustive one.
Here the ambience is good, and ACs were also working well, as despite teaming with people it was cool and its a real value for money.Outside Planet yum tum, Cafe coffee day is also there.
Enough parking is also there and at no extra cost.
Friday, June 13, 2008
The foremost is that govt. must decide the percentage of land needed to be used in cultivation, and laws be made to adhere to that. In a country known for its affinity to agriculture, shortage of food shows our negligence towards our roots.
As a citizen there are many step we can also take to help them--
- We can revive the culture of kitchen gardens. Few vegetables are very easily grown like tomato, green chilli, lady ginger etc.
- We must take a resolution never to over feed ourselves and our family, its good for health, good for nation.
- Buy only that much that is required, may be a little less but never more. Stop hoarding eatables.It will save money for us also, as so many times packed eatable have an expiry date, sometimes for some reason if we are not able to use fresh ones rot also. If we buy limited quantity we are leaving it for some unfortunate ones.
- Rather shopping for everything be limited for the utility only. buying things on the whim must be stopped, as the discarded items also pollute the environment.
- In the restaurants the mantra is to serve big platter with higher price,and many times it is wasted either they should change the style--not likely as they are concerned only about the business , nothing else, so better share it. Instead of ordering something extra order a little less. No leaving the leftovers or over eating, remember :)
- We must remember that on one side our whole life we try to accumulate things and money for our next generation to make their comfortable, but we forget that we are finishing the natural resources which they can never buy even if they have all the money. So think about it, we are not doing it for anybody else but for our own children. We wouldnt like our children to starve but have pots of money. Money cant be eaten.So instead of all the time thinking about making money one should think about environment also and do nothing which endangers it.
According to a survey done By a leading magazine helplines for women are good in Hyderabad ,Calcutta and Mumbai and fair in Ahemdabad but not good in Delhi ,Chennai and Bangalore.As regarding the info helpline nos are-
24 HRS HELPLINES
crime against women cell-2688-2691
ALL INDIA WOMEN;S CONFERENCE NO--2338-1337
DTC'S NEW TOLL-FREE NO 1800-118-181
DELHI COMMISSION FOR WOMAN-2337-9181 (9.30--6PM)
24 HRS HELPLINE--
CRIME STOPPER'S CELL-1090-FROM BSNL ONLY
POLICE-100 OTHER THAN 100---2785-2482
BBAKI BAAD ME i AM TIRED :)
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Indians litter, says lawmaker....................is it racism or shame on Indians ?
Pune girl steals professor;s purse to buy ipods,cells------This girl is Aarti Devnaani, her father was a bussinessman in Dubai, he is no more, now his uncle looks after the business.She lives in a posh area in Koregaon Pune.She stole the purse of a teacher in Mattreyi college, when she went there with her friend and used the debit card to buy the luxury items, but she was caught due to CCTVs. She is not a poor girl or in need of anything. She is a fashionable upper class girl who didnt have any qualm about stealing for luxury. That shows what are we teaching our youngsters and what values they have.
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
When a boy looks for a beautiful girl as a life partner---is it love ?
When girls go for a well settle boy---is it love ?
When on the valentine's day big gifts are expected and sometimes demanded, is it love ?
or when on the mother's day or fathers days, gifts are givn or they are feted, is it love ?
Then what is love. It may have different meanings and connotations for different people, for me love means-----
when a mother takes care of her child it is love,
when a father protects his children disciplines them (so what if he looks like a little over strict ) its love
When a husband of sixty years worries everytime his wife is unwell, its love
When the children look after their parents emotionally, physically and financially , it is love.
When a wife who herself is old still always makes the bed tea for her husband, it is love.
Todays love stories which may not even continue for even 6 months are not love, just pastimes or a mutual attraction. Love is endurance,patience, acceptance and much more. Its not about changing partners on slightest whim, or celebrating it on a particular day. Its an ongoing process for life. Love is there everyday. It manifests itself in every single thing you do. Its eternal.
about not hurting your loved ones,
putting their happiness before yours,
accepting them for what they are,
never taking them for granted,
respecting your people
having no ego and
being there when they need you,
and love is not there--
think of getting even,
getting an upper hand or trying to dominate in relationships,
taking advantage of their love,
there are so many things I can think of , but the point is there is no point in celebrating love on one day, its better to be that way all the time and try to understand the meaning of love--its not between couple feeling only which is love, love is omnipresent and in everything , and the backbone of a society, whether its for people, pets, environment or any other cause.
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
Happiness often sneaks in.....through a door you didn't know you left open.
few ecerpts from the speech of JK Rowling at Harward
There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you.
Poverty entails fear, and stress, and sometimes depression; it means a thousand petty humiliations and hardships. Climbing out of poverty by your own efforts, that is indeed something on which to pride yourself, but poverty itself is romanticised only by fools.
It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.
Personal happiness lies in knowing that life is not a check-list of acquisition or achievement. Your qualifications, your CV, are not your life.
Life is difficult, and complicated, and beyond anyone's total control, and the humility to know that will enable you to survive its vicissitudes.
written by the Greek author Plutarch: What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality
As is a tale, so is life: not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters.
Monday, June 9, 2008
i felt very sad to see that a path breaking movie like Taare Jameen Par was completely ignored in IIFA, what does it mean, that they have no regard for common man, because it was one movie which was liked by one and all.And Style icon award was given to Abhishek and katrina. I am a fan of Abhi but he is no style icon, If Mr. bacchan had got it would have been more suitable, or Karan johar or shahrukh.
- Now when so many big MNCs have come in the market for opening the general departmental stores type, one sees in the market at every nook and corner a Fresh, Spencers, More and in big malls, food world, then regional ones like Magna and Trinethra in Hyderabad.The question is are they really better then our idigenous ones, are they really providing a good service and value for money and can they ever replace our Kirana stores.Since i have lived in many cities like Nagpur, Delhi, Hyderabad and now in Chennai, I am privileged to see many varieties and can see the changes and a pattern. The first indian super store the one like abroad I saw was Nanz in Delhi. We went there like sight seeing, for us it was a first experience in India to shop vegetables in air conditioned comfort and all things at one place. But the prices were exorbitant over there, and the result-----it was closed after some time. As I think about,the few advantages I find are.........
- For me it is a big comfort to shop in air conditioned environment in the tropical climate of our country. The shopping becomes a pleasant experience.
- One can find everything at one place, and we dont have to go from one shop to another, specially with small kids its very comfy to shop all your needs at one place.
- These stores first started the self service model, its very convenient, one can see all the varieties in a leisurely pace and compare the prices also of different products.
- Most of big stores have a food court also, so it becomes a total outing experience.
- They are providing the parking which is a real big problem now a days in the old style markets.
And the dis advantages are..............
- Most of the stores are highly priced, except for a few items which are under any scheme.India value for money is very important for us.
- They are not providing everything, some small items, though low cost, but very necessary in a home are not there.And that is very irritating for a customer to go to another place for small items.
- Sometimes they are employing inefficient people, not knowing computer billing properly, and for the customers its very bad experience, like we went to MORE VELACHERY-CHENNAI-- there one comp. is not working, one other girl was so slow that she wasted our full one hour. I vowed never to go there again. Once in TRINETHRA ( NOW MORE ) HYDERABAD-GACHIBOWLI the salesman and girl, nobody knew the right price of the products even and in this type of store there were no labels, here also we never went again.
- Most of the times sales people dont want to exert at all, if the customers dont find anything, they dont bother to look for it, just say its not there. SPENCERS STORE IN AMEERPET HYDERABAD, there also we had a bad experience due to no proper labelling and in billing also.
For BIG BAZAR i have seen is very popular and always crowded whether in Hyderabad, Ghaziabad or Chennai. Though the store is much better in ghaziabad and Htyderaba, in Chennai, it doesnt have much variety.
The best store I have seen is APNA BHANDAR-SITABUILDI-NAGPUR-it had the amazing variety of products at a very reasonable prices, one could buy anything from here. Even for greeting cards they had good variety and gave discounts. I really wonder why they dont advertise and do any expansion.
Another one I would recommend is this THANGAM SUPER MARKET- MAIN VELACHERY ROAD-CHENNAI, though its only grocery store. but for the grocery items, they have most of the things and at a very reasonable price and good quality and they take orders on phone and do the home delivery.
For green grocery the best places in Chennai if one wants fresh and cheap, then it has to be greenlands. In hyderabad the best places are RYTHU BAZAR----there vegetables are very fresh grocery on the shops are very good in quality and low in cost, as they are maintained by the government , I think.
We need innovations like this to make our planet pollution free and save precious fuel
Sunday, June 8, 2008
Bundelkhand last made news over Rahul Gandhi's midnight visit to a Dalit home, provoking Chief Minister Mayawati and the BJP to question his motives. But as Lucknow and Delhi debate Dalit politics, Bundelkhand is seeing clashes and thefts over something far more basic: water.
On Saturday morning, 15-year-old Daya Shankar and three fellow villagers were arrested for allegedly trying to capture a tanker delivering drinking water to their village Mudhari in Mahoba district. Besides other charges, all four were booked under Section 353 of the IPC for obstructing government work. Three armed policemen are since on duty to ensure that tanker water is distributed fairly in Mudhari., For details you may chk this link
If our leaders cant provide us even with drinking water , they have no right to rule us, and their statues have no right to be there at all
Saturday, June 7, 2008
Friday, June 6, 2008
Inside they have air conditioned restaurant, again with all the dishes and buffet dinner also. But for chaat the preparations are same, from outside only it goes inside. After tasting their tikki, we didint have any desire or apetite to go inside atleast that day. We may try some next time.
- For removing the traffic congestion--
- - left lane must never be let blocked by the vehicles.
- -Parking must be provided at the major bussiness and commercial places and none should be allowed to stop a car or park it on the road, the way we do for tidbit shopping or picking up things.they are very big nuisance, blocking the road and congesting the traffic.
- -And then it would help if there is a good public transport system, carpooling or chartered buses for service class and colleges.
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
The husband just said "I am with you Darling"The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother.Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened. No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her. If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.
MORAL OF THE STORYThis story is really worth reading. .....
Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this way we miss out something called LIFE.
Monday, June 2, 2008
- he is being praised
- his family is worshipped and people are idolising him
- rest all the comments are deleted later on as quite a few intelligent fans are asking some questions which are valid but make him uncomfortable, here they are---
- you are always praising and talking about youy parents but when the time came to immortalise your mother you backed out, why didnt you name the school in her name ? Why in Aishwarya's name?
- In Abhishek's marriage, you didnt call many people saying that you wanted it to be a private affair whereas in India Marriage is a social occasion, but now you are sharing all the private details of your life like where going, staying everything Why?
- This year you didnt attend any award function citing that you are mourning because your mother died. and then you went to Cannes with full family and fan fare, are the rules different for India and abroad? ( actually these big stars go the functions only when they are getting the awards, they dont have any sportsman spirit)
- If there was nothing between you and Rekha, then why this ban on movies with her?
- Like this there are many more contradictory statements in his blog which his many gullible fans forget to realise, basically it is an exercise in publicity nothing else, since recently he has got a lot of negative publicity, he is trying to build up a fan's community in favour.